{"id":106858,"date":"2020-10-26T23:55:09","date_gmt":"2020-10-26T23:55:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=106858"},"modified":"2022-02-14T23:58:04","modified_gmt":"2022-02-14T23:58:04","slug":"sabotear-tu-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/sabotear-tu-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEst\u00e1s saboteando inconscientemente tu relaci\u00f3n? Estas 10 cosas dicen que s\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"

Have you had very painful experiences in the past when it comes to your love life? You’re now worried that it may greatly affect your new relationship?<\/p>\n

Close that door, leave it all in the past and don’t let it play with your head because otherwise, it’ll definitely put the brakes on your relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n

La verdad es que nunca podemos estar seguros de que nuestra relaci\u00f3n est\u00e9 destinada a durar para siempre.<\/strong> Puede costarnos que nos rompan el coraz\u00f3n, pero tambi\u00e9n puede hacer que nuestra vida sea mucho mejor.<\/p>\n

So why won’t we focus on those positive things rather than on the negative ones? Why won’t we let yourself enjoy beautiful moments with our loved one?<\/p>\n

El lema de mi vida siempre ha sido ‘if you\u2019re happy, enjoy it while it lasts because in the end… feelings, things, human beings\u2026 everything in life is just temporary’.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Deja de temer todo el tiempo que tu pareja pueda hacerte da\u00f1o alg\u00fan d\u00eda. Ese tipo de miedo te har\u00e1 hacer inconscientemente algunas de las cosas que se indican a continuaci\u00f3n, que podr\u00edan sabotear tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

And you\u2019ll definitely regret it later.<\/p>\n

You don’t want to commit<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Does it ever seem to you that your relationship is good on paper, but there’s still something missing?<\/p>\n

I know, I’ve been there. I loved the man I was with and I honestly believed he loved me too and I STILL didn’t want to commit.<\/p>\n

Was there anything wrong with him? Absolutely not. Was I scared of letting someone love me after I\u2019d been hurt before? Absolutely yes.<\/p>\n

Once you realize that it’s YOU and your past experiences sabotaging your chance of love, your new relationship will blossom. Stop searching for his flaws and take a leap of faith.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You’re super jealous<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Your partner doesn’t give you any reason to doubt his fidelity but you’re still feeling jealous all the time and you just can\u2019t help it?<\/p>\n

I know the feeling. I was jealous of all of his female friends and work colleagues. He really didn\u2019t provoke it in any way but still, I couldn\u2019t bear the thought of any other woman being close to him.<\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t aware of how los celos son en realidad una emoci\u00f3n muy destructiva.<\/strong> Realmente puede da\u00f1ar o incluso arruinar tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You must work on building trust in your relationship more and you’ll just have to trust your partner more if you want to save your relationship.<\/p>\n

Comparas a tu pareja con tu ex todo el tiempo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You really let go of the past and moved on with your new partner but you can\u2019t still stop comparing him to your ex? No matter what he does, you always look for some similarities or differences with your ex\u2019s actions?<\/p>\n

Of course, they\u2019re not the same and neither should they be. You left your ex because something was wrong with his behavior or his actions, so why would you date a man who looks a lot like him?<\/p>\n

Also, this is definitely something that will bother your partner the most. I didn\u2019t do that to my partner but I was the one who was being compared to an ex once and I have to admit, it\u2019s not a nice feeling at all.<\/p>\n

If you’re comparing your new man to your ex all the time, it’ll make your partner think that you either still love your ex or that you’re with him just to forget your ex.<\/p>\n

Sus expectativas no son realistas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Have you ever heard the saying \u2018no expectations, no disappointment\u2019? I couldn\u2019t agree more with that.<\/p>\n

Estaba saboteando mi relaci\u00f3n sobre todo porque realmente le ped\u00eda demasiado a mi novio. Lo quer\u00eda todo y lo quer\u00eda inmediatamente. Pero al final, solo nos decepcionaba y nos hac\u00eda da\u00f1o a los dos.<\/p>\n

