{"id":119472,"date":"2020-12-21T13:57:20","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T13:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=119472"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:25:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:25:35","slug":"como-tratar-a-un-conyuge-negativo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-tratar-a-un-conyuge-negativo\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo lidiar con un c\u00f3nyuge negativo de 12 maneras inteligentes"},"content":{"rendered":"

Welcome to a step-by-step guide on how to deal with a negative spouse, as written by someone who’s lived to tell the tale.<\/em><\/p>\n

Decir que vivir con una persona negativa y tener que andar con pies de plomo es agotador es un enorme<\/em> eufemismo.<\/p>\n

Hace unos a\u00f1os, cuando a\u00fan estaba con mi ex, me encontr\u00e9 en una situaci\u00f3n parecida. La persona que hab\u00eda conocido desapareci\u00f3 por completo a los pocos meses de estar juntos.<\/p>\n

Su positividad inicial y todo lo que le apasionaba se convirtieron en un mal humor interminable, lleno de energ\u00eda negativa, y fue un momento muy duro para m\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Todo lo que pod\u00eda pensar era: “What do I do? What’s going on with the person I was hoping to one day have a happy marriage with?”<\/em><\/p>\n

I couldn’t handle my own thoughts, as being with your negative spouse (or life partner) regularly and having no escape messes with su salud mental<\/a> A lo grande.<\/p>\n

I wasn’t just going to give up, though.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I’ve always been a perfectionist, which means I gave it my all to find a way out of that black hole. Quiero decir, \u00bfqu\u00e9 haces cuando tu amado<\/a> est\u00e1 constantemente abrumado por emociones negativas?<\/em><\/p>\n

Si quieres que funcione, te esfuerzas. Ve a terapia matrimonial. Intentas con todas tus fuerzas que su actitud negativa no se te pegue.<\/p>\n

Below, I\u2019ll discuss how I made the best out of a bad situation. We ultimately didn’t work out (por diferentes motivos<\/em>), pero estos consejos cambiaron enormemente las reglas del juego.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfTe sientes inseguro sobre el matrimonio? 7 ventajas e inconvenientes<\/a><\/p>\n

Gu\u00eda pr\u00e1ctica para tratar a un c\u00f3nyuge negativo<\/h2>\n

Don’t let their negativity ruin your well-being. Regain your positive energy and put yourself in the BEST situation to help your spouse with these life-changing tips.<\/em><\/p>\n

Nunca te tomes su negatividad como algo personal<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It’s rarely about you. It’s almost always about their inner struggles. They direct it at you, as you live with them, but it’s never something to take personally.<\/p>\n

That’s what helped me stay sane. I focused on myself and all the ways that I could help myself feel better.<\/p>\n

If my partner chooses negativity, fine. That doesn’t have to be my reality. Aunque puede ser un reto vivir con alguien as\u00ed, siempre puedes elegir hasta qu\u00e9 punto dejas que te afecte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Es cierto que se trata de una soluci\u00f3n temporal, pero en los pasos siguientes se explica con mucho m\u00e1s detalle c\u00f3mo tratar a un c\u00f3nyuge negativo.<\/p>\n

Deja que prevalezca tu energ\u00eda positiva<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you’re a naturally positive person, let that prevail every day. The moment your spouse comes home and brings that negative energy, shift your focus onto something positive.<\/p>\n

Let’s say they had a bad day at work (surprise, surprise!) and complained from the moment they walked through the door. Say that it sucks for them, but you just made their favorite meal, which you’re sure will make them feel better!<\/p>\n

Esto es s\u00f3lo un ejemplo que puede funcionar o no. La cuesti\u00f3n es sustituir sus patrones negativos por los tuyos positivos. S\u00e9 feliz<\/a> e intentar darles un motivo para sonre\u00edr.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esperemos que eso sea suficiente, al menos hasta que decida qu\u00e9 hacer a continuaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Figure out what’s going on before judging them<\/h2>\n

\"woma<\/p>\n

\u00bfHa ocurrido algo recientemente que les haya hecho volverse gravemente negativos de repente?<\/p>\n

\u00bfPodr\u00edan ser problemas en el trabajo, problemas con familiares o algo de naturaleza financiera?<\/p>\n

