{"id":10695,"date":"2017-12-20T11:13:34","date_gmt":"2017-12-20T11:13:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10695"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:35:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:35:18","slug":"7-excusas-hechas-relacion-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-excusas-hechas-relacion-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"7 excusas que puse para justificar mi relaci\u00f3n abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Aceptar que estamos en una relaci\u00f3n abusiva es m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil que dejarla, porque nos averg\u00fcenza admitir que nos quedamos en una relaci\u00f3n as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

We are ashamed that we\u2019re the ones who let it happen. I was ashamed that I was stupid enough to let him get away with his behavior.<\/p>\n

He was killing me, tearing me apart, and I let him. I let him, because I always had a way of finding an excuse for him. But not anymore. I\u2019m done making excuses. And I hope you\u2019re done too.<\/p>\n

1. S\u00f3lo estaba bromeando<\/span><\/h2>\n

Estaba tan acostumbrada a ser de la que siempre se burlaba, de la que siempre se re\u00eda, que simplemente lo aceptaba como parte de su humor.<\/p>\n

But the thing is, being laughed at constantly is not love. Picking on someone all the time is not an expression of love. It\u2019s abuse.<\/p>\n

2. It was my fault\u2014I got him mad<\/span><\/h2>\n

Nunca me di cuenta de lo profunda que era su manipulaci\u00f3n. Me culp\u00e9 a M\u00cd<\/a> por su abuso. Cada vez que se enfadaba conmigo, encontraba la manera de echarme la culpa a m\u00ed misma. Y \u00e9l estaba de acuerdo, aceptaba mis disculpas cuando era \u00e9l quien deb\u00eda disculparse.<\/p>\n

Every time I missed dinner because of traffic, every time I would talk to some man who wasn\u2019t him, every time I would say no to sex\u2014I was to blame.<\/p>\n

3. En el fondo sab\u00eda que me quer\u00eda<\/span><\/h2>\n

Estaba tan enamorada del hombre que conoc\u00ed, del hombre del que me enamor\u00e9, que me negu\u00e9 a ver al hombre que era ahora. Me negaba a aceptar el hecho de que hab\u00eda cambiado.<\/p>\n

Pero lo hab\u00eda hecho. Y no, nunca me am\u00f3. Tal vez a su manera, retorcida y loca, me amaba, pero su amor era puro infierno.<\/p>\n

4. That\u2019s just the way he is<\/span><\/h2>\n

La gente empez\u00f3 a notarlo. Cada vez que se mov\u00eda, me estremec\u00eda. Cada vez que alguien se me acercaba, yo corr\u00eda hacia \u00e9l. Cada vez que me preguntaban por mi relaci\u00f3n, cambiaba de tema.<\/p>\n

I kept saying to myself, to my friends, to everyone, \u201cThat\u2019s just the way he is, you know? He shows his love a little differently than I do. He\u2019s just not that crazy about expressing emotions and making everyone uncomfortable with us smooching here, you know?\u201d<\/p>\n

Pero la cosa es que ellos lo sab\u00edan. Yo lo sab\u00eda. Eso ya no era amor.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

5. Nadie m\u00e1s me querr\u00eda<\/span><\/h2>\n

Con el tiempo, mi amor empez\u00f3 a desaparecer. Pude verle tal y como era, despu\u00e9s de tanto tiempo, despu\u00e9s de tanto dolor que me hab\u00eda causado. Por fin pude verle como mi maltratador y no como el amor de mi vida. Pero, \u00bfc\u00f3mo pod\u00eda dejarlo? Estaba da\u00f1ada.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo podr\u00eda alguien enamorarse de m\u00ed? \u00bfC\u00f3mo podr\u00eda alguien aceptarme despu\u00e9s de esto? Estaba tan destrozada, sinti\u00e9ndome tan indigno<\/a> that I felt I didn\u2019t deserve anyone\u2019s help. And trust me, I needed that help.<\/p>\n

6. Pero nunca me peg\u00f3<\/span><\/h2>\n

Cuando me qued\u00e9 sin excusas, cuando ya no pod\u00eda esperar que me quisiera como antes, cuando ya no ten\u00eda la esperanza de volver a tener una vida normal, recurr\u00ed a esto.<\/p>\n

Puede que haya gritado, puede que haya golpeado la pared un par de veces, puede que me haya amenazado, pero nunca me ha pegado. Hasta que lo hizo.<\/p>\n

7. No ten\u00eda ad\u00f3nde ir<\/span><\/h2>\n

Realmente cre\u00eda que no ten\u00eda ad\u00f3nde ir. Me aisl\u00f3 de todo el mundo, la \u00fanica persona que ten\u00eda en mi vida era \u00e9l. \u00bfPero sabes una cosa incre\u00edble? Tu familia, tus amigos, nunca te olvidan.<\/p>\n

They never stop loving you. And once you reach out to them, they\u2019re kindly waiting with arms wide open and smiles on their faces. Because they\u2019re happy you\u2019re finally free. They\u2019re happy because you finally put yourself first.<\/p>\n

Cre\u00eda que no ten\u00eda ad\u00f3nde ir, pero mis amigos me demostraron lo contrario. Cre\u00eda que no era digno, que no me quer\u00edan, pero mi familia me demostr\u00f3 lo contrario.<\/p>\n

Permanecer en una relaci\u00f3n abusiva nunca es una opci\u00f3n. Recuerda, siempre tienes a alguien a quien acudir. Siempre me tienes a m\u00ed.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Accepting that we\u2019re in an abusive relationship is harder than leaving one, because we are ashamed to admit that we stayed in such a relationship. We are ashamed that we\u2019re the ones who let it happen. I was ashamed that I was stupid enough to let him get away with his behavior. He was killing…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":10706,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10695","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/tom-roberts-319667.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10695","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10695"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10695\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10706"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10695"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10695"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10695"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}