{"id":105698,"date":"2020-10-22T17:57:36","date_gmt":"2020-10-22T17:57:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=105698"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:23:53","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:23:53","slug":"estoy-preparado-para-comprometerme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/estoy-preparado-para-comprometerme\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEstoy preparada para comprometerme? Aparentemente no, y as\u00ed es como lo supe"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfCre\u00eda que estaba preparado para comprometerme? S\u00ed. \u00bfMe equivoqu\u00e9? Tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

This time, it really was me. I’m not trying to protect my ex but I need to be sincere and say that it really wasn’t him, it was me.<\/p>\n

All my life, I was this girl who couldn’t wait to fall in love and commit to a man who\u2019d love me back even more but then… poof.<\/em><\/p>\n

Todos esos sue\u00f1os se vinieron abajo como si nunca hubieran existido.<\/em><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, tengo que decir cu\u00e1nto siento haber decepcionado y herido a un hombre que me quer\u00eda sinceramente.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry, it wasn’t on purpose, it’s just… it took me a while to understand that I’m really not ready to commit yet.<\/p>\n

If you’re worried that you might have the same cuestiones de compromiso<\/a>bienvenido al club<\/em> y echa un vistazo a estas se\u00f1ales que me ayudaron mucho a darme cuenta de c\u00f3mo son las cosas en realidad.<\/p>\n

Siempre cuestionando la relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Aunque sent\u00eda algo muy fuerte por mi ex novio, nunca estuve segura de que fuera el hombre con el que quer\u00eda estar el resto de mi vida.<\/p>\n

Nuestra relaci\u00f3n era buena y sana, pero yo siempre la cuestionaba.<\/p>\n

Nunca estuve segura de sus sentimientos, aunque me demostr\u00f3 tantas veces que eran sinceros.<\/p>\n

Afterward, I concluded that there was absolutely nothing wrong with him, nor our relationship; the real problem was that I wasn’t ready for a relationship.<\/p>\n

Abrirme a mi pareja era demasiado dif\u00edcil<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

I was always saying that any man I dated had to also be my best friend. That’s really important for the relationship.<\/p>\n

Debes estar seguro de que crees a tu pareja y de que puedes hablarle de todo, pero de todo de verdad, desde los momentos m\u00e1s bonitos de tu vida hasta los m\u00e1s oscuros.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, I realized that he wasn’t my best friend because I was never able to fully open up to him.<\/p>\n

Again, that wasn’t his fault because he was a really good man, the issue was my hidden miedo a comprometerse<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Hablar de nuestro futuro siempre estuvo fuera de los l\u00edmites<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Believe me, he tried so many times to have ‘the talk’ about our relationship with me. But I successfully avoided it every time.<\/p>\n

Siempre us\u00e9 algunas excusas s\u00f3lo porque era consciente del hecho de que no estaba preparada para estar atada<\/strong> and I really didn’t want to hurt his feelings.<\/p>\n

I now know it was wrong because now he thinks that I was just stringing him along, which really isn’t the truth.<\/p>\n

Nunca lo involucr\u00e9 en mis planes futuros<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Well, maybe I didn’t want to make any future plans with him but I had so many for myself. I had so many dreams and goals for the future.<\/p>\n

The thing is, I never involved him in any of those, like I always knew that it was not going to work and that we wouldn\u2019t stay together.<\/p>\n

It’s another way that my inner voice was telling me that I wasn’t ready for that kind of relationship, to commit, but I hadn\u2019t wanted to hear it for so long unfortunately.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Criticar constantemente a mi pareja<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Empezamos a pelearnos incluso por cosas sin importancia y, para ser sincero, fui yo quien empez\u00f3 todas esas peleas.<\/p>\n

Hiciera lo que hiciera o se comportara como se comportara, yo le criticaba constantemente.<\/p>\n

Now when I think about it, I only wanted to make him break up with me so I didn’t have to do it myself.<\/p>\n

You may think that it’s a little bit selfish but I really wanted to make it less painful for him.<\/p>\n

Ped\u00ed demasiado espacio personal<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Todos necesitamos algo de espacio personal<\/a> when we’re in a relationship<\/em> pero realmente ped\u00ed demasiado.<\/p>\n

Era m\u00e1s feliz cuando estaba sola que cuando est\u00e1bamos juntos.<\/p>\n

Entiendo que fue as\u00ed como empec\u00e9 a alejarme cada d\u00eda m\u00e1s de mi ex.<\/p>\n

I’m so sorry for not understanding all these signs sooner because I made it all more painful for both of us.<\/p>\n

The word ‘compromise’ wasn’t in my vocabulary<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Era consciente, y sigo si\u00e9ndolo, de que El compromiso es esencial si ambos miembros de la pareja quieren que su relaci\u00f3n tenga \u00e9xito.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, nunca estuve dispuesta a comprometerme en nada con mi ex.<\/p>\n

I had my own opinions about things and my own way of how things should be done and I didn’t want to change them for him.<\/p>\n

That’s the main reason we had so many disagreements in our relationship.<\/p>\n

Nuestra relaci\u00f3n nunca fue mi principal prioridad<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Mi familia y todos mis amigos siempre fueron m\u00e1s importantes que mi ex pareja. Me equivoqu\u00e9 mucho porque tu ser querido siempre debe ser tu n\u00famero uno prioridad en la vida<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t because I wanted to hurt him or anything like that, I just didn’t want to commit so I knew that our relationship wouldn\u2019t last for the rest of our lives.<\/p>\n

We all have the right to live the life we want and do the things we like. If you don’t want to be tied down, don’t.<\/p>\n

The worst decision you could make is to accept to spend your life with someone just because you\u2019ve been dating for some time but the truth is that you don’t actually want to commit to anyone.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Did I believe I was ready to commit? Yes. Was I wrong? Also yes. This time, it really was me. I’m not trying to protect my ex but I need to be sincere and say that it really wasn’t him, it was me. All my life, I was this girl who couldn’t wait to fall…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":105724,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-105698","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Am-I-Ready-To-Commit_-Apparently-Not-And-This-Is-How-I-Knew.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","parent":29643,"count":114,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29645,"category_count":114,"category_description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","cat_name":"being single","category_nicename":"being-single","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105698","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=105698"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105698\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105724"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=105698"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=105698"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=105698"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}