{"id":112129,"date":"2020-11-13T16:49:58","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T16:49:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112129"},"modified":"2022-06-16T13:33:35","modified_gmt":"2022-06-16T13:33:35","slug":"cuantos-anos-son-demasiados-para-salir-con-alguien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuantos-anos-son-demasiados-para-salir-con-alguien\/","title":{"rendered":"La diferencia de edad en las relaciones: \u00bfCu\u00e1ntos a\u00f1os son demasiados para salir con alguien?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you\u2019ve heard that \u2018age is just a number\u2019 many times. Even if you agree with the saying, you must admit that there are some rules that need to be obeyed.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we just can’t help but ask: how old is too old to date someone?<\/p>\n

This isn’t the most comfortable topic to talk about, since some people have very strong stances when it comes to it.<\/p>\n

There’s a lot of stigma surrounding couples with a bigger age gap for various reasons. They are often judged, frowned upon or ridiculed.<\/p>\n

Not only that but there’s a very obvious double standard relating to the phenomenon of young woman\/hombre mayor<\/a> parejas versus joven\/mujer mayor<\/a> parejas.<\/p>\n

In this article, we’re going to discuss different perspectives on age differences in couples and hopefully find a middle ground.<\/p>\n

L\u00edmites de edad: \u00bfCu\u00e1ntos a\u00f1os son demasiados para salir con alguien?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

In modern society, there’s an unwritten rule about the minimum age\/maximum age a person should date.<\/p>\n

It’s pretty simple: You should date someone who’s half your age plus seven years (the minimum age limit) or in other cases, someone twice your age minus seven years (the maximum age limit).<\/p>\n

So, if you’re a 50-year-old, the minimum age to date is 32, if you’re a 24-year-old, the maximum age to date is 41 and so on.<\/p>\n

Si te cuesta decidir si la persona con la que quieres salir es demasiado mayor o demasiado joven para ti, sigue esta regla y decide si te sientes c\u00f3modo con el resultado que obtienes.<\/p>\n

With this being said, it’s important to mention that when people are in love, this rule isn’t always obeyed and that’s just reality.<\/p>\n

Una gran diferencia de edad: \u00bfCu\u00e1les son los retos?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you’ll be concerned about your partner’s age or not depends largely on what you want and need in life.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQuieres una relaci\u00f3n comprometida? \u00bfQuieres un rollo de una noche? \u00bfQuieres tener hijos?<\/p>\n

Todas estas preguntas requieren diferentes puntos de vista. Estas son algunas de las preocupaciones m\u00e1s comunes de las parejas con mayor diferencia de edad.<\/p>\n

Aprobaci\u00f3n familiar<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It’s no secret that society judges couples with a bigger age gap, especially younger women who decide to have a relationship with older men.<\/p>\n

Esto suele acarrear problemas de desaprobaci\u00f3n familiar y presentaciones inc\u00f3modas por primera vez.<\/p>\n

There are worries about how people perceive the couple. It’s not likely that the parents of a 20-year-old woman will be excited if their daughter starts dating someone their age.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a widespread stereotype about young women who enter relationships with older men as buscadores de oro<\/a><\/em>. Algunas personas simplemente lo encuentran extra\u00f1o o tab\u00fa y lo asocian con un comportamiento desviado.<\/p>\n

This can affect the family negatively and sometimes they won’t support the relationship. Of course, this takes a toll on the couple and their emotional life and possibly their everyday life.<\/p>\n

La falta de apoyo de la familia es siempre un gran problema en la vida de cualquier persona.<\/p>\n

Diferentes c\u00edrculos sociales<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Another thing that doesn’t come as a surprise is a problem with different social circles of age gap couples. It’s not very likely that they’re going to have mutual friends.<\/p>\n

Even when they do have mutual friends, it’s not always ideal because different age groups mean different lifestyles, interests, hobbies, etc.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s probable es que una persona de 20 a\u00f1os tenga unos h\u00e1bitos de vida muy diferentes a los de una persona de 40 a\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

Having mutual friends is not crucial for a relationship but it’s oftentimes important and has an effect on a couple and how they spend and organize their time.<\/p>\n

