{"id":111708,"date":"2020-11-09T13:04:04","date_gmt":"2020-11-09T13:04:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=111708"},"modified":"2022-02-27T03:28:07","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T03:28:07","slug":"como-empezar-a-quererte-a-ti-mismo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-empezar-a-quererte-a-ti-mismo\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo empezar a quererse de 10 formas revolucionarias"},"content":{"rendered":"

El amor es la emoci\u00f3n m\u00e1s hermosa de todas. Sin embargo, por incre\u00edble que sea tener un coraz\u00f3n abierto hacia los dem\u00e1s, la pregunta m\u00e1s importante del mundo es: \u00bfc\u00f3mo empezar a quererse a uno mismo?<\/p>\n

When you have a hard time caring about yourself, nothing else in your life can go right. You have zero self-confidence, you feel no security and at the end of the day, you don’t live a happy life.<\/p>\n

Todo el mundo habla de ello. Mires donde mires, lees y oyes cosas que te recuerdan la importancia del amor propio.<\/p>\n

So, you’re perfectly aware that you have to start giving yourself more love. However, nobody actually tells you how to start loving yourself.<\/p>\n

Bueno, nadie excepto nosotros.<\/p>\n

He aqu\u00ed una gu\u00eda paso a paso a trav\u00e9s de su viaje de amor propio y la respuesta a la pregunta de c\u00f3mo quererse a uno mismo<\/a> m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Olv\u00eddese de ser perfeccionista<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The number one reason why most people don\u2019t love truly themselves is the fact that they’re perfectionists.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me; trying to improve yourself and putting effort into your own personal development and personal growth is admirable.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la verdad es que nunca podr\u00e1s llegar a ser perfecto, por mucho que lo intentes as\u00ed que, por favor, deja de esperar que seas el mejor en todo lo que haces.<\/p>\n

In fact, there is no such thing as being perfect. You\u2019re just a human being made of flesh and blood, just like any other person in this world.<\/p>\n

Todos tenemos nuestra serie de defectos y no tiene sentido estresarse por cada uno de ellos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, \u00bfqu\u00e9 significa ser perfecto? \u00bfTienes t\u00fa o cualquier otra persona de este mundo la misma visi\u00f3n de la perfecci\u00f3n? Apuesto a que no.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The thing is that you have to stop wasting your precious energy on trying to achieve something that is unattainable. Go easy on yourself and don\u2019t try going on a wild goose chase.<\/p>\n

Instead of focusing on poor choices, concentrate on all the things you have done well. Stop looking for your own flaws and start observing yourself as someone worthy of everyone\u2019s admiration.<\/p>\n

Autoaceptaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to start loving yourself or how to love yourself more, firstly, you have to accept your true self. Before anything else, begin with knowing who you really are.<\/p>\n

What are the parts of you that you truly consider to be yours? What are the traits others imposed on you but you\u2019ve actually never accepted? Who are you and who do you want to be? How do you see yourself?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEres la persona en la que has querido convertirte durante toda tu vida? Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfqu\u00e9 tipo de persona te gustar\u00eda ser si todo dependiera de ti?<\/p>\n

Well, guess, what? It all really does depend on you. In fact, you\u2019re the only person who needs to accept all of your qualities and flaws.<\/p>\n

To practice self-love is about self-acceptance. It’s not denying any parts of your personality.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know how you don\u2019t laugh as loud as you would just because your partner doesn\u2019t like it? How you stopped wearing that colorful shirt just because your family thought it wasn\u2019t appropriate?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time to stop pretending to be someone you\u2019re not. Dig deep inside of you and recuerda la chica o el chico que sol\u00edas ser<\/a>. Ama tus imperfecciones de la misma manera que amas tus lados buenos. \u00bfSabes por qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n

Because they all form one amazing person\u2014YOU.<\/p>\n

Remember: you\u2019re one of a kind. In a million years, there won\u2019t be someone the same as you so what\u2019s there not to love about this uniqueness?<\/p>\n

Forget about society’s validation<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019ve done the hard part, it\u2019s time to stop comparing yourself to others as well. Guess what? You\u2019ll never please everyone around you so you might just as well stop trying. This is one of the best recipes for an una vida m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil<\/a>. <\/p>\n

If your parents don\u2019t see you as good enough, they\u2019ll never appreciate you or see your worth, regardless of how much effort you put into trying to change their opinion.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, you might be the best possible person to them but maybe your partner has some expectations you can\u2019t seem to fulfill.<\/p>\n

La conclusi\u00f3n es que, hagas lo que hagas, siempre habr\u00e1 alguien que te diga que deber\u00edas hacer las cosas de otra manera.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you can spend your entire life worrying about other people\u2019s opinions but even then, you won\u2019t change them and you won\u2019t succeed in making everyone love you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The first thing you have to do if you plan on forgetting about unrealistic society\u2019s expectations is to get rid of all of your social media accounts.<\/p>\n

