{"id":118452,"date":"2020-12-11T12:07:21","date_gmt":"2020-12-11T12:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=118452"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:41:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:41:58","slug":"algunas-personas-estan-destinadas-a-dar-mas-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/algunas-personas-estan-destinadas-a-dar-mas-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEs posible que algunas personas est\u00e9n destinadas a dar m\u00e1s amor del que jam\u00e1s recibir\u00e1n?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being on the verge of my thirties has got me thinking. You know how it rolls: you sit down one night, you have a panic attack and you wonder if you\u2019ll have enough time to do all the things on your lista de cosas que hacer antes de morir<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Now, I sound like I\u2019m about to turn 80 at least. But, this is a big deal as well – your thirtieth birthday is not just a milestone – it is also an important turning point.<\/p>\n

Having this in mind, you recapitulate everything you\u2019ve done so far; you put each one of your accomplishments and failures on a scale and you wait to see which side will be heavier.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly what I tried doing. Despu\u00e9s de analizar mis amistades, mis relaciones familiares y mi carrera, lleg\u00f3 la parte que m\u00e1s miedo me daba: mi vida amorosa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been running from these thoughts for a while now, but there has come a time for me to admit the bitter truth: en comparaci\u00f3n con otros aspectos de mi vida, mis relaciones sentimentales son (y cada una de ellas ha sido) un gran desastre.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is not a phase that will go away. In fact, it\u2019s not that I\u2019m heartbroken as we speak.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, el hecho es que mi vida amorosa nunca fue como me la imaginaba. For as long as I can remember, I\u2019ve been unhappy in love.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that I never had a serious, relaci\u00f3n comprometida<\/a>. Tuve mi raci\u00f3n de novios a los que am\u00e9 y que me correspondieron.<\/p>\n

\u201cSo, how come you\u2019ve always been unhappy?\u201d, you must ask. \u00bfC\u00f3mo es que todas tus relaciones han fracasado?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estas preguntas me inquietaron durante un tiempo, pero finalmente obtuve las respuestas.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSoy demasiado exigente? No.<\/strong> Al diablo con ello; la mayor parte del tiempo, parec\u00eda que no ten\u00eda normas en absoluto.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEstoy buscando demasiado? S\u00ed.<\/strong> Pero espera, \u00bfc\u00f3mo es posible esperar demasiado y no tener normas al mismo tiempo?<\/p>\n

Well, you see – the only thing I asked for in all of my relationships was love.<\/p>\n

Hi, everyone, I\u2019m addicted to someone loving me and I do require too much love from the other person. And, there has come a point for my addiction to be healed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"espejo<\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, durante todos estos a\u00f1os, culp\u00e9 a mis parejas de no preocuparse nunca lo suficiente por m\u00ed. De una forma u otra, I\u2019ve been el que m\u00e1s amaba<\/a> en todas mis relaciones.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m imagining things – I was really the one making most of the sacrifices, the one putting in more effort, and the one carrying all the weight.<\/p>\n

En consecuencia, yo acababa siendo el que se la jugaba y el que se quedaba atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Parece un patr\u00f3n, \u00bfverdad? Entonces, \u00bfde qui\u00e9n es la culpa?<\/p>\n

Desde hace a\u00f1os, Pensaba que ninguno de mis ex ten\u00eda la capacidad de quererme como me merec\u00eda<\/strong>. Me sent\u00eda emocionalmente desatendida y les consideraba culpables de mi insatisfacci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Pero entonces me di cuenta: Comparaba la cantidad de amor que recib\u00eda con la cantidad que daba. Todo este tiempo, pensaba que mi forma de amar era la \u00fanica correcta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If a guy loves me any less – it\u2019s apparent that he doesn\u2019t love me at all.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Cada una de mis relaciones era m\u00e1s o menos igual: en cuanto me di cuenta, puse todo mi empe\u00f1o en cambiar la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Estaba haciendo todo lo posible para que estos hombres se preocuparan m\u00e1s por m\u00ed.<\/strong> Estaba sutilmente mendigando atenci\u00f3n<\/a> and affection, and I kept falling into despair every time I didn\u2019t receive it.<\/p>\n

After some time, things would break apart. Sometimes, the men next to me couldn\u2019t handle the pressure of being constantly accused of indifference.<\/p>\n

On some other occasions, I ended things because I couldn\u2019t stand feeling so unloved.<\/p>\n

Entonces, me di cuenta de que I was born to give more love than I\u2019ll ever receive. That is my fatal flaw that will eventually be the cause of my emotional downfall.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know if I have a greater capacity for love than most people; if I consciously choose men who are unable to give their hearts out or if I secretly enjoy my role.<\/p>\n

Pero, la verdad es que cada vez ocurre lo mismo: Dejo entrar a los hombres en todo mi coraz\u00f3n sin reservarme ninguna parte.<\/p>\n

Lo que s\u00ed s\u00e9 es que cometo un gran error cada vez que intento forzar a un chico a que me quiera m\u00e1s. En lugar de eso, deber\u00eda esforzarme en hacer que yo le quiera menos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You see, you can\u2019t control the way others treat you. You can\u2019t force anyone into loving you more nor can you push them into reciprocating your feelings.<\/p>\n

La \u00fanica persona sobre la que tienes pleno control eres t\u00fa.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t force a guy to text you more often, but you can start texting him less frequently.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t make a guy make sacrifices in your relationship, but you can stop taking all the weight on your shoulders. You know what they say: \u201cIf you can\u2019t beat them, join them\u201d.<\/p>\n

The examples are endless, but you get the point. No, you shouldn\u2019t do it as part of your hidden agenda to make him fall for you harder.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re doing it to take your dignity back and to heal your own broken ego.<\/p>\n

Or, you can just leave and wait for a man who will give you the same amount of love he\u2019s getting from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, antes de tomar esta decisi\u00f3n, por favor, dime lo siguiente: \u00bfAmas demasiado? Yo s\u00e9 que s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Por \u00faltimo, \u00bfes esta cantidad de amor y devoci\u00f3n que le das a tu pareja buena para tu salud mental?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs sano querer a alguien m\u00e1s de lo que te quieres a ti mismo?<\/strong> Creo que ambos conocemos estas respuestas.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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