{"id":125223,"date":"2021-01-22T19:11:53","date_gmt":"2021-01-22T19:11:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=125223"},"modified":"2022-03-15T00:51:23","modified_gmt":"2022-03-15T00:51:23","slug":"ignorar-a-su-conyuge-durante-la-separacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/ignorar-a-su-conyuge-durante-la-separacion\/","title":{"rendered":"24 cosas que debes y no debes hacer si ignoras a tu c\u00f3nyuge durante la separaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"

You’ve filed for divorce, and you’re probably asking yourself, \u201cwhat should I do now?\u201d To be honest, I\u2019ve got to tell you that a difficult period is ahead of you no matter what you choose to do.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, ignorar a su c\u00f3nyuge durante la separaci\u00f3n es probablemente la mejor manera de afrontarlo.<\/p>\n

I know you’re now asking how to do it and if it’s even possible to ignore someone after many years of marriage. How do you ignore someone who was such a great part of your life for so long?<\/em><\/p>\n

This will be especially difficult if children are involved. It’ll be impossible to completely ignore your spouse if you have kids together because you’ll have to communicate about them, at least.<\/p>\n

Pero incluso esa comunicaci\u00f3n debe ser m\u00ednima. Solo debes hablar de las cosas importantes relacionadas con tus hijos; todo lo dem\u00e1s debe ignorarse.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme, aunque esta t\u00e9cnica parezca muy dif\u00edcil en este momento, te ayudar\u00e1 a superar este proceso lo m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido y sin dolor posible.<\/p>\n

Bueno, primero tengo que decirte que antes de seguir leyendo, debes estar completamente seguro de tu decisi\u00f3n de divorciarte.<\/p>\n

Tal vez usted puede escribir alg\u00fan tipo de “Should I get a divorce?” checklist<\/a> y deja que te ayude a decidir.<\/p>\n

I hope you\u2019ve really tried to save the marriage and that you’ve visited a marriage counselor before deciding to file for divorce.<\/p>\n

Ignoring your spouse during your separation \u2014 My own experience<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Perm\u00edtanme que les cuente mi historia. Tuve una relaci\u00f3n amorosa con mi pareja durante tres a\u00f1os antes de decidir casarnos.<\/p>\n

We were married for three more years. So, I’d spent six years with him, and I suppose that’s enough time to know someone, right?<\/p>\n

Well, to be honest, I think that even a lifetime isn’t enough to know someone entirely because I’ve been living with myself for more than thirty years, and I still manage to surprise myself with some of my decisions and actions.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, le conoc\u00eda lo suficiente como para darme cuenta de cu\u00e1ndo ment\u00eda. Tambi\u00e9n conoc\u00eda nuestra relaci\u00f3n lo suficiente como para saber cu\u00e1ndo algo no iba bien entre nosotros.<\/p>\n

Durante los dos primeros a\u00f1os de nuestro matrimonio, fuimos una de esas parejas felizmente casadas que parece que no hay nada ni ninguna persona que pueda interponerse entre ellos o da\u00f1ar\/arruinar su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Luego tuvimos a nuestro hijo y, de repente, todo cambi\u00f3. Me di cuenta de que mi marido hab\u00eda cambiado y que nos est\u00e1bamos distanciando.<\/p>\n

Yo era consciente de que sus sentimientos hab\u00edan cambiado, y cada vez que me enfrentaba a \u00e9l por ello, lo negaba todo.<\/p>\n

He didn’t know how to communicate in a healthy way, which is one way men destruir sus matrimonios<\/a>. Me sent\u00ed como si estuviera viviendo con un compa\u00f1ero de piso o con alguien a quien apenas conoc\u00eda durante ese \u00faltimo a\u00f1o de nuestro matrimonio.<\/p>\n

To cut this long story short, he didn’t want to get a divorce even though he was aware that we no longer loved each other.<\/p>\n

De alguna manera, consigui\u00f3 convencerme de que deb\u00edamos ir a terapia de pareja e intentar que nuestro matrimonio funcionara.<\/p>\n

Acept\u00e9, aunque era consciente de que est\u00e1bamos en un matrimonio sin amor<\/a> beyond saving. Of course, all of that didn’t help us reconnect again, and to be honest, I didn’t want to get my husband back.<\/p>\n

Entonces, solicit\u00e9 el divorcio y decid\u00ed ignorarlo por completo durante el proceso de separaci\u00f3n. Y para ser sincera, eso nos ayud\u00f3 a los dos e hizo las cosas mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1ciles para ambos.<\/p>\n

