{"id":117944,"date":"2020-12-14T10:45:48","date_gmt":"2020-12-14T10:45:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=117944"},"modified":"2022-03-24T02:08:37","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T02:08:37","slug":"trastorno-obsesivo-del-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/trastorno-obsesivo-del-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Causas, s\u00edntomas y tratamiento del trastorno obsesivo del amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Un trastorno obsesivo del amor es muy diferente del t\u00edpico enamoramiento o amor rom\u00e1ntico. En palabras sencillas, es una fijaci\u00f3n por tu inter\u00e9s rom\u00e1ntico.<\/p>\n

You just think that you\u2019re in love with this special someone, but you\u2019re actually obsessed with them in an unhealthy way.<\/p>\n

Los celos posesivos, el deseo de controlar al objeto de tu afecto y los pensamientos man\u00edacos hacia \u00e9l te abruman.<\/p>\n

Aunque el OLD no figura en el Manual Diagn\u00f3stico y Estad\u00edstico de los trastornos mentales, se trata sin duda de un trastorno potencialmente peligroso que hay que tomarse en serio.<\/p>\n

When you suffer from it, you’re convinced that your obsessive thoughts are real love. You can’t eat, you can’t sleep and all you do is think about your loved one \u2013 just like when you\u2019re in love.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay una gran diferencia entre tener una relaci\u00f3n sana y sufrir un trastorno obsesivo del amor. He aqu\u00ed las causas, los s\u00edntomas y las opciones de tratamiento de este trastorno mental.<\/p>\n

Causas del trastorno obsesivo del amor<\/h2>\n

You have to be aware of one thing: things that you\u2019re dealing with right now didn\u2019t arise today. They didn\u2019t hit you out of the blue.<\/p>\n

In most cases, all of your mental disorders have been there for a while. You just failed to notice them or they didn\u2019t swim up to the surface until now.<\/p>\n

Trauma profundamente arraigado.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00c9ste es exactamente el caso de tu trastorno obsesivo del amor. Su causa principal est\u00e1 en tu profundamente arraigada traumas<\/a>probablemente de tu infancia.<\/p>\n

You might have had a perfectly normal childhood\u2013 or at least that\u2019s how things appeared to be. You had enough food, a place to sleep, and a seemingly \u201cnormal\u201d family.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la mayor\u00eda de las personas que desarrollan este trastorno y otros similares han sido en realidad desatendidos emocionalmente de ni\u00f1os<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re not even aware that you feel like your caregivers didn\u2019t love you enough or maybe you were always missing their support.<\/p>\n

Or, maybe they pushed you too hard. Is it possible that they\u2019ve always behaved like you failed to meet their expectations?<\/p>\n

Well, that is why you keep feeling like you\u2019re not good enough. This is especially the case with the kids whose parents left them behind, but it can also happen to those who had them physically around.<\/p>\n

Basically, we all spend our entire lives healing our childhood traumas, and now, you\u2019re trying to get the love you didn\u2019t get back then.<\/p>\n

Estilo de apego inseguro.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Otra causa com\u00fan de OLD es su estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a>. I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about all four of them: secure, displicente-evasivo<\/a>ansioso-preocupado y temeroso-evasivo.<\/p>\n

Si tiene una actitud ansioso-preocupada, ambivalente o estilo de apego inseguro<\/a>entonces, de ni\u00f1o, te preocupaba constantemente que tus padres te rechazaran.<\/p>\n

Estos miedos te persiguen durante toda tu vida adulta. Proyectas todos tus traumas en tus parejas sentimentales.<\/p>\n

Te obsesionas tanto con la posibilidad de que te dejen que acabas en un codependiente<\/a> relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

En el fondo, nunca confiaste en tus padres. Los considerabas poco fiables y pasaste toda tu infancia esperando que te abandonaran a cada minuto.<\/p>\n

Now, when you\u2019re all grown up, this is how you feel about your partner. You question their loyalty and live in constant fear of them walking away from you.<\/p>\n

Miserable pasado amoroso.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You know how I told you that everything that\u2019s going on with you now dates back to your past? Well, this doesn\u2019t mean that I\u2019m necessarily talking about your childhood here only.<\/p>\n

OLD can be caused by your love life history as well. If you\u2019ve spent your share of time in a matrimonio sin amor<\/a> or in abusive relationships \u2013 this is the key to your problem.<\/p>\n

The same way some parents treated their kids, that\u2019s exactly how your partners from the past treated you. They made you feel unloved, unwanted, and not good enough.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if you\u2019ve experienced infidelity from your loved one. Consequently, you start to believe that all women or men are the same.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que esperas que todas las personas que entran en tu vida tengan los mismos patrones de comportamiento.<\/p>\n