It’s good to know your worth and expect to get what you deserve but you can’t ask for something you yourself know is unrealistic.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you expect too much from your partner, if you set them sky-high expectations, you must know that it won’t probably end well. Your partner won’t be able to fulfill them and both of you will be disappointed.<\/p>\n

Utilizas un comportamiento controlador<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tu ex pareja te ha enga\u00f1ado y ahora crees que la \u00fanica forma de protegerte para que no se repita ese escenario es controlando a tu novio?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry but you\u2019re wrong. You\u2019ll just look like a freak or a crazy person and your boyfriend could still find a way to betray you if they wanted to.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll get nothing from this kind of behavior except that it can make you look bad in his eyes.<\/p>\n

En realidad, El comportamiento controlador es uno de los signos m\u00e1s t\u00edpicos del autosabotaje.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Neither you nor your partner will be able to relax or be happy in your relationship. It’ll create a toxic atmosphere and will end your relationship.<\/p>\n

Guardas rencor<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You have forgiven people way too many times in your life and you have given many second chances to people who didn\u2019t even deserve the first one?<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 c\u00f3mo te sientes y s\u00e9 lo dif\u00edcil que es volver a confiar en alguien. Sin embargo, debes saber que no todas las personas son iguales y que todos merecemos ser perdonados alguna vez.<\/p>\n

Before I learned to forgive someone again, I was a \u2018grudge holder\u2019. I couldn\u2019t just forgive, forget about it and let it go. It harmed my relationship because I was radiating negativity most of the time.<\/p>\n

If you hold grudges against your partner too often, that means you’re angry at them most of the time, which makes the atmosphere between you too negative.<\/p>\n

Maybe it won’t end your relationship but it’ll probably damage it greatly.<\/p>\n

Inicias peleas a prop\u00f3sito muy a menudo<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

You’re always the one who is picking fights, even about some stupid little things? Well, that’s actually a way you’re self-sabotaging your relationship.<\/a><\/p>\n

If you don’t want to communicate your issues in a healthy way, your partner will get tired of your fights and they’ll probably leave you.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que todos los problemas pueden resolverse con una comunicaci\u00f3n honesta y sana.<\/p>\n

Te niegas a tener intimidad f\u00edsica<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You don’t have a fear of being intimate with your partner but still, you’re withholding it and even you don’t know what the real reason is for that?<\/p>\n

Well, it’s actually how you want to subconsciously or unconsciously sabotear tu relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Okay, physical intimacy isn’t the most important thing in a relationship but it’s definitely at the very top of the list and you know how important it is for a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

Siempre cancelas los planes en el \u00faltimo momento<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Well, admit it, how much do you hate it when someone does it to you? You\u2019re waiting, all glammed up, and then you receive a text or a call and your plans are canceled all of a sudden.<\/p>\n

Well, I swear it\u2019s the time I get the most angry.<\/p>\n

Still, I did it to my ex often. It was just that I thought he wouldn\u2019t get mad at me or that he would forgive me because he\u2019d understand I had other obligations and plans.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s so wrong to do this because your loved one must always be your top priority and nothing and no one should be more important than them.<\/p>\n

Este es tambi\u00e9n uno de los signos m\u00e1s evidentes del autosabotaje.<\/p>\n

If you start doing it more often, your partner probably won’t want to put up with that behavior for too long because they’ll start thinking that you’re purposely avoiding them.<\/p>\n

You still aren\u2019t ready to let go of the past<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you’re still talking about your ex and if you still think about them, it’ll definitely sabotage your new relationship.<\/p>\n

I jumped into a new relationship way too soon and as you can imagine, it didn\u2019t turn out well. I hurt myself and I hurt that person, even though he really didn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

If you really want to make your new relationship work, you must leave your ex in the past and close that door forever. If you keep going back to the past, you’ll hurt both you and your current boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Don’t let the fear you have from some past experiences get to you and sabotage your new relationship. Just because your ex-partner hurt you, it doesn’t mean your present one will too.<\/p>\n

Consider yourself lucky because in this cruel and strange world, you’ve found someone who loves you and you should just simply enjoy it while it lasts.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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