Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is the worst feeling in the whole world. Just imagine yourself giving all of your love, your heart and your soul to someone who doesn’t even take it but who rejects it without even trying to love you.
And you end up asking yourself what you did that someone you love can’t love you back. You let all of the negative emotions build up inside and you think it is all your fault.
But the catch is that it isn’t your fault. It is not about you if someone doesn’t love you back. They wouldn’t do that for any person because they are incapable to love. At least currently. So, please don’t think the worst about yourself but accept that sometimes life gives you things you don’t understand but they turn out to be great in the long run.
Since that way of thinking doesn’t help to get over someone who doesn’t love you back here are some of the most helpful tips to forget them and to continue living your life normally.
1. Accept what happened
When you actually realize that the person you love doesn’t love you back, you need to accept the reality. You can’t live hoping that things will change because they won’t. If someone told you they are not interested in you there isn’t much you can do about it.
Instead of begging those to stay in your life and to try again, you should move on. I know it is hard and that you don’t know where to go and what to do but give yourself time to make a decision. The most important thing is that you make all the decisions alone and that you never allow someone else to do it for you.
2. Follow the no-contact rule
The best thing you can do for yourself is to cut all the contact with the person who made you go through all of this. If you keep seeing him, it will only get worse and you won’t heal in that way.
That’s why you need to distract yourself with something so you stop thinking about him. The no-contact rule and a new hobby can actually help you more than you think so please try something like this for yourself.
3. Remember it is not your fault
The most common thing people think in situations like this is that they believe it is all their fault. They think they are not good enough, worthy or beautiful enough and because of that the other side doesn’t love them. But that is not the truth.
The real truth is that it is all about them. They are incapable to love. Maybe some of them are broken and they can’t handle all of the emotions that come during the time. And what is most possible is that they are fuckboys, emotional psychopaths or jerks who are there to take advantage of every girl who enters their life.
So, please don’t think it is all your fault because it isn’t. And, the right man will convince you to all that I have said.
4.Express all of your feelings
When you are in a situation like this, you actually don’t know what to do. There is a mix of emotions inside you and you are bottling them up inside. The worst thing about that is that you can explode one day and do harm to yourself.
That’s why you should express your emotions as they come. So, if you want to scream, just do it. If you want to cry, then cry. But, please, don’t keep it all inside. In that way, you will fall apart for someone who doesn’t even give a damn about you.
5. Go through all the stages of grief
The worst part is losing someone who was never even yours but unfortunately, that happens to some people as well. If you were with a guy who you loved intensely but who didn’t love you back, you should allow yourself to feel bad.
You don’t have to pretend that everything is fine when it is not. You need to know that going through all the stages of grief will help you move on. You will get to know yourself much better and you will know how to react in similar situations, which is the most important thing if you want to prevent getting your heart broken again.
6.Think about the benefits of meeting the right one
The reason you are not with the man you want to be with is because you are not meant to be. So why would you even try to make an effort about him?
Don’t you know that he will never give you the amount of love you deserve? If you love the wrong one like that just imagine how much you will love the right one? If you just think about it for a second you will soon realize that fighting for someone who doesn’t love you is in vain.
Instead, focus on yourself and don’t push love because it is something that comes naturally. And when you are okay with yourself you will be able to be okay with others as well.
7.Give yourself some time
After all that you have been through, you should give yourself some time to heal. Maybe he never put a label on your relationship but you are now feeling like you lost the most important person in your life.
That is something that you shouldn’t just sweep under the carpet. It is something you need to talk about with your friends so you could finally find the peace you deserve. You need to give yourself time to recover and to be totally okay with everything that happened and that will happen.
Don’t think it is your fault, don’t be sad about someone who doesn’t deserve you and what is most important don’t ditch your perfect life for a douchebag who doesn’t deserve even one tear from your eye.
Christine is the author of ‘Staring Into The Eyes Of Anxiety And Depression’, a book that will change the way you fight anxiety and depression.