If your ex had considered you not enough and looked for the things you couldn\u2019t give them outside of your relationship, then what prevents your next partner from doing the same thing?<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, no tienes m\u00e1s remedio que hacer todo lo que est\u00e9 en tu mano para mantenerlos a tu lado.<\/p>\n

Trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

People suffering from OCD have a tendency of developing OLD. But, I\u2019m talking about real OCD here \u2013 not the trend in which everyone who is allergic tend to miss self-diagnose themselves with this disorder.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n existe algo llamado relaci\u00f3n TOC<\/a>. Basically, here, you have obsessive behaviors and thoughts connected to your relationship. You can\u2019t control either no matter how hard you try.<\/p>\n

Erotoman\u00eda.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Otro trastorno mental frecuente entre las personas con enfermedad de Alzheimer es la erotoman\u00eda, que puede estar causada por la esquizofrenia o el trastorno bipolar.<\/p>\n

Here, the patient believes they\u2019re in love with a celebrity to the point where they end up having obsessive thoughts about them that they can’t control.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t mistake this with being someone\u2019s biggest fan. You can be fascinated by their career or even see them as a role model.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando se padece erotoman\u00eda, se desarrolla una especie de trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo por el inter\u00e9s amoroso.<\/p>\n

Y no s\u00f3lo eso: tambi\u00e9n te convences de que esa persona tambi\u00e9n siente algo por ti.<\/p>\n

Aunque tu objeto de amor sea claramente inalcanzable para ti, sigues creyendo que los dos est\u00e1is hechos el uno para el otro y que esto es amor de verdad.<\/p>\n

In some extreme cases, patients start stalking their love interest or even become violent when they don\u2019t reciprocate their love.<\/p>\n

Trastorno L\u00edmite de la Personalidad<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El Trastorno L\u00edmite de la Personalidad suele ir de la mano del VIEJO. Se caracteriza por la inestabilidad emocional, habitual en quienes padecen un TCA.<\/p>\n

In fact, fear of abandonment is both of these mental health disorder’s number one symptom.<\/p>\n

Inseguridad.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You don’t have to suffer from a mental health condition to develop OLD. In fact, this disorder is sometimes caused by seemingly small things.<\/p>\n

Low self-esteem is common for everyone suffering from an obsessive love disorder. Your insecurities might have different underlying causes, but they\u2019re always there.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, en la mayor\u00eda de los casos, esto no es tan evidente. De hecho, puede que incluso desempe\u00f1e el papel de una persona segura de s\u00ed misma que no muestra ning\u00fan signo de inseguridad.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you only lie to others about this \u2013 you\u2019re not being honest towards yourself either.<\/p>\n

Te niegas a afrontar tus problemas de baja autoestima porque sabes que mirar la verdad a los ojos te romper\u00eda.<\/p>\n

El problema es que, en el fondo, tu subconsciente narcisista piensa que tu ser querido es mejor que t\u00fa.<\/p>\n

You see yourself as replaceable and not worthy of their love and attention, so you do everything you can to devalue them. After all, that is the only way in which you two can be on the same level, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

Not only that: you also think that you\u2019ll never find someone else if they leave you. You see yourself as unlovable<\/a> and you don\u2019t think you deserve happiness.<\/p>\n

So, it doesn\u2019t matter how your significant other treats you \u2013 you keep seeing them as a jackpot. After all, they\u2019re the only one who agreed on being with you.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son los s\u00edntomas del trastorno obsesivo del amor?<\/h2>\n

Aunque cada persona es \u00fanica, existen algunos patrones de comportamiento comunes a todos los que padecen un trastorno de ansiedad postraum\u00e1tica. Estas son las se\u00f1ales de alarma a las que debes prestar atenci\u00f3n si sospechas que padeces esta enfermedad.<\/p>\n

Celos extremos.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

One of the first symptoms of obsessive love disorder is uncontrollable jealousy. But, I\u2019m not talking about cute, typical jealousy here that all couples in love have.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about celos enfermizos<\/a> que te abruma y se apodera por completo de tus pensamientos.<\/p>\n

Celos obsesivos<\/h3>\n

The name speaks for itself: you\u2019re obsessed with the fact that your significant other is doing something behind your back.<\/p>\n

Ve a todo el mundo como una amenaza: sus amigos, compa\u00f1eros de trabajo, conocidos y, literalmente, todas las personas con las que se comunica.<\/p>\n

Cada vez que salen sin ti, muestras diferentes tipos de comportamientos obsesivos. Piensas en la posibilidad de que se enamoren de otra persona.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re constantly worried that they\u2019ll find someone better than you and that they\u2019ll replace you in the blink of an eye.<\/p>\n

You check their phone, looking for suspicious text messages, you follow them around and you’re always in search of some kind of evidence.<\/p>\n

