{"id":113241,"date":"2020-11-13T20:08:30","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T20:08:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=113241"},"modified":"2021-11-03T15:10:35","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:10:35","slug":"autodesprecio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/autodesprecio\/","title":{"rendered":"Gu\u00eda de supervivencia en 16 pasos contra el autodesprecio"},"content":{"rendered":"

La definici\u00f3n del autodesprecio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

According to the self-loathing definition, it is the hatred of yourself. But, it’s not that simple: it’s also a deeply rooted belief that you’re not enough and that you’re not worthy of amor propio<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As a self-loathing person, you’re always in search of your new flaws. You’re overwhelmed with self-doubts and negative thoughts that you simply don’t have the strength to get rid of.<\/p>\n

Te consideras in\u00fatil, inadecuado e insuficiente. You don’t know what to do with your life<\/a>. You’re convinced that all of your self-hatred is justified and your self-concept is pretty much ruined.<\/p>\n

5 fuentes inesperadas de autodesprecio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Self-hate always has its reasons, even though you don’t have to necessarily identify them right away. To defeat it, you have to get to the bottom of your condition.<\/p>\n

Tienes que encontrar sus causas profundas y el punto de partida de tu naturaleza autocr\u00edtica.<\/p>\n

Trauma pasado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

In most cases, negative thoughts connected with self-loathing don’t appear out of the blue.<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan la psiquiatr\u00eda y la psicolog\u00eda, este estado suele estar causado por arraigadas traumas pasados<\/a> que quiz\u00e1 ni siquiera conozcas.<\/p>\n

Sentirse as\u00ed suele estar estrechamente relacionado con experiencias negativas de la infancia. Casi todas las personas que se odian a s\u00ed mismas han pasado toda su vida escuchando cr\u00edticas.<\/p>\n

Desde que tienes uso de raz\u00f3n, nunca fuiste lo bastante bueno para tus padres. Quiz\u00e1 te comparaban con un hermano m\u00e1s exitoso o nunca creyeron en ti.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, tu historia rom\u00e1ntica tambi\u00e9n podr\u00eda haberte provocado autodesprecio. Si en el pasado alguien que te importaba mucho te abandon\u00f3 emocionalmente, es posible que hayas empezado a culparte por ello.<\/p>\n

Either way, what\u2019s important for you to realize is that each one of our experiences shapes us into the people we are today.<\/p>\n

You might be convinced that you forgot about a certain trauma but trust me\u2013they\u2019re all deeply inscribed on your mental health.<\/p>\n

Agradar a la gente<\/h2>\n

\"l\u00edder<\/p>\n

Hagas lo que hagas, nunca podr\u00e1s complacer a todo el mundo. As\u00ed que, \u00bfpara qu\u00e9 molestarse en intentarlo?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you realize that your people-pleasing traits brought you to this condition in the first place.<\/p>\n

The process is actually pretty simple: you do your best for someone to like you; you go out of your way to please them, and, finally, you don\u2019t get the reaction you were expecting.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t appreciate you the way they should, nor do they love you, despite all of your efforts. As a result, you start to blame yourself for it.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t see the people around you as too demanding. You don\u2019t consider them ungrateful and inconsiderate.<\/p>\n

En lugar de eso, te odias a ti mismo por no ser capaz de cumplir sus expectativas poco realistas. Parece una locura, lo s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

However, if you do some introspection, you\u2019ll begin to admit that this has been going on inside your head for years.<\/p>\n

Entorno hipercr\u00edtico<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Whether we like to admit it or not, others have a significant impact on us. After all, we\u2019re all social beings who live in a symbiotic relationship with other people.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, su influencia es inevitable. Esto se aplica especialmente a nuestros seres queridos.<\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, tus pensamientos y sentimientos autocr\u00edticos tienen un origen.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve spent most of your life around people who made it clear that they don\u2019t think much of you, your self-esteem never had a chance to grow.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re surrounded by those who keep on diminishing your self-worth and who keep on telling you that nothing you ever do is good enough, the consequences will be devastating.<\/p>\n

