{"id":11517,"date":"2018-01-08T12:38:19","date_gmt":"2018-01-08T12:38:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11517"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:21:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:21:27","slug":"11-senales-de-que-estas-saliendo-con-alguien-con-fobia-al-compromiso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/11-senales-de-que-estas-saliendo-con-alguien-con-fobia-al-compromiso\/","title":{"rendered":"11 se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo con una persona con fobia al compromiso"},"content":{"rendered":"

We all come across a commitment-phobe in our dating life, and they are so fun and so amazing for one-night stands and short affairs. But falling in love with a commitment-phobe is like running head to wall\u2014expect it hurts much more.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no real hope in changing a commitment-phobe, so the best solution is alejarse<\/a> while it\u2019s all fun and games.<\/p>\n

1. Tiene un historial de relaciones cortas<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

He often offers an excuse that he just hadn\u2019t met the right woman, so he kept on looking. Among the excuses he uses are: \u201cthere\u2019s still plenty of time; it just didn\u2019t work out with our busy schedules; we weren\u2019t a good match\u201d. Even if he had a long-term relationship, it\u2019s usually pretty shallow or long-distance.<\/p>\n

2. Relationships he had he refuses to call \u2018real ones\u2019<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

That girl he was seeing for months, yeah, that was totally casual. He has no idea why she freaked out when he met someone else\u2014it\u2019s not like they were exclusive.<\/p>\n

Be careful when you hear excuses like this because no girl will go exclusive for someone if she\u2019s not sure he\u2019s worth it. If she believed he was, that was because he had lead her on\u2014not because she was confused.<\/p>\n

3. He loves the chase but doesn\u2019t want the kill<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

This may happen after a month, two or even years. He enjoyed chasing you, seducing you and making you go crazy in every way possible \u2013 mostly in bed.<\/p>\n

Pero en cuanto tom\u00e9is una gran decisi\u00f3n juntos, como iros a vivir juntos, comprometeros o simplemente ser exclusivos, sabotea la relaci\u00f3n.<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Evita reunirse con tus amigos\/familiares<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Any events with even the slightest possibility of running into your friends and family he will avoid like plague. It\u2019s simple\u2014the fewer people who know about you two, the greater the chances of finding his next victim. And, let\u2019s be fair, less complication in leaving you once he\u2019s done.<\/p>\n

5. Tiene un historial de frecuentes cambios de carrera<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

He\u2019s not afraid of committing only in relationships. This extends to all aspects of life. He gets easily bored and believes that he deserves to try everything out there. One week he will enjoy working as a constructor, the next one he will be a graphic designer.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the same with is girlfriends. If you notice, that there\u2019s no pattern in the types of his girlfriend (we all have a certain type that we fall for, let\u2019s be honest)\u2014that could be another sign.<\/p>\n

6. Juega al juego de la seducci\u00f3n-rechazo<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

He\u2019s not able to completely give in to the relationship, but he\u2019s not willing to walk away from it either. While you\u2019re apart, he will do anything to get you closer to him, seducing you and promising the sun and stars.<\/p>\n

Pero en cuanto os junt\u00e1is, la fobia al compromiso empieza a hacer efecto y huye muy r\u00e1pido.<\/p>\n

7. He always needs more space than you\u2019re giving him<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

No importa cu\u00e1nto espacio que le das<\/a>, how hard you try to understand, he still feels trapped. Even when you\u2019re in that honeymoon phase of a relationship, he\u2019s planning on an escape route.<\/p>\n

The best type of girlfriend for commitment-phobes is women like them, with busy schedules, treating them with low priority. Unless you\u2019re a lowkey, commitment-phobe yourself, it\u2019s best to let go.<\/p>\n

8. Elige a mujeres que son diferentes a su tipo<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s simple. This way he has a reason to walk away. He has no connection to the women he\u2019s dating expect for one\u2014he wanted them. They don\u2019t like the same sports, they\u2019re not the same age, they\u2019re not into same things, they\u2019re not a match.<\/p>\n

If you notice there\u2019s nothing in common between the two of you, there could be a pretty disturbing reason why it\u2019s like that.<\/p>\n

9. Viaja mucho por trabajo y tiene muchas otras actividades<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Whether it\u2019s sports, travelling for work, travelling for fun, his schedule is always so full, so tight. He\u2019s not sure if he could squeeze you in, but hey, he\u2019ll let you know as soon something opens up.<\/p>\n

He keeps his schedule full just so he could have an excuse for not seeing you, but he\u2019s not really giving you any info about his schedule. You have no idea where he is, what he\u2019s doing or where he\u2019s travelling. He\u2019s simply\u2014busy.<\/p>\n

10. You\u2019re together only when it\u2019s convenient for him<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Whenever you want to see him, whenever you want to spend time with him\u2014he\u2019s busy. The only dates you have are the ones he organizes. The only time you see each other is the time he chooses.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s not interested in making time for you in his schedule because he needs sense of freedom. He needs to know that he\u2019s the one in control and that he can walk away whenever he wants.<\/p>\n

11. Te trata como una prioridad baja<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

If you need him, he\u2019s not there. If you want him to go somewhere with you, he already has some other plans. And even if he promises you, he doesn\u2019t even show up. He forgot, he got held up at work, traffic is horrible, etc.<\/p>\n

He treats you as a low priority not because he wants to hurt you, it\u2019s because he wants to save you from hurting. If you don\u2019t get attached, he gets to have a clean cut without it getting messy.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We all come across a commitment-phobe in our dating life, and they are so fun and so amazing for one-night stands and short affairs. But falling in love with a commitment-phobe is like running head to wall\u2014expect it hurts much more. There\u2019s no real hope in changing a commitment-phobe, so the best solution is to…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":11523,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11517","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/darius-bashar-503293.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11517","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11517"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11517\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11523"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11517"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11517"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11517"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}