Planificar juntos una familia<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Planificar una familia en pareja con una gran diferencia de edad tambi\u00e9n puede ser un reto.<\/p>\n

For example, if you’re a younger woman who wants children and you’re in love with a much older man<\/a>Si no lo haces, tienes que pensar en todas las consecuencias que esta elecci\u00f3n de relaci\u00f3n puede tener en tu futuro y en el de tus hijos.<\/p>\n

If you’re an older woman dating a younger man or a younger man dating an older woman, different child-related questions can arise.<\/p>\n

If you’re not concerned about having children at all, there are still some inevitable questions.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, una preocupaci\u00f3n un poco sombr\u00eda pero v\u00e1lida de que un miembro de la pareja muera antes que el otro, que se pierda la conexi\u00f3n m\u00e1s adelante en la relaci\u00f3n debido a la diferencia de edad, la cuesti\u00f3n de la libido y su vida \u00edntima, etc.<\/p>\n

That’s why people usually choose a partner closer to their age. However, if you just want to have a fling and experience some casual fun, there’s nothing to worry about.<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que hay que decir es que el nivel de madurez no est\u00e1 estrictamente correlacionado con la edad. Hay j\u00f3venes muy maduros y personas mayores inmaduras.<\/p>\n

Cada persona es diferente y aporta din\u00e1micas distintas a una relaci\u00f3n. Algunas parejas con grandes diferencias de edad encajan a la perfecci\u00f3n, mientras que otras son un gran no.<\/p>\n

Crecer separados<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00c9ste es otro tema delicado del que hay que hablar. Aunque todo puede ir genial al principio de la relaci\u00f3n, m\u00e1s adelante, a medida que ambas partes envejecen, empiezan a aparecer retos m\u00e1s singulares.<\/p>\n

The truth is that a person is not the same when they’re in their middle age period, i.e. their forties, fifties and sixties and when they’re in their early twenties or thirties.<\/p>\n

Dependiendo de la edad que tengan y de la fase en la que se encuentren en su vida, las personas desarrollan necesidades y objetivos diferentes.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed es como pueden separarse<\/a> tambi\u00e9n, no s\u00f3lo en las relaciones con diferencias de edad, sino en las relaciones en general.<\/p>\n

Asuntos financieros<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Las relaciones por diferencias de edad suelen diferenciarse de otros tipos de relaciones en lo que respecta a las cuestiones financieras.<\/p>\n

This isn’t a rule but it’s not hard to understand and assume that if one partner is much older, he or she will have an established career and a stable income.<\/p>\n

Younger people, especially if they\u2019re in their twenties, are probably exploring their career opportunities and aren’t set on what they want to do with their life.<\/p>\n

This can (but doesn’t have to) create unique challenges in a relationship of this kind.<\/p>\n

Hijos de relaciones anteriores<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Obviamente, este no es el caso de todas las relaciones de este tipo, pero es algo que a menudo supone un reto.<\/p>\n

If one partner is older, it’s likely that they already have children from previous relationships and that means that the other person will have to accept the fact that they’re going to be a stepmom or a stepdad to someone else’s children.<\/p>\n

Being, for instance, twenty-something and a stepmom or stepdad to someone who’s, for example, a 19-year-old or goes to high school is probably a pretty unusual experience for both people included.<\/p>\n

Other than that, there’s the whole emotional aspect considering children who are very important to older partners and also children’s reactions to a new person in their parent’s life.<\/p>\n

Doble rasero: \u00bfLa diferencia de edad en una relaci\u00f3n afecta de forma diferente a hombres y mujeres?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

A pesar de todas las cosas buenas que han sucedido en la historia reciente y que han permitido una visi\u00f3n m\u00e1s liberal de los distintos tipos de amor, sigue habiendo muchos estereotipos y dobles raseros cuando se trata de este tipo concreto de relaciones.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, un hombre mayor que acaba con una chica joven es visto como alguien a quien admirar, mientras que esa misma mujer es avergonzada por estar con un hombre mayor.<\/p>\n

It’s generally accepted that older men date women in their 20s while it’s not the same for older women who date younger men.<\/p>\n

