{"id":121767,"date":"2021-01-04T14:22:39","date_gmt":"2021-01-04T14:22:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=121767"},"modified":"2022-09-20T08:41:11","modified_gmt":"2022-09-20T08:41:11","slug":"por-que-mi-ex-no-ha-intentado-ponerse-en-contacto-conmigo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-mi-ex-no-ha-intentado-ponerse-en-contacto-conmigo\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 mi ex no ha intentado ponerse en contacto conmigo (+C\u00f3mo recuperarlo)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the biggest questions known to mankind is &#8220;Why hasn&#8217;t my ex tried to contact me?&#8221; I know we&#8217;ve all been there, so you&#8217;re familiar with the drill.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you don&#8217;t ask yourself this the very next day after the break-up.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, en el momento en que tu cabeza se enfr\u00ede un poco, <strong>caes en un abismo interminable de incertidumbre, anticipaci\u00f3n y exceso de pensamiento.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t matter if you&#8217;re a dumpee or a dumper \u2013 either way, you&#8217;ll wonder the same things over and over again.<\/p>\n<p>Why hasn&#8217;t my ex tried to contact me? Are they over me so quickly?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfTienen previsto llamar? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo lo har\u00e1n? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo ver\u00e9 su nombre en la pantalla de mi tel\u00e9fono? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo terminar\u00e1n mis tormentos?<\/p>\n<p>Well, luckily for you, a relationship expert has the answers to all of your questions. Not only that: you&#8217;ll also get a step-by-step guide on how to make your ex reach out first.<\/p>\n<h2>10 Brutally Honest Reasons Why Your Ex Hasn&#8217;t Reached Out<\/h2>\n<p>I&#8217;m warning you: you won&#8217;t be happy to hear some of the reasons listed below. But hey, it&#8217;s always better to know the truth than to keep on living in a lie.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">They&#8217;re as stubborn as a mule.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121789 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con camisa a cuadros sentado al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-outdoor-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dicen que <strong>el orgullo siempre ser\u00e1 la distancia m\u00e1s larga entre dos personas.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Well, knowing this, hearing that the number one reason why people don\u2019t reach out to their exes despite their feelings is that stubbornness won&#8217;t come to you as a surprise.<\/p>\n<p>Es probable que \u00e9ste sea tambi\u00e9n el caso de tu ex novio o ex novia.<\/p>\n<p>Ah\u00ed est\u00e1s, sin noticias suyas. Naturalmente, supones que se han olvidado de que existes y que han dejado de quererte.<\/p>\n<p>Tal vez encontraron a alguien nuevo o nunca se preocuparon por ti en primer lugar.<\/p>\n<p>But, the truth is quite different. In fact, they feel the same way you do \u2013 <strong>they just chose to ignore their heart\u2019s desires.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tu ex ha decidido firmemente no ponerse en contacto contigo. Por supuesto, no muchas personas pueden pasar por sus decisiones.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Si el <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/el-amor-verdadero-se-siente-como-el-hombre-correcto\/\">el amor es real<\/a>tarde o temprano, se dar\u00e1n cuenta de que la terquedad y la estupidez son gemelas.<\/strong> Yes, they\u2019re hurting you with this behavior.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, they\u2019re also breaking their own heart. They\u2019re hurting themselves in the process, and that can\u2019t last for very long.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, this doesn\u2019t apply to everyone. You\u2019re the one who knows this person to the core of their personality.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, you\u2019re the only one who can give the answer to the question: \u201cCan they keep their word?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/que-piensa-durante-la-ausencia-de-contacto-6-pensamientos-mas-comunes2\/\">\u00bfQu\u00e9 piensa \u00e9l durante la ausencia de contacto? (Los 8 pensamientos m\u00e1s comunes)<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>If your ex is just stubborn \u2013 the worst thing you can do is insist on <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/15-poderosas-maneras-de-hacer-que-te-quiera-de-nuevo-en-poco-tiempo\/\">volver a estar juntos<\/a>. This way, they\u2019ll get the impression that their tactic is being fruitful and they\u2019ll just go on with their behavior patterns.<\/p>\n<p>By begging them to come back to you, you\u2019re giving wind to their wings. Instead, just ignore this childish behavior and patiently wait for them to knock on your door.<\/p>\n<p>No obstante, <strong>Hay una gran diferencia entre ser terco y ser decidido. \u00bfEs posible que se hayan decidido por alguna raz\u00f3n?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex decided that they don\u2019t want you back because you two are not compatible, or maybe it\u2019s obvious that you have no future together.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ed, puede que a\u00fan te quieran, pero en este caso, est\u00e1n decididos y tienes pocas posibilidades de hacerles cambiar de opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/me-ha-bloqueado-que-significa\/\">Me ha bloqueado: Qu\u00e9 significa y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">They\u2019re fighting a battle within.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121790 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg\" alt=\"hombre triste con jersey burdeos sentado cerca de una ventana\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-near-window-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you wonder why your ex hasn\u2019t tried to contact you, you don&#8217;t try to take a walk in their shoes. Instead, you focus on your feelings and your own dilemmas.<\/p>\n<p>Mientras tanto, te los imaginas felices y contentos con su vida. Supones que el hecho de que no te llamen equivale a que no piensan en ti en absoluto.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t misunderstand me: there is nothing wrong with your mindset. You\u2019re so overwhelmed with pain that you can\u2019t get a hold of the broader picture, which is perfectly understandable.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But, is it possible that your ex is actually going through the same things you are? Is it possible that they\u2019re fighting a battle within, which nobody has a clue about?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Just because they don\u2019t go around complaining to your mutual friends about you doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019re indifferent.