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<\/p>\nEl otro d\u00eda me envi\u00f3 un mensaje que me puso furiosa. Despu\u00e9s de intentar diseccionar cada una de las palabras que escribi\u00f3, decid\u00ed pedir consejo profesional. Reun\u00ed a mis amigos y lo hablamos tomando un caf\u00e9.<\/p>\n
Todos estuvimos de acuerdo en que deber\u00eda existir toda una ciencia de los mensajes de texto en las citas y que hay ciertas reglas no escritas que hay que aprender para navegar de esta u otra manera.<\/p>\n
In fact, there is a list of toxic texts we\u2019ve all received at one point (and are probably guilty of sending). Here is what we have decoded for you.<\/p>\n
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So, this is a basic toxic text. You send it to your boyfriend when he\u2019s out without you to ruin his night. The truth is that you don\u2019t want him to have fun. Actually, the last thing you want is him to have a great time.<\/p>\n
Usted desea que le diera pena<\/a> por salir sin ti. Quieres que se pase toda la noche culp\u00e1ndose por haberte dejado sola en casa.<\/p>\n However, you won\u2019t tell him that straightforwardly. In fact, when he asked you if you\u2019d mind him spending the night with the boys, you said you were perfectly fine with it.<\/p>\n Here is another textbook example of passive-aggressive behavior we\u2019re all sometimes guilty of.<\/p>\n The truth we\u2019re all aware of but refuse to say out loud is that there is a huge difference between typing, \u201cOkay,\u201d \u201cOK,\u201d \u201cK,\u201d and, \u201cKK\u201d.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to add an emoji or anything; the difference between one or two letters will be enough to express your emotions.<\/p>\n There is nothing wrong with, \u201cOkay.\u201d It really means that you\u2019re fine with whatever is being said to you. If you add an extra smiley face, there is nothing toxic about this text.<\/p>\n \u201cKK,\u201d means that you\u2019ve gotten the message. You\u2019ll send this to your BF when he tells you that he\u2019s on his way to pick you up or that he\u2019s done with that errand you two were talking about.<\/p>\n When you type, \u201cOK,\u201d and put a period at the end, everything is pretty clear; everything is far from okay.<\/p>\n However, \u201cK,\u201d is the worst of them all. It\u2019s cold and it sends the message that you don\u2019t want to bother to even type a decent reply.<\/p>\n You refuse to waste your time explaining what\u2019s wrong or why you\u2019re mad. Maybe you even typed a long paragraph about your feelings but erased everything and just sent, \u201cK\u201d.<\/p>\n What does this mean? \u201cI see that you don\u2019t care about me<\/a> anyhow, so I won\u2019t try anymore.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s apparent that you want to be left alone, so I won\u2019t be calling or texting anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n When you get this text, the other party feels emotionally neglected. However, instead of telling you this straightforwardly, they\u2019ll try turning the tables so they can be the one to leave first.<\/p>\n No, I\u2019m not talking about really leaving the relationship or breaking up, this refers to leaving the conversation.<\/p>\n The worst thing you can do here is to say things such as: \u201cThanks, I really need some time off to clear my thoughts,\u201d or imply in any other way that you really don\u2019t want to be bothered.<\/p>\n This text is a cry for validation. If your boyfriend sends it to you, he wants you to say something like: \u201cNo, you\u2019re not bothering me at all, let\u2019s talk.\u201d<\/p>\n Env\u00edo de un lindo texto rom\u00e1ntico de buenas noches<\/a> at the end of your day is a sign that you\u2019re thinking of your loved one. You want them to be the last person you message before you enter the world of dreams.<\/p>\n B\u00e1sicamente, enviar y recibir mensajes de buenas noches es una se\u00f1al de gran afecto. Sin embargo, este mensaje tambi\u00e9n puede ser bastante t\u00f3xico.<\/p>\n Have you ever been in a situation where someone wrote to you, \u201cGood night,\u201d mid-discussion? Or maybe you were the one to do it?<\/p>\n It\u2019s nowhere near nighttime and they\u2019re obviously not going to sleep. Instead, this text literally means: \u201cI\u2019m done talking to you,\u201d (but I don\u2019t want to directly tell you to back off).