{"id":115273,"date":"2020-11-26T12:51:50","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T12:51:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=115273"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:07:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:07:06","slug":"evitar-la-intimidad-cuando-el-ansia-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/evitar-la-intimidad-cuando-el-ansia-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 evita la intimidad cuando es obvio que anhela el amor?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfLe hab\u00edan hecho da\u00f1o antes? \u00bfEs s\u00f3lo algo que hacen los hombres? \u00bfEs posible que teme al amor<\/a>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, they don\u2019t say \u201cel amor duele<\/a>\u201d without good reason. However, it\u2019s the only thing we really crave in life. Everybody wants love even when they\u2019re set to \u201cstay single forever.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty obvious there\u2019s some underlying issue that needs to be addressed and understood when it\u2019s clear he wants love but refuses to receive it.<\/p>\n

Hay muchas razones posibles por las que evita intimar y mostrando sus sentimientos<\/a>. For many of those reasons, we can blame society, which tells men to \u201csuck it up\u201d and \u201cbe a man.\u201d<\/p>\n

Para entender a los hombres, las mujeres tienen que cambiar totalmente de punto de vista. Ser hombre conlleva una serie de problemas distintos de los que tienen las mujeres.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And yes, even though it\u2019s generally accepted that men \u201chave it easy,\u201d that doesn\u2019t mean they don\u2019t have problems.<\/p>\n

In fact, having problems and not being able to talk about them (because it\u2019s not manly) is an issue on its own.<\/p>\n

Intimacy and love are universal things. If everything\u2019s balanced, neither men nor women should have a problem with receiving or giving it.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, muchas personas, si no todas, en alg\u00fan momento de su vida tienen problemas para comprenderse a s\u00ed mismas y sus deseos, necesidades y problemas.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when they usually slip into either estar necesitado<\/a> (exigiendo amor y atenci\u00f3n) o ser demasiado distante<\/a> (evitar la intimidad y no prestar atenci\u00f3n).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfcu\u00e1les son algunos de los factores desencadenantes de este tipo de comportamiento que se pasan por alto?<\/p>\n

Los nuevos sentimientos agitan las heridas del pasado<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Maybe he was badly hurt before, so he\u2019s extra careful when it comes to a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Even if he\u2019s in a steady relationship and even if he manages to be affectionate initially, thoughts about past experiences will start to creep up over time.<\/p>\n

Esto hace que una persona sea vulnerable, y La vulnerabilidad se considera una debilidad.<\/a><\/p>\n

It usually isn\u2019t about the person he\u2019s with, but the situations that trigger something from the past.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t just refer to experiences with romantic partners but also circumstances in which he grew up, his upbringing, and family dynamics, which have a huge role in emotional life later on.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t help that we too often choose partners with whom we unconsciously recreate problematic dynamics.<\/p>\n

Esto demuestra lo importante y profundamente arraigado que est\u00e1 nuestro comportamiento aprendido y lo compleja que es realmente la mente humana.<\/p>\n

El estr\u00e9s se est\u00e1 apoderando de su vida<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

El estr\u00e9s es un conocido destructor del estado de \u00e1nimo<\/a>, and, in my opinion, it\u2019s not talked about enough regarding this context.<\/p>\n

El estr\u00e9s secuestra tu vida, cambia por completo tus prioridades en contra de tu voluntad y te impide sentir las cosas plenamente.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not easy to get rid of or control. It gets into your mind and makes a person forget about things they really want or even live for, hence the lack of affection even if they love you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no secret that love sometimes triggers existential fears because having someone to take care of means providing, especially when it comes to men\u2019s traditional role.<\/p>\n

Esto es lo que dificulta el aprovechamiento de los sentimientos, incluso cuando una persona ama de verdad a su pareja.<\/p>\n

Miedo al amor desigual<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Everybody has that tiny voice in their head that sometimes tells them they\u2019re not enough.<\/p>\n

El miedo al amor desigual es real y afecta a la forma en que una persona expresa sus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we fear that we\u2019ll end up hurt, and sometimes we fear that the other person will end up hurt because of us. Either way, we\u2019re lacking in something, and it prevents us from expressing romantic feelings.<\/p>\n

Often this has to do with feeling unlovable deep inside ourselves. We refuse to love because we don\u2019t think we deserve it or think we\u2019re not capable of giving it back.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what sometimes makes people act colder than they are when in reality, they crave love the same way everybody else does.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Was he hurt before? Is it just something men do? Is it possible that he fears love? Well, they don\u2019t say \u201clove hurts\u201d without good reason. However, it\u2019s the only thing we really crave in life. Everybody wants love even when they\u2019re set to \u201cstay single forever.\u201d It\u2019s pretty obvious there\u2019s some underlying issue that…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":115278,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-115273","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Why-Does-He-Avoid-Intimacy-When-Its-Obvious-He-Craves-Love_-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115273","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=115273"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115273\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/115278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=115273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=115273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=115273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}