Si esto es imposible, por favor, al menos, comprenda que casi todo en Facebook e Instagram es falso.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, I know exactly how you feel. You go on your news feed and you automatically get the impression that all your friends are better in this game called life.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re of a certain age, you\u2019re expected to have it all figured out. It seems that everyone has graduated, started a family, has a happy love life and so on. Everyone except you.<\/p>\n

Todo el mundo viaja, va al gimnasio, pierde peso y vive su mejor vida. Todos menos t\u00fa.<\/p>\n

Naturalmente, cuando te comparas con los dem\u00e1s, te ves a ti mismo como el mayor de los fracasos. Sabes por qu\u00e9 es as\u00ed?<\/p>\n

Because you keep limiting yourself by what is expected of you. You don\u2019t go after your desires; you\u2019re trying to fulfill society\u2019s standards.<\/p>\n

Who told you that there is a certain age by which you have to have a steady job? Who says that you have to get married? That\u2019s right, nobody. So please, forget about this nonsense and live your life the way you want.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, el objetivo es ser feliz uno mismo, no la sociedad.<\/p>\n

Abrazar la gratitud<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Knowing this, you\u2019re probably wondering what the key to happiness is. Well, nobody can give you a concrete answer to this question but I can guarantee that gratitude is one of the most important ways to get there.<\/p>\n

A primera vista, podr\u00eda pensarse que las personas m\u00e1s felices lo tienen todo, pero puedo decirle que la verdad es muy distinta. Al contrario, las personas m\u00e1s felices est\u00e1n agradecidas por todo lo que tienen.<\/p>\n

After all, nobody has it all, therefore what you should do is embrace gratitude. I promise you that once you do, you\u2019ll grow to love your own life more and eventually, you’ll start this self-love journey.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, you\u2019re focused on the bad things around you. Well, for a change, try and look at things from a different perspective.<\/p>\n

Maybe you can\u2019t save enough money to decorate your house but hey, at least you have a home, don\u2019t you? Maybe you are not happy with your current career choice but you do have a job, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me, this is not me advising you to remain stuck in your comfort zone for the rest of your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not telling you to ditch personal development, not to follow your dreams or to stop aspiring for greater things.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead, I\u2019m just begging you to stop paying so much attention to the things you want to change and instead, be thankful for all of your blessings.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Be grateful that you\u2019re alive and be grateful if you\u2019re healthy. You\u2019re surrounded by those who care for you and no matter what happens, tomorrow is always a new day.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme, esto por s\u00ed solo es mucho m\u00e1s de lo que mucha gente puede siquiera so\u00f1ar con tener.<\/p>\n

Cambie su percepci\u00f3n de s\u00ed mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Before getting the answers to your questions of how to start loving yourself and how to love yourself more, you have to get to the bottom of this question: Why don\u2019t you love yourself in the first place? Lucky for you, I have the answer to this one too.<\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, el problema de fondo es que piensas mal de ti mismo. Puede que te niegues a admitirlo, pero la verdad es muy evidente.<\/p>\n

Obviously, you consider yourself unlovable. You are convinced that you\u2019re not worthy of anyone\u2019s love. Your inner voice is telling you that you’re not attractive, smart, intelligent or interesting enough for anyone to love you.<\/p>\n

Puedes negarlo todo lo que quieras, pero sabes que as\u00ed es como te sientes contigo mismo.<\/p>\n

Pues bien, para cambiar tus emociones negativas, tienes que cambiar tu autopercepci\u00f3n. Tienes que reforzar tu autoestima y recordarte a ti mismo que realmente eres digno y valioso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Easier said than done, I know. Wouldn\u2019t it be perfect if you could snap your fingers and start seeing yourself in a different light, just like that?<\/p>\n

However, this change requires time. It requires you to get out of the box you\u2019ve put yourself in and to eventually start seeing all of your qualities.<\/p>\n

Para empezar, inicia un h\u00e1bito incre\u00edble: escribir un diario. Cada noche, antes de irte a dormir, escribe al menos cinco cosas que te hayan hecho sentir orgulloso de ti mismo.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Write down five good things you\u2019ve done that day or the right choices you\u2019ve made. This doesn\u2019t have to be anything spectacular, as any milestone will do the trick.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, puedes registrar que te has levantado a tiempo para ir a trabajar, sin tener que apurar tu rutina matutina o que, para variar, has almorzado de forma saludable.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, hazte un par de cumplidos y an\u00f3talos tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

You can add some things such as the fact that you were calm enough not to respond to your co-worker\u2019s nasty look, that you smelled great or that you were extra funny today.<\/p>\n

