{"id":121310,"date":"2020-12-23T17:30:17","date_gmt":"2020-12-23T17:30:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=121310"},"modified":"2021-12-21T09:57:53","modified_gmt":"2021-12-21T09:57:53","slug":"etapas-del-dumper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/etapas-del-dumper\/","title":{"rendered":"Etapas de la ruptura - Dentro de la mente de quien inicia una ruptura"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>\u00bfTe preguntas por qu\u00e9 est\u00e1 pasando la persona que termina una relaci\u00f3n? Estas etapas del abandono te mostrar\u00e1n lo que pasa exactamente por su cabeza.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Antes de escribir nada m\u00e1s, me urge explicar este t\u00e9rmino inusual conocido como <strong>etapas del dumper<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Como su nombre indica, trata de la persona que rompe con alguien y de las etapas t\u00edpicas que atraviesa tras una ruptura.<\/p>\n<p><strong>These stages will help you understand the entire mental and emotional process related to their (dumper&#8217;s) decision to end the relationship (or maybe your decision to end things with someone).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I know the term sounds a little bit harsh, especially if you&#8217;re the one who\u2019s &#8220;dumped&#8221; someone lately, but there&#8217;s nothing to be worried or ashamed about because you\u2019ve entered a neutral, non-judgmental area. (I just made that up, and I&#8217;m really proud of it.)<\/p>\n<p>Bien, ahora tengo una pregunta para ti, amigo m\u00edo: <em><strong>You know that feeling when someone breaks up with you, and you&#8217;re dying to know if they are feeling (at least partially) the same as you?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121457 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer pensativa con top negro sentada al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know about you, but I certainly do. You can&#8217;t help but think that they don&#8217;t care one bit about you and that they are completely indifferent and heartless.<\/p>\n<p>Deseas que sientan lo mismo que t\u00fa, el coraz\u00f3n roto y devastado.<\/p>\n<p>Pues bien, prep\u00e1rese para o\u00edr (l\u00e9ase: leer) algo chocante: <strong>En realidad, los volquetes tambi\u00e9n pasan por <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/etapas-de-la-ruptura\/\">etapas de la ruptura<\/a> de preocupaci\u00f3n, ansiedad, ira, confusi\u00f3n, \u00a1y muchos otros!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>They don&#8217;t just decide overnight that they will break things off and then just do it.<\/p>\n<p>La ruptura es un proceso que tanto el que deja como el que es dejado experimentan de forma diferente pero igualmente confusa y dolorosa.<\/p>\n<p>Las siguientes etapas de la ruptura te explicar\u00e1n c\u00f3mo es todo el proceso de ruptura desde la perspectiva de alguien que la ha iniciado. (Y tambi\u00e9n te ayudar\u00e1n a evitar cometer errores tras la ruptura).<\/p>\n<p>After we&#8217;re done with the dumper stages, we&#8217;ll go through ways on <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/volver-con-alguien-tras-una-ruptura\/\">c\u00f3mo volver con \u00e9xito despu\u00e9s de una ruptura<\/a> o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-superar-a-alguien\/\">c\u00f3mo superar a alguien<\/a>. Est\u00e9n atentos.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapas de la ruptura: 10 Etapas De Una Ruptura Para El Dumper<\/h2>\n<h2>Etapa 1: Ira<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121461 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling.jpg\" alt=\"mujer enfadada gritando cerca de la pared\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>No todos los dumper pasar\u00e1n primero por esta fase porque todo depende de las circunstancias.<\/p>\n<p>Por ejemplo, si te pillan siendo infiel (o si se lo confiesas por tu cuenta) o cualquier otro tipo de traici\u00f3n, experimentar\u00e1n ira.<\/p>\n<p>Este ser\u00e1 el llamado <strong>CATALIZADOR<\/strong> (lo que les motiv\u00f3 a terminar la relaci\u00f3n).<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>B\u00e1sicamente, hay dos cosas que puedes esperar en esta etapa, y son un arrebato repentino de ira (como la etapa implica) o el tratamiento silencioso.<\/p>\n<p>El comportamiento de la persona que abandona depende de su personalidad general y de sus mecanismos de afrontamiento.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando se sienten heridas o traicionadas, algunas personas se niegan a hablar de ello e ignoran a la otra persona, mientras que otras (individuos temperamentales) tienden a mostrar ira.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 2: Preocupaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121463 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree.jpg\" alt=\"mujer preocupada con camiseta blanca sentada cerca de un \u00e1rbol\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>En esta fase, la persona que abandona la relaci\u00f3n puede empezar a preocuparse por poner fin a la relaci\u00f3n o por encontrar la mejor manera de hacerlo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pueden empezar a pensar demasiado y sentirse preocupados por perder a la otra persona.<\/strong> (especialmente si ten\u00edas una relaci\u00f3n duradera).<\/p>\n<p>Tambi\u00e9n puede preocuparles c\u00f3mo llevar\u00e1s la ruptura y c\u00f3mo afectar\u00e1 todo esto a vuestra amistad (en caso de que decid\u00e1is seguir siendo amigos).