{"id":112722,"date":"2020-11-13T19:57:31","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T19:57:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112722"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:35:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:35:49","slug":"el-arte-de-encontrar-el-cierre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/el-arte-de-encontrar-el-cierre\/","title":{"rendered":"El arte de cerrar viejas heridas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hace unos d\u00edas, llam\u00f3 mi ex. S\u00ed, EL ex. La que me rompi\u00f3 el coraz\u00f3n sin remedio, la que me dej\u00f3 cicatrices imborrables en el alma, y el que se escap\u00f3<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I bet you know exactly who I\u2019m talking about. Let\u2019s be real: what woman doesn\u2019t have at least one of these in her past?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 quer\u00eda?<\/em> te estar\u00e1s preguntando Bueno, \u00bfqu\u00e9 podr\u00eda querer un hombre t\u00f3xico como \u00e9l de la mujer que una vez lo am\u00f3 como si no hubiera un ma\u00f1ana?<\/p>\n

If someone who doesn\u2019t know him had heard our conversation (Yes, I picked up the phone.), they would assume that he was a changed man trying to make things right.<\/p>\n

\u00bfO quiz\u00e1 quiere que volvamos a estar juntos porque por fin se ha dado cuenta de que soy la mujer de sus sue\u00f1os?<\/p>\n

But, I know him better than that. I know that this was nothing but a desperate attempt to reassure himself that I\u2019m still there.<\/p>\n

An attempt to check whether he\u2019ll rock my world any time he shows up in my life unexpectedly.<\/p>\n

Era su forma de ver si a\u00fan pod\u00eda contar conmigo. Un esfuerzo por levantar su fr\u00e1gil ego una vez m\u00e1s y demostrarnos a los dos que siempre le esperar\u00e9 con los brazos abiertos.<\/p>\n

However, that\u2019s not important now. I figured out this man a long ago, and nothing he does or says can surprise me.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, lo que s\u00ed me sorprendi\u00f3 fueron mis emociones.<\/p>\n

For the first time ever, I didn\u2019t shiver when I saw his number on my phone display.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t feel the butterflies fluttering in my belly, and I didn\u2019t get the urge to run towards him as if nothing bad had ever happened between us.<\/p>\n

This must mean that I\u2019ve moved on from this guy, right? Did I finally deja de quererlo<\/a>?<\/strong> \u00bfSe ha producido por fin el milagro?<\/p>\n

Could this be true? If it were, I would no longer feel this burning pain somewhere deep inside of me every time I think about everything he\u2019s done to me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Entonces me di cuenta: I\u2019m over this man \u2013 I\u2019m just not over the pain he\u2019s caused me. My old injuries are still alive, not because I still have feelings for him, but because I never got the closure I needed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pero, \u00bfc\u00f3mo se puede encontrar un cierre con alguien que tiene un punto de vista totalmente diferente al tuyo? How can I get an explanation from a man who\u2019s convinced he never caused me any harm?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The answer is: I can\u2019t, and I never will. Instead, I have to write the ending of this chapter by myself. After all, that\u2019s the art of finding closure for old wounds \u2013 you accept that there es<\/em> sin cierre.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never get a logical explanation for everything that went on between us. This man will never give me a valid response to my unanswered questions.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never find out why he feels the need to barge into my life every once in a while. I\u2019ll never know why he didn\u2019t let me go sooner when he knew very well that he could never give me what I wanted.<\/p>\n

The only thing that\u2019s left for me to do is deal with my crap by myself.<\/p>\n

El primer paso en mi viaje de curaci\u00f3n es el perd\u00f3n. Tengo que perdonarlo por ser un imb\u00e9cil que jug\u00f3 conmigo, y luego, tengo que perdonarme a m\u00ed misma por elegir tan mal y por ser tan est\u00fapida.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante: I have to accept that this guy was never the man I thought he was. He doesn\u2019t have a hidden good side to his personality, no repressed emotions. <\/strong><\/p>\n

No hay un coraz\u00f3n bien oculto bajo todas las capas de indiferencia y toxicidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de conseguirlo, tengo que dejarle marchar. Tengo que dejar ir el recuerdo de nosotros y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, tengo que dejar de obsesionarme con lo que podr\u00eda haber sido y deber\u00eda haber sido.<\/p>\n

Y entonces, I have to stop picking up the phone when the past calls me. It\u2019s a well-known fact that you must keep your wounds clean if you want them to heal properly.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tengo que aceptar que las cosas sucedieron exactamente como ten\u00edan que suceder. A pesar de todo esto, hay una raz\u00f3n por la que form\u00e9 parte de este romance venenoso: para aprender una lecci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aparentemente, no hab\u00eda otra forma de darme cuenta de que todas las heridas se pueden curar. S\u00f3lo hay que conocer el truco de c\u00f3mo hacerlo.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A few days ago, my ex called. Yes, THE ex. The one who broke my heart beyond repair, the one who left unerasable scars on my soul, and the one that got away. I bet you know exactly who I\u2019m talking about. Let\u2019s be real: what woman doesn\u2019t have at least one of these in…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":112728,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/The-Art-Of-Finding-Closure-For-Old-Wounds-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112722","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112722"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112722\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112728"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112722"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112722"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112722"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}