The list is endless but I\u2019m sure you know where I\u2019m going with this.<\/p>\n

At first, remembering five good things will be difficult. However, with time, you\u2019ll even start to increase the number of compliments and the praise you give yourself.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, la pr\u00f3xima vez que sientas que te quieres menos de lo que deber\u00edas, habla contigo mismo. Repasa tu diario de amor propio, lee todas las cosas buenas que has hecho en esos d\u00edas y hazte algunos cumplidos.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed de f\u00e1cil, tu imagen de ti mismo empezar\u00e1 a cambiar, sin que te des cuenta. Tu confianza en ti mismo se disparar\u00e1 y llegar\u00e1 el amor propio.<\/p>\n

Alejar a las personas t\u00f3xicas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Para obtener una respuesta a la pregunta de c\u00f3mo empezar a quererte a ti mismo, tienes que estar en un entorno amoroso.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible to care for yourself in a proper way if you\u2019re surrounded by hatred, pessimism and negative thoughts and people.<\/p>\n

Therefore, please cut off anyone who doesn\u2019t mean you well.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Regardless of whether these toxic people are your family or friends you\u2019ve known your whole life, if they don\u2019t send you positivity, it\u2019s time for them to go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Basically, what I\u2019m advising you is to get rid of everyone who doesn\u2019t truly love you. You see, you\u2019re going through a sensitive time right now. You\u2019re easily subjected to other people\u2019s opinions and impressions of you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple; if you surround yourself with people who think poorly of you, you\u2019ll adopt their opinions.<\/p>\n

If you surround yourself with those who keep you sending you the message that you\u2019re not meant to be loved, you\u2019ll start considering yourself not worthy of love.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re constantly in the company of people who see all of your value, you\u2019ll start believing it as well.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in the company of those who think highly of you, after a while, you\u2019ll begin looking at yourself through their eyes as well.<\/p>\n

Adoptar el autocuidado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019re a great friend, co-worker or sibling and an even better son or daughter.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re always full of understanding about everything your loved ones do, you put a lot of effort into making them happier and you do everything in your power to help them out when they need it.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s an amazing trait, I won\u2019t argue against that. However, having all of this in mind, I can\u2019t help but wonder: What exactly is stopping you from treating yourself the same way?<\/p>\n

Why do you engage in that much self-criticism, self-loathing and self-doubt but you’re not like that where everyone else is concerned?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re being honest, you\u2019ll admit that you treat everyone else around you better than you treat yourself. Why is that so? Does that mean that you love all of them more than you love yourself?<\/p>\n

Why not engage in a little experiment. Try imagining that you\u2019re your own best friend.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What would you tell that friend, if they came to you and told you that they don\u2019t love themselves? What would you tell them if they made a mistake?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfLes acusar\u00edas de ser unos fracasados o les dar\u00edas la tranquilidad que necesitan desesperadamente?
\n\u00bfQu\u00e9 les dir\u00edas si fueran pasando por una ruptura<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Would you rub salt into the wound by telling them that they\u2019re good for nothing and that nobody else would ever love them?<\/p>\n

Or would you tell them that they\u2019re better off single and that they should be happy about getting rid of their toxic ex?<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to answer any of these questions because I already know which options you\u2019d choose. So, why don\u2019t you start telling yourself each one of these lines?<\/p>\n

These double standards don\u2019t end there. Let\u2019s imagine that it\u2019s your best friend\u2019s birthday. I bet that you would do anything to get them the perfect gift.<\/p>\n

Gastar\u00edas todo el dinero y el tiempo del mundo s\u00f3lo para verlos felices.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, nunca te tratas a ti mismo de la misma manera. Rara vez haces algo para complacerte a ti mismo.
\nWell, it\u2019s about time to change that. I\u2019m begging you, start pampering yourself, the way you pamper others.<\/p>\n

Ama tu cuerpo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real here; you can\u2019t love your mind and emotions unless you love the physical part of yourself as well. Regardless of how you feel about it, your body is a part of you.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not here to tell you to lose weight and to become a supermodel because that\u2019s not a path to self-love. The truth is that you should try to get in shape but your health should be the number one reason to do so.<\/p>\n

Instead, I\u2019m here to beg you to start loving your body, to ask you to embrace all of your physical imperfections, the same way you should do with all the personality traits you don\u2019t like.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can undergo all the plastic surgery and aesthetic treatments in the world but if you don\u2019t teach yourself to be happy in your own skin, you\u2019ll keep finding new flaws nobody else even notices.<\/p>\n

Your nose will always be too big, your mouth too small and your teeth never white enough. What I\u2019m trying to say is that loving your body means accepting it instead of changing it.<\/p>\n