<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/me-ha-bloqueado-que-significa\/\">Me ha bloqueado: Qu\u00e9 significa y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>En esta etapa se piensa m\u00e1s que se act\u00faa.<\/p>\n<p>El dumper se har\u00e1 las siguientes preguntas y otras similares: <em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/debo-romper-con-mi-novio-21-senales-de-alarma-que-indican-que-debes-hacerlo\/\">\u00bfDeber\u00eda romper con mi novio?<\/a> o novia? \u00bfC\u00f3mo debo hacerlo? \u00bfDebo enviarle un mensaje de texto o hacerlo en persona?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>La mayor parte del tiempo, estar\u00e1n ocupados en encontrar la manera perfecta de acabar con las cosas mientras se preocupan tambi\u00e9n por si es lo correcto en primer lugar.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 3: Ansiedad<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121465 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste con top negro sujet\u00e1ndose las rodillas\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta etapa es similar a la anterior, y la \u00fanica diferencia es que la preocupaci\u00f3n se intensifica de repente y se convierte en pensamientos ansiosos. Este es exactamente el momento en el que la ruptura golpea a quien la sufre.<\/p>\n<p>Empezar\u00e1n a idear un plan de ruptura y a pensar en las mejores formas de hacerlo.<\/p>\n<p>Pensar\u00e1n en detalle cosas como cu\u00e1l ser\u00eda el mejor momento para romper contigo, y qu\u00e9 deber\u00edan decirte exactamente, etc.<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Puede esperar que la persona que le ha abandonado est\u00e9 nerviosa, preocupada, ansiosa y tambi\u00e9n que act\u00fae de forma extra\u00f1a a su alrededor. <strong>At some point, you might think that everything is alright, but this won&#8217;t last for long.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After some time, you&#8217;ll realize that things are not as they seem.<\/p>\n<p>All this &#8220;drama&#8221; will make you feel nervous as well. I remember asking myself tons of questions like: <em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/se-esta-alejando-o-esta-rompiendo-contigo\/\">\u00bfSe est\u00e1 alejando o rompiendo<\/a> \u00bfconmigo?<\/em> <em>\u00bfQu\u00e9 est\u00e1 pasando EXACTAMENTE aqu\u00ed?<\/em> Estaba totalmente asustada.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 4: Alivio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121475 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con camisa vaquera de pie en la orilla mirando al oc\u00e9ano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I like to call this stage &#8216;the post-climax stage.\u2019 The breakup is finally over, and the dumper feels some kind of relief even if they are still not 100% sure that they did the right thing.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Even though there is a huge relief and they feel a weight off their shoulders, dumpers still don&#8217;t feel happy about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The only thing they are &#8220;happy&#8221; about is that they no longer need to overthink things like <em>\u00bfDeber\u00eda romper con ellos o no?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>They realize that there&#8217;s no use crying over spilled milk. Or, better said, that&#8217;s how they feel at this stage, but later on, things might change drastically.<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Es posible que reciba un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/textos-de-ruptura\/\">texto de ruptura<\/a>, a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/una-carta-de-ruptura-al-hombre-que-no-quiero-dejar-ir\/\">carta de ruptura<\/a>, or get dumped in person. Once that happens, you&#8217;re officially no longer together, but there&#8217;s no need to feel bad about it just yet.<\/p>\n<p>En las siguientes etapas, las cosas se pondr\u00e1n m\u00e1s complicadas para el dumper, y si tienes intenci\u00f3n de volver con \u00e9l, a\u00fan puedes convencerle de que <strong>romper contigo fue un error.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But, if you intend on moving on, then forget about what I&#8217;ve just written.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 5: Experimento<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121476 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl.jpg\" alt=\"mujer pintando cuenco de ceramica sentada a la mesa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta es una de las etapas m\u00e1s interesantes de una ruptura para el que la abandona.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when the dumper starts <strong>experimentar y aplicar cosas nuevas en su vida<\/strong>como un nuevo peinado, nuevos amigos, ropa nueva, nuevas aficiones, etc.<\/p>\n<p>If the woman is the dumper, I know for a fact that the first thing she&#8217;ll do is change her hairstyle. You&#8217;ve probably seen this multiple times in movies and series.<\/p>\n<p>Un nuevo peinado suele simbolizar un nuevo comienzo para las mujeres.<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>You probably didn&#8217;t know that the dumper will try not to think about you at this stage, but it will be tough for them not to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Se preocupar\u00e1n por otras cosas para no tenerte en mente.