{"id":100725,"date":"2020-09-24T11:46:31","date_gmt":"2020-09-24T11:46:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=100725"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:33:02","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:33:02","slug":"no-te-enamoraste-de-el","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/no-te-enamoraste-de-el\/","title":{"rendered":"No te enamoraste de \u00e9l, te puso la zancadilla"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando eres v\u00edctima de cualquier tipo de abuso, el problema es que, al cabo de un tiempo, empiezas a culparte de toda tu situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not talking about the fact that your toxic manipulator brainwashes you into thinking that you\u2019re literally guilty for the way he treats you.<\/p>\n

Aunque tambi\u00e9n se trata de un problema muy grave y com\u00fan, no es mi principal preocupaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Instead, I\u2019m talking about the fact that you keep on blaming yourself for picking wrong. I\u2019m talking about the fact that you can\u2019t believe that you were so foolish as to allow someone like this to destroy your life. <\/b><\/p>\n

Entonces, empiezas a pensar que todo esto te lo merec\u00edas. Est\u00e1s convencido de que te mereces todo lo que te ha pasado por ser tan est\u00fapido.<\/p>\n

After all, nobody physically forced you in this relationship. You\u2019re a mature adult and you should have known better. You should have chosen wiser and you should have been smarter.<\/p>\n

However, this guilt-tripping doesn\u2019t end once your relationship does. Even when you manage to get rid of this awful man, you still <\/b>c\u00falpate a ti mismo<\/b><\/a> por desperdiciar a\u00f1os de tu vida con \u00e9l.<\/b><\/p>\n

Not only that, but often, this can create issues in your future, as well. You simply can\u2019t help but doubt your own sanity and judgment calls.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si elegiste tan mal la \u00faltima vez, \u00bfqu\u00e9 te impide repetir el mismo error en todas las relaciones que est\u00e1n por venir? \u00bfC\u00f3mo puedes dejar entrar a alguien nuevo en tu vida despu\u00e9s de un error de juicio de esta magnitud?<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m going to have to ask you to stop. Do your best to kick these thoughts out of your system, the same way you kicked this man out of your life.<\/p>\n

Mira, there is no doubt about one thing: You did make a terrible mistake when you chose this man as your life partner. However, you\u2019re not to blame for this.<\/b><\/p>\n

In fact, the truth is that you didn\u2019t fall for this guy <\/b>\u2013<\/b> te puso la zancadilla. Por lo tanto, \u00e9l es el \u00fanico culpable de toda esta situaci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, te involucraste con un h\u00e1bil manipulador. Hizo todo lo que estuvo en su mano para atraerte a su red y mantenerte dentro de ella el mayor tiempo posible.<\/p>\n

Todo lo que pas\u00f3 entre ustedes dos fue planeado previamente por este hombre t\u00f3xico<\/a>. \u00c9l eligi\u00f3 conscientemente hacer todo lo que te hizo.<\/p>\n

Nunca aceptaste ninguno de los malos tratos que tristemente sufriste. Nunca aceptaste que te maltrataran, desatendieran emocionalmente o acosaran de ninguna manera. <\/b><\/p>\n

No eras m\u00e1s que una v\u00edctima, perfectamente adecuada para alguien de su perfil. Reconoci\u00f3 tu coraz\u00f3n bondadoso y te vio como su presa.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00c9l fue quien te enga\u00f1\u00f3 haci\u00e9ndote creer que todo ser\u00eda muy diferente. El que te enga\u00f1\u00f3 haci\u00e9ndote creer que se preocupaba por ti.<\/p>\n

\u00c9l fue quien te prometi\u00f3 el mundo pero acab\u00f3 destruyendo tu vida. El que te minti\u00f3 diciendo que vuestra relaci\u00f3n ser\u00eda todo rosas y mariposas cuando en realidad era un infierno.<\/p>\n

El que se present\u00f3 como el hombre de tus sue\u00f1os cuando en realidad era la mayor escoria de la historia. El que te prometi\u00f3 un cuento de hadas en la vida real, pero te hizo vivir una aut\u00e9ntica pesadilla.<\/p>\n

Este hombre conscientemente <\/b>amor bombardeado<\/b><\/a> a ti. Jug\u00f3 deliberadamente con tu coraz\u00f3n y tu mente, sin pensar en las consecuencias de sus actos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo puedes tener t\u00fa la culpa? Conf\u00eda en m\u00ed <\/b>\u2013<\/b> todas las dem\u00e1s chicas caer\u00edan tambi\u00e9n en su trampa.<\/b><\/p>\n

After all, that is why we have so many victims of toxic abuse. You\u2019re not any more naive than the rest of the world because only the rare few have the ability to see through these people\u2019s intentions.<\/p>\n

Therefore, I\u2019m begging you not to beat yourself up. Don\u2019t allow him to still have this huge impact on you.<\/p>\n

Regarding your future relationships, please don\u2019t compare them to your past. After all, you\u2019re a new person now, with tons of valuable experience. <\/b><\/p>\n

En lugar de permitir que tu fracaso amoroso te frene, deja que te sirva de dura lecci\u00f3n.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you\u2019re a victim of any kind of abuse, the problem is that after a while, you start blaming yourself for your entire situation. No, I\u2019m not talking about the fact that your toxic manipulator brainwashes you into thinking that you\u2019re literally guilty for the way he treats you. Even though this is also a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":100727,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-100725","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/You-Didnt-Fall-For-Him-He-Tripped-You.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100725","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=100725"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100725\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/100727"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=100725"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=100725"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=100725"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}