Of course, that doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t do anything about the things that can easily be changed and that you don\u2019t like about yourself.<\/p>\n

For example, if you are really bothered about that extra fat you\u2019ve got on your stomach, start exercising.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, before you do it, ask yourself: Am I the one who can\u2019t stand seeing those extra pounds on me or do I want to get rid of them to be more likable to others?<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 ego\u00edsta<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Being egocentric is a negative trait. Everyone applauds those who are kind and emphatic. However, there is a thin line between being nice and being a fool and you\u2019re on the verge of crossing it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me, I know that your loved ones are significant to you. Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that you should allow them to use you whenever or however they like.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, sus necesidades y deseos nunca pueden ser m\u00e1s importantes que los tuyos.<\/p>\n

THEY can\u2019t be more important than you to you. Instead, you have to ask how to love yourself first. No, this is not a toxic trait, it\u2019s the way in which we should all behave.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re your own number one priority and everyone else comes second. Your mental health, energy and emotions are the things that have to concern you the most.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Please, stop feeling guilty for not being at everyone\u2019s disposal 24\/7. Don\u2019t beat yourself up just because you don\u2019t feel like going out with your BFF tonight or for choosing yourself over your siblings.<\/p>\n

Remember this: All the relationships in your life can come and go. The heck with it, it\u2019s even possible to break ties with your closest family members.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la \u00fanica relaci\u00f3n de la que nunca podr\u00e1s escapar es la que tienes contigo mismo.<\/p>\n

Apreciar esa relaci\u00f3n no es en absoluto ego\u00edsta. Cuidar de uno mismo no es ego\u00edsta. Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, quererse a uno mismo m\u00e1s que a nadie no es ego\u00edsta.<\/p>\n

Liberarse del control<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to start loving yourself, one of the things you simply must do is stop being a control freak. As much as you try, you simply can\u2019t be in charge of everything.<\/p>\n

Te guste o no, lo cierto es que no todo puede estar en tus manos. No tienes ning\u00fan control sobre c\u00f3mo se comportan los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

De hecho, en la mayor\u00eda de los casos, tampoco tienes control sobre las cosas que te ocurren ni sobre tu vida.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, es evidente que te cuesta darte cuenta de ello. La mayor\u00eda de las veces, acabas odi\u00e1ndote por c\u00f3mo te tratan los dem\u00e1s y por las cosas que han estado fuera de tu control desde el primer d\u00eda.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, you love yourself less because you think that you weren\u2019t enough for them. When you get fired, you love yourself less because you think it was all your fault.<\/p>\n

Well, the only thing you can control is your reactions to other people and events. You can\u2019t choose whether you\u2019ll get betrayed or left behind. Nevertheless, you can choose the way you observe that situation.<\/p>\n

Will you put the blame on yourself and hate yourself for all that has happened? Or will you accept the situation the way it is and invest energy into healing yourself? It\u2019s all up to you!<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

Maybe the most significant step in this process is to take things slowly. You\u2019ve figured out how to start loving yourself but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should rush yourself into it.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest; how many years have you spent hating yourself? How much time has passed since you paid yourself a compliment?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntos a\u00f1os has pasado disminuyendo tu propia autoestima y consider\u00e1ndote menos valioso de lo que realmente eres?<\/p>\n

I bet even you don\u2019t know the number so do you really think it\u2019s possible to annul this entire effect overnight?<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you, making a difference to your feelings is not a piece of cake. Therefore, don\u2019t expect magical changes with the snap of a finger.<\/p>\n

De hecho, lo peor que puedes hacer es esforzarte demasiado y esperar una transformaci\u00f3n completa de inmediato. En lugar de intentar hacer grandes cambios, da peque\u00f1os pasos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

One change at a time is the way to go! Before you know it, you\u2019ll be proud of yourself and of everything you achieved.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la pregunta es: \u00bferes realmente consciente de lo crucial que es quererte a ti mismo?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Love is the most beautiful emotion of them all. However, as amazing as it is to be open-hearted toward others, the most significant question in the world is: How to start loving yourself? When you have a hard time caring about yourself, nothing else in your life can go right. You have zero self-confidence, you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":111712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29637],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-111708","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life-hacks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29637,"label":"life hacks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/How-To-Start-Loving-Yourself-In-10-Revolutionary-Ways-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29637,"name":"life hacks","slug":"life-hacks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29637,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When life gives you lemons - make lemonade, and allow these life hacks to remind you of your strength, potential, and the right to be happy.","parent":22911,"count":281,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29637,"category_count":281,"category_description":"When life gives you lemons - make lemonade, and allow these life hacks to remind you of your strength, potential, and the right to be happy.","cat_name":"life hacks","category_nicename":"life-hacks","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111708","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=111708"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111708\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/111712"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=111708"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=111708"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=111708"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}