<\/p>\n<p>Algunos tambi\u00e9n pueden entrar en relaciones de rebote, pensando que esto les ayudar\u00e1 a olvidarte m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido y a impulsar el proceso de curaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/los-evitadores-se-arrepienten-de-haber-roto\/\">\u00bfLas personas que evitan las cosas se arrepienten de haber roto y por qu\u00e9 lo dejan?<\/a>?<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 6: Compasi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121477 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sosteniendo un encendedor sentada en un banco al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta etapa implica simpat\u00eda. Lo creas o no, se sentir\u00e1n tristes por ti.<\/p>\n<p>Aunque piensen que tomaron la decisi\u00f3n correcta y que poner fin a vuestra relaci\u00f3n era algo que hab\u00eda que hacer, <strong>seguir\u00e1n sinti\u00e9ndose mal por hacerlo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tal vez desear\u00edan haber acabado las cosas de otra manera.<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Given that they&#8217;ll feel guilty and bad about ending things, they might decide to reach out to you just to make sure that you&#8217;re okay.<\/p>\n<p>They might want to talk about your relationship and how everything could have been different. If you&#8217;re determined to move on, then it&#8217;s best to apply the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/8-razones-por-las-que-es-importante-respetar-la-regla-del-no-contacto\/\">norma de no contacto<\/a> en esta fase.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 7: Nostalgia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121478 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer pensativa con camisa a cuadros mirando por la ventana\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ah, esa dulce nostalgia que, en alg\u00fan momento, siempre consigue golpear incluso a los m\u00e1s fuertes.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re wondering about at which stage the dumper starts missing the dumpee, it often happens at this stage. <strong>Todo les recordar\u00e1 a ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Es posible que al ver un animal determinado piensen inmediatamente en ti por algo que dijiste una vez sobre ese animal.<\/p>\n<p>O puede que vean tu caramelo favorito y les recuerde a ti. Te haces una idea, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>You may be feeling the same way as them at this stage, and it&#8217;s up to you if you&#8217;re going to show them that you still care or wait for them to do that.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando la nostalgia haga acto de presencia, es posible que la persona que te dej\u00f3 decida enviarte un mensaje de texto o llamarte para decirte lo mucho que te echa de menos. Pero ten en cuenta que esto rara vez ocurre en esta etapa.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 8: Confusi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121479 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con camiseta blanca pensando en interiores\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve practiced the no contact rule, the dumper will find themself in a state of confusion, wondering what exactly is going on in your head.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve deleted them from social media, deleted their number, and haven&#8217;t contacted them since, they will start worrying that you\u2019ve already moved on with your life. They will want to know if that&#8217;s true.<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>The dumper may be thinking about why you haven&#8217;t contacted them. They might start thinking that you\u2019ve already met someone new.<\/p>\n<p>En esta etapa, sentir\u00e1n una fuerte necesidad de ponerse en contacto contigo. Esta es una de las etapas de abandono en las que puedes esperar que te echen MUCHO de menos y que sientan curiosidad por tu vida en general.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 9: Duda o arrepentimiento<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121482 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer toc\u00e1ndose la cara mientras est\u00e1 sentada bajo techo\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta etapa tambi\u00e9n pertenece a las categor\u00edas: etapas del remordimiento del dumpee o etapas del duelo. Apuesto a que es la etapa favorita de todos los dejados. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n<p>Porque durante esta etapa, <strong>Los que rompen empiezan a arrepentirse de haber terminado y a preocuparse por si la ruptura fue la decisi\u00f3n correcta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The fact that they have no idea how you&#8217;re feeling and what you&#8217;ve been doing so far only makes things worse for them (and better for you, if you&#8217;re the dumpee, of course).<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>If they haven&#8217;t reached out to you in the previous stage but were thinking about doing it, the chances are high that they&#8217;ll do so at this stage.<\/p>\n<p>Una vez que se armen de valor (o si se arman de valor), dar\u00e1n el primer paso y admitir\u00e1n que romper contigo fue un gran error.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 10: Aceptaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121484 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en un banco mirando al mar\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta etapa consiste en aceptar dos resultados posibles: <strong>conciliaci\u00f3n<\/strong> o <strong>seguir adelante<\/strong>. Obviously, if the two of you don&#8217;t succeed in reconciling your relationship, moving on becomes inevitable.