There has to be a reason for their behavior. Nobody just wakes up and decides that they’ll be grumpy from today onward.<\/p>\n

If you feel like they won\u2019t be straight with you, try to figure it out on your own. Who knows, you just might be onto something.<\/p>\n

Dealing with a negative spouse doesn\u2019t always have to be a problem. Sometimes, it takes figuring out their inner issue and helping them get on top of it.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Mi marido es malo conmigo y est\u00e1 arruinando lentamente nuestro matrimonio<\/a><\/p>\n

Esc\u00fachales con atenci\u00f3n y comprueba si puedes ayudarles de alguna manera.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Listen to the words that they’re saying. Your spouse might be unwilling to say exactly what is going on, but they might accidentally give you a hint.<\/p>\n

Mi consejo es que escuches con atenci\u00f3n. Puede que descubras mucho m\u00e1s de lo que crees. Y con un poco de suerte, puede que incluso seas capaz de ayudar de alguna manera.<\/p>\n

C\u00e9ntrate en todos sus rasgos POSITIVOS (y recu\u00e9rdaselos tambi\u00e9n a ellos)<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Te casaste con ellos, \u00a1as\u00ed que tiene que haber algo positivo en ellos! Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo te conquistaron?<\/p>\n

It can be difficult to reminisce about the happier times right now but try. That way, you’ll uncover so many happy memories that you’ve suppressed due to their sudden negative emotions.<\/p>\n

Usted sol\u00eda tener un matrimonio feliz, y su c\u00f3nyuge sol\u00eda hacerle muy feliz, \u00bfverdad?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Si vuelves a esos tiempos y te recuerdas a ti mismo (y a ellos) lo bien que estaban las cosas no hace tanto tiempo, puede que sea la patada que necesitaban para volver a ser quienes eran.<\/p>\n

Crear l\u00edmites saludables<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

How far are you willing to let their negativity go? There have to be healthy boundaries to what you’re willing to accept.<\/p>\n

En alg\u00fan momento, tienes que decir no. No a su energ\u00eda negativa, no a sus comentarios negativos, no a que intenten convertirte en una persona hastiada.<\/strong> Los l\u00edmites est\u00e1n ah\u00ed por una raz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Una persona negativa siempre intentar\u00e1 victimizarse y hacerte sentir l\u00e1stima por ella. Pero, \u00bfc\u00f3mo va a desembocar eso en una resoluci\u00f3n positiva?<\/p>\n

Pity doesn\u2019t get you anywhere. Taking action does.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfSu c\u00f3nyuge siempre ha sido negativo o es algo reciente?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe casaste con un narcisista disfrazado<\/a>? \u00bfSu c\u00f3nyuge siempre ha sido un manojo de negatividad, o le ha ocurrido recientemente?<\/em><\/p>\n

This plays a huge role in how your marriage unfolds. If this is who your spouse has always been, then you’re going to have a hard time changing their innate personality.<\/p>\n

BUT, if they used to be a happy-go-lucky person, something had to make them act this way, so there’s hope after all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, I’m not saying figuring it out will be easy for anyone involved, but it means it could end on a happy note.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 20 se\u00f1ales de un matrimonio sin amor y 6 poderosas formas de afrontarlo<\/a><\/p>\n

Rod\u00e9ate de personas cuya energ\u00eda coincida con la tuya<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

Es decir, tus familiares, compa\u00f1eros de trabajo, amigos m\u00e1s \u00edntimos y cualquier persona con la que te resulte f\u00e1cil estar.<\/p>\n

Tener energ\u00eda positiva a tu alrededor afecta a tu estado de \u00e1nimo de forma importante. Las personas negativas te quitan toda la alegr\u00eda y te convierten en un gru\u00f1\u00f3n pesimista.<\/p>\n

Don’t socialize with anyone who’s an energy vampire.<\/strong> Mantente cerca de las personas que te hacen feliz de estar vivo y de las personas cuya presencia te afecta de todas las mejores maneras.<\/p>\n

Those are the people who’ll help you survive this entire marriage ordeal with a bit more ease.<\/p>\n