Celos delirantes<\/h3>\n

Tambi\u00e9n existe algo llamado celos delirantes o morbosos, que es a\u00fan m\u00e1s grave.<\/p>\n

Este trastorno a veces va de la mano de otras enfermedades mentales, como la erotoman\u00eda, la esquizofrenia o el trastorno bipolar.<\/p>\n

In the case of delusional disorder, you\u2019re jealous of \u201cyour\u201d celebrity\u2019s loved one and life that doesn\u2019t include you.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, morbid jealousy also happens in real relationships. Basically, you\u2019re convinced that your partner is unfaithful despite not having any proof or facts for your doubts.<\/p>\n

Te inventas escenarios imposibles para respaldar tu obsesi\u00f3n. Te vuelves paranoico y conviertes toda tu vida en una b\u00fasqueda de pruebas de tus delirios.<\/p>\n

Trastorno del apego.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s perfectly normal to be emotionally attached to your partner \u2013 after all, that\u2019s a part of every romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando se padece un trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo, se muestran signos de un trastorno malsano del apego, que tambi\u00e9n es una enfermedad mental.<\/p>\n

Your significant other is the center of your Universe. You\u2019re only happy when they\u2019re around and you don\u2019t care about anything happening outside of your relationship.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not just emotionally dependent on them \u2013 you\u2019ve also developed a form of addiction. You couldn\u2019t imagine spending a day without this person since they\u2019re the only ones giving your life meaning.<\/p>\n

Everything besides them is pointless, and you put all of your focus and effort into maintaining this relationship. It\u2019s your cause of existence and the only reason to breathe.<\/p>\n

Pensamientos obsesivos.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

What if my boyfriend or girlfriend leaves me? Do they really love me? What if they\u2019re seeing someone else? How can I prevent them from walking away from me?<\/p>\n

Do these questions sound familiar? Don\u2019t get me wrong: we all have similar thoughts when our relationship enters a crisis.<\/p>\n

However, you\u2019re different. These thoughts appear in your mind out of nowhere, even if everything is going smoothly.<\/p>\n

Your partner is all you can think about, but you don’t think much about their well-being: your entire focus is on their presence in your life.<\/p>\n

And, the worst part is that you can\u2019t control your mind \u2013 it goes the other way around.
\nBueno, si esto no es un signo evidente de un VIEJO, \u00bfentonces qu\u00e9 lo es?<\/p>\n

Posesividad.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Hay una gran diferencia entre celos y posesividad<\/a>. When you\u2019re jealous, your biggest fear is your partner\u2019s infidelity.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to lose them to another man or woman, and you will do everything in your power to prevent that from happening.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re possessive, you want this person for yourself only.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t like your significant other\u2019s friends and family members simply because they give them the attention that should be reserved for you only.<\/p>\n

Si dependiera de ti, dejar\u00edan sus trabajos. No tendr\u00edan aficiones ni intereses fuera de vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00edan dejar de existir como individuos e invertir toda su energ\u00eda en ser tu novia o novio.<\/p>\n

After all, that\u2019s how you roll, so why wouldn\u2019t they? It would be best if you could become this person\u2019s only preoccupation.<\/p>\n

Deseo de control.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The next on the list of symptoms of obsessive love disorder is the fact that you\u2019re a control freak.<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you, but you\u2019re not your partner\u2019s caregiver nor are they a little child without any proper decision-making skills.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest: you\u2019re masking your real intentions here.<\/p>\n

You go under false pretenses that you\u2019re just trying to protect them from everything bad in this harsh world and act like you’re just worried about their well being.<\/p>\n

You pretend that you\u2019re taking over a part of their burden while you\u2019re actually tomar el control<\/a> a lo largo de su vida, paso a paso.<\/p>\n

Quieres que tu pareja viva su vida a tu manera. En la pr\u00e1ctica, eso significa que debe seguir tus \u00f3rdenes sin hacer preguntas innecesarias.<\/p>\n

After all, you know what\u2019s best for them, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

En busca de tranquilidad.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve already established a fact that you\u2019re insecure and that you\u2019re trying to heal your insecurity in all the wrong ways \u2013 through your romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

When you suffer from this mental disorder, you\u2019re constantly seeking reassurance from your partner.<\/p>\n

You ask them questions, such as: \u201cDo you love me?\u201d \u201cCould you live without me?\u201d \u201cWhat would you do if we broke up?\u201d<\/p>\n

No importa c\u00f3mo te traten o lo que hagan para demostrarte su amor, nunca conf\u00edas plenamente en ellos. Aunque es bastante evidente lo importante que eres para tu pareja, tus dudas siempre ganan.<\/p>\n

The worst thing is that there is no right answer to either of these questions \u2013 at least not the one that would leave you satisfied.<\/p>\n