We both knew that divorce would be difficult, but we were aware that sometimes it’s better to do it than stay in an matrimonio infeliz<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Now that it’s all behind us, we have a really good relationship, and the most important thing is that we both take care of our son, because that’s truly the most important thing.<\/p>\n

The dos and don’ts of ignoring your spouse during your separation<\/h2>\n

Whether you’re ignoring your spouse during your separation because you want it all to end as quickly and painlessly as possible, or it’s just how you cope with your feelings, these dos and don’ts will help you to achieve the goal you want.<\/p>\n

If you’re ignoring your spouse because you think it\u2019s the best to make them realize that it’s their loss and somehow get your wife\/husband back, these dos and don’ts may help you with that, but I would advise you not to do it.<\/p>\n

It’s not worth it. They’re not worthy of you nor your precious time. If someone is so blind and isn’t able to see your worth, there is no point in trying to get them to see it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

CREER en el poder de la norma de no contacto<\/em><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Creo que una de las mejores t\u00e9cnicas para afrontar cualquier tipo de ruptura para ambos miembros de la pareja es su majestad, la norma de no contacto<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Because for as long as you stay in touch with someone, you won\u2019t be able to break up with that person for good.<\/p>\n

\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200bI know it’ll be difficult. You were sure that this person was your soulmate and that you’d stay together forever. You spent so much time with them, and they\u2019re still a huge part of your own life.<\/p>\n

Te acostumbraste a ellos. Te acostumbraste a despertarte junto a ellos cada ma\u00f1ana y a acurrucarte con ellos en la cama cada noche. Te acostumbraste a verlos y a hablar con ellos todos los d\u00edas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, all of a sudden, all of that must stop. You can’t see them, nor can you call them just to hear their voice. I just want to prepare you; this will be a difficult task.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo ignorar y evitar a una persona que fue tu otra mitad durante tanto tiempo, verdad? Sin embargo, la regla de no contacto s\u00f3lo dura 30 d\u00edas y, una vez transcurridos, puedes dejar de evitar a tu futuro ex c\u00f3nyuge.<\/p>\n

I know what you’ll now be saying, \u201cIt’ll be 30 days of hell.\u201d Hmm, probably, but just know that this rule is so powerful that it’ll make everything so much easier for you.<\/p>\n

Surprisingly, the last few days of the no contact rule month will be awful. The last one will probably be the worst, but you’ll see that everything will be so much clearer and easier for you the next day.<\/p>\n

However, if you endure it all and manage not to be in contact with your spouse at all, you’ll make the separation process a whole lot easier, both for you and your spouse.<\/p>\n

Hay tantos ventajas de la prohibici\u00f3n de contacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

DON’T answer their phone calls<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I know this sounds like a challenging thing to do, especially if you still have feelings for your spouse. Even if you don’t, you probably still respect them and don’t want to make them suffer.<\/p>\n

Es lo mejor, cr\u00e9eme. Si sigues en contacto con tu c\u00f3nyuge, solo conseguir\u00e1s complicar a\u00fan m\u00e1s las cosas.<\/p>\n

You’ll remind each other of all the things you went through together, and then it’ll be even harder for you to end things with them for good.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, puede que tambi\u00e9n acab\u00e9is hablando de algunos de vuestros problemas y desacuerdos matrimoniales no resueltos y empeor\u00e9is mucho la situaci\u00f3n para ambos.<\/p>\n

I’m sure that’s the last thing you need right now.<\/p>\n

There will be days when you’ll be thinking, “Oh, god, should I text her\/him just to see how they are?” But you have to ignore it all.<\/p>\n

Even if your spouse doesn’t reach out and you really want to know how they feel, consider it as you being forbidden to initiate contact.<\/p>\n

To cut a long story short, when you hear your phone beeping and you see their name on the screen of your phone, just delete their text message without even looking at what they\u2019ve written.<\/em><\/p>\n

DO talk with them if it’s an emergency<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Let’s be honest. There is no such thing as an easy or painless breakup.<\/p>\n

Separating from someone you\u2019ve spent a long period of time with is always difficult, no matter who initiated the breakup or what the reason for it was.<\/p>\n

Debe estar preparado para que el proceso de divorcio sea dif\u00edcil, doloroso y emocionalmente agotador tanto para usted como para su futuro ex-marido\/mujer.<\/p>\n

