Esas personas codependientes se pierden totalmente cuando est\u00e1n en una relaci\u00f3n y se definen por su pareja.<\/p>\n
But the thing is, most of them are actually afraid of maintaining their independence because they think it’ll affect them negatively.<\/p>\n
Cr\u00e9eme, nada ni nadie vale m\u00e1s que t\u00fa y nunca debes permitir que nadie sea m\u00e1s importante que t\u00fa.<\/p>\n
A continuaci\u00f3n se presentan algunos m\u00e9todos grandes y eficientes sobre c\u00f3mo dejar de ser codependiente para todas las personas que est\u00e1n luchando actualmente con problemas de codependencia.<\/p>\n
C\u00f3mo dejar de ser codependiente en una relaci\u00f3n<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Codependency will weaken the bond between you and your loved one. It may even make the other side start to think about a breakup. That’s why you should put an end to this comportamiento t\u00f3xico<\/a> LO ANTES POSIBLE.<\/p>\n As\u00ed pues, los primeros pasos para romper el ciclo de la codependencia son reconocer, aceptar y encontrar la causa ra\u00edz de tu comportamiento codependiente.<\/p>\n In order to do that, you’ll have to go back to the past. Did someone you loved in the past hurt you badly? Do you think that could be a reason why you became so emotionally dependent on your current partner?<\/p>\n Este tipo de comportamiento tambi\u00e9n puede ser causado por el abuso de sustancias o algunas otras adicciones o incluso debido a algunos problemas de salud mental.<\/em><\/p>\n You’ll probably have a hard time accepting the truth but it must be done if you really want to save your relationship.<\/p>\n Trust me, no matter how much your partner loves you, this kind of behavior simply can’t be tolerated.<\/p>\n And if they don’t honestly love you, they’ll only use it to try to control you and then your relationship will become completely toxic and unhealthy.<\/p>\n La autoconversaci\u00f3n es muy importante en estas situaciones. Primero debes admitir que tienes un problema y solo entonces podr\u00e1s intentar encontrar la forma de afrontarlo.<\/p>\n Despu\u00e9s de admitir que tienes problemas de codependencia, el siguiente paso ser\u00e1 hablar con tu pareja.<\/p>\n Tell them that you’re aware of the fact that your relationship has been becoming unhealthy because of your behavior but that you’re also ready to change.<\/p>\n Sometimes these things happen, especially in long-term relationships. One partner becomes so invested in the other one that they just can’t function properly without them.<\/p>\n If you’ve figured out the cause of your codependence, you can share it with your partner and ask them to help you get rid of it as soon as possible and make your relationship healthy again.<\/p>\n Deb\u00e9is intentar afrontarlo y superarlo juntos, porque en una relaci\u00f3n hay que compartirlo todo, incluso los momentos no tan buenos y los problemas.<\/p>\n At the end of the day, the only important thing is that you honestly love each other and that you’re ready to fight for your relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n You must learn to say NO when you don’t want to do something or if you aren’t okay with your partner’s opinion.<\/p>\n Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. It won’t damage your relationship; on the contrary, it’ll only make your partner cherish and appreciate you more.<\/p>\n Being a people pleaser won’t bring you anything good.<\/p>\n Maybe you do it because you’re actually afraid of being rejected, you just want to avoid a fight with someone or you’re just trying to be nice but it’ll only make the people around you use it to control you.<\/p>\n You must prioritize your own needs over anyone else’s. You must work on recognizing your autoestima<\/a>.<\/p>\n You have to make your own decisions and have your own perspectives on some things and those will probably be different from your partner’s sometimes but it’s perfectly okay.<\/p>\n We’re all individuals with different opinions and views about certain issues.<\/p>\n But believe me, those little differences are exactly what will bring you and your partner closer and it’ll also strengthen the bond between you.<\/p>\n Nunca debes permitir que tu relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica o tu pareja se conviertan en tu todo o te causen ansiedad en las relaciones<\/a>. That’s exactly why most people become codependent on their emotional partner.<\/p>\n Mientras tengas tu familia, tus amigos, tu trabajo, tus mascotas u otras cosas que te hagan sentir feliz y querido, tu pareja sentimental nunca debe convertirse en tu todo.