{"id":10495,"date":"2017-12-18T09:28:08","date_gmt":"2017-12-18T09:28:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10495"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:37:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:37:24","slug":"secuelas-abuso-emocional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/secuelas-abuso-emocional\/","title":{"rendered":"Las secuelas del maltrato emocional"},"content":{"rendered":"

Aunque usara palabras en lugar de pu\u00f1os, segu\u00eda siendo abuso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 nunca te peg\u00f3, pero sus palabras te dolieron m\u00e1s que cualquier bofetada en la cara o cualquier patada con la pierna. Y lo peor es que pensabas que iba a cambiar. <\/span><\/p>\n

You thought that you were just having a crisis in your relationship and that after some time he would figure out how much he loved you. But you know what? He never did. You were never important to him and that\u2019s why he abused you so much. For every problem that he had in his life, you were the guilty one.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por cada bofetada que le daba la vida, t\u00fa eras el culpable. En todos sus momentos de dolor, t\u00fa estabas ah\u00ed para echarte la culpa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y t\u00fa, ciega de amor, aguantaste toda su mierda durante a\u00f1os.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The day when you left him was the worst one of your life because he always told you that you wouldn\u2019t make it unless he was there. He brainwashed you and all you could see in the mirror was just a shell of the girl you had been before. <\/span><\/p>\n

I just want you to know that I can understand how you feel. Just like you, I\u2019ve been there. Just like you, I gave second chances. And just like you, I ended up broken and in tears. It took me some time to recover from that abuse and to settle down. But I was no longer the same me. I could still love, but esta vez am\u00e9 de otra manera.<\/a> Y eso es algo por lo que t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n pasar\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vivir\u00e1s constantemente en estado de alerta.<\/b><\/p>\n

For a long time, you won\u2019t be able to relax because you will think that every man who comes into your life will do you the same thing as your abuser. It will be hard to win you over and most of all it will be hard for you to trust people again. You will feel that something is wrong every time someone approaches you, so you will pull back.<\/span><\/p>\n

Te preguntar\u00e1s c\u00f3mo te est\u00e1s comportando. <\/b><\/p>\n

While you were being emotionally abused, you had the constant feeling that your partner didn\u2019t understand your actions or your words. That made you so confused but the truth was that he was telling you to do what he thought was right.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca se ocup\u00f3 de tus sentimientos y necesidades. Para \u00e9l, no eras m\u00e1s que una mu\u00f1eca y \u00e9l era el maestro de las marionetas, control\u00e1ndote a su antojo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, after everything has finished, you will realize that people around you understand you perfectly well and that only one man couldn\u2019t do that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sentir\u00e1s que te pasa algo.<\/b><\/p>\n

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<\/b>Despu\u00e9s de<\/span> liberarte de tu maltratador, sentir\u00e1s que est\u00e1s demasiado da\u00f1ada para volver a amar a alguien. Pero cuando pases alg\u00fan tiempo con las personas a las que quieres, al final ver\u00e1s que no est\u00e1s tan rota. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por supuesto, tendr\u00e1s magulladuras emocionales, pero todas las personas que han luchado las tienen. Al fin y al cabo, lo m\u00e1s importante es que seguiste en pie y que nunca te rendiste.<\/span><\/p>\n

Te preguntar\u00e1s qu\u00e9 ha fallado.<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/b>Cada v\u00edctima de un abuso emocional<\/a> will think about the things that she was doing in the last relationship and how they affected it. You will sometimes ask yourself if things could have been better if you\u2019d had a different defense mechanism.<\/span><\/p>\n

You will think about things that you did or didn\u2019t do and you will have a constant feeling that you could have done things better. Please, stop doing this because it wasn\u2019t your fault. Not a second of your relationship with him was your problem because your abuser was guilty of everything.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estar\u00e1s ansioso y deprimido. <\/b>Y hablando con franqueza, esto es algo por lo que pasan todas las v\u00edctimas de abuso emocional.<\/span><\/p>\n

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En alg\u00fan momento pensar\u00e1s que est\u00e1s loca, pero esa sensaci\u00f3n se desvanecer\u00e1 pronto. La \u00fanica persona que estaba loca en esa relaci\u00f3n era \u00e9l. As\u00ed que mantente fuerte cuando atravieses este periodo de tu vida y ten en cuenta que por fin te has salvado de quien podr\u00eda haberte arruinado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tendr\u00e1s desconfianza en las relaciones futuras. <\/b><\/p>\n

It is not that simple to give your heart to someone new, not knowing if he will hurt you like the man before him. That\u2019s why you will look like someone who plays hard to get but inside, your world will be falling apart and you will crave the love that you need so much.<\/span><\/p>\n

Este sentimiento es una batalla constante, pero en alg\u00fan momento del camino ver\u00e1s que no todos los hombres son iguales.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nada de tu proceso de curaci\u00f3n ser\u00e1 f\u00e1cil. <\/b><\/p>\n

The aftermath of emotional abuse is characterized by different behavior moods. One day you will be happy and cheerful and the next you will feel depressed and you won\u2019t get out of bed. You will think that nobody will ever love you again because you are broken. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tendr\u00e1s un torrente de pensamientos negativos aqu\u00ed y all\u00e1 que dictar\u00e1n tu vida. S\u00f3lo cuando pase alg\u00fan tiempo ver\u00e1s que las cosas no est\u00e1n tan mal despu\u00e9s de todo y que hay alguna esperanza para ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Desear\u00e1s no ser tan sensible.<\/b><\/p>\n

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<\/b>After any trauma, a person will feel bad. Every single comment can hurt them because they are so sensitive. This will happen to you too. Sometimes, you won\u2019t be able to react to the simplest situation and you will just run away from all those things that make you feel like that. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will want to be alone because in that way people won\u2019t be able to hurt you. I just want you to know that you should take all the time in the world to heal. If you don\u2019t like going out, don\u2019t do it. Do things that you feel comfortable with.<\/span><\/p>\n

You were putting up with someone\u2019s wishes for a hell of a long time and it is time to finally put yourself first.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that you are an amazing person who just met a guy who ruined your life. If you could have been amazing before, I am sure that you can bring your old spark back. I won\u2019t lie to you and tell you that the healing process will be fast; it won\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will need a lot of time for yourself to fight those nasty demons of yours. You will cry yourself to sleep every night until you see that after that you will feel much better. And when you least expect it, you will meet someone who will bring you faith in love again. You just need to be patient because good things don\u2019t happen overnight.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfY tu abusador?<\/span><\/p>\n

You will probably never forget him. After all, he was a part of your life for a long time but all that he did to you made you the person you are today\u2014strong, independent and definitely not ready to settle for less than she deserves.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the end, I ask you for one thing only\u2014forgive him for all that he did to you. Not because he deserves that forgiveness but because you deserve peace.<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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