If you were the one who initiated the breakup, your spouse will most surely have a hard time accepting the fact that you’re going your separate ways after so many years of marriage.<\/p>\n

Es probable que se pongan en contacto con usted y le pidan que hablen y solucionen las cosas. Incluso pueden sugerir terapia matrimonial para ayudaros. arregle su matrimonio roto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you’re completely sure that you’ve made the right decision, even if it hurts to see them suffer, you shouldn’t change your mind.<\/p>\n

The truth is that sooner or later, you’ll be divorced. Postponing the divorce won’t make things easier. On the contrary, it may only hurt both of you more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, in an emergency, you should answer their calls or reply to their text messages. But you’re ONLY allowed to do that in serious cases of emergency.<\/p>\n

This is especially important if you’ve got kids together. Suppose your spouse wants to talk about child support or some other important things regarding your kids.<\/p>\n

DON’T do anything that might provoke a reaction from your partner<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Este es un momento dif\u00edcil en tu vida. Debes pensar bien cada paso que des.<\/p>\n

Your goal is to end the divorce process as soon as possible, not hurt your spouse’s feelings by provoking them and then ignoring their reaction, right?<\/p>\n

Even if you’ve immediately found someone new, and you have every right to do so, you shouldn’t jump into a relationship with that person right away.<\/p>\n

That’s something that will definitely provoke a reaction from your spouse. It might piss them off because they may think it\u2019s the reason you wanted to divorce in the first place.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t ever flirt with someone else in front of your soon-to-be-ex-husband\/wife. It’s really awful, and it’ll definitely make them change their opinion of you or provoke an even worse reaction from their side.<\/p>\n

Queda con los amigos que teng\u00e1is en com\u00fan<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

If you’re ignoring your spouse during the separation, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn\u2019t hang out with the friends you have in common. It’s not fair to them because they aren’t guilty of your separation.<\/p>\n

De ese modo, puedes perder a grandes amigos, personas que siempre estuvieron a tu lado y que se preocupan sinceramente por ti.<\/p>\n

Of course, sometimes they might invite both you and your spouse to a gathering where it’ll be impossible to avoid your partner.<\/p>\n

They’ll probably try to avoid it initially, at least until the divorce process concludes because they won\u2019t want to make things more difficult for you.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, si se encuentra en esa situaci\u00f3n, debe intentar tener el menor contacto posible con su c\u00f3nyuge.<\/p>\n

Don’t ignore them if they ask you something in front of all those people, but keep away from them as much as you can.<\/p>\n

If you see that things have become awkward, you should go back home. I’m sure your friends will understand and won’t be mad at you because you\u2019ve left.<\/p>\n

DON’T talk to them about your partner or your marriage<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

Even if you’re on a trial separation with your spouse or started the divorce process, you shouldn’t talk about your spouse or your separation in front of your friends.<\/p>\n

Don’t put your best friends in an uncomfortable position. It’s not fair to make them choose sides because it’s something they aren’t okay with.<\/p>\n

I’m sure you’ll be able to hang out with them together again after the divorce. Time will pass, and you’ll both move on, and it’ll be a lot easier for both of you to hang out together with your friends.<\/p>\n

Si tus amigos inician la conversaci\u00f3n o te aconsejan que intentes que tu matrimonio funcione antes de ponerle fin para siempre, debes pedirles educadamente que se mantengan al margen.<\/p>\n

Su matrimonio y su divorcio son un asunto privado, y s\u00f3lo usted y su c\u00f3nyuge tienen derecho a tomar decisiones tan importantes sobre su matrimonio.<\/em><\/p>\n

Los dem\u00e1s tienen derecho a comentarlo y hablar de ello, pero nadie tiene derecho a inmiscuirse.<\/p>\n

I’m sure your friends only want what’s best for you and your partner and they can offer their sincere advice, but you two are the only ones who can make the final decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Busque consuelo en otra persona<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’ve been in a loving relationship with someone who was your main supporter in life. Now, when you’re going through such a difficult period in life, you need support and comfort more than ever.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, now you can’t get it from your spouse. That’s why you should find it outside of your marriage.<\/p>\n

You’re sad, confused, stressed, and maybe even hurt, and you need someone who’ll give you that emotional support you desperately need right now.<\/p>\n

No matter whether you’re a man or a woman, you’re a human being. You are weak, just as we all are.<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s okay to cry because I know how much this hurts. I also know that it gets easier with time and when you find someone with whom you can share your sorrows.<\/em><\/p>\n

