{"id":114256,"date":"2020-11-24T13:35:03","date_gmt":"2020-11-24T13:35:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=114256"},"modified":"2022-07-15T09:49:39","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T09:49:39","slug":"me-pierdo-cada-vez-que-me-enamoro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/me-pierdo-cada-vez-que-me-enamoro\/","title":{"rendered":"Sol\u00eda perderme cada vez que me enamoraba hasta que aprend\u00ed estas 9 lecciones"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you have fragile self-esteem that makes you lose your own identity when you’re in a relationship?<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bfEs usted una de esas personas que se quedan completamente ciegas cuando se enamoran?<\/em><\/p>\n

Bueno, amigo m\u00edo, bienvenido al club. Yo tambi\u00e9n era as\u00ed. Cada vez que me enamoraba, me olvidaba por completo de mis propios sentimientos y necesidades, y mi pareja se convert\u00eda literalmente en todo para m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

I would start idealizing that person and allow them to have full control over my life. It seemed like the only thing that mattered was just to have that person in my life… I really didn’t care about anything else.<\/p>\n

Pero, al final, siempre era yo la herida y traicionada. Al final, esa persona me dejaba como todas las anteriores.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Comprend\u00ed que esto ten\u00eda que cambiar y que yo ten\u00eda que cambiar. He aqu\u00ed algunas lecciones que aprend\u00ed<\/a> que me hizo prometerme que nunca m\u00e1s permitir\u00eda que nadie controlara mi vida.<\/p>\n

Es IMPRESCINDIBLE establecer l\u00edmites firmes.<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Ooh, esta es una parte que me permiti\u00f3 que me rompieran el coraz\u00f3n muchas veces. Fall\u00e9 en establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> en todas mis relaciones anteriores.<\/p>\n

Ahora, he aprendido que debe haber alg\u00fan partes no negociables en toda relaci\u00f3n<\/a>. Hay cosas que nunca volver\u00eda a tolerar de ning\u00fan hombre, y me aferrar\u00e9 a ello pase lo que pase.<\/p>\n

It’s so wrong to look for someone who’ll make us feel complete.<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Siempre sent\u00ed que faltaba algo en mi vida. Mi error fue pensar en c\u00f3mo otra persona podr\u00eda llenar ese vac\u00edo en mi vida.<\/p>\n

Por desgracia, eso tambi\u00e9n fue consecuencia de mi fr\u00e1gil autoestima<\/a>. Now, I’m trying to fill those voids by chasing and fulfilling my dreams.<\/p>\n

And, when it comes to me, I know I’m a whole person on my own. I don’t need someone to complete me, I just need someone who’ll stand by my side no matter what and walk through this journey we call life hand in hand with me.<\/p>\n

It’s okay to continue following my dreams even if they don’t match my partner’s dreams.<\/h2>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de la gente dice que tenemos que encontrar a una persona con las mismas visiones, sue\u00f1os y objetivos que nosotros para que una relaci\u00f3n funcione.<\/p>\n

I say it’s major BS. The important thing is that you believe and support each other in everything you do, even if you aren’t completely okay with your partner’s choice sometimes.<\/p>\n

Comprometerse est\u00e1 bien, cambiarse completamente por otra persona nunca estar\u00e1 bien.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que cada relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> se basa en compromisos y sacrificios por nuestros seres queridos, y a m\u00ed siempre me pareci\u00f3 bien comprometerme. A veces, incluso me parec\u00eda demasiado bien.<\/p>\n

Aceptaba todo lo que mis ex parejas me ped\u00edan. B\u00e1sicamente me cambiaba una y otra vez solo porque ellos me lo ped\u00edan.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, ahora, he aprendido que hay algunas cosas que usted nunca debe comprometerse<\/a> when you’re in a relationship, and changing who you are is definitely the first one.<\/p>\n

COLABORACI\u00d3N es una palabra mucho mejor para una relaci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Creo que asociaci\u00f3n es una palabra mucho mejor para una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica, porque todas las relaciones deber\u00edan basarse en la igualdad.<\/p>\n

Some women say ‘let the men be the men in a relationship’, and unfortunately, I was led by that sentence for too long. Now, I say that we should let go of that dominant-submissive role in relationships and let’s just enjoy equality.<\/p>\n

La relaci\u00f3n que tengo conmigo mismo debe ser siempre lo primero.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

My partner will always be at the top of my priority list because I find it the right thing to do, but the place at the very top of that list will always be reserved for one person only \u2013 myself.<\/p>\n

Nunca m\u00e1s permitir\u00e9 que nadie sea m\u00e1s importante que yo. Ahora s\u00e9 lo equivocado que estaba y s\u00e9 lo mucho que me hizo sufrir.<\/p>\n

I also learned that the relationship I have with myself will set a tone for all the other ones in my life. That’s why I now know the true importance of a self-relationship and why it’s so important to nurture it.<\/p>\n

Ignorar los problemas nunca har\u00e1 que desaparezcan.<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

I was never good at confronting my partner about things that were bothering me. I kept all those things bottled up hoping they’ll never come out on the surface.<\/p>\n

But, they did. They didn’t just come out, they exploded every time. Now, I have learned how to cope with those issues and discuss them with another person in a healthy way.<\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n sana es un equilibrio entre uni\u00f3n e individualidad.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Siempre he pensado que una pareja debe hacer todas las cosas junta, tener las mismas perspectivas vitales y estar de acuerdo en todo.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, me di cuenta de que estaba equivocada porque mantener nuestra individualidad en las relaciones es lo que hace que nos interesemos por nuestras parejas.<\/p>\n

To have a healthy and successful relationship, one of the most important things is to preserve and respect each other’s individualities in that relationship.<\/p>\n

Hay una vida fuera de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por desgracia, siempre hac\u00eda de mi relaci\u00f3n el centro de mi mundo y descuidaba a todas las dem\u00e1s personas que estaban cerca de m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que ha sido injusto con todas esas personas, pero ya he dicho que el amor siempre me ha cegado en cierto modo.<\/p>\n

Me promet\u00ed a m\u00ed misma que nunca volver\u00eda a descuidarlos. Mi familia y mis amigos ocupan un lugar muy especial en mi vida y as\u00ed seguir\u00e1 siendo siempre.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme, hay una manera de estar enamorado y de tener una relaci\u00f3n buena y sana sin tener que volcarse por completo en esa relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Hay una manera de ser feliz y amado por otra persona sin tener que darlo todo por ella.<\/p>\n

Mereces que te quieran, pero no a toda costa. Mereces sentir un amor sano, incondicional y para siempre, que siempre te permita ser t\u00fa mismo.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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