Maybe they\u2019re not telling you how much they love you as often as you would like to hear it. Or, you\u2019re not happy with the tone of their voice.<\/p>\n

Este s\u00edntoma por s\u00ed solo puede ser un signo de ansiedad en las relaciones<\/a>. Sin embargo, si tambi\u00e9n presentas otros signos, una cosa es segura: sufres de OLD.<\/p>\n

Incapacidad para aceptar el rechazo.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to actually be in a romantic relationship in order to show red flags of obsessive love disorder. It\u2019s enough for you to have a crush on someone and for that person to reject you.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real: nobody likes hearing \u201cno\u201d for an answer. It\u2019s not pleasant to find out that the person you like doesn\u2019t like you back.<\/p>\n

Esta constataci\u00f3n aplasta nuestra autoestima y puede hacer que todos nos sintamos desgraciados durante un tiempo. Sin embargo, nos guste o no, estas cosas pasan.<\/p>\n

Usually, people in this situation feel bad for some time, but eventually move on. You have to accept that someone isn\u2019t attracted to you or simply doesn\u2019t want to give you a chance.<\/p>\n

But, not you. You refuse to grasp this idea and you\u2019re completely unable to take rejection. Ironically, when it happens, your feelings for this person intensify.<\/p>\n

Te obsesionas con ellos y pones toda tu energ\u00eda en intentar hacerles cambiar de opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Acoso.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

A great number of people suffering from OLD become stalkers at one point in their lives. It doesn\u2019t matter if your love object doesn\u2019t want you or you doubt your partner\u2019s fidelity.<\/p>\n

Either way, it\u2019s likely that you\u2019ll invest all of your energy in getting to the bottom of their whereabouts and activities.<\/p>\n

You might follow them around or use every opportunity to go through their phone and social media \u2013 the bottom line is the same.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo se trata el trastorno obsesivo del amor?<\/h2>\n

Sin contacto.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you want to heal yourself from this mental illness, the first must-do is to cut all possible ties with the object of your infatuation, especially if we\u2019re talking about the person you\u2019re not even romantically involved with.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme: no es alguien con quien puedas tener una relaci\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\n

Se acabaron las apariciones en los lugares donde podr\u00edas encontrarlos, las preguntas a sus amigos y familiares sobre ellos y el acoso en las redes sociales.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, los mensajes de texto y las llamadas telef\u00f3nicas quedan descartados.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not doing this to make them feel your absence. You\u2019re doing it to cure yourself.
\nI know this is the last thing on your mind, but trust me \u2013 it\u2019s the only possible option.<\/p>\n

Autoocupaci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Mientras tanto, tienes que mantenerte ocupada. Conc\u00e9ntrate en ocuparte de lo que sea o de quien sea adem\u00e1s de tu inter\u00e9s amoroso.<\/p>\n

You see, you\u2019ve spent so much time and energy obsessing over this person, so now, you have a lot of empty space in your life.<\/p>\n

The second you get bored, you\u2019ll go back to your old ways. That is exactly why you have to find new ways to keep yourself physically and mentally tired.<\/p>\n

Find new hobbies, hit the gym, start learning new things, go out with your friends\u2026 Do whatever it takes to keep your mind off your obsession.<\/p>\n

Psicoterapia.<\/h2>\n

\"terapeuta<\/p>\n

Buscar consejo m\u00e9dico para tus problemas de salud no es ninguna verg\u00fcenza. Visita a un profesional o llama a un tel\u00e9fono de emergencias sanitarias si sientes que tu estado se te va de las manos.<\/p>\n

You’ll get the help you need and experts will present you with different treatment options until you find the one that suits you the best.<\/p>\n

When you go to psychotherapy, a mental health professional won\u2019t just handle your symptoms: they will also dig deep inside of you to find the underlying causes of this condition.<\/p>\n

La psiquiatr\u00eda da miedo, pero cr\u00e9eme: a veces, es el \u00fanico lugar donde puedes aprender a encontrar un amor sano en el futuro.<\/p>\n

There, you\u2019ll be surrounded by experts who will hold your hand along the path of your recovery.
\nPasar\u00e1 por diferentes tipos de evaluaci\u00f3n que le ayudar\u00e1n a solucionar su problema a largo plazo.<\/p>\n

Medicaci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Finally, if nothing else helps, you\u2019ll get medication to help you.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t take any medication without consulting your doctor. Stick to the prescribed dose and I promise you that you\u2019ll feel better in no time.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: an obsessive love disorder can be a severe condition, but luckily, it can be treated effectively.<\/p>\n

The most important thing is that you\u2019re aware that you might have a problem. Otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here, would you?<\/p>\n

It means that you\u2019ve made the first and the hardest step: you faced your condition as much as it scares you. From now on, everything will be much easier and you will heal!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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