Necesitas encontrar un hombro sobre el que llorar. Tus sentimientos son abrumadores en este momento, y reprimirlos es lo peor que puedes hacer.<\/p>\n

Your feelings will come to the surface sooner or later. I know that it’s hard to accept that things have drastically changed in the last year.<\/p>\n

But, you don’t have to go through it alone. Find someone who’ll want more than anything to be there for you in these difficult days.<\/p>\n

DON’T involve your friends or family members in this<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

You should open up to your best friend or a family member. You should share your feelings with them, but you shouldn’t drag them into your marriage problems.<\/p>\n

You’ll put them in a difficult position, especially if they had a good relationship with your spouse. They won’t know how to react and what to do.<\/p>\n

You can and should hang out with them but only to keep yourself busy and divert your thoughts away from your problems. If you talk with them about your separation, too, you’ll never be able to heal from it.<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que quiero aconsejarte es que respetes a tu familia pol\u00edtica incluso despu\u00e9s de que termine tu matrimonio. Estas personas tambi\u00e9n formaron parte de tu vida y merecen respeto. Por supuesto, tiene que ser mutuo.<\/p>\n

C\u00e9ntrate en ti ahora<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You should use this quiet time to dedicate to yourself more. I’m assuming that you were focused on your spouse before, but now it’s time to shift that focus back onto yourself.<\/p>\n

Hable honestamente consigo mismo. \u00bfC\u00f3mo te sientes? \u00bfCrees que has tomado la decisi\u00f3n correcta? \u00bfLe resulta demasiado dif\u00edcil ignorar a su c\u00f3nyuge?<\/p>\n

Si crees que todo esto est\u00e1 afectando negativamente a tu salud mental, deber\u00edas hablar con un profesional y pedirle ayuda.<\/p>\n

Si has tenido que mudarte de la casa que compart\u00edas con tu c\u00f3nyuge, ya deber\u00edas estar buscando una nueva casa.<\/p>\n

It’s time to think about your own life now and prioritize yourself above everyone and everything else.<\/strong><\/p>\n

DON’T neglect self-care<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’re closing the door to your previous life and starting another life for yourself. Make self-care one of the resolutions for that new life.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que es un momento muy estresante para ti, que deja secuelas en ti, en tu cuerpo y en tu piel.
\nThat’s why now more than ever, you need to take care of your looks, your skin, and your body in general.<\/p>\n

Also, looking good will give you confidence, and you need it now to help you fight everything that’s coming.<\/p>\n

Te mereces mimarse y consentirse<\/a>. Use shopping as your comfort. Oh, it’ll also help occupy yourself from thinking about your soon-to-be-ex-husband\/wife and your separation.<\/p>\n

Ign\u00f3ralos tambi\u00e9n en las redes sociales<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I’m not saying that you should delete or block them on your social media accounts, but you should behave like they’re on your block list.<\/p>\n

If they haven\u2019t still come to terms with the separation, they’ll probably try to reach out to you through social media too. Once again, you need to ignore these texts also.<\/p>\n

If they see that you’re ignoring them, they’ll probably try to get to you by posting some sad songs or some romantic ‘thinking of you’ messages<\/a>pero trata de ignorarlo.<\/p>\n

They may also send you some photos of the two of you together, trying to remind you how happy you were before, and it’ll probably be difficult for you to ignore that.<\/p>\n

Tienes que ser duro de verdad, porque responder a esos mensajes s\u00f3lo les har\u00e1 pensar que a\u00fan hay esperanza de salvar el matrimonio, lo que complicar\u00eda a\u00fan m\u00e1s las cosas.<\/em><\/p>\n

DON’T share anything from your personal life on social media<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Puede que lo mejor para usted sea desintoxicaci\u00f3n de las redes sociales<\/a>. That way, your spouse won’t be able to reach you, and it would be easier for you to ignore them.<\/p>\n

If you don’t want to do that, I would advise you not to be too active on social media. Don’t share things you\u2019re doing and your location because your spouse will probably use that to follow you.<\/p>\n

I would especially advise you not to share anything that may provoke a negative reaction from your spouse \u2013 for example, a photo of you with someone else or pictures from your nights out.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t change your relationship status until the divorce process has concluded. It may also provoke a negative reaction from your spouse.<\/p>\n