Knowing all of this, you can\u2019t help but wonder: \u201cDo Me odio<\/a> because of my hypercritical surroundings?\u201d<\/p>\n

To be clear: I\u2019m not trying to free you from responsibility and put the entire blame for your state on someone else.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, lo cierto es que la autocr\u00edtica aparece a veces como resultado de la desaprobaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Perfeccionismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The next possible cause of self-loathing is the desire to be perfect. It doesn\u2019t matter if others have imposed this aspiration on you, or you\u2019re the one who is chasing perfectionism on your own.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is the same: every time you notice that your life is not spotless and that you\u2019re not flawless\u2013you begin with self-hatred.<\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve adopted the idea that only being the best is good enough. This mindset has inspired you to become better, which is awesome.<\/p>\n

However, on the other hand, it has also taken a negative toll on your emotional and mental health. Basically, you beat yourself up every time you don\u2019t meet your high standards.<\/p>\n

Every time you notice an imperfection in your character or whenever your life doesn\u2019t look exactly the way you want it to\u2013you think of yourself as a failure.<\/p>\n

Normas sociales<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Compararse con los dem\u00e1s es un gran no-no, a menos que quieras acabar con un mont\u00f3n de odio a ti mismo y duda de s\u00ed mismo<\/a>. Sin embargo, eso es exactamente lo que haces.<\/p>\n

Cuando miras a tu alrededor, parece que a todo el mundo le va mejor que a ti. Tus amigos del instituto son empresarios de \u00e9xito; algunos viajan por todo el mundo, los dos siguientes han formado una familia, etc.<\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, todos tienen un aspecto fant\u00e1stico y, al parecer, est\u00e1n viviendo su mejor vida.<\/p>\n

Al menos, eso es lo que tienes la oportunidad de ver en sus perfiles de las redes sociales o cuando te cruzas con ellos. Ves a tus amigos y a desconocidos que siempre tienen una sonrisa en la cara.<\/p>\n

Entonces miras m\u00e1s de cerca tu vida con todas sus imperfecciones. Te miras en un espejo, escribes tus logros en un papel y \u00bfqu\u00e9 conclusi\u00f3n sacas?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re miserable compared to them. Consequently, your feelings of worthlessness trigger a depressive episode.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden, your inner critic wakes up as you realize that you’ll never be able to meet these social standards. You’ll never be as attractive, as smart, or as successful as what is expected of you.<\/p>\n

7 s\u00edntomas de una mentalidad de autodesprecio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Well, to do something about your self-hate, first of all, you have to be sure that you’re a self-loathing person. Now that you\u2019re confident about the meaning of self-loathing and its causes, it\u2019s time to look at the symptoms.<\/p>\n

Autocr\u00edtica<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you define self-loathing, you’ll connect it with self-criticism and negative self-talk that influences your salud mental<\/a> negativamente.<\/p>\n

You’ve spent most of your life thinking negatively about yourself, your actions, and your choices.<\/p>\n

Whatever you do\u2013someone else could have done it better. Whatever you accomplish\u2013you could have done better.<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, right? No matter what happens in your life, you’re always to blame for all the negative consequences, which eventually awakened your desire for self-harm.<\/p>\n

When you come to think about it, you don’t treat others this way. When someone else makes a mistake, you are ready to stop them from feeling responsible.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando se trata de tu vida, de repente te conviertes en el mayor cr\u00edtico.<\/p>\n

Duro amor propio<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you use tough love on someone, you don\u2019t let them get away with mistakes. You know what they are capable of, and you don\u2019t allow them to do anything below their real abilities.<\/p>\n

Basically, you act harshly and treat them as if you don\u2019t love them to inspire them to do better. You\u2019re a jerk to them so they can take responsibility for their lives and so you could help them in the long run.<\/p>\n

Well, in your case, you\u2019re not applying the concept of tough love to your relationship partner, a friend, or a sibling\u2013you\u2019re doing it to yourself.<\/p>\n

Aunque este tipo de enfoque puede ayudar en ciertos escenarios, te ha arrojado al abismo de la desesperaci\u00f3n y el auto-odio en tu situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