<\/p>\n<p>Contrary to the above dumper stages, the last stage is often the most painful if things don&#8217;t go as planned or expected.<\/p>\n<h3>Qu\u00e9 esperar en esta fase<\/h3>\n<p>If the dumper (your ex) has successfully moved on, then it&#8217;s time for you to do the same. If you managed to get back together after the breakup, then some serious work will need to be done.<\/p>\n<p>Ambos miembros de la pareja tendr\u00e1n que estar dispuestos a trabajar en s\u00ed mismos y centrarse en las cosas que eran cr\u00edticas en su relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the only way to establish a happy and healthy relationship and prevent future <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/los-6-problemas-de-pareja-mas-comunes-que-no-tienen-arreglo-2\/\">problemas de pareja<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>C\u00f3mo volver a estar juntos tras una ruptura<\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Reflexione sobre su relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121485 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en el cristal de una ventana mirando al exterior\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re thinking about getting back together, this is the most important step in your reconciliation journey. You need to think about the reasons why you two broke up in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>Tambi\u00e9n hay que pensar en las cosas que hay que mejorar en la relaci\u00f3n (incluidos los propios defectos). B\u00e1sicamente, ambos miembros de la pareja deben reflexionar sobre la relaci\u00f3n y sobre s\u00ed mismos.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Tener un periodo de no contacto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121489 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sosteniendo un smartphone sentada en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>To better reflect on your relationship, you&#8217;ll need to have a no contact period, also known as the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/regla-de-no-contacto-el-poder-del-silencio\/\">el poder del silencio tras una ruptura<\/a>. Tambi\u00e9n puedes pensar en el futuro.<\/p>\n<p>La primera vez que tuve que romper con un chico, estaba en contra de la regla de no contacto, lo que empeor\u00f3 a\u00fan m\u00e1s las cosas.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t make the same mistake. Give yourself some time to think about how you can improve things and if they are worth improving in the first place.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Sea sincero consigo mismo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121490 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer apoyada en la mesa sentada en un caf\u00e9\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00bfReanudar la relaci\u00f3n es realmente lo que quieres en este momento? \u00bfCrees que tu relaci\u00f3n merece una segunda oportunidad? Si tu respuesta a ambas preguntas es afirmativa, \u00a1adelante!<\/p>\n<p>But, if you&#8217;re having second thoughts about reconciling with your ex, you shouldn&#8217;t rush into it.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00e9 sincero contigo mismo. <strong>Do you want to get back together just because you&#8217;re feeling lonely, or do you truly still care about them?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, it&#8217;s really hard to differentiate between these two. But, after the no contact period, things should be much clearer to you than they were before.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/como-afrontar-el-desamor\/\">C\u00f3mo afrontar el desamor: 15 maneras probadas de curar el dolor de coraz\u00f3n<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ponte en contacto con tu ex (o espera a que \u00e9l d\u00e9 el primer paso)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121493 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con el pelo rizado utilizando el tel\u00e9fono inteligente mientras se est\u00e1 sentado al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you want to get your ex back, well, then you&#8217;ll need to get in touch with them. It&#8217;s up to you how you&#8217;ll choose to do that. You can either text them, call them, or visit them.<\/p>\n<p>Sea cual sea el m\u00e9todo que prefieras, ten en cuenta que nunca debes rogarles que vuelvan contigo si ellos mismos no est\u00e1n dispuestos a hacerlo.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando un chico rompi\u00f3 conmigo, recuerdo que una de mis amigas me dijo: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/por-que-deberias-dejar-que-se-acerque-a-ti-tras-una-ruptura\/\">Deja que acuda a ti tras una ruptura<\/a>\u00a1! As\u00ed que les hice caso. Esper\u00e9 a que viniera a m\u00ed despu\u00e9s de la ruptura, y eso nunca sucedi\u00f3.<\/p>\n<p>So, I&#8217;ve decided to be the one who makes the first move. To my surprise, everything went smoothly, and after some time we were officially back together again!<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Asumir la responsabilidad<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121497 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer hablando sentados en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Avoid playing the \u201cwrong and right\u201d game. Remember that no one is wrong and no one is right here. Both of you need to take responsibility for your actions and words.