<\/p>\n<p>Just because their social media status updates don\u2019t reveal their sadness doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019re overjoyed with your break-up.<\/p>\n<p>In this case, your ex still hasn\u2019t made up their mind. They\u2019re probably struggling not to call you every single day.<\/p>\n<p>On one hand, they don\u2019t see it as a good idea. They are either afraid of you two splitting up again or they are scared of not getting any positive feedback from you.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, it\u2019s clear that <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/6-senales-de-que-aun-amas-aunque-estes-arruinado\/\">todav\u00eda te quieren<\/a>. Their emotions aren\u2019t going anywhere no matter how much they try to chase them away.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>En este escenario, <strong>no hay nada malo en darle un empujoncito a tu ex.<\/strong> They\u2019re at the crossroads, and you\u2019re the only one who can help them resolve this puzzle in their heart and mind.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying that you should contact them first. But, you can give them a sign that you two still want the same things.<\/p>\n<p>Have someone indirectly tell your ex that you would love to hear from them or just use your social media profiles to your advantage \u2013 whatever it takes to clear their doubts away.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">La ira les invade.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121791 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand.jpg\" alt=\"hombre se cubre la cara con la mano sentado a la mesa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-covering-face-with-hand-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When a relationship ends, it\u2019s a part of human nature to blame the other party for things going downhill. More than anywhere, this happens after romantic breakups.<\/p>\n<p>This attitude doesn\u2019t necessarily make you a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-cosas-que-la-gente-toxica-destruye\/\">persona t\u00f3xica<\/a>. You are just seeing things from your own point of view, and you can\u2019t grasp the idea that you might be the bad guy in the story.<\/p>\n<p>Lo mismo ocurri\u00f3 con tu relaci\u00f3n. Ahora que ha terminado, le echas toda la culpa a tu ex.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, you are convinced that they should be the one to reach out first. So, you\u2019re sitting, overwhelmed with sadness, and wondering why your ex hasn\u2019t tried to contact you.<\/p>\n<p>Al fin y al cabo, cometieron un error y, normalmente, deber\u00edan dar el primer paso. <strong>But, have you ever asked yourself: \u201cWhat if things are actually different?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>This doesn\u2019t have to mean that objectively, you\u2019re guilty of your breakup. Nevertheless, from your ex\u2019s point of view, all the blame is on you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tal vez hiciste algo para ahuyentarlos. Tal vez todav\u00eda tienen fuertes sentimientos por ti, pero est\u00e1n cegados por la ira.<\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that your ex is holding grudges over your actions? Is it possible that they\u2019re full of resentment?<\/p>\n<p>Most importantly: is it possible that they\u2019re not wrong? Is it possible that they have the right to be angry and that you really did something to hurt their feelings?<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>Once you give yourself the answers to these questions, you\u2019ll know what to do. <strong>Please be honest because this is the moment in which you decide your relationship\u2019s destiny.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If your ex is angry without a proper reason \u2013 there is nothing you can do.<\/p>\n<p>Bueno, t\u00e9cnicamente, puedes intentar justificar tus acciones y darles explicaciones, pero cr\u00e9eme, <strong>it\u2019s better to leave them be and give them time to understand how foolish they are.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, si realmente cometiste un error y heriste sus sentimientos de alguna manera, entonces <strong>necesitas disculparte.<\/strong> Don\u2019t beg them for a second chance \u2013 just tell them that you\u2019re sorry.<\/p>\n<p>Y lo m\u00e1s importante: reconoce sus emociones. Hazles saber que comprendes su enfado y que tienen todo el derecho a sentirse as\u00ed.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">They don\u2019t want to be needy.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121792 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta negra de pie en la azotea durante la puesta de sol\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-on-rooftop-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re dealing with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend \u2013 what you have to be aware of is that some people are insecure.<\/p>\n<p>Luchan con baja autoestima y piensan que son <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/8-razones-por-las-que-esta-convencida-de-que-no-esta-hecha-para-ser-amada\/\">no destinado a ser amado<\/a> por mucha atenci\u00f3n y cuidado que les prestes.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, there is a great possibility that your ex doesn\u2019t want to reach out because of one simple reason: they don\u2019t want to appear needy and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/15-rasgos-que-definen-a-una-novia-pegajosa-deshazte-de-ella\/\">pegajoso<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Esto es perfectamente razonable si fuiste t\u00fa quien puso fin a la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>After all, you left them behind and you decided that you couldn\u2019t keep on with your romance, so it\u2019s natural that they don\u2019t want to call you.<\/p>\n<p>En este caso, es probable que tu ex sea un pensador exagerado que necesita alg\u00fan tipo de validaci\u00f3n por tu parte antes de hacer nada.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cada vez que piensan en ponerse en contacto con usted, se les pasan por la cabeza cien escenarios diferentes y cada uno de ellos tiene un resultado negativo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Te ven mirando el tel\u00e9fono e ignorando deliberadamente sus llamadas. Te ven burl\u00e1ndote de ellos y ri\u00e9ndote de sus <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/messages\/texts\/100-adorables-y-dulces-mensajes-de-amor-para-enviar-a-tu-novio\/\">textos de amor<\/a> con tus amigos.<\/p>\n<p>Naturally, they don\u2019t want to look like a pathetic loser who can\u2019t get over you while you moved on ages ago.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want you to think of them as a stalker who refuses to accept that things have been over long ago.