<\/p>\n Yo tambi\u00e9n comet\u00ed ese error una vez. Antes de casarme, tuve una relaci\u00f3n con un hombre al que amaba con todo mi coraz\u00f3n. Me entregu\u00e9 por completo en esa relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Nuestra relaci\u00f3n se convirti\u00f3 en el centro de mi universo. Perd\u00ed mi poder y le ayud\u00e9 a tener el control total sobre m\u00ed. Al final, ese hombre se convirti\u00f3 literalmente en todo para m\u00ed.<\/p>\n You know why? I lost all of my friends because of it and most of my family members were angry at me. They realized what was happening and tried to warn me so many times but I just didn’t want to listen.<\/p>\n Era como si hubiera bloqueado a todas las dem\u00e1s personas a mi alrededor y \u00e9l fuera la \u00fanica persona en este mundo para m\u00ed. Oh, qu\u00e9 equivocada estaba y cu\u00e1ntas cosas malas me trajo.<\/p>\n Now I’m married to a wonderful man who truly loves and respects me but I promised myself I\u2019d never even say to him that he’s my everything because I learned my lesson so long ago.<\/p>\n Just because your partner makes more money than you or is more successful than you, it doesn’t mean they are worth more than you.<\/p>\n We all have different interests, even when we’re in a relationship with someone, and we’re all good at something. Maybe sometimes you get the feeling that you’re unworthy of being loved but that’s not true. We all are.<\/p>\n Your partner might make you think that way but that only means they’re a toxic person who wants to have control over you.<\/p>\n Don’t allow it because you’re way better than that. Codependent partners mostly become that way because they’re dealing with low self-esteem issues.<\/p>\n Debes cuidar m\u00e1s tu bienestar f\u00edsico y mental. Y, de hecho, la mejor forma de potenciar su autoestima<\/a> es ser amable con uno mismo.<\/p>\n You must know that you’re worthy of love and if your partner wants to make you believe otherwise, then it’s definitely time to cut them out of your life.<\/p>\n Just because you’re in a romantic relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you have to be with that person 24\/7, nor that you must do everything together. Sometimes you must step away from everything and everyone.<\/p>\n Pasar tiempo a solas es vital para una relaci\u00f3n sana. We’re all unique individuals with different needs and interests.<\/p>\n When you’re dating someone, you must respect those little differences and you shouldn’t make your partner do something they don’t like just because you don’t want to spend a minute without them.<\/p>\n It’s so wrong and it will definitely ruin your relationship. If you like something that your partner doesn’t, take some alone time and dedicate yourself to that activity.<\/p>\n After some time, you’ll probably even run out of things to talk about. Your relationship will be stuck in a routine and it’ll become boring for both of you, which will lead you to end your relationship.<\/p>\n You’ll see once you start spending some time with yourself that you’ll learn to enjoy your ‘me time’.<\/p>\n Also, it’ll give you time to think about your problems and issues and you might even get some answers on how to cope with them.<\/p>\n Entiendo que cuando amas a alguien, sus necesidades se vuelven tan importantes como las tuyas.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, la cuesti\u00f3n es que nunca deben llegar a ser m\u00e1s importantes porque le dar\u00eda totalmente a tu pareja el poder de controlarte y te perder\u00edas por completo en esa relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n It’s okay that you want to prove to your significant other how much they mean to you by making your needs equal but you should be very careful with this because you might end up prioritizing theirs after all.<\/p>\n Si de verdad quieres deshacerte de ese comportamiento codependiente, sin duda debes empezar a dar prioridad a tus propias necesidades, por mucho que quieras a la otra persona.<\/p>\n Being in love with someone is an amazing feeling but do you know what’s even more beautiful than that? Being in love with yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n There is nothing wrong with loving yourself and putting your needs first. That’s not selfish, that’s essential for a happy and fulfilling life.<\/em><\/p>\n The thing you really, really must understand is that your partner isn’t the only important person in your life.<\/p>\n Hay muchas otras personas que est\u00e1n en tu vida porque te han demostrado que te quieren y que s\u00f3lo desean lo mejor para ti.