There are also examples of famous men with older women or even women of their own age who are considered objectively less attractive and often bullied and called names, just because they don’t fit into someone else’s idea of what a \u2018perfect couple\u2019<\/a> deber\u00eda ser as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed pues, la respuesta a la pregunta es: S\u00ed. Aunque est\u00e1 demostrado que los hombres y las mujeres tienen preferencias diferentes en cuanto a los rangos de edad de las citas, doble rasero<\/a> est\u00e1n, por desgracia, muy presentes.<\/p>\n

Consejos para mantener una relaci\u00f3n sana a pesar de la diferencia de edad (y de la presi\u00f3n social)<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Prep\u00e1rate para los juicios y los malentendidos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

As already mentioned, it’s no secret that people often judge couples with big age differences.<\/p>\n

Esto significa que las dos personas de una relaci\u00f3n deben tener un fuerte sentido de s\u00ed mismas y estar seguras de su amor y de sus objetivos mutuos.<\/p>\n

Deben prepararse para ser juzgados e incomprendidos por quienes consideren que su relaci\u00f3n es extra\u00f1a o desagradable.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, tambi\u00e9n deben recordar que los dem\u00e1s no saben nada de su vida amorosa, sus aspiraciones, sus sentimientos o sus objetivos.<\/p>\n

Desgraciadamente, las mujeres j\u00f3venes a menudo tienen que justificar sus decisiones vitales y defenderse de las acusaciones de ser cazafortunas, mientras que las mujeres mayores con parejas j\u00f3venes son vistas como pumas.<\/p>\n

Cuando se trata de amor, nadie deber\u00eda tener que justificarse ante nadie, sino mantenerse centrado en la persona que ama y hacer lo que quiera a pesar de lo que digan los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Make sure you’re on the same page<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When a person decides to start a relationship with an older or younger dating partner, they have to be sure that they’re on the same page as them.<\/p>\n

They have to set clear goals about the future and disclose what they want and don’t want.<\/p>\n

This is important because with a bigger age gap, there’s a bigger chance of differences in goals, life experiences and ideas about the future and life in general.<\/p>\n

One person is more experienced while the other is not and that usually makes a big difference. However, that doesn’t mean they can’t have similar or the same goals.<\/p>\n

Age gap relationships are tricky on their own and with all of the risks that a couple is already taking, they need to be sure it’s worth it.<\/p>\n

It’s important to talk openly about any potential challenges and be very open. There’s nothing that an open and honest heart-to-heart conversation can’t solve if two people truly love each other.<\/p>\n

Don’t let negative opinions discourage you<\/h2>\n

\"gran<\/p>\n

Anyone who feels genuinely happy with their life choices shouldn’t be discouraged by the harsh words of others who know nothing about their life. This is also true for relationships with big age differences.<\/p>\n

People who comment negatively on someone else’s life, based on one small detail, don’t know the full story and never will. Whatever they say isn’t true or realistic.<\/p>\n

Instead of letting others crush your spirit, it’s important to stay on the path you chose and prove that love wins.<\/p>\n

En lugar de desanimarte, demuestra con tu ejemplo que la edad es s\u00f3lo un n\u00famero y que tu relaci\u00f3n puede funcionar como cualquier otra. relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ten confianza en ti mismo y en tu amor<\/h2>\n

\"dulce<\/p>\n

If you’re someone who’s in this kind of relationship, be confident in your decision. Be confident in the love you have. At the end of the day, you’re dos personas enamoradas<\/a>. \u00a1Que aproveche!<\/p>\n

Don’t let one thing about your relationship change the course of your life. If your relationship is strong and you feel loved, there’s nothing that should make you question yourself.<\/p>\n

Todas las dificultades por las que pasan las personas las hacen m\u00e1s fuertes al final, as\u00ed que deja que eso le ocurra tambi\u00e9n a tu relaci\u00f3n. Deja que el amor y la felicidad compensen todas las cosas inc\u00f3modas que tengas que afrontar.<\/p>\n

El amor no conoce edad: \u00bfVerdad o mito?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Engaging in any kind of relationship that’s seen as weird by the rest of society will always be a challenge.<\/p>\n

