{"id":11601,"date":"2019-11-09T11:33:01","date_gmt":"2019-11-09T11:33:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11601"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:00:16","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:00:16","slug":"perder-hecho-encontrar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/perder-hecho-encontrar\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como perderte me hizo encontrarme a m\u00ed misma"},"content":{"rendered":"

For most of my life, I have given attention and affection to all who asked. I\u2019ve put everyone else\u2019s needs before my own<\/a>lo que me llev\u00f3 a ignorar la m\u00eda.<\/p>\r\n

Lo \u00fanico que consegu\u00ed por intentar hacer felices a todos los que me rodeaban fue un coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\r\n

That made me realize that no one is worth my tears and my pain. It made me realize that I don\u2019t love myself. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Otros me han obligado a odiarme a m\u00ed misma y a lo que he llegado a ser.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

I was never supposed to be the person I have become. I know I\u2019m not that person deep inside.<\/p>\r\n

I know that a long time ago I was satisfied with myself, I loved and respected myself but life forced me to change\u2014you forced me to change.<\/p>\r\n

Estaba llena de energ\u00eda negativa y la tristeza me invad\u00eda por dentro. Sal\u00eda de m\u00ed, destruyendo todo lo que amaba y haci\u00e9ndome sentir a\u00fan peor de lo que ya me sent\u00eda.<\/p>\r\n

But I didn\u2019t want to show what was going on inside my mind. I concealed that depression and anger that was raging inside me, which led me to the point of almost utter self-destruction.<\/p>\r\n

Otros se preguntaban c\u00f3mo pod\u00eda ser tan positiva incluso cuando mi vida se desmoronaba<\/a>. I\u2019ll tell you how.<\/p>\r\n

Although I\u2019d almost lost my self-respect and self-love, in my darkest times I rediscovered it. I found shelter in myself from all the anger that was growing inside me.<\/p>\r\n

Mi lado bueno, mi amor por m\u00ed misma, venci\u00f3 la tristeza y el miedo que sent\u00eda porque ten\u00eda miedo de llegar a ser m\u00e1s que suficiente para m\u00ed misma. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Ten\u00eda miedo de convertirme en alguien que una vez fui.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Sobreviv\u00ed a desamores como cualquier otra persona. Me ahogu\u00e9 en mis propias l\u00e1grimas y pas\u00e9 muchas noches en vela, gritando tu nombre.<\/p>\r\n

I spent days not wanting to get up out of the bed, trying to find the reason why we didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\r\n

I blamed myself for not trying hard enough, but then I realized it was not my fault. It was never my fault. I just wasn\u2019t something you needed, nor were you something that I needed.<\/p>\r\n

Pas\u00e9 demasiado tiempo intentando hacerte feliz que me olvid\u00e9 de mi propia felicidad. Ignor\u00e9 mis sentimientos hasta el punto de perder mi verdadero yo.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Intent\u00e9 ser suficiente para ti, pero nunca deb\u00ed ser tuya. Entraste en mi vida con un \u00fanico prop\u00f3sito: recordarme que deb\u00eda respetarme y amarme a m\u00ed misma y que deb\u00eda never change for anyone’s sake<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n

Esa fue la lecci\u00f3n que aprend\u00ed por las malas, pero mereci\u00f3 la pena, as\u00ed que gracias.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

When we broke up, I thought I was going to be lost. I thought I\u2019d lost my strength because I thought you were the one who gave it to me. I thought you were the reason<\/p>\r\n

Segu\u00ed adelante y luchando. Ahora, me doy cuenta de que me estabas frenando.<\/p>\r\n

You were making me hate myself and what I\u2019d become. That isn\u2019t supposed to happen with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\r\n

Despu\u00e9s de sobrevivir a esa monta\u00f1a rusa emocional, por fin he encontrado a alguien fuerte. He encontrado a alguien que me empuja a querer m\u00e1s.<\/p>\r\n

I found someone who told me it\u2019s alright to be something you want to be.<\/p>\r\n

I found someone who told me it\u2019s important to love yourself and only then can you love someone else.<\/p>\r\n

Ese alguien era yo.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

I want to give all the love I used to give others to myself. That way I\u2019m going to grow stronger and when I mature completely I will be able to love someone who truly deserves it. But first of all, I have to find myself.<\/p>\r\n

I know that after all I have been through, after I realized what I needed, that I\u2019m the one who is in control of my life. I\u2019m the one who decides what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong with me.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m the one who can change the course of my own happiness. And I wouldn\u2019t be able to do it without your help.<\/p>\r\n

I wouldn\u2019t be able to do it if you hadn\u2019t left me and made me realize that Tengo que encontrarme<\/a>que despu\u00e9s de tanto dolor y tantas l\u00e1grimas finalmente lo hice.<\/p>\r\n

En Me encontr\u00e9<\/a> and chose to love myself, I realized that I\u2019m going to spend the rest of my life with myself and because of that I have to make peace with myself.<\/p>\r\n

Tengo que ser mi mejor amiga y la \u00fanica persona a la que puedo cambiar soy yo.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

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For most of my life, I have given attention and affection to all who asked. I\u2019ve put everyone else\u2019s needs before my own, which led me to ignore my own. The only thing I got from trying to make everyone around me happy was a broken heart. That made me realize that no one is…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":11611,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11601","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abdiel-ibarra-249876-1-1024x649.jpg",1024,649,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11601","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11601"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11601\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11611"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11601"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11601"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11601"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}