Don’t let anyone project their unhappiness on you<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Esto sonar\u00e1 duro, pero el hecho de que sea tu c\u00f3nyuge NO le da derecho a envenenarte con sus comentarios negativos.<\/p>\n

Remember that no one has power over you. If they’re unhappy, they need to be able to work it out within themselves.<\/p>\n

You’re always going to be their support system, but they need to be the one to take action. You’re nobody’s puppet.<\/p>\n

Nunca dejes que nadie se comprometa tu propia felicidad<\/a> just because they don’t know any other way to be.<\/strong> Ay\u00fadales, s\u00e9 su caja de resonancia, pero nunca permitas que su negatividad te consuma.<\/p>\n

Help your spouse realize that they’re the root of their problem<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Don’t let your spouse’s el malvado arte de echar la culpa a otros<\/a> les ayudan a eludir la responsabilidad de sus actos. Lo m\u00e1s probable es que sean la ra\u00edz de sus problemas.<\/p>\n

Until they face their demons head-on, they’ll never be able to shake this negativity. So, to answer your question: \u00bfC\u00f3mo tratar a un c\u00f3nyuge negativo?<\/em> – Let them realize that they hold the key to their happiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe they’ll finally be able to accept it, or maybe they’ll keep refusing to asumir la responsabilidad de sus actos<\/a>. Either way, it’s entirely on ellos<\/em>.<\/p>\n

S\u00e1calos de casa y haced cosas juntos<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Como \u00faltimo paso de mi gu\u00eda sobre c\u00f3mo lidiar con un c\u00f3nyuge negativo, recomiendo pasar m\u00e1s tiempo de calidad juntos.<\/p>\n

If you both live busy lives and are often apart due to work commitments (and whatnot), it’s time to get your spouse out of the house and do something as a couple.<\/p>\n

Hay tantos actividades divertidas en pareja<\/a> que os ayudar\u00e1n a volver a enamoraros el uno del otro. Ve en bici, revive tu primera cita<\/a>, listen to fun podcasts together, or anything else you’re both into!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can’t wave a magic wand and expect things to change in an instant, but you can speed up the process by reminding yourselves of why you got married in the first place.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 18 se\u00f1ales de que tu mujer quiere dejarte y c\u00f3mo salvar tu matrimonio<\/a><\/p>\n

Conf\u00eda en que los que QUIEREN quedarse en tu vida siempre se quedar\u00e1n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cNever underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.\u201d<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Wayne W. Dyer<\/p>\n

If your spouse is meant to stay in your life, they’re going to stay. If, after everything you’ve done for them, they still make zero effort to change their ways, let things flow at their natural pace.<\/p>\n

Don’t try to make someone stay if they keep proving that they don’t care enough to make it work.<\/p>\n

Se puede querer a alguien m\u00e1s de lo que se puede expresar con palabras, pero en alg\u00fan momento hay que anteponer su bienestar. La gente cambia y la vida pasa en un abrir y cerrar de ojos. En lugar de resistirte, ac\u00e9ptalo.<\/p>\n

Right now, it might not make a lot of sense. But one day, you’ll realize that letting things happen the way they’re supposed to is the best decision you could’ve made.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No one can say for certain what’s going to happen. All you can do is try your best to make life with a negative person bearable.<\/p>\n

If all your efforts go to waste, you always have yourself. It’s better to be alone than surrounded by constant negativity.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo cambiar sus patrones de pensamiento negativo<\/h2>\n

Si t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n sufres ataques de energ\u00eda negativa, aqu\u00ed tienes algunas medidas \u00fatiles que puedes tomar para mejorar.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Immediately resist the urge to engage in negative self-talk.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The moment you catch yourself drifting away in negative self-talk, nip it in the bud. That’s the surest way to keep it under control.<\/p>\n

You have to learn how to keep yourself in check. If you don’t control your emotions, they’re going to take control of your life. All it takes is some willpower and perseverance.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Surround yourself with positive people.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

La forma m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil de mantenerse positivo y en el buen camino es estar al lado de personas que saquen lo mejor de uno mismo.<\/p>\n

Who’s your go-to person in times of need? Call them up whenever you need a break.<\/p>\n