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>On the other hand, you and I both know that this couldn\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not just that you wouldn\u2019t think of them as pitiful if they contacted you. Instead, a single phone call coming from this person would make you the happiest person in the world.<\/p>\n<p>Precisamente por eso <strong>tienes que enviarles una peque\u00f1a indirecta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Tienes que encontrar la manera de inspirarles para que acudan a ti.<\/strong> y aseg\u00farate de que sepan que nunca los ver\u00e1s como necesitados o pegajosos, hagan lo que hagan.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Necesitan tiempo para pensar.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121793 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane.jpg\" alt=\"hombre sentado en el cristal de una ventana mirando la ciudad\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-window-pane-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Just because you know where you stand with your emotions doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that your ex is on the same page.<\/p>\n<p>No, this is not the sign that they stopped loving you \u2013 maybe they just don\u2019t know what they want.<\/p>\n<p>You see, this breakup doesn\u2019t have to be final. Instead, you can see it as a break \u2013 a chance for you both to think.<\/p>\n<p>Tu relaci\u00f3n se ha vuelto seria \u00faltimamente. Ahora, tu ex ha llegado a un punto en el que tiene que decidir si se trata de algo serio.<\/p>\n<p>Forget about the fairytales and romantic movies where people know that they\u2019re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/si-dos-personas-estan-destinadas-a-estar-juntas-encontraran-el-camino-de-vuelta\/\">destinado a ser<\/a> desde el principio.<\/p>\n<p>Esto es la vida real y no hay nada malo en que alguien quiera aclarar sus ideas antes de tomar la decisi\u00f3n final.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>Some people find this insulting. After all, you have no doubts about your ex being the one, while they\u2019re having second thoughts. So, it\u2019s clear that you\u2019re the one who <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/7-cosas-que-pasan-cuando-quieres-a-alguien-mas-de-lo-que-te-quieren-a-ti\/\">ama m\u00e1s<\/a>, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to sit around and wait for your ex to make up their mind about you. This kind of situation will leave you humiliated.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to put your life on hold, and that\u2019s your right. You appreciate your dignity over everything else, and nobody can judge you for feeling this way.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, <strong>if you are ready to wait for your ex to think things through, then there is absolutely nothing you can do except \u2013 WAIT.<\/strong> D\u00e9les tiempo para pensar y espere el mejor resultado.<\/p>\n<p>But, don\u2019t give them all the time in the world. Don\u2019t turn into their safety net.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, give yourself a deadline. If they don\u2019t come to you with a decision up to that date, then turn around and never look back.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Juegos mentales.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121794 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2.jpg\" alt=\"hombre usando un smartphone sentado en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-smartphone-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re involved with a toxic guy or girl, every little thing about your relationship is a big mind game.<\/p>\n<p>The worst part is that the drama doesn\u2019t end the moment your relationship does. Instead, it goes on and on for a long time after your breakup.<\/p>\n<p>Actually, your ex doesn\u2019t have to be toxic in order for things to turn out this way. It will be more than enough to have an immature ex who thinks that real love equals an emotional rollercoaster.<\/p>\n<p>Either way, the bottom line is that the answer to your question, \u201cWhy hasn\u2019t my ex tried to contact me?\u201d, is actually pretty simple: they\u2019re playing mind games.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Te guste o no, algunas personas disfrutan con estos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/ex-es-caliente-y-frio\/\">fr\u00edo y calor<\/a> m\u00e1s de lo que disfrutan en una relaci\u00f3n estable.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Si no hay agitaci\u00f3n, pronto entran en la rutina y se aburren en poco tiempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que inician una ruptura s\u00f3lo para que ustedes dos puedan entrar en otro juego del gato y el rat\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re not aware of how unhealthy these <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/reconocer-romper-el-patron-de-distanciamiento-del-perseguidor\/\">patrones de relaci\u00f3n perseguidor-distanciador<\/a> son, y no ven nada malo en este comportamiento mientras les haga sentirse vivos.<\/p>\n<p>Everything is clear: if your ex is prone to these games, then they\u2019re playing them now as well. They\u2019re pretending to be hard to get, and this entire situation amuses them while it\u2019s tearing you apart.<\/p>\n<p>The most difficult part is determining whether they\u2019re really not into you or are just playing. The answer is simple: if they keep on sending you mixed signals, then it is nothing but a game.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>Bien, <strong>it\u2019s time to beat them at their own game.<\/strong> S\u00edgueles el juego y d\u00e9jalos m\u00e1s confundidos que nunca.<\/p>\n<p>Dale la vuelta a la tortilla y ponles en tu lugar: para variar, deja que sean ellos quienes analicen tus movimientos. Act\u00faa de forma incoherente, env\u00edales se\u00f1ales contradictorias y hazles pensar qu\u00e9 es lo que quieres.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, that is, if you enjoy playing. On the other hand, if you\u2019re sick and tired of this kind of relationship, then let your ex have fun on their own.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever you do, just be aware that these people never change. They won\u2019t get enough of their little games no matter what you do.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00e1sicamente, <strong>you have two choices: you\u2019ll either dance along or you\u2019ll dance away.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Relacionado: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-me-odia-mi-ex-cuando-me-dejo\/\">\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 me odia mi ex cuando me dej\u00f3? 13 razones secretas<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">They\u2019re waiting for your move.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121795 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta vaquera sentado en un banco\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-bench-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta va de la mano con la terquedad y el orgullo. La verdad es que tu ex est\u00e1 esperando tu movimiento.