{"id":11216,"date":"2020-08-03T12:07:32","date_gmt":"2020-08-03T12:07:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11216"},"modified":"2022-01-10T20:43:20","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T20:43:20","slug":"dio-por-sentada-la-bondad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/dio-por-sentada-la-bondad\/","title":{"rendered":"Dio por sentada mi bondad"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Dio por sentada mi amabilidad y perdi\u00f3 a la persona que m\u00e1s se preocupaba por \u00e9l.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>In the beginning, our love was something everyone else wanted. He listened, he cared, and he would have done anything for me. I fell in love with a kind-hearted and understanding guy, or so I thought\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Poco a poco, su amabilidad empez\u00f3 a desvanecerse. Empez\u00f3 a usar el tipo de persona que yo era en su beneficio.<\/p>\n<p>He knew me as the person who would apologize for anything and everything. He knew that if he made me feel bad enough for something or twisted my words around to make it seem like it was my fault, I would say \u201csorry\u201d and I did.<\/p>\n<p>He pedido perd\u00f3n tantas veces por cosas que ni siquiera entend\u00eda por qu\u00e9 me disculpaba. <b><i>Sent\u00eda que estaba loco. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Lo peor de todo era que pod\u00eda contar con los dedos de la mano las veces que se disculpaba conmigo y lo hac\u00eda de verdad. Conseguir una disculpa de \u00e9l era como arrancar una muela. <b><i>Siempre me dol\u00eda m\u00e1s despu\u00e9s de todo.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110243 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone.jpg\" alt=\"una mujer triste se sienta en el sof\u00e1 y mira su m\u00f3vil\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sus disculpas no significaban nada; eran s\u00f3lo palabras y promesas vac\u00edas. <b>.<\/b> He became the type of person that just said things to say them. Even when I knew this, I still tried to believe him\u2026 <i> <\/i><b><i>Esperaba que las palabras fueran ciertas.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>I continued to find myself apologizing at the end of any argument of ours. I don\u2019t know how he did it. How he always found a way to flip the situation into being my fault.<\/p>\n<p>Sal\u00ed de cada una de nuestras conversaciones sinti\u00e9ndome disgustada y confusa. <b><i>Siempre encontraba la manera de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/6-cosas-que-los-hombres-te-hacen-sentir-como-una-loca\/\">me hacen sentir loco.<\/a><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Me dijo que yo era ego\u00edsta y que no le apreciaba porque mi nivel de exigencia era demasiado alto. Me dijo que a veces era demasiado para m\u00ed porque sent\u00eda demasiado. Me dijo que nunca podr\u00eda estar satisfecha porque nunca estaba contenta con lo que ten\u00eda<\/i><\/b><i> . <\/i><\/p>\n<p>When in all reality, it wasn\u2019t my standards that were high; it was my hopes that he could do better. I wasn\u2019t unappreciative of what he did for me, I was unappreciative of the way he treated me. I wasn\u2019t satisfied with what I had because of the lack of effort he put into our relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of reminding him of these things again, I kept my mouth shut and apologized. I did that because I hated fighting and I didn\u2019t want to lose him. <b><i>Utiliz\u00f3 mi amabilidad en su beneficio.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110244 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind.jpg\" alt=\"la mujer abraza a su hombre por detr\u00e1s\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I loved him with every fiber of my being. I would have done anything to make him happy. He knew this\u2014he knew I hated fighting. He knew I couldn\u2019t stay mad at him even when I was hurt. He knew how much I wanted him and he used that to his advantage.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca se esforz\u00f3 por estar presente en nuestra relaci\u00f3n. Sab\u00eda que estaba ah\u00ed y eso le bastaba. <b><i>Yo era su \u00faltimo recurso y \u00e9l llamaba a eso una relaci\u00f3n.