{"id":10542,"date":"2020-06-18T14:55:56","date_gmt":"2020-06-18T14:55:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10542"},"modified":"2021-08-11T14:06:08","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T14:06:08","slug":"cuddle-buddy-puede-arriesgarse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuddle-buddy-puede-arriesgarse\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 tener un compa\u00f1ero de mimos puede ser arriesgado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Admit\u00e1moslo, las relaciones amorosas de hoy en d\u00eda se han desviado de todo lo que anta\u00f1o se consideraba normal y hermoso.<\/p>\n

But most of us still believe that true love does exist and that it will come to us when it\u2019s supposed to. Not when we want it but when it\u2019s meant to be.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d been single for a while now. I\u2019d been in a very bad relationship which led me to a very bad place.<\/p>\n

Me deprimi\u00f3 y me hizo sentir solo<\/a>. Empec\u00e9 a dudar de cada uno de mis movimientos. No ten\u00eda fuerza de voluntad. S\u00f3lo quer\u00eda acurrucarme en la cama y llorar. Tard\u00e9 mucho tiempo en volver a ser la de antes.<\/p>\n

Even when I reached that point, I still wasn’t ready to date. But still, I just kept on thinking, if I just had somebody who would hold me for a while, I would start to feel better. It would be easier to carry this burden.<\/p>\n

Creo que la mayor\u00eda de la gente tiene un deseo innato de cercan\u00eda. Necesitamos sentir el calor de otro ser humano para sobrellevar el d\u00eda.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

And I always kept on thinking that person had to be someone you were in a relationship with. As it turns out, you don\u2019t have to be.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Siempre he tenido ideas en la cabeza de c\u00f3mo deb\u00eda ser todo. No soy el tipo de chica a la que le gustan los rollos de una noche.<\/p>\n

Siempre he necesitado emociones para estar f\u00edsicamente cerca de alguien. La idea de pasar la noche con alguien y luego seguir cada uno su camino me asustaba.<\/p>\n

Mis amigos ten\u00edan sus follamigos o amigos con derecho a roce para superar los momentos en los que estaban aprendiendo a estar solos. A veces esas relaciones acababan en l\u00e1grimas y otras veces se separaban como amigos y a veces incluso segu\u00edan siendo amigos; variaba.<\/p>\n

Supongo que tienes que tenerlo en ti para manejar eso. Para m\u00ed, nunca son\u00f3 atractivo. Me encari\u00f1o muy f\u00e1cilmente.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

I think that kind of relationship would have made me even more broken than I already was. It wouldn\u2019t help me recover from a break-up. It wouldn\u2019t help me with the loneliness that single life brings.<\/p>\n

Estaba decidida a quedarme soltera<\/a> hasta que me di cuenta.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Pero la vida te juega malas pasadas. Y ya sabes que todos tenemos esos momentos en los que nos damos cuenta de que todo lo que dijimos que nunca har\u00edamos, acabamos haci\u00e9ndolo de todos modos.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I discovered what cuddle buddy means, even though I had never heard about that concept before.<\/p>\n

Dije que nunca estar\u00eda en ning\u00fan tipo de casi relaci\u00f3n. Lo quer\u00eda todo o nada. Pero este chico me hizo cambiar de opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Hizo que dejara de pensar en el futuro, que dejara de planificar mi vida y empezara a vivir el momento, a tomar un<\/em> arriesgarme para variar. Porque ir a lo seguro no me hab\u00eda llevado a ninguna parte.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Todo sucedi\u00f3 espont\u00e1neamente. Era amigo de un amigo y empezamos a vernos en reuniones mutuas.<\/p>\n

Al cabo de un tiempo, nos dimos cuenta de que ten\u00edamos tanto en com\u00fan que empezamos a salir solos.<\/p>\n

Empezamos como amigos. A medida que nos acerc\u00e1bamos y entabl\u00e1bamos conversaciones m\u00e1s profundas, nos dimos cuenta de que ambos est\u00e1bamos en el mismo estado.<\/p>\n

We were both broken. We weren’t ready to date yet. And we liked having each other as friends and nothing more.<\/p>\n

He suggested that we should be cuddle buddies. I laughed so much. I had no idea what that meant but it sounded cute. He said that they are friends who cuddle; they touch, they hug but they don’t have sex.<\/em><\/p>\n

It really sounded funny, all of that, especially coming from the mouth of a grown-ass man.  But at the same time, it sounded tempting. To be honest, I didn’t miss sex that much.<\/p>\n

From time to time it would cross my mind but I wasn’t craving it. Lo que m\u00e1s ansiaba eran mimos y abrazos. Sentir el calor de un hombre cerca de m\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

I missed somebody stroking my hair. I missed physical contact in that sweet way. When you know that somebody’s hug could make your entire day better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed probarlo. No ten\u00eda nada que perder, puesto que ya no ten\u00eda nada.<\/a> Me daba un poco de miedo que arruinara nuestra amistad, pero pens\u00e9 que si \u00e9l estaba dispuesto a arriesgarse, yo tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

Nuestra primera vez de mimos empez\u00f3 viendo una pel\u00edcula en su casa. Al principio estaba un poco nerviosa. Empezamos a hablar y a hacer bromas. A medida que pasaba el tiempo, yo estaba m\u00e1s relajada.<\/p>\n

Me abraz\u00f3 de repente y nos quedamos as\u00ed un rato. Vimos la pel\u00edcula acurrucados el uno junto al otro y fue genial. Fue como si alguien me hubiera devuelto toda la energ\u00eda que hab\u00eda perdido por el camino.<\/p>\n

De vez en cuando nos reun\u00edamos para ver una pel\u00edcula as\u00ed. La verdad es que me alegr\u00e9 de haber seguido adelante con todo esto.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Admito que preferir\u00eda estar en una relaci\u00f3n agradable y estable antes que hacer esto, pero lo hab\u00eda encontrado de repente.<\/p>\n

Y creo que nos utilizamos el uno al otro porque a los dos nos faltaba cercan\u00eda.<\/p>\n

En alg\u00fan momento, los mimos empezaron a significar m\u00e1s. Empec\u00e9 a quererlo, a quererlo m\u00e1s que a un amigo. <\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que no tuve m\u00e1s remedio que confesarle mis sentimientos y ver qu\u00e9 pensaba \u00e9l al respecto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I had already prepared myself for the worst, that he would put a stop to it and end our friendship. Instead, as soon as I uttered the words, he kissed me. I couldn’t breathe properly from the excitement. My heart was pounding like crazy.<\/p>\n

Ahora estamos saliendo. Todo ha salido bien. Pero cuando tuve tiempo de pensarlo, hab\u00eda corrido un gran riesgo.<\/p>\n

\"Un<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n podr\u00eda haber sido al rev\u00e9s y en lugar de sonre\u00edr podr\u00eda estar llorando ahora mismo.<\/p>\n

Podr\u00edan haberme roto el coraz\u00f3n de una forma m\u00e1s devastadora que nunca.<\/p>\n

Because in this cuddle buddy business, I’ve fallen for his soul.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And no, I am not being pessimistic. I am just saying it could’ve gone either way.<\/p>\n

Y si est\u00e1s por ah\u00ed, pensando en tener un compa\u00f1ero de mimos, pi\u00e9nsatelo dos veces, y piensa si ese hombre merece el riesgo de enamorarte de \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Si \u00e9l vale la pena el riesgo de tener el coraz\u00f3n roto. Si no, al\u00e9jate. Creo que acabo de tener suerte.<\/p>\n

Because if I learned anything from this, it is that you can’t control your emotions, and that cuddles are not as innocent as they seem. They get through to your heart.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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