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest: you\u2019re trying to come up with different ways to get your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/ex-want-you-back\/\">ex vuelta<\/a>. <strong>You\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes except for one thing: reaching out to them first.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What does this make you? Proud and stubborn, that\u2019s right.<\/p>\n<p>Well, why wouldn\u2019t you consider the possibility that your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend feels the same way?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tal vez <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/senales-de-que-tu-ex-te-esta-esperando\/\">they\u2019re waiting for you to come back<\/a> \u2013 the same way you expect them to show up at your doorstep.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>Parece una situaci\u00f3n en la que todos pierden. <strong>One of you will have to back up; otherwise, you\u2019ll spend eternity waiting for the other person to walk over their pride and make the first step.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Who should do it? Well, the dumper or the one who\u2019s carrying the biggest blame for the breakup (which is usually the same person).<\/p>\n<p>If your ex left you, then you shouldn\u2019t reach out to them first. Otherwise, you\u2019ll always have your doubts.<\/p>\n<p>Even if you two reconcile, you\u2019ll never be sure about their feelings. Would they ever call you if you hadn\u2019t sent them<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/los-7-peores-mensajes-de-texto-para-enviarle-durante-una-pelea\/\"> ese mensaje de texto<\/a> \u00bfdici\u00e9ndoles que les echas de menos?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfSon realmente capaces de vivir sin ti? \u00bfHan vuelto contigo porque te quieren o s\u00f3lo porque les conven\u00edas en un momento dado?<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you\u2019re the one who has made the mistake or if you&#8217;re the dumper \u2013 then you have to be the one to ask for a second chance.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t care whether you\u2019re male or female. Trust me: there is nothing wrong with a woman making the first move.<\/p>\n<p>If you can\u2019t forget your ex despite all of your attempts \u2013 I say go for it. You\u2019re not miserable for trying to get back together with them. Instead, you\u2019re brave for taking this risk.<\/p>\n<p>No matter the outcome, at least you\u2019ll always know that you tried. You won\u2019t spend the rest of your life haunted by all the what ifs.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Esto es venganza.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121796 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor.jpg\" alt=\"hombre enfadado con abrigo negro de pie al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-standing-outdoor-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Once more, it\u2019s time for some introspection. Time to look at things realistically, and be fair and honest towards your behavior in your relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you broke your ex\u2019s heart or left them <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/5-asombrosos-consejos-para-salir-con-un-hombre-emocionalmente-danado\/\">emocionalmente da\u00f1ado<\/a> de alguna manera, entonces que te ignoren podr\u00eda no ser m\u00e1s que una venganza.<\/strong> They\u2019re just giving you a dose of your own medicine.<\/p>\n<p>This person will probably come back to you. But, their pride doesn\u2019t allow this to happen so fast.<br \/>\nEn primer lugar, quieren hacerte da\u00f1o. Quieren que sientas el mismo dolor que ellos sintieron.<\/p>\n<p>They want to show you that you can\u2019t play with their feelings the way you want. Moreover, they want respect.<\/p>\n<p>They want you to understand that they won\u2019t be there for you no matter how you treat them. They want you to realize that counting on them at all times and taking them for granted was the mistake of your life.<\/p>\n<p>Now, you ask yourself if this person even loves you when they\u2019re capable of treating you this way. Well, <strong>if you really did do them harm \u2013 I hate to be the one to tell you, but you had it coming.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Estas son las consecuencias de tus actos. Te mereces este tipo de comportamiento y no tienes derecho a quejarte mucho por ello.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, they love you \u2013 they just love themselves more, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If nothing else, at least you know that they\u2019re not indifferent.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>Your ex\u2019s revenge is not a sign of hatred. They\u2019re not behaving in this manner to chase you away.<br \/>\nEn su lugar, <strong>it is their cry. It&#8217;s their desperate plea for you to change your ways.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So, if you want to get your ex back, you\u2019ll have to show them that you really are different now. Whether you like it or not, <strong>you\u2019ll have to make them think that you\u2019ve learned your lesson.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Cr\u00e9eme: nunca dar\u00e1n una segunda oportunidad a tu relaci\u00f3n hasta que su ego roto vuelva a estar en su sitio.<\/p>\n<p>Y, la \u00fanica manera de que eso ocurra es que vosotros dos se\u00e1is iguales: que ambos est\u00e9is heridos y con el coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3lo cuando tu ex deje de sentirse emocionalmente sumiso y s\u00f3lo cuando tenga la impresi\u00f3n de que su venganza ha concluido, volver\u00e1 a ti.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">They\u2019re trying to heal.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121797 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock.jpg\" alt=\"hombre sentado en el muelle mirando el agua\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-dock-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re wondering: \u201cWhy hasn\u2019t my ex tried to contact me?\u201d, sometimes the answer is that, at the same time, they\u2019re trying to figure out <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/como-seguir-adelante-10-maneras-eficaces-de-dejar-ir-y-sanar\/\">c\u00f3mo seguir adelante<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that they&#8217;re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/norma-de-no-contacto\/\">aplicaci\u00f3n de la norma de no contacto<\/a> para hacerte sentir su ausencia.<\/p>\n<p>No est\u00e1n jugando <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/consejos-increibles-jugar-duro-conseguir-chico\/\">dif\u00edcil de conseguir<\/a>; they\u2019re not doing all of this to make you chase them nor are they waiting for your move. Instead, they\u2019re doing their best to heal their broken heart.