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Decidi\u00f3 colocarme en el fondo de una peque\u00f1a caja y tirar la llave. S\u00f3lo abr\u00eda la caja cuando le conven\u00eda. Incluso cuando \u00e9l abr\u00eda la caja, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuando-le-das-todo-a-un-hombre-y-aun-asi-no-tiene-la-decencia-de-elegirte\/\">\u00e9l t\u00edpicamente eligi\u00f3 a todos y a todo antes de elegirme a m\u00ed<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Lo triste fue que los d\u00edas en que decidi\u00f3 elegirme, volv\u00ed a enamorarme de \u00e9l. Esos d\u00edas me convert\u00ed en la persona m\u00e1s feliz del mundo. D\u00edas as\u00ed me hicieron creer que las cosas iban a volver a ir bien.<\/p>\n<p>Me dieron esperanza. Esperanza de que por fin hubiera escuchado todas nuestras conversaciones. Esperanza de que se hab\u00eda dado cuenta de lo mucho que estaba da\u00f1ando nuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Hope that he had noticed the lack of effort and communication, he was putting into our relationship. Hope that he was going to change. That\u2019s the crappy thing about hope\u2014 <b><i>cuando te decepciona <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/love-felt-like-hell\/\">duele como el infierno.<\/a><\/i><\/b><b> <\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110245 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman.jpg\" alt=\"el retrato de una negra triste y preocupada\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The thought of leaving him crossed my mind many times, but my kind heart knew the man he could be. This hope pushed me into giving him second chances that he didn\u2019t deserve. Fool me twice shame on me, right?<\/p>\n<p><b>Se equivoca, qu\u00e9 verg\u00fcenza. <\/b> Verg\u00fcenza deber\u00eda darle decirme que me quer\u00eda y que quer\u00eda pasar el resto de su vida conmigo, pero tratarme como una completa mierda.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t get to treat someone you love like that. <b><i>You don\u2019t get to take advantage of a person&#8217;s kindness and then expect them to stay with you.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>At first I thought leaving him meant that I was giving up or wasn\u2019t strong enough to deal with our issues. Then I saw a quote that said, <i> \u201cA person who values you, wouldn\u2019t ever put themselves in a position to lose you.\u201d <\/i> Esto me impact\u00f3.<\/p>\n<p>Le hab\u00eda dado todas las oportunidades para trabajar en las cosas. De luchar por m\u00ed, de luchar por nosotros. Quer\u00eda tanto que luchara por m\u00ed que me dol\u00eda en el alma. Ninguna parte de m\u00ed quer\u00eda dejarlo, ninguna parte de m\u00ed quer\u00eda que nuestra historia terminara.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tuve que alejarme para <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/0-12322\/do-you-respect-yourself-enough-to-move-on-from-bad-relationships.html\" rel=\"noopener\">salvarme. <\/a><\/b> Necesitaba salvarme del dolor y la soledad que me estaba causando. Encontr\u00e9 el coraje y la fuerza para alejarme de ese desastre t\u00f3xico que llam\u00e1bamos relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110246 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train.jpg\" alt=\"una morena triste viaja en tren\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Fui m\u00e1s valiente de lo que \u00e9l pensaba. Le demostr\u00e9 que hab\u00eda perdido su oportunidad de cambiar y crecer conmigo. La perdi\u00f3 por darme por sentada. Pens\u00f3 que seguir\u00eda permitiendo que me pisoteara. <b><i> Se equivoc\u00f3. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Al final, fue \u00e9l quien puso el \u00faltimo clavo en el ata\u00fad de nuestra relaci\u00f3n. <\/b> Me dijo algo que me rompi\u00f3 el coraz\u00f3n por completo y que a\u00fan resuena en mi cabeza de vez en cuando.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Me dijo que sab\u00eda que me estaba dando por sentada, pero nunca pens\u00f3 que yo fuera lo suficientemente fuerte como para marcharme, as\u00ed que nunca cambi\u00f3...<\/i><\/b> .<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Bien,<\/i><\/b> <b><i>look who\u2019s sorry now.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110247 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Dio por sentada mi bondad\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>He took my kindness for granted and lost the one person who cared about him the most. In the beginning, our love was something everyone else wanted. He listened, he cared, and he would have done anything for me. I fell in love with a kind-hearted and understanding guy, or so I thought\u2026 Slowly, his&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":110242,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11216","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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