La verdad es que si amas a tu pareja y tu pareja te ama y si no hay banderas rojas<\/a>es evidente que una relaci\u00f3n es posible y que el amor puede ser muy verdadero.<\/p>\n

La edad podr\u00eda no significar nada m\u00e1s que un n\u00famero cuando todo lo dem\u00e1s es correcto.<\/p>\n

If you enjoy all the unique things that this kind of relationship brings you, then that’s all that matters.<\/p>\n

If you find no other reason to not be in a relationship like this, you already know that that’s what you truly want.<\/p>\n

When you’re sure of your love for your partner, no outside pressure stands a chance.<\/p>\n

Conclusi\u00f3n<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Espero haber conseguido darte una respuesta adecuada a la pregunta de cu\u00e1ntos a\u00f1os son demasiados para salir con alguien.<\/p>\n

El mejor consejo para cualquier tipo de relaci\u00f3n es que vayas a por lo que quieres y no escuches a gente que no sabe nada de c\u00f3mo te sientes o de c\u00f3mo quieres vivir tu vida.<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farese de que todo lo que hace lo hace por las razones correctas y de que se siente c\u00f3modo con sus decisiones.<\/p>\n

Tu vida y tus decisiones deben ser s\u00f3lo tuyas. Si eso incluye preferencias inusuales de citas, que as\u00ed sea.<\/p>\n

There are many examples of very successful relationships with big age differences and that’s proof they can work out.<\/p>\n

Esto vale para todos los dem\u00e1s tipos de relaciones que la sociedad desprecia sin una raz\u00f3n v\u00e1lida.<\/p>\n

If it’s true, love es <\/em>amor.<\/p>\n

Citas perspicaces sobre la (in)importancia de la edad y las relaciones con diferencias de edad<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"diferencia<\/p>\n

1. \u201cSome people are old at 18 and some are young at 90. Time is a concept that humans created.\u201d\u2014Yoko Ono<\/p>\n

2. \u201cIf you love somebody, you love them. My parents had a 25-year age gap between them and my mum was the breadwinner, my dad the house husband. I\u2019m a strong believer that a good relationship can work, whatever the situation.\u201d\u2014Katherine Jenkins<\/p>\n

3. \u201cIn a relationship, things like age, size, weight, distance, religion, gender, race, flaws and differences shouldn\u2019t matter. If you find a person you love, the love is requited and they make you happy, be with that person regardless of what anyone says.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

4. \u201c… it’s like when Kate Hudson was hooking up with that Jonas brother. It was kind of weird at first and then we all got used to it and nobody gave it a second thought. If anything, people applauded her because she’s not afraid to go after what she wants. And she really wanted that cute little Jonas brother.\u201d\u2014Winter Renshaw<\/p>\n

5. \u201cWhen we\u2019re young, everyone over the age of thirty looks middle-aged, everyone over fifty antique. And time, as it goes by, confirms that we weren\u2019t that wrong. Those little age differentials, so crucial and so gross when we are young, erode. We end up all belonging to the same category, that of the non-young. I\u2019ve never much minded this myself. But there are exceptions to the rule. For some people, the time differentials established in youth never really disappear: the elder remains the elder, even when both are dribbling greybeards. For some people, a gap of, say, five months means that one will perversely always think of himself \u2013 herself \u2013 as wiser and more knowledgeable than the other, whatever the evidence to the contrary. Or perhaps I should say because of the evidence to the contrary. Because it is perfectly clear to any objective observer that the balance has shifted to the marginally younger person, the other one maintains the assumption of superiority all the more rigorously. All the more neurotically.\u201d\u2015Julian Barnes<\/p>\n

6. \u201cThere is a certain part of all of us that lives outside of time. Perhaps we become aware of our age only at exceptional moments and most of the time we are ageless.\u201d\u2015Milan Kundera<\/p>\n

7. \u201cThere is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.\u201d\u2015Sophia Loren<\/p>\n

8. \u201cAge is just a number. It’s totally irrelevant unless, of course, you happen to be a bottle of wine.\u201d\u2015Joan Collins<\/p>\n

9. \u201cNobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.\u201d\u2015Samuel Ullman<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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