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, la forma m\u00e1s eficaz de hacerlo es cortar todos los lazos contigo y con todas las personas relacionadas contigo. <strong>The grieving period is over, and now they\u2019re doing their best to rebuild their life without you in it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Contacting you would mean slipping back. It would mean making two steps backward and ruining all the progress they\u2019ve made so far.<\/p>\n<p>This person is also fighting battles within. But, in this case, they\u2019re not having second thoughts about what to do.<\/p>\n<p>En su lugar, <strong>saben cu\u00e1l es la elecci\u00f3n correcta. Su mente no tiene dudas de que hay que dejarte en el pasado, donde perteneces.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sin embargo, su coraz\u00f3n se niega a obedecer.<\/strong> Te echan de menos y siguen teniendo fuertes sentimientos hacia ti, pero son perfectamente conscientes de que vuestra relaci\u00f3n es <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-maneras-probadas-de-evitar-una-relacion-condenada-al-fracaso\/\">condenado al fracaso<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p>Mirando las cosas desde un punto de vista optimista, tu ex todav\u00eda te quiere. As\u00ed que no todo est\u00e1 perdido.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if they\u2019re determined to make you history, then they\u2019ve made that choice for a valid reason. In that case, you\u2019ll have to fight against real-life circumstances.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know if these are your personality traits, your incompatibility, or something that happened in the past. <strong>Either way, these are the obstacles you\u2019ll have to overcome in order to get to your ex.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Por lo tanto, har\u00e1 falta mucho m\u00e1s que un simple mensaje de texto o una llamada telef\u00f3nica para convencerles de que sigan a su coraz\u00f3n en lugar de a su cerebro.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">They simply don\u2019t care.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121798 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con capucha negra sentado en una superficie de hormig\u00f3n\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-sitting-on-concrete-surface-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Finally, we\u2019ve come to the part you\u2019d rather not hear about. Look, when we love someone, there is always this undying hope that the other person feels the same way about us.<\/p>\n<p>We are human beings and this hope is what keeps us alive. You\u2019re no exception.<\/p>\n<p>From the moment you and your ex broke up, you have kept expecting their return. After all, your emotions for them haven\u2019t changed a bit.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, they might have even grown stronger. Now that you\u2019re forced to live without them, you realize how much this person actually means to you.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que.., <strong>pasas por todos los escenarios posibles menos por el de que tu ex se haya desenamorado de ti. Oye, perdona que te rompa la burbuja, pero estas cosas tambi\u00e9n pasan, lo sabes, \u00bfverdad?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, there are no mixed signals \u2013 no applying the no contact rule to get you back, no hidden messages, and no mind games. <strong>Sometimes, they\u2019re just <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/10-senales-de-que-ya-no-le-gustas\/\">ya no me gustas<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>S\u00e9 que esta persona te am\u00f3 hasta la luna y de vuelta. Ustedes dos compartieron tantos buenos recuerdos y se juraron amor eterno.<\/p>\n<p>But, all of that is sadly over. Maybe they stopped loving you while you two were together, or else the time apart showed them that they\u2019re better off without you. Either way \u2013 <strong>sus emociones est\u00e1n muertas.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionarlo?<\/h3>\n<p><strong>That doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t revive them<\/strong>\u00bfes as\u00ed? En primer lugar, tienes que averiguar si tu ex tiene una nueva relaci\u00f3n o no.<\/p>\n<p>If they\u2019re still single, you won\u2019t have a hard time winning them back. You just have to remind them of all the reasons why they fell in love with you.<\/p>\n<p>Be the person you were at the beginning of your relationship and they\u2019ll be all yours in no time. On the other hand, if they are dating someone new, get to the bottom of this romance.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfEs una relaci\u00f3n seria? \u00bfEs a distancia o est\u00e1n viendo a su nueva novia o novio todo el tiempo?<br \/>\n\u00bfSon exclusivos? \u00bfCu\u00e1nto duran?<\/p>\n<p>Most importantly: is this just a rebound relationship? Is your ex using this person as a cover for their self-deceptions in which they\u2019re over you?<\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, then you\u2019ll just have to show them that you\u2019re nowhere to be found. They can spend a lifetime <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/saber-todavia-buscando-cada-mujer\/\">busc\u00e1ndote en otras mujeres<\/a> or men, but you\u2019re one of a kind.<\/p>\n<p>No obstante, prep\u00e1rate para un escenario en el que realmente hayan encontrado al amor de su vida.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe they\u2019ve met their soulmate, and if that is so, then all you can do is let go. Let them be happy without intruding as much as it might hurt.<\/p>\n<h2>Nueve trucos m\u00e1gicos para que tu ex se acerque a ti<\/h2>\n<p>Now that you got your question, \u201cWhy hasn&#8217;t my ex tried to contact me,\u201d answered, it&#8217;s time to get the job done all the way.<\/p>\n<p>Esta es la gu\u00eda definitiva para conseguir que tu ex d\u00e9 el primer paso sin que t\u00fa tengas que hacer nada.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Echa un vistazo realista a tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121799 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con gafas sentada en interior\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-indoor-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Now that you&#8217;ve survived the first few months of no contact with your ex, you&#8217;re no longer impassioned by everything that has happened. At least, you shouldn&#8217;t be.<\/p>\n<p>This doesn&#8217;t mean that you&#8217;re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-olvidar-a-un-chico-14-pasos-que-te-ayudaran-a-olvidarle-en-poco-tiempo\/\">sobre ellos<\/a> \u2013 it&#8217;s just that this no contact period was a chance to observe your relationship from a safe time distance.<\/p>\n<p>For the first time ever, you&#8217;re no longer blinded by the love you feel for them.