{"id":10508,"date":"2017-12-18T10:25:52","date_gmt":"2017-12-18T10:25:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10508"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:36:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:36:47","slug":"6-signos-evidentes-de-que-eres-codependiente-relacion-superar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/6-signos-evidentes-de-que-eres-codependiente-relacion-superar\/","title":{"rendered":"6 se\u00f1ales evidentes de que est\u00e1s en una relaci\u00f3n codependiente y c\u00f3mo superarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Una causa muy com\u00fan de las relaciones insanas es la codependencia. El problema de la codependencia es que no es f\u00e1cil de detectar. A menudo las personas parecen no estar dispuestas a admitir que la padecen o no reconocen los s\u00edntomas. La mejor manera de empezar es determinar qu\u00e9 es realmente la codependencia.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as \u2018relationship addiction\u2019<\/strong> because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and\/or abusive.\u201d <\/em>MHA<\/p>\n

Me top\u00e9 con estas l\u00edneas por casualidad y luego empec\u00e9 a investigar m\u00e1s a fondo. Me di cuenta de que yo tambi\u00e9n hab\u00eda sido codependiente una vez y, si lo hubiera sabido, habr\u00eda sido mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil superarlo.<\/p>\n

Algunos de los principales s\u00edntomas estaban ah\u00ed: Estaba en una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica. Estaba demasiado indecisa. Me sent\u00eda muy cohibida e insegura. Sent\u00eda que era mi responsabilidad ayudarle a afrontar sus problemas. Descuidaba totalmente mi vida por el amor que sent\u00eda por \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

It was all about him. I was non-existent in that relationship and I didn\u2019t mind. My only goal was to meet his needs. To make him happy. To see him. To obsess over where he was and what he was doing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aguant\u00e9 mucho. Era abusivo. Siempre me menospreciaba, me insultaba. Siempre era el rey del castillo y yo su humilde sirviente. Esa habr\u00eda sido la imagen apropiada de m\u00ed en aquel entonces.<\/p>\n

I tolerated it all till the point that he became physically aggressive. I am ashamed to admit that I also put up with that for some time, until I realized that I was on a road that would destroy me. I had to admit to myself that I was better off without him, but it\u2019s hard for an addict to to give up on their addiction.<\/p>\n

It took me a while but I managed. It\u2019s a bit funny when I look back at it now but I actually felt like I put myself through the recovery process of overcoming codependency. The first step of admitting that you have a problem is the hardest part of that but then it all gets a bit easier.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I wanted to share with you the most usual signs that you are in a codependent relationship and to give you some advice on how to overcome it.<\/p>\n

1. Sus necesidades son lo primero y t\u00fa ignoras las tuyas.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Te preocupas constantemente por lo que le gusta o no le gusta. Si haces esto o aquello, \u00bflo aprobar\u00eda? Pospones tus intereses, sue\u00f1os y deseos para adaptarlos a sus necesidades y preferencias. Empiezas a perder el sentido de ti misma al amarle.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, tienes que darte cuenta de que en una relaci\u00f3n sana, los miembros de la pareja son iguales y no es necesario hacer grandes sacrificios ni perderte a ti mismo en el proceso de amar a otra persona. Tienes que tomar tu vida en tus propias manos y tienes que ser la persona m\u00e1s importante de tu vida.<\/a> S\u00f3lo cuando empieces a hacerlo tendr\u00e1s una relaci\u00f3n feliz y sana.<\/em><\/p>\n

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2. Te sientes responsable de su comportamiento o sus emociones.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

He\u2019s had a bad day and he takes it out on you. It had nothing to do with you yet you still feel responsible. You start asking yourself if it was something that you\u2019d said or done and you automatically put the burden of guilt on your shoulders.<\/p>\n

You are not God and you can\u2019t control other people\u2019s behaviors or emotions or lack of them. If somebody snaps at you for no reason, don\u2019t jump to conclusions and blame yourself. It is something that is up to the other person to deal with on their own. By focusing on him, you lose track of your own feelings and that\u2019s something you have to change. Focus on yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Confundes amor y obsesi\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You constantly wonder what your partner is doing when he is not around, whom he follows on social media, what he thinks about when he is silent and gloomy and says everything\u2019s OK. You overthink every move he makes. You would like to have insights into his mind and emotions. That\u2019s obsession, not love.<\/a><\/p>\n

Love is trust and giving space to one another. Love doesn\u2019t control or obsess. You have to realize you are on the wrong path that will only leave you miserable. You have to make a change. You need to have a bit of faith in yourself to be able to trust your partner. If you are with the wrong partner, this advice will help you in your future relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n

4. Te trata mal y sigues toler\u00e1ndolo.<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n

He is abusing you. Sometimes physically but usually emotionally because it\u2019s harder to detect. He hurts you by using words. He manipulates you and makes you feel like you are not enough. He uses your insecurities against you. Your compassion and feelings for him are making you stay.<\/p>\n

Nunca toleres que te traten mal. Lo mejor que puedes hacer es marcharte sin mirar atr\u00e1s. Puede que no sea f\u00e1cil, pero merecer\u00e1 la pena, te lo garantizo.<\/em><\/p>\n

5. Te preocupas demasiado por cosas que escapan a tu control.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Por muy complaciente que seas, te gustar\u00eda poder controlar cualquier situaci\u00f3n y el resultado. Te gustar\u00eda librarle de cualquier mala situaci\u00f3n. Te pasas las noches d\u00e1ndole vueltas y preocup\u00e1ndote por todo menos por ti. El resultado es que te estresas.<\/p>\n

What is important here is to realize that not everything is in your hands. Life doesn\u2019t always go smoothly, it has its ups and downs. You won\u2019t be able to prevent him from worrying about them in advance. You have to take things as they come and deal with them then.<\/em><\/p>\n

6. T\u00fa eres quien lo da todo.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Cuidar de \u00e9l es lo que haces. Sigues dando sin recibir nada a cambio. Despu\u00e9s, te sientes enfadado, resentido o aprovechado. A veces, ayudar y cuidar a los dem\u00e1s te hace sentir necesitado y eso te gusta, y otras veces te hace sentir enfadado y agotado. Pero la mayor\u00eda de las veces no dices nada al respecto y te lo guardas todo dentro.<\/p>\n

This behavior is just going to make you insane sooner or later. You have to take care of yourself first. You shouldn\u2019t feel like giving your best is a burden. Of course, it will be if your efforts are not reciprocated. You need to discover self-love and then find a man who will be willing to invest in a relationship as much as you do.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A very common cause of unhealthy relationships is codependency. The trouble with codependency is that it is something that is not easy to detect. People often seem to be unwilling to admit that they have it or they fail to recognize the symptoms. The best way to start is with determining what codependency actually is….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":10517,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10508","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/neil-fedorowycz-469549.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10508","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10508"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10508\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10517"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10508"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10508"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10508"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}