<\/p>\n You can’t behave like you and your partner are the only human beings on this planet. There are so many people you have neglected and who truly miss you.<\/p>\n You have become codependent on your loved one and probably forgot your friends and neglected your family. Now, it’s high time to change that.<\/p>\n First of all, you must call your friends and those family members you neglected and tell them you realized that you’ve been unfair and offer them an apology.<\/p>\n Of course, they’ll forgive you and you’ll forget about it immediately. Then you should invite them to your place or ask them to hang out.<\/p>\n The more you hang out with them, the more you’ll stop being codependent on your significant other. They’ll remind you that there is a life for you outside of your relationship.<\/p>\n Why do you have that strange need to ask your partner for permission about everything you do? They aren’t your parent and you’re definitely not a little girl.<\/p>\n You’ve grown up and become an independent person who doesn’t need anyone’s permission to do something she wants.<\/p>\n You must learn to be strong-willed because it’s a quality that every strong woman should have. If you firmly decide to do something, no one should affect your decision or make you change your thinking or intention.<\/p>\n If your partner made you think that you mustn’t do anything without asking them first, it’s time to do one thing without their permission; it\u2019s time to leave that controlling, toxic monster in the past.<\/p>\n Tu constante necesidad de buscar la aprobaci\u00f3n de tu pareja es definitivamente un signo de codependencia. La \u00fanica persona de la que deber\u00edas buscar validaci\u00f3n eres T\u00da.<\/p>\n In order to do that, you’ll have to work on the relationship you have with yourself. You must work on your self-confidence because you wouldn’t be seeing validation from others if your confidence was already high.<\/p>\n None of us is perfect and that means you aren’t either. It’s a fact but that is perfectly okay. You should accept this as soon as possible because that will also greatly improve your self-worth.<\/p>\n If you feel that you need to ask for your partner’s validation all the time, that means you trust them more than you trust yourself and that’s not good.<\/p>\n Remember, you’re the only person you can be sure will never betray you. Again, I’m talking from my own experience. I was completely sure that my ex would never betray me and I trusted him completely.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, aprend\u00ed la lecci\u00f3n. Una vez que empec\u00e9 en busca de validaci\u00f3n<\/a> s\u00f3lo de m\u00ed misma, mi vida mejor\u00f3 mucho y me sent\u00ed mucho mejor gracias a ello.<\/p>\n It’s time to vuelve a centrarte en ti mismo<\/a>. You need to understand that you must be at the top of your priority list and that place shouldn’t be taken by anyone else except you.<\/p>\n Do you have any passions or interests? Do you have any dreams or goals for the future? Well then, it’s time to start pursuing those.<\/p>\n \u00bfQuiz\u00e1 hay algo que siempre quiso hacer o aprender? \u00bfQuiz\u00e1 hay un lugar que siempre quiso visitar? Pues adelante.<\/p>\n Pero lo importante es que lo hagas sola para que puedas demostrarte a ti misma y a los dem\u00e1s que puedes hacer cosas sin tu pareja.<\/p>\n Hay que dejar de anteponer a los dem\u00e1s a uno mismo. Tratar de complacer a los dem\u00e1s debe parar inmediatamente. La persona m\u00e1s importante en tu vida debes ser t\u00fa y s\u00f3lo t\u00fa.<\/p>\n This is something that needed to be done at the beginning of your relationship, so you wouldn’t now have these kinds of issues. Setting boundaries is essential if you want to make your relationship good and healthy again.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, afortunadamente, los l\u00edmites tambi\u00e9n pueden reconstruirse.<\/p>\n Once you and your partner make some clear boundaries and draw the line about certain things, you both must respect each other’s boundaries and you must never cross those lines.<\/p>\n Establecer l\u00edmites tambi\u00e9n te ayudar\u00e1 con tu autoestima y tambi\u00e9n puede reducir el estr\u00e9s y ayudarte con problemas de ansiedad o depresi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Even when we’re in an emotional relationship, we must maintain our personal space. It’s definitely something that will make you feel more happy and pleased in a relationship.<\/p>\n No poder establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> means that you aren’t confident enough to make such a strong decision.