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, after a lot of time, you can answer the ultimate question: &#8220;Can you imagine your life with this person by your side?&#8221; I&#8217;m begging you to disregard your ego now.<\/p>\n<p>Olv\u00eddate de qui\u00e9n dej\u00f3 a qui\u00e9n. Olv\u00eddate de la venganza y el cierre.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Haz todo lo posible por averiguar si realmente quieres <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/15-poderosas-maneras-de-hacer-que-te-quiera-de-nuevo-en-poco-tiempo\/\">volver con la persona amada<\/a>.<\/strong> \u00bfTe ves capaz de superarlos pronto? O, \u00bfrealmente los ves como el <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/como-saber-que-es-el-indicado-10-senales-de-que-es-el-amor-de-tu-vida\/\">el amor de tu vida<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Now that we have that covered, it&#8217;s time to rethink the breakup. Let&#8217;s try and disregard your emotions here.<\/p>\n<p>El hecho es que ustedes dos rompieron por una raz\u00f3n. \u00bfCu\u00e1l fue esa raz\u00f3n? Y lo m\u00e1s importante: \u00bfes algo que se puede arreglar?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ver\u00e1s, hay una gran diferencia entre romper en caliente y hacerlo porque tu relaci\u00f3n estaba destrozada desde hace tiempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Maybe you two had an argument that went too far. Maybe you can&#8217;t even remember how it all started. But, some things were said, you&#8217;re both proud, and just like that, your two-year relationship has ended.<\/p>\n<p>In this case, getting back together is the right choice. As soon as one of you makes the first step, you&#8217;ll make your relationship work in no time.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, it&#8217;s completely different if you split ways for a reasonable cause. It&#8217;s different if there are red flags indicating that your romance can&#8217;t succeed, but you just refused to see them.<\/p>\n<p>If this is what happened, then ask yourself whether this time will be any different. Pretend that you&#8217;re giving a piece of advice to a friend.<\/p>\n<p>Si alguien te contara tu historia de amor, \u00bfle aconsejar\u00edas que intentara <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-arreglar-una-relacion-rota\/\">arreglar su relaci\u00f3n rota<\/a>? Or, would you tell them to let go of the love they feel and accept the fact that it&#8217;s over?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mej\u00f3rate a ti mismo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121800 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer feliz toc\u00e1ndose el pelo de pie al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-hair-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The no contact period isn&#8217;t there just to make your ex miss you. Instead, it should serve you a chance to work on yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de todo, <strong>the worst thing you can do is put your life on hold while you&#8217;re waiting for things to go back to their old ways.<\/strong> Mueve tu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/permanecer-soltero-hasta-que-este\/\">vida de soltero<\/a> y sacarle el m\u00e1ximo partido.<\/p>\n<p>You haven&#8217;t seen or heard from your ex in ages, so you guess they can&#8217;t possibly know whether you&#8217;re crying yourself to sleep or enjoying every moment like it&#8217;s your last. But, trust me, you&#8217;re wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you believe it or not, they do feel your vibe. They will sense if you&#8217;re desperate, and that will just chase them away even further.<\/p>\n<p><strong>How many times have you heard stories of people reappearing in their exes lives the moment they forgot all about them? Well, that&#8217;s the energy I&#8217;m talking about.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If your ex notices or senses that you&#8217;ve moved on with your life, fear will awaken inside of them. They&#8217;ll get scared that you&#8217;re moving on from them.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;ll start to feel replaceable, and they&#8217;ll do everything in their power to prevent you from forgetting all about them. Sounds toxic, I know, but this is the effect you want to achieve.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, even if you don&#8217;t make your failed relationship work, at least you&#8217;ll know you&#8217;ve used this period for something good.<\/p>\n<p>You didn&#8217;t waste your time looking at your phone and expecting a text message that would never come.<br \/>\nEn lugar de eso, te reconstruiste a ti mismo. Te convertiste en la persona que deb\u00edas ser desde el principio.<\/p>\n<p>Y lo mejor es que cuando te cuidas, tambi\u00e9n trabajas tu autoestima.<\/p>\n<p>Aprovecha este tiempo para centrarte en tus cualidades. <strong>I&#8217;m not forcing you to stop loving your ex \u2013 just start loving yourself more.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Cr\u00e9eme: en cuanto se den cuenta, te seguir\u00e1n y por fin te dar\u00e1n el trato que te mereces.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t be at arm\u2019s reach.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121801 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con camisa blanca sentada en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-5-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Once you build your self-esteem, you&#8217;ll understand the importance of not being too available to your ex. Look, they&#8217;re just a human being, and we human beings are actually pretty simple.<\/p>\n<p>En cuanto vemos que podemos tener a alguien cuando nos apetece, esa persona deja de ser interesante.<\/p>\n<p>The moment your ex sees that they don&#8217;t have to put effort into having you back \u2013 they&#8217;ll start taking you for granted.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why would they waste their energy in fighting for you when you&#8217;re always at arm&#8217;s reach? Instead, they&#8217;ll continue enjoying their single life and exploring their options.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After all, no matter what happens and no matter how much time goes by, you&#8217;ll always be there patiently waiting for them.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ll welcome them back in your life open-handedly as if they left last week and not last year.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m sure you get the picture. They are very sure that they&#8217;ll never lose you and that there is nothing they can do to make you stop loving them.<\/p>\n<p>Por eso debes sacudir su mundo. Tu ex tiene que sentir tu ausencia para apreciar tu presencia.<\/p>\n<p>Tienes que hacerlos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/16-maneras-eficaces-de-perder-la-preocupacion\/\">me preocupa perderte<\/a> permanentemente.