{"id":120189,"date":"2020-12-23T17:20:19","date_gmt":"2020-12-23T17:20:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=120189"},"modified":"2021-08-31T07:42:38","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T07:42:38","slug":"forzarse-a-olvidar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/forzarse-a-olvidar\/","title":{"rendered":"Forzarse a olvidar no es lo mismo que curar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Si me conocierais, todos dir\u00edais lo mismo: Esta chica es una malota. Todos los que me conocen piensan lo mismo de m\u00ed: No soy f\u00e1cil de molestar.<\/p>\n

Hasta mis amigos m\u00e1s \u00edntimos te lo dir\u00e1n. Siempre que hablamos de nuestros desenga\u00f1os, todos llegan a la misma conclusi\u00f3n: she\u2019s never grieved for a boy in her life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve had my share of painful breakups \u2013 nobody argues against that. In fact, if we look at things objectively, we\u2019d all agree that I\u2019ve been through more devastating experiences than the average girl.<\/p>\n

I loved men who didn\u2019t love me back. I was used, cheated on, and left behind. I was treated like trash, and I was even abused.<\/p>\n

Pero a pesar de todo esto, Nunca lo pas\u00e9 mal seguir adelante<\/a> con mi vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No matter what I\u2019d been through, somehow, I would always find a way to brush the sadness off my shoulders and restore my true self.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s fascinante de todo es que mi proceso de recuperaci\u00f3n siempre fue r\u00e1pido. Cada vez, quedaba como nuevo en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cada vez que me romp\u00edan el coraz\u00f3n, me curaba a una velocidad incre\u00edble. Al menos, esto es lo que parec\u00eda.<\/strong> Esto es lo que pensaban todos a mi alrededor. Al diablo, esto es lo que yo pensaba.<\/p>\n

Hasta que me di cuenta: Nunca me estaba curando. En cambio, todo este tiempo, s\u00f3lo me estaba obligando a olvidar. Y estos son dos conceptos completamente diferentes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You see, when you\u2019re forcing yourself to forget, you pretend that your traumas never happened. Incurres en algo llamado autoenga\u00f1o, y eso nunca puede ser sano.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You do your best to sweep things under the carpet. It\u2019s like you have a magic wand, and you expect it to erase everything bad you ever experienced.<\/p>\n

You continue with your life exactly like this \u2013 as if you\u2019re not damaged and as if your heart is still in one piece. Sounds like the perfect recipe for felicidad<\/a>, doesn\u2019t it?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, the problem is that this approach has one fatal flaw: it\u2019s utterly impossible. The things you run away from find a way of catching up with you sooner or later.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes, your old demons come knocking on your door years after you\u2019ve convinced yourself that you were done with them. And once they do, there is no chance of escape.<\/p>\n

De hecho, esta vez, todos tus traumas se vuelven a\u00fan m\u00e1s agonizantes. Despu\u00e9s de todo, este dolor se ha ido acumulando durante a\u00f1os, y ahora se ha convertido en un monstruo con el que tienes que lidiar.<\/p>\n

So at the end of the day, I\u2019m not the tough woman everyone sees me as. I\u2019m not strong.<\/p>\n

Instead, I\u2019ve been the biggest coward of them all. I\u2019ve been weak all along \u2013 too weak to face my emotional aches and even weaker to handle them in a healthy way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por suerte, me di cuenta de todo esto antes de que fuera demasiado tarde. Me di cuenta antes de perder la cordura por completo y a tiempo para hacer las cosas bien.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I\u2019m begging you not to repeat my mistakes. S\u00e9 que mirar tu dolor<\/a> a los ojos da mucho miedo, pero es algo que DEBES hacer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Reprimir tus emociones s\u00f3lo te enviar\u00e1 por un camino sin retorno. El autoenga\u00f1o que practiqu\u00e9 desordenar\u00e1 seriamente tu mente de la misma manera que lo hizo con la m\u00eda.<\/p>\n

One day, you\u2019ll wake up shattered in pieces, feeling like the entire world\u2019s sadness has fallen on your chest.<\/p>\n

And you know what the worst part is? You\u2019ll have no idea what\u2019s going on. Where is this coming from? Why are you feeling like this?<\/p>\n

Tardar\u00e1s en darte cuenta de que tus viejos amigos te est\u00e1n haciendo una visita.<\/p>\n

Tardar\u00e1s un tiempo en darte cuenta de que los pedazos de tu coraz\u00f3n roto en realidad te est\u00e1n apu\u00f1alando desde dentro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When this happens, you\u2019ll have to dig deep into your past to find the source of your emotional bruises.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll have to scratch open those scars and turn them into wounds all over again. But this is the only way you\u2019ll really heal.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not advising you to let your hurt consume you when you get your heart broken. I\u2019m not telling you to allow your torment to become your only focus.<\/p>\n

Pero te guste o no, you\u2019ll have to welcome your pain before you bid it farewell. You\u2019ll have to process your emotions before you leave them in the past, where they belong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo cuando eres capaz de hacerlo puedes llamarte a ti misma una mujer fuerte. S\u00f3lo cuando lo consigas podr\u00e1s curarte para siempre.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you met me, you\u2019d all say the same thing: This girl is a badass. Everyone who knows me thinks the same way about me: I\u2019m not easily bothered. Even my closest friends will tell you this. Whenever we talk about our heartbreaks, they all reach the same conclusion: she\u2019s never grieved for a boy…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":120202,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-120189","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Forcing-Yourself-To-Forget-Is-Not-The-Same-As-Healing-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":316,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":316,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120189","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=120189"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120189\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/120202"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=120189"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=120189"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=120189"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}