<\/p>\n Fear of rejection and fear of losing someone’s love can also be the reason for an absence of healthy boundaries in your relationship.<\/p>\n Cr\u00e9eme, a ning\u00fan hombre le encanta que una mujer sea una complacer a la gente<\/a>.<\/p>\n Eso significa que debe descuidarse a s\u00ed misma y anteponer las necesidades de los dem\u00e1s a las suyas, y todo lo hace porque tiene una extra\u00f1a necesidad de caer bien a todo el mundo.<\/p>\n It’s a fact that people pleasers are problem daters. They’ll do whatever you want from them but in return, they’ll always want to be in the center of attention.<\/p>\n If you do it because you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings, it’s not healthy either. There<\/p>\n is always a way to do it in some other way and without hurting anyone’s feelings.<\/p>\n When you’re in a relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>Ambos socios deben participar en el proceso de toma de decisiones.<\/p>\n However, there are some decisions that don’t concern your partner, nor your relationship and those kinds of decisions, you’ll have to make on your own.<\/p>\n Of course, it’s nice to talk to your partner and consult them before you make a decision. That\u2019s how you’ll show them that their opinion matters to you. BUT you should never allow them to make a decision in your name.<\/p>\n That kind of behavior is controlling and that kind of relationship would be toxic. You don’t need it. You’re a smart woman who’s capable of making decisions about her own life.<\/p>\n I think that the best answer to the question ‘how to stop being codependent’ is that you should remind yourself more often that you have a life outside of your relationship and that there are other people in your life who love you too.<\/p>\n Debes poner a tu pareja en segundo lugar en tu lista de prioridades, justo despu\u00e9s de ti mismo, ya que convertirla en la \u00fanica prioridad de tu vida s\u00f3lo crear\u00e1 una relaci\u00f3n insana.<\/em><\/p>\n You must be each other’s biggest fan and motivation in life and respect each other’s individuality.<\/p>\n Tambi\u00e9n deber\u00edas hablar de terapia de pareja. Un profesional os ayudar\u00e1 sin duda a superar estos momentos dif\u00edciles de vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Have you heard about a program called Co-Dependents Anonymous? It’s some kind of recovery program for people who have codependent tendencies toward another person.<\/p>\n It’s a 12-step program for all couples who want to save their relationship. There, you’ll be able to talk to other people, listen to their issues about codependency in the relationship and share your own.<\/p>\n A decir verdad, hay muchos factores que pueden causar un comportamiento codependiente. Sin embargo, la mayor\u00eda de esas causas provienen del pasado, como un trauma infantil o haber crecido en un entorno t\u00f3xico.<\/p>\n Sometimes love makes us blind and we aren’t able to think clearly. We put our partner at the center of our universe and that person becomes everything to us.<\/p>\n We are afraid they might leave us someday and that’s why we became codependent on them, thinking how that’s the way we are going to keep them in our life.<\/p>\n Las causas m\u00e1s frecuentes del comportamiento codependiente son:<\/p>\n Relaciones t\u00f3xicas entre padres e hijos<\/p>\n Padres sobreprotectores<\/p>\n Ser criado por un adicto<\/p>\n Negligencia emocional infantil<\/p>\n Compa\u00f1ero emocional controlador<\/p>\n Estar en una relaci\u00f3n abusiva<\/p>\n Baja autoestima<\/p>\n Establecer expectativas poco realistas en una relaci\u00f3n<\/p>\n Comportamiento manipulador<\/p>\n 10 aut\u00e9nticos signos de codependencia<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n As I already said, unfortunately, many people aren’t even aware of their codependent behavior or they deny it and won’t accept it because they know that it’s toxic and unhealthy.<\/p>\n But instead of staying in that process of denial, they should be trying to overcome it and save their relationship before it’s too late.<\/p>\n Sometimes it’s very difficult to distinguish a codependent person from a person who is just too needy or clingy. However, the signs below can tell when a person has codependent tendencies.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 6 se\u00f1ales evidentes de que est\u00e1s en una relaci\u00f3n codependiente y c\u00f3mo superarlo<\/a><\/p>\n Una persona con tendencias codependientes siente la necesidad de ser el cuidador en la relaci\u00f3n. Piensan que la mejor forma de demostrar amor a su pareja es anteponiendo sus necesidades a las suyas propias.