Den largos paseos, hablen de cosas positivas y sonr\u00edan juntos. Las soluciones m\u00e1s sencillas son siempre las mejores.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Be grateful for everything you’ve got. It might not be a whole lot, but it’s more than some people have. Be grateful for waking up every day and having the ability to kick the day’s ass.<\/p>\n

Agradece a las personas de tu vida que hacen que todo valga la pena. Agradece tu salud y la de los miembros de tu familia.<\/p>\n

Doesn’t that put it ALL in perspective?<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 9 valores fundamentales que toda pareja debe tener en su relaci\u00f3n<\/a><\/p>\n

\u2022 Seek professional help if it comes to that.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. If your mind is messed up, it’ll reflect badly on the quality of your life.<\/p>\n

I took that step a few years ago, and it resulted in major changes in my life. You can’t even imagine how much a licensed professional can help you turn things around.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Change your sleeping habits.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Sleep is so important. If you don’t get enough of it, it’ll make you cranky, low on energy, and with a short fuse.<\/p>\n

If you go to sleep way too late and get up very early, it’s time to change your sleeping patterns. You’d be surprised how much the quality of your sleep can affect your daily life.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Eat healthily and exercise.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I’m sure you’ve already heard this a million times. Only, something tells me that you rolled your eyes every time and grabbed a bite of your delicious cheeseburger. \u00bfTengo calor?<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, exercise and healthy eating habits take a LOT of willpower, but once you get used to it, you’ll never allow yourself to go back. I can testify to that first-hand.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Try new, adventurous things you’ve never dared to do before.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"bonita<\/p>\n

Don’t let your life fall into a rut. Before you realize it, you’ll have wasted your youth on never doing anything outside of your daily schedule. It’s time to break out of it.<\/p>\n

Viva la aventura de su vida con tu mejor amigo<\/a>. Go skydiving (especially if you’ve always wanted but never allowed yourself to do it). Get out of your comfort zone and start enjoying life!<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do one thing every single day that makes you smile.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This one’s simple. What makes you happy? For me, it’s hearing my best friend’s voice, spending time with my nieces, eating Maltesers, and cuddling with my dog.<\/p>\n

Figure out your own and do one thing from your list every single day. If you can, start your day like that and see how much more energized, productive, and positive you’ll be.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Love yourself through all your flaws and shortcomings.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El amor propio es el m\u00e1s importante de todos. T\u00fa ense\u00f1as a los dem\u00e1s c\u00f3mo deben tratarte. Cuanto m\u00e1s te quieras, m\u00e1s te querr\u00e1n los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, tienes defectos. S\u00ed, metes la pata de vez en cuando. Pero yo tambi\u00e9n, y todos los dem\u00e1s tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

Nobody\u2019s trying to be the perfect human specimen. We’re all just doing the best with what life gave us. Love yourself through every up and down and see your world change.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Objetivos matrimoniales: 15 cosas principales en las que deber\u00edan centrarse todas las parejas casadas<\/a><\/p>\n

Alimente su mente con pensamientos positivos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

And don’t let anyone’s negativity overwhelm your positivity. You can’t change who your spouse is, but you can change your willingness to live with it.<\/p>\n

You are who you surround yourself with. You can’t choose your family members, but you can distance yourself from their negative energy. It’s never wrong to prioritize your well-being.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, creating some healthy distance is necessary to realize who’s meant to stay and who’s a mere passerby in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aunque espero sinceramente que mi gu\u00eda ayude a tu matrimonio en aspectos importantes, tambi\u00e9n tienes que darte cuenta de que you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s important to keep a sane head throughout this ordeal, as your thoughts shape the reality that you live in. In the words of the inspiring Mahatma Gandhi:<\/p>\n

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”<\/em><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo es necesario cortar con alguien? ( + 7 consejos para hacerlo)<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Welcome to a step-by-step guide on how to deal with a negative spouse, as written by someone who’s lived to tell the tale. To say that living with a negative person and having to walk on eggshells is exhausting is a huge understatement. Some years back, when I was still with my ex, I was…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":119677,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-119472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/How-To-Deal-With-A-Negative-Spouse-In-12-CLEVER-Ways-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/119472","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=119472"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/119472\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/119677"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=119472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=119472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=119472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}