<\/p>\n<p>Es necesario reconocer la <strong>patrones t\u00f3xicos en su relaci\u00f3n<\/strong> y trabaja en tu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/asi-es-como-actuas-en-el-amor-segun-tu-estilo-de-apego\/\">estilos de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a>. En pocas palabras, \u00a1asuma su responsabilidad y act\u00fae en consecuencia!<\/p>\n<p>Dicen que hacen falta dos para bailar un tango. Pues bien, tambi\u00e9n hacen falta dos para luchar por una relaci\u00f3n, as\u00ed que arrem\u00e1ngate y cree que puedes hacerlo.<\/p>\n<h2>C\u00f3mo seguir adelante tras una ruptura<\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Accept that the relationship is over and there&#8217;s no going back<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121502 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en una roca mirando el agua\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re determined to move on with your life, the first step is accepting that the relationship is over. Don&#8217;t get stuck on all of the \u2018what ifs?\u2019. Once you decide to let go, stay focused, and don&#8217;t lose hope.<\/p>\n<p>Acepta el hecho de que lo que tuviste fue hermoso mientras dur\u00f3, y ahora ya no existe. Al\u00e9jate de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/el-malvado-arte-de-echar-la-culpa-a-otros\/\">echar la culpa a otros<\/a> y c\u00e9ntrate en otras cosas de tu vida.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don&#8217;t suppress your emotions<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121504 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer llorando cerca de un escaparate\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Allow yourself to experience the period of grieving the end of the relationship. Whatever you do, don&#8217;t suppress your emotions. Cry out loud if you need, scream, yell, and so on.<\/p>\n<p>Encuentre alguna inspiraci\u00f3n <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/135-frases-inspiradoras-sobre-rupturas-que-te-ayudaran-a-sanar-tu-corazon-roto\/\">frases de ruptura<\/a> that perfectly express how you&#8217;re feeling at the moment. Express yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Baila, dibuja, canta (si puedes), date un atrac\u00f3n de esas pel\u00edculas rom\u00e1nticas que te rompen el coraz\u00f3n y llora con tus actores\/actrices favoritos.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mant\u00e9n las distancias con tu ex<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121510 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con camiseta blanca sentada en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Y, s\u00ed, mant\u00e9n las distancias con tu ex novio o ex novia.<\/p>\n<p>Esto no hace falta decirlo: Nada de redes sociales, nada de llamadas telef\u00f3nicas (sobre todo de borrachos) y nada de mensajes (estar aburrido no es excusa para mandar mensajes a tu ex).<\/p>\n<p>Lo \u00faltimo que necesitas es que tu ex-pareja te haga la migaja (te enga\u00f1e), as\u00ed que lo mejor que puedes hacer es mantenerte alejado de ella u observarla desde una distancia prudencial (si es realmente necesario). Es broma.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t do that either.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Encontrar la fuerza para perdonar<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121511 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con jersey negro de cuello alto sentada cerca de un lago\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>This one will probably be the hardest for you, but to move on with your life, you need to find the strength to forgive them for all the bad things they&#8217;ve done to you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>En el n\u00facleo de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/superar-el-desamor\/\">superar el desamor<\/a> es encontrar la fuerza para perdonar.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But, you shouldn&#8217;t only forgive your ex. You should also learn to forgive yourself. Don&#8217;t think that you&#8217;re the only one to blame for things not working out.<\/p>\n<p>Hay muchos factores que influyen en una ruptura, as\u00ed que culparte s\u00f3lo a ti mismo ser\u00eda una tonter\u00eda.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Trabajar en la superaci\u00f3n personal<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121518 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con jersey gris mirando al oceano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Do you know what the best way to turn a breakup in your favor is? By reflecting on your relationship and focusing on improving yourself, so you don&#8217;t repeat the same mistakes (if there were any).<\/p>\n<p>Esto tambi\u00e9n te ayudar\u00e1 a aumentar tu autoestima, que es exactamente lo que necesitas en este momento.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/7-maneras-de-hacer-que-se-arrepienta-de-haberte-dejado\/\">7 maneras de hacer que se arrepienta de haberte dejado<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ac\u00e9rcate a tus amigos y familiares<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121519 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer hablando con mujer sentada a la mesa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t shy away from reaching out to your best friends and family members during these tough times. I&#8217;m sure they&#8217;ll be more than happy to listen to you and to help you get through the breakup.