<\/p>\n Esa persona no es capaz de decir NO a su pareja. Sin embargo, la otra parte podr\u00eda utilizar eso y tomar todo su poder para tener un control total sobre su vida.<\/p>\n Debes respetarte a ti mismo tanto como respetas a tu pareja.<\/strong> Don’t neglect your own needs just so you can fulfill all of theirs.<\/p>\n As I already mentioned, it’s important for both sides to participate in decision-making processes but some decisions you have to make on your own.<\/p>\n If you don’t trust yourself or aren’t sure what you should decide, it’s always a good idea to consult the person you trust the most, assuming it’s your partner.<\/p>\n However, if you ask them to help you with each and every decision you have to make, it will only mean you’re giving them the power to decide for you.<\/p>\n You must learn how to trust yourself more. You’ll make mistakes for sure, just as we all do, but the best thing is that you’ll be able to learn from your mistakes too.<\/p>\n Creo que \u00e9sta es la raz\u00f3n m\u00e1s com\u00fan por la que alguien se vuelve dependiente de otra persona.<\/p>\n A fear of being abandoned or rejected also comes from low self-esteem. You’re ready to do whatever it takes to keep your partner in your life because you feel like you wouldn’t know how to live without them.<\/p>\n It’s very simple actually. Even if they leave you, you’ll be able to live without them just like you lived before you even met them. Remember that you’re the only constant in your life, all other people may come and go.<\/p>\n Una persona codependiente suele tener problemas de confianza<\/a> del pasado.<\/p>\n Once they find a person they feel they can trust completely, they become totally codependent on them, thinking about how they’ll never be able to find anyone else they can trust.<\/p>\n Empiezan a idealizar a su pareja y a ponerla en un pedestal. Sin embargo, eso puede acarrear problemas a\u00fan m\u00e1s graves que arruinar\u00e1n la relaci\u00f3n por completo.<\/p>\n A person who has this kind of behavior doesn’t like to be alone. They want to spend 24\/7 with their significant other.<\/p>\n Eso ejerce mucha presi\u00f3n sobre su pareja porque la otra parte probablemente tendr\u00e1 la necesidad de un poco de espacio personal.<\/p>\nRespira hondo y acepta tus problemas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nHable directa y honestamente con su pareja<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBring back the word ‘NO’ to your vocabulary<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nUnderstand that your relationship isn’t the only source of your happiness<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nReconstruir su autoestima<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nSchedule some ‘me time’ more often<\/h2>\n
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\nCreo que la mayor\u00eda de las parejas que empiezan a pasar demasiado tiempo juntas son las que rompen muy r\u00e1pido.<\/p>\nTus propias necesidades tambi\u00e9n son importantes<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nAdem\u00e1s, pasa m\u00e1s tiempo con otras personas cercanas a ti<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDejar de pedir permiso<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDeje de buscar la validaci\u00f3n de su pareja<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDesplaza la atenci\u00f3n hacia ti mismo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nConstruir y mantener l\u00edmites sanos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDeja de complacer a la gente<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nIt’s time to start making your own decisions<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nRemember, there’s a life outside of your relationship!<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nConsiderar la terapia de pareja<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las causas de una relaci\u00f3n codependiente?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nUn complaciente cr\u00f3nico<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nNo ser capaz de tomar una decisi\u00f3n por s\u00ed mismo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nMiedo a ser rechazado<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nCuestiones de confianza<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEvitar el tiempo a solas<\/h2>\n
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