El peso de las redes sociales<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Today, the most common symptom of self-loathing is seen through someone\u2019s behavior on social media. Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat don\u2019t serve you to stay in touch with your friends or for business purposes.<\/p>\n

Instead, they affect you in numerous negative ways. You feel this heavy burden every time you open your News Feed. You feel the need to impress all those strangers on your phone, and you\u2019ve stopped enjoying life.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve become obsessed with the impression your accounts leave. You spend hours and hours looking at other people\u2019s photos and comparing yourself to them.<\/p>\n

Apparently, your life is not as impressive as theirs. You don\u2019t have enough money, you don\u2019t travel as much as you would like, and you don\u2019t look as awesome as your followers.<\/p>\n

No destinado a ser amado<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Self-loathing people are convinced that they\u2019re no destinado a ser amado<\/a>. After all, if you can\u2019t force yourself to love the person you are, what can you expect from others?<\/p>\n

Naturally, this couldn\u2019t be further from the truth. However, this is how your mind works: you think that you\u2019re destined to die alone, and nobody gives a damn about you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not only talking about romantic love here. You don\u2019t think that a single person in your surroundings exists who genuinely cares about you.<\/p>\n

Even worse, deep down, you believe that you are not worthy of anyone\u2019s affection. You\u2019re convinced that there is absolutely nothing to love about you.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t deserve anyone\u2019s attention, time, or effort. Why? Because you\u2019re utterly worthless.<\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, you not only suffer from low self-esteem; you\u2019re also guilty of self-hatred.<\/p>\n

Envidia<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you, but if you\u2019re a self-loather, the chances are that you\u2019re an envious person as well.<\/p>\n

Instead of working on yourself, you\u2019re focused on other people\u2019s accomplishments. Everyone seems to be more successful than you, and that eats you alive.<\/p>\n

Pero, d\u00e9jame hacerte una pregunta: \u00bfc\u00f3mo te afectar\u00eda que ellos lo tuvieran peor?<\/p>\n

\u00bfTendr\u00edas dinero suficiente por arte de magia si ellos perdieran todo el suyo? \u00bfFlorecer\u00eda tu carrera en el momento en que la suya fracasara? \u00bfTendr\u00edas una vida amorosa feliz si la suya fuera miserable?<\/p>\n

You and I both know the answer. So how do their accomplishments impact you? That\u2019s right; they don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m asking you to say \u201cno\u201d to envy. Trust me\u2013it\u2019s not hurting anyone but you.<\/p>\n

Miedo al fracaso<\/h2>\n

\"youg<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd you ask, \u2018What if I fall?\u2019 Oh, but my darling, \u2018What if you fly?\u2019”<\/em> \u2013 Erin Hanson<\/p>\n

What prevents you from achieving greatness is your fear of failure. You avoid taking any risks since you don\u2019t believe in yourself.<\/p>\n

Your self-doubts don\u2019t allow you to think that you\u2019ll succeed. So, you think it\u2019s much better not to try at all. You end up setting low effort goals just to avoid the possibility of failing.<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re not alone in this because nobody enjoys losing. However, failure is a part of life, whether we like it or not.<\/p>\n

Disculparse constantemente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El \u00faltimo s\u00edntoma, pero no por ello el menos importante o com\u00fan, de odio a s\u00ed mismo<\/a> es la necesidad constante de disculparse.<\/p>\n

Look, saying that you\u2019re sorry when you do someone wrong is a sign that you\u2019re a good person who has manners.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay una gran diferencia entre ser cort\u00e9s y disculparse todo el tiempo por el m\u00e1s m\u00ednimo inconveniente.<\/p>\n

By doing that, you\u2019re showing the rest of the world that you consider yourself to be guilty of everything that happens.<\/p>\n

Si alguien te da un pu\u00f1etazo, probablemente te disculpar\u00edas porque tu cara se interpuso en el camino de su pu\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

What I\u2019m trying to tell you is that your self-hatred has made you walk on eggshells around others without demanding any respect in return.<\/p>\n