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Convierte las redes sociales en tu arma de destrucci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121802 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4.jpg\" alt=\"mujer rubia utilizando el tel\u00e9fono inteligente mientras est\u00e1 sentado en el caf\u00e9\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-4-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Las redes sociales son una parte importante de toda relaci\u00f3n. Pero son a\u00fan m\u00e1s importantes en el momento en que una relaci\u00f3n termina.<\/p>\n<p>Por lo tanto, si me preguntas si deber\u00edas dejar de seguir a tu ex, la respuesta siempre ser\u00e1 no. Por supuesto, a menos que a\u00fan quieras que vuelvan.<\/p>\n<p>Tienes que utilizar las redes sociales como arma principal. B\u00e1sicamente, tus perfiles te dan la oportunidad de cambiar las tornas a tu favor sin moverte de la cama.<\/p>\n<p>Las opciones son infinitas. <strong>You can make your ex jealous while sitting in your PJs. You can make them wonder if you&#8217;ve moved on without actually moving an inch.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The crucial thing here is to play your cards right. Please, don&#8217;t even think of posting sad status updates or songs that remind you of your ex.<\/p>\n<p>By doing this, they&#8217;ll see you as desperate. Besides, you&#8217;ll look like a coward. It&#8217;s more than obvious that you miss them like hell, but you&#8217;re not doing anything about it.<\/p>\n<p>En su lugar, <strong>use social media to make your ex realize that you&#8217;re living your best life.<\/strong> Post selfies with a huge smile on your face, go out as much as you can, and don&#8217;t forget to travel.<\/p>\n<p>But, don&#8217;t forget to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/her-and-him\/como-provocar-a-una-chica\/\">burlarse de ellos<\/a> tambi\u00e9n. Publica algo que les haga pensar. \u00bfLa canci\u00f3n que aparece en el fondo de tu v\u00eddeo es una coincidencia? \u00bfO les est\u00e1s enviando un mensaje?<\/p>\n<p>Is that your new boyfriend or girlfriend&#8217;s arm in that new photo you posted? Or, are you out with your best friend as usual?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfLlevas a prop\u00f3sito esa camiseta que llevabas la \u00faltima vez que estuvisteis juntos? O, \u00bfest\u00e1n pensando demasiado e imaginando cosas?<\/p>\n<p>The examples are endless, but I&#8217;m sure you get the point. Your final goal is to make your ex analyze your every move.<\/p>\n<p>Make them wonder, and that will arouse their interest in you. Sounds like a heck of a plan, doesn&#8217;t it? Well, all you have to do is put it in motion.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Dale tiempo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121803 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6.jpg\" alt=\"mujer toc\u00e1ndose el pelo sentada en el sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-6-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>El truco del <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/8-ventajas-incumplimiento-de-la-norma-de-no-contacto\/\">norma de no contacto<\/a> is that it doesn&#8217;t give you any results overnight. In fact, even days of no contact won&#8217;t make any changes. Instead, you have to give it a couple of months, or at least, weeks.<\/p>\n<p>I know that you want to hear from your ex the very next day after your breakup, but sadly, things don&#8217;t work out that way.<\/p>\n<p><strong>As much as this hurts, you&#8217;ll have to let time do its magic. Give your ex a chance to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-maneras-probadas-de-hacer-que-la-senorita-se-vuelva-loca\/\">te echo de menos<\/a> y ver c\u00f3mo ser\u00eda su vida sin ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Besides, if this approach doesn&#8217;t work out the way you have planned, I promise that you&#8217;ll heal during this period.<\/p>\n<p>You won&#8217;t notice it right away, but before you know it, you&#8217;ll see that you managed to survive without them against all odds.<\/p>\n<p>En cualquier caso, tomarte un tiempo de descanso en tu relaci\u00f3n te vendr\u00e1 bien. <strong>Los dos os dar\u00e9is cuenta de que pod\u00e9is estar separados o de que quer\u00e9is pasar el resto de vuestras vidas juntos.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Rompe el silencio.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121804 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone.jpg\" alt=\"mujer hablando por tel\u00e9fono sentada a la mesa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know that the last thing you want to do while wondering &#8220;Why hasn&#8217;t my ex tried to contact me?&#8221; is to be the one who contacts them. Nevertheless, sometimes, you have no other choice.<\/p>\n<p>A couple of months has passed, but there is still no sign of them. You&#8217;ve been getting some clues, but nothing significant has occurred.<\/p>\n<p>Antes que nada, quiero que sepas que dar el primer paso nunca es pat\u00e9tico.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, this roller coaster you got yourself involved in gets out of hand, and you get to the point where you can&#8217;t stand still, waiting for a miracle that isn&#8217;t coming.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, if they haven&#8217;t reached out after the no contact period, then it&#8217;s time to check whether your ex wants you back or not.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t get me wrong: I&#8217;m not advising you to send them an essay telling them that you can&#8217;t live without them and warning them that you won&#8217;t survive this heartbreak they&#8217;ve put you through.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00e9 que probablemente tengas ganas de hacer exactamente eso, pero eso podr\u00eda ahuyentarlos.<\/p>\n<p>If you have the need to express your emotions, then put them on a piece of paper or talk to your best friend \u2013 this is still not the moment to declare your everlasting love to the object of your affection.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, you have no idea if they&#8217;ve moved on. Maybe they&#8217;re in a serious relationship and you don&#8217;t want to appear a fool by wearing your heart on a sleeve just like that.<\/p>\n<p>En su lugar, <strong>encontrar una excusa para romper el silencio.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ask them for a favor they can&#8217;t refuse, tell them that you ran into some of their old stuff and that you were wondering if they want it back, or even wish them a happy birthday.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sea breve y conciso, pero no demasiado formal. Deja espacio para una comunicaci\u00f3n posterior, pero deja que se pregunten por tus verdaderas intenciones.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Utiliza la curiosidad a tu favor.