<\/p>\n This is a toxic text you\u2019ll probably get from your manipulative ex.<\/p>\n \u00bfSabes a qui\u00e9n quer\u00edas tanto pero que acab\u00f3 jugando contigo de una forma u otra? Por supuesto, nunca llegaste a cerrar el caso, pero con el tiempo te curaste.<\/p>\n Ahora, meses despu\u00e9s de que desapareciera de tu vida, ah\u00ed est\u00e1: su nombre en tu pantalla.<\/p>\n You expect an apology or something like that but you get this. You get a text in which he reminds you of some great memory you two had together. What\u2019s up with that? What is this hombre t\u00f3xico<\/a> que intenta conseguir?<\/p>\n Quiere ablandarte el coraz\u00f3n. Quiere que recuerdes todos los momentos bonitos que pasasteis juntos en lugar de centrarte en la forma en que te hizo da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n Naturalmente, su objetivo final es romperte el coraz\u00f3n de nuevo o simplemente meterse en tus pantalones.<\/p>\n You saw that your BF liked some girl\u2019s selfie or you suspect that he is with his female friends whom you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n However, you won\u2019t ask him about it. You won\u2019t be a mature person and demand a logical explanation.<\/p>\n Instead, you\u2019ll just send him this text. You\u2019re making it clear that you know what he\u2019s been up to. Not only that, you\u2019re also telling him that you won\u2019t compete for his attention.<\/p>\n You\u2019re giving him to them without lifting a finger because you don\u2019t see him as worthy of you fighting.<\/p>\n You send or receive this when you\u2019re breaking up. Wishing all the best to your ex means you\u2019re a kind, good-hearted person who holds no grudges against the ones who have hurt her.<\/p>\n Al menos, esto es lo que ser\u00edas si tus intenciones fueran honestas. Pero todos sabemos que no lo son.<\/p>\n In fact, when you send this text, you\u2019re only trying to humiliate the other person by showing that you\u2019re the better person. You want them to feel even more guilty about everything they\u2019ve done to you.<\/p>\n You want them to think, \u201cOh, I\u2019ve hurt this girl so much but despite that, she still wants me to be happy.\u201d Of course, what you don\u2019t add is, \u201c… but I know that will be impossible without me.\u201d<\/p>\n Puede que ahora no lo veas, pero rompiendo mi coraz\u00f3n<\/a> wasn\u2019t worth it. Leaving me for someone else was the biggest mistake of your life.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have the rest of your life to regret this poor choice. You\u2019ll grieve over me and you\u2019ll miss me, sooner or later.<\/p>\n This is what this toxic text actually means, doesn\u2019t it? If you send it, you want the person who\u2019s hurt you to feel bad about everything he\u2019s done to you. You\u2019re basically being passive-aggressive here.<\/p>\n You clearly don\u2019t agree with whatever he\u2019s saying or you don\u2019t believe a word that\u2019s coming out of this man\u2019s mouth.<\/p>\n Either way, you don\u2019t plan on wasting any time or energy on dealing with him. You don\u2019t want him to do any explaining, nor do you want you two to argue. So, you just send this text.<\/p>\n Basically, it means, \u201cYou\u2019re talking nonsense but I\u2019ll let you be because I couldn\u2019t care less.\u201d<\/p>\n Cuando recibes este texto, puede ser se\u00f1al de que la otra persona es un adulto maduro que quiere resolver sus problemas cara a cara.<\/p>\n However, if we\u2019re talking about your ex, I assure you that his intentions are not so honest. In fact, this man knows he\u2019ll have an easier time manipulating you when he sees you in person.<\/p>\n\u201cK\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cI won\u2019t bother you anymore.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cGood night.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cHey, remember that time\u2026?\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cEnjoy your time with all those other guys\/girls since they have your attention now.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cI hope you have a good life.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cI hope it was worth it.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cIf you say so.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cCome over, let\u2019s talk in person.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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