4 m\u00e9todos infalibles para superar el autodesprecio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Por suerte para ti, es posible vencer estos sentimientos de autodesprecio y cambiar el concepto que tienes de ti mismo. Aqu\u00ed tienes una gu\u00eda paso a paso sobre c\u00f3mo hacerlo de la forma m\u00e1s saludable posible.<\/p>\n

Autoperd\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Ante todo, hay que adoptar el arte de autoperd\u00f3n<\/a>. Recuerda que todos cometemos errores, as\u00ed que \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 tomarte tan en serio los tuyos?<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t learn from your bad choices\u2013you just need to stop beating yourself up because of them.<\/p>\n

Forgive yourself for all the times you broke your own heart, for every toxic person you\u2019ve let near you, and for all the missed opportunities.<\/p>\n

Moreover, forgive yourself for all the times you didn\u2019t respect, appreciate, and love yourself enough.<\/p>\n

Dejar atr\u00e1s el pasado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Otra cosa a la que debes dejar de aferrarte es a tu historia. Esto est\u00e1 muy relacionado con el auto-perd\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Often enough, your self-loathing sources from the things you did or didn\u2019t do in your past.<\/p>\n

Maybe you can\u2019t stand looking at yourself every time you remember how you allowed yourself to be treated.<\/p>\n

Maybe you hate yourself for not taking a few chances years ago. Or maybe your self-hatred comes from the way you treated those who didn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

Well, all of this means that you\u2019re self-conscious, which is always a good thing. However, you won\u2019t achieve anything if you hold on to the past.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t change anything about it, so what\u2019s the point of pensando demasiado<\/a>? Por favor, haz todo lo posible por dejar atr\u00e1s el pasado.<\/p>\n

Be brave enough to jump into your future because it\u2019s the only thing you can actually influence.<\/p>\n

Desintoxicar su c\u00edrculo social<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care if your parents, siblings, or childhood friends are the ones who make you feel like you\u2019re not worthy\u2013you MUST cut them off.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s necessary, try finding another job or even move to another city to move away from everyone who feeds your insecurities.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9ame: no son cambios demasiado radicales. Es algo que hay que hacer.<\/p>\n

Tu salud mental tiene que ser lo primero si quieres alg\u00fan tipo de mejora.<\/p>\n

Besides, you\u2019re already aware that other people\u2019s opinions impact your sense of value, so you have to get rid of everyone who spreads negativity.<\/p>\n

Desintoxica tu c\u00edrculo social y rod\u00e9ate de aquellos que no aportar\u00e1n nada m\u00e1s que positividad a tu vida, y estate con gente que te ayude a encontrarte a ti mismo y te eche una mano para levantarte desde abajo, en lugar de enviarte all\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Autocompasi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The next step in the process of overcoming self-loathing is all about self-compassion. I bet you know what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re an emp\u00e1tico<\/a> when it comes to others, aren\u2019t you? You understand their point of view, and you find justification for their lousy actions.<\/p>\n

Basically, you don\u2019t think of them as bad people for making one wrong choice.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re like that with everyone, not just your loved ones. You possess empathy, even for people you don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n

To be precise, you\u2019re like that with everyone besides yourself. On the contrary, you keep on judging yourself for every little mistake you make.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you\u2019re only hard on the person you should love the most. When it comes to you, there are no excuses. You\u2019re the only person in the world who is not allowed to do anything wrong.<\/p>\n

Pues eso tiene que cambiar cuanto antes. Para empezar, intenta pensar en ti como en un amigo.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 consejo le dar\u00edas a tu ser querido si se encontrara en una situaci\u00f3n similar a la tuya? Seguro que le animar\u00edas y destacar\u00edas todas sus cualidades positivas y su lado bueno.<\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s stopping you from treating yourself the same way? Don\u2019t be your own inner critic.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I know it would be best if you could snap your fingers and ditch the self-loathing for good. Well, sadly, things don’t always go as smoothly as you expect them to.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you’ve spent years despising yourself. So, you can’t change your entire mindset overnight.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, te aseguro que lo conseguir\u00e1s. Lo \u00fanico que tienes que hacer es ser perseverante y no rendirte nunca.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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