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121805 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con gafas de sol usando smartphone sentada en un banco\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-4-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Once you contact your ex, they can&#8217;t be sure about what you really want unless you want to risk them losing interest right away.<\/p>\n<p>En lugar de eso, bromea con ellos. S\u00e9 inteligente y utiliza la curiosidad a tu favor.<\/p>\n<p>For example, instead of telling them that you want your stuff back, just text them something like &#8220;Hey, what&#8217;s up?&#8221; Don&#8217;t forget to add a smiley face.<\/p>\n<p>This way, they&#8217;ll have to respond. Trust me: your ex wants to know what&#8217;s inside your head.<\/p>\n<p>Do you need something from them? Does this text have a purpose? Are you about to tell them how much you miss them? Or, do you just want to see what they&#8217;ve been up to?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Once they do respond, you&#8217;ll see the direction in which the conversation is going.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Are they being formal? Does it look like they were waiting for this text? Are they keeping the communication alive? Or, perhaps they can&#8217;t wait to get rid of you?<\/p>\n<p><strong>On the other hand, if they don&#8217;t respond, you still have an ace in your sleeve. Now, you can use the excuse from the beginning of the story.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Do you see what you did there? You just tested the grounds, but avoided the risk of being humiliated in the case that they&#8217;re not interested.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">El efecto Zeigarnik.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121806 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer usando smartphone sentada en la cama\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bed-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Seg\u00fan el efecto Zeigarnik, <strong>it&#8217;s in every human being&#8217;s nature to recall the unfinished tasks and activities rather than the finished ones.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What does this have to do with getting my ex back, you&#8217;re probably wondering.<\/p>\n<p>Pues, sorprendentemente, mucho. Si sigues esta l\u00f3gica, <strong>you&#8217;ll interrupt your conversation in the middle of it \u2013 just as things are starting to heat up.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You won&#8217;t just disappear, but if you&#8217;re texting, you&#8217;ll tell them something like: &#8220;Hey, sorry, I have to go. It was nice hearing from you. Take care.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The crucial thing is to do this out of the blue. This way, you&#8217;ll leave them confused.<\/p>\n<p>Your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend will feel like there are still some things left unsaid. Your entire drama is unresolved and he&#8217;ll get the urge to finish it one way or another.<\/p>\n<p>So, I&#8217;ll bet you on this one: they will contact you. It doesn&#8217;t have to happen the next day, but sometime soon, you&#8217;ll see their name on your screen.<\/p>\n<p>Sounds like magic, I know. Nevertheless, it&#8217;s actually science and you should use it in your favor.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Haz borr\u00f3n y cuenta nueva.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121807 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7.jpg\" alt=\"mujer hablando con hombre sentada en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-man-7-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As much as you&#8217;d like to, you can&#8217;t use this trick forever. Yes, it&#8217;s effective in the beginning, but with time, all of it turns into endless mind games that will lead you nowhere.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sooner or later, you&#8217;ll have to end this charade. You&#8217;ll either get back together or finish things once and for all.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Either way, it&#8217;s your job to give your ex a clean slate. No, you&#8217;re not doing this just for them.<\/p>\n<p>In the first place, you&#8217;re doing it for your own well-being. You&#8217;re doing it to give yourself the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/cierre-ex-se-niega-a-hablar\/\">cierre<\/a> que necesitas desesperadamente.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Enough with the games: it&#8217;s time for some grown-up talk.<\/strong> If you two still haven&#8217;t reconciled up to now, then come clean about your feelings and intentions.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t worry: they&#8217;re already hooked, and if they plan on getting back together with you, they will give your relationship a second chance.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if they refuse your offer, then at least you&#8217;ll know where you stand. Basically, it&#8217;s a win-win situation.<\/p>\n<h2>Para terminar:<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-121861\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera.jpg\" alt=\"hermosa mujer triste mirando a la c\u00e1mara\" width=\"1536\" height=\"1025\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/sad-beautiful-woman-looking-at-camera-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1536px) 100vw, 1536px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I won&#8217;t lie to you \u2013 <strong>there is no magic answer to the question &#8220;Why hasn&#8217;t my ex tried to contact me?&#8221; Everyone is different, and there is a list of causes hiding behind their behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Your job is to figure out which of the reasons mentioned above can be applied to your situation. Once you do that, you&#8217;re halfway towards your goal!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the biggest questions known to mankind is &#8220;Why hasn&#8217;t my ex tried to contact me?&#8221; I know we&#8217;ve all been there, so you&#8217;re familiar with the drill. Maybe you don&#8217;t ask yourself this the very next day after the break-up. Nevertheless, the moment your head cools off a little, you fall into a&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":121774,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29630],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-121767","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-no-contact"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29630,"label":"no contact"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Why-Hasnt-My-Ex-Tried-To-Contact-Me-How-To-Get-Them-Back-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29630,"name":"no contact","slug":"no-contact","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29630,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Sometimes silence speaks louder than words. 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