{"id":112714,"date":"2020-11-13T19:53:37","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T19:53:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112714"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:51:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:51:09","slug":"si-al-desorden","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-al-desorden\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como dije s\u00ed al desorden de mi vida"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Te contar\u00e9 un peque\u00f1o secreto, pero por favor, que quede entre nosotros: No soy ni de lejos la mujer que ves los s\u00e1bados por la noche o en mi perfil de Instagram.<\/p>\n<p>Ya sabes, \u00bfla que no para de publicar fotos de su maravillosa vida? \u00bfLa que siempre tiene una amplia sonrisa en la cara y aparentemente nunca est\u00e1 de mal humor?<\/p>\n<p>Sinceramente, esa mujer tiene muy poco en com\u00fan conmigo.<\/p>\n<p>Yeah, that\u2019s right, I\u2019m talking about that tall, skinny blond whose selfies you keep seeing on your social media feed. I don\u2019t know who she is as I definitely don\u2019t look like that.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, I\u2019ve just spent years mastering the art of looking like her.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfY qu\u00e9 me dices de su impresionante novio? Parece que los dos nunca discuten. Siempre le da sorpresas y parece el hombre m\u00e1s rom\u00e1ntico del mundo.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, \u00bfte refieres a ese tipo que se olvid\u00f3 de mi cumplea\u00f1os el a\u00f1o pasado y luego compr\u00f3 101 rosas para intentar compensarlo al d\u00eda siguiente?<\/p>\n<p>Para que quede claro, \u00bfseguimos hablando del t\u00edo que me hace sentir emocionalmente abandonada la mayor parte del tiempo?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfDeber\u00edamos empezar a hablar de su incre\u00edble carrera o de la forma en que siempre est\u00e1 rodeada de un mont\u00f3n de amigos?<\/p>\n<p>The list can go on forever, but you get the picture. This woman\u2019s life is apparently every little girl\u2019s dream come true. It looks like she has it all.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-112718\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple.jpg\" alt=\"feliz pareja sonriente tomando una foto con el tel\u00e9fono inteligente y selfie palo durante la temporada de oto\u00f1o\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/happy-smiling-couple-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Bueno, cari\u00f1o, <strong>I\u2019m here to tell you that nothing is as it seems.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a professional at faking it, trust me. In fact, <strong>I\u2019ve spent most of my adult years trying to convince strangers that my life is perfect.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not just talking about my social media profiles, I\u2019m also referring to the phony smile that\u2019s become a part of me. Never mind the fact that I\u2019ve been repressing my true emotions for as long as I can remember.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Basically, I\u2019ve been living a lie for so long that I\u2019ve ended up believing it as well. You see, I was so hard on myself that I refused to accept anything below perfection.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a1Pues que le den! <strong>The truth is that my life is a huge mess and I\u2019m finally learning to embrace it.<\/strong> I don\u2019t have to be flawless to be fantastic.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m honestly grateful for all of my blessings. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/32-cosas-que-mas-agradezco-en-la-vida\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I\u2019m thankful<\/a> y orgullosa de m\u00ed misma por todos mis \u00e9xitos y logros.<\/p>\n<p>However, this doesn\u2019t mean that I don\u2019t experience failures as well. It also doesn\u2019t mean that there aren\u2019t days when I hate myself and would jump right out of my skin if I had the chance.<\/p>\n<p>So, I\u2019ve decided to cut the crap. I\u2019ve decided to put a stop to these false pretenses and show the real me to the world.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I don\u2019t look like a top runway model. My mother has never encouraged me, my job has made me reach my breaking point, my love life is falling apart, and I\u2019m pretty sure I don\u2019t have more than one <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/friendship\/si-no-sabes-quienes-son-tus-verdaderos-amigos-lee-esto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amigo de verdad<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There are mornings when I don\u2019t have the strength to leave my bed, there are days when I feel like the biggest loser in the world, and there are nights when I cry myself to sleep.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-112719\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste tumbada sobre su lado derecho en la cama con camiseta de tirantes azul \" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/sad-woman-lying-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There are moments when my insecurities get the best of me and when my own self-doubts overwhelm me. There are days when I can\u2019t see my worth no matter how much I try.<\/p>\n<p><strong>However, you don\u2019t notice any of this, do you? Well, now you know. There, I said it. I\u2019m not perfect nor will I ever be.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que ya est\u00e1 bien de ser tan duro conmigo mismo y de criticarme por tener la osad\u00eda de ser humano.<\/p>\n<p>Enough with pretending that everything is okay while I\u2019m falling apart. Enough with laughing when I would actually rather cry my eyes out.<\/p>\n<p>Basta ya de compararme con los dem\u00e1s. Basta ya de malgastar mi tiempo y mi energ\u00eda intentando cumplir alg\u00fan est\u00e1ndar social impuesto.<\/p>\n<p>Lo m\u00e1s importante: <strong>Enough with running away from the parts of me that I don\u2019t like.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong: I didn\u2019t come here to complain. Instead, <strong>este soy yo aceptando y <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/pasos-hacia-el-amor-incondicional-a-uno-mismo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amando a mi verdadero yo<\/a><\/strong>y le aconsejo sinceramente que haga lo mismo.<\/p>\n<p>You know what I\u2019ve figured out?<strong> Quien te ame de verdad amar\u00e1 tambi\u00e9n tu desorden y todas tus imperfecciones.<\/strong> Estas personas cuidar\u00e1n de ti en tus mejores momentos y en los peores, pase lo que pase.<\/p>\n<p>And, what about those who don\u2019t? Well, they should have never gotten the privilege of your presence in the first place.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ll tell you a little secret, but please, keep it just between us: I\u2019m nowhere near the woman you see on Saturday night or on my Instagram profile. You know, the one who keeps posting photos of her marvelous life? The one who always has a wide smile on her face and is apparently never&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":112720,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112714","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/This-Is-How-I-Said-Yes-To-The-Mess-In-My-Life-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112714","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112714"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112714\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112720"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112714"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112714"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112714"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}