\u00bfLe ocurre esto a usted? \u00bfEst\u00e1s cansado de ser siempre el \u00bfun tipo malo?<\/em><\/p>\n It sounds fun if you\u2019re a TV series character, but when it comes to real-life relationships, it\u2019s no fun at all.<\/p>\n It\u2019s tu culpa<\/em> he broke the glass that you left on the counter. It\u2019s tu culpa<\/em> he comes home tired from work and never does anything productive. It\u2019s tu culpa<\/em> things are not \u201chow they used to be.\u201d<\/p>\n You\u2019ve probably been told too many times that you were to blame for something that happened totally beyond your control. Apart from being a complete lie, it must\u2019ve been hurtful to hear, especially from a loved one.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve been there. As a matter of fact, I kept on believing it was somehow my fault even though it never was, and let me tell you, it has left consequences.<\/strong><\/p>\n Even today, I struggle to see things objectively and not fall into the loop of self-blaming, even when nobody suggests I\u2019m guilty of something.<\/strong><\/p>\n Not only that, but I have an unhealthily frequent habit to excuse and explain others even when they don\u2019t deserve it.<\/strong><\/p>\n Things like this slowly take over your life. They shape your thoughts and before you know it, you\u2019re stuck in another repeating cycle of feeling guilt and making excuses.<\/strong><\/p>\n How come one person can be responsible for everything that goes wrong in someone else’s life? The short answer is they can\u2019t and never can be.<\/p>\n La respuesta larga es m\u00e1s complicada. La persona que culpa busca desesperadamente razones para su propia miseria en otra parte.<\/p>\n Naturally, it\u2019s easier for them, and people in general, to point the finger at someone else, instead of looking at themselves in the mirror. This is exactly why there\u2019s so much misunderstanding and hate in the world.<\/p>\n On the other hand, there are those who take the blame without realizing it\u2019s not theirs, and \u2013 you guessed it \u2013 this is what creates an unhealthy dynamic between the two.<\/p>\n Ninguno de ellos tiene raz\u00f3n y, a decir verdad, lo m\u00e1s probable es que sigan repitiendo patrones de comportamiento que aprendieron en el pasado.<\/p>\n Por suerte, las cosas se pueden cambiar una vez que las hacemos conscientes.<\/strong><\/p>\n People who blame everyone else but themselves always prey on those with a lack of sel-esteem \u2013 who already have a problem with guilt.<\/strong><\/p>\n But there\u2019s the catch. The person who\u2019s being accused also has a problem. They also have some kind of victim mentality that keeps landing them in the same situations.<\/strong><\/p>\n Recuerdo que llegu\u00e9 a un punto en el que todo lo que hac\u00eda me parec\u00eda mal. No ten\u00eda l\u00edmites personales. No me respetaba a m\u00ed misma.<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s true that people can take advantage of you, but it\u2019s also true that you can stop them.<\/p>\n Con el tiempo, me di cuenta de que todas las personas son responsables de sus propios actos, incluida yo.<\/strong><\/p>\n We\u2019re all guilty of something, just don\u2019t let it define you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Sometimes things are beyond our control, however, how we react to them isn\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n That\u2019s when I learned to refuse to take on someone else\u2019s burden if it\u2019s going to break my back. That\u2019s when I learned that it\u2019s not culpa m\u00eda.<\/em><\/p>\n En lugar de eso, empec\u00e9 a centrar mi atenci\u00f3n en las cosas que se pueden cambiar y arreglar, en lugar de sentir una culpa sin sentido.<\/p>\n Desde entonces, no he vuelto a mirar atr\u00e1s.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cYou always blow up over nothing\u201d, I remember my ex-partner yelling at me as we were having yet another argument over him not doing his share of the work. \u201cI don\u2019t understand what the big deal is, you\u2019re the one who wanted to live in this stupid, overpriced apartment anyway,\u201d he said pointedly as if…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":106455,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-106446","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Raise-Your-Hand-If-Somehow-Its-Always-Your-Fault.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/106446","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=106446"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/106446\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/106455"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=106446"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=106446"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=106446"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"mujer](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/woman-standing-near-tree-3.jpg\")
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