<\/p>\n<p>Also, I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;d do the same for them.<\/p>\n<p>A veces, una sola conversaci\u00f3n significativa con tus seres queridos puede cambiar dr\u00e1sticamente tu perspectiva de las cosas y, como resultado, ayudarte a seguir adelante con tu vida m\u00e1s r\u00e1pidamente.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Haz las cosas que te hacen feliz<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121520 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog.jpg\" alt=\"mujer acariciando a un perro tumbada en la cama\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Descubre nuevas pasiones, encuentra nuevas aficiones, haz nuevos amigos, consigue una mascota. B\u00e1sicamente, haz las cosas que te hacen FELIZ. Piensa en todas las actividades y cosas divertidas que sol\u00edas hacer antes de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Now is the right time to bring them back to life. It&#8217;s time to find yourself again, and you&#8217;ll do that by reconnecting with your old self.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Start dating others (when you&#8217;re ready)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121521 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer tomando cafe sentados al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Recuerde<\/strong>: Don&#8217;t jump into a new relationship until you&#8217;ve healed from the last relationship. Take some time to grieve, focus on yourself, and when you&#8217;re ready, start dating others.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t force yourself to do anything that you&#8217;re not comfortable with. Every single one of us moves at our own pace when it comes to healing. Some of us need more time to start dating others, and that&#8217;s okay. Just<\/p>\n<p>listen to yourself, and I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ll make the right decision.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mantente ocupado<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121522 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv.jpg\" alt=\"mujer viendo la tele sentada en el sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>To be able to move on, you need to distract yourself from your old relationship. This is the one thing that you&#8217;ll hear from every relationship expert out there.<\/p>\n<p>Por ejemplo, cuando estaba en proceso de mudarme, me gustaba ver v\u00eddeos divertidos de gatos en Reddit, ver series populares en Netflix y dibujar.<\/p>\n<p>Todo esto me ayud\u00f3 a NO pensar en mi ex sino a centrarme en estar en el momento.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s what you need to do as well. <strong>En lugar de pensar en el pasado, hay que centrarse en el presente.<\/strong> Tienes que hacer cosas que te hagan feliz (o, al menos, parcialmente feliz) en ese momento.<\/p>\n<p>Recuerdo la \u00faltima vez que vi a mi ex y me di cuenta de que mis sentimientos por \u00e9l se hab\u00edan desvanecido por completo. Ocuparme de diferentes actividades me ayud\u00f3 a conseguirlo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Remember that there&#8217;s someone out there who is right for you<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121524 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer mirando a la monta\u00f1a mientras est\u00e1 de pie en la terraza\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Just because this relationship failed doesn&#8217;t mean that you&#8217;ll be doomed forever. Accept the fact that everything happens for a reason.<\/p>\n<p>Acepta ese hecho y sabe que hay alguien ah\u00ed fuera esper\u00e1ndote. <em><strong>You are one heartbreak closer to being with the person you are meant to be with. \u2013 Unknown<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Hay alguien ah\u00ed fuera que ser\u00e1 el Elegido para ti, pero primero necesitas conocer a unos cuantos equivocados para conocerlo finalmente.<\/p>\n<p>You might think that your ex was the only right person for you, and now that they&#8217;re gone, you&#8217;ll never meet anyone like them.<\/p>\n<p>I used to think that, too. But now, I finally see how mistaken I was. I&#8217;ve never been a fan of that clich\u00e9 saying: <em>You&#8217;ll find true love when you least expect it.<\/em> But I now have to admit that it&#8217;s true.<\/p>\n<p><strong>P.D.<\/strong> La pr\u00f3xima vez que empieces a preguntarte c\u00f3mo se siente realmente tu ex sobre la ruptura, acu\u00e9rdate de estas etapas del abandono. Y si quieres que vuelva, \u00a1la regla del no contacto ser\u00e1 tu mejor amiga!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Wondering what the one who ends a relationship is going through? These dumper stages will show you what exactly is going on inside their head! Before I write anything else, I have the urge to explain this unusual term known as dumper stages. As the name implies, it is about the dumper (the person who&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":121450,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-121310","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Dumper-Stages-Inside-The-Mind-Of-The-One-Who-Initiates-A-Breakup-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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