Intenta relajarte con tus mejores amigos<\/h2>\n

\"tres<\/p>\n

You should call your best friends and invite them over or ask them to go hang out. They’ll try to cheer you up, and having them around will help deal with your marriage problems.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n puedes planear un viaje con ellos o una peque\u00f1a escapada de fin de semana. Salir con tus mejores amigos desviar\u00e1 tus pensamientos y har\u00e1 que ignorar a tu c\u00f3nyuge durante el proceso de separaci\u00f3n<\/a> mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil.<\/p>\n

After all, your friends know you best. They’ll know how to help you relax and how to help you not worry about your divorce too much.<\/p>\n

If you feel the need to, you can also open up to one of your best friends. This will help take that burden off your soul, and you’ll feel a lot better after that little session with one of your friends.<\/p>\n

DON’T send them drunk texts<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si quieres salir y divertirte con tus amigos, deber\u00edas hacerlo, pero ten cuidado con las bebidas. Si te emborrachas, puede que acabes enviando mensajes de texto a tu c\u00f3nyuge, lo que ser\u00eda un error, \u00bfno?<\/p>\n

If you want to get drunk because you think it would relax you and make you forget about your problems, then you should give your phone to your friends and tell them that they shouldn’t give it back to you until you sober up.<\/p>\n

Sending a drunk text to your partner would be a huge mistake. It would ruin everything you\u2019ve done up to now. That’s why you should really think about this if you want to go out and have fun with your friends.<\/p>\n

Conocer gente nueva<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

After you’ve firmly decided that you’re done with your married life, you have every right to meet new people.<\/p>\n

Pero, s\u00f3lo debe ser despu\u00e9s de que est\u00e9 completamente seguro de que quiere poner fin a su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

You don’t have to meet new romantic partners; you can also try to meet someone and hang out as friends first.<\/p>\n

Maybe that friendship will grow into something bigger over time, or perhaps they’ll become your best friend.<\/p>\n

You never know. It doesn’t matter, in both cases, that new person can help you get through this rough period in your life.<\/p>\n

Meeting new people isn’t a bad thing. On the contrary, it might help you to stop thinking and obsessing over your spouse.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, sal o reg\u00edstrate en una aplicaci\u00f3n de citas online que pueda ayudarte a conocer gente nueva.<\/p>\n

You don’t have to meet someone and jump into a new relationship immediately, but it’s good to meet new people you can hang out with.<\/p>\n

It’ll help divert your thoughts from everything bad that’s going on in your life right now.<\/p>\n

Of course, if you think you can work things out with your spouse and if you’re on a trial separation, you should totally ignore this.<\/p>\n

You’re allowed to meet someone new only if you’ve decided, and you really must be one hundred percent sure in that decision, that you want to end your marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

DON’T jump into a new relationship<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I’ve already said that you shouldn’t start a new romantic relationship, but now I want to explain why it’s a bad thing.<\/p>\n

In the beginning, you’ll feel like it’s helping you to forget about your marriage problems, but afterward, you’ll understand that it was the worst possible thing you could do, both to your partner and yourself.<\/p>\n

Antes de empezar una relaci\u00f3n con alguien nuevo, tienes que darte tiempo para sanar y recuperarte completamente de tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even though you’re completely sure that you don’t have any feelings for your spouse anymore, you need to spend some time alone to clear out your thoughts and feelings.<\/p>\n

If you don’t do it, you’ll probably be stuck with some emotional baggage that won’t allow you to fall in love with someone else and fully enjoy a new relationship.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 amable cuando los veas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Ignoring your spouse during your separation doesn’t mean that you should be rude when you see them on the street or when you suddenly run into them.<\/p>\n

If you’re both invited to a family gathering or something similar, you should behave nicely and talk to them if they approach you.<\/p>\n

Of course, keep a distance because you don’t want to give them hope that you’ve changed your mind.<\/p>\n

You’ve got to be especially nice to them if you have kids together. They are and always will be the father\/mother of your kids, remember that.<\/p>\n

DON’T trash talk them<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019ve spent some of your life with this person, and talking badly about them would be talking badly about yourself too.<\/p>\n

You were in a loving relationship and made some beautiful memories together. There’s no point in saying bad things about someone you used to love.<\/p>\n

Again, this is especially important if you have kids together because that’ll affect them negatively the most. You’re two grown-up, civilized people, and you should behave as such.<\/p>\n

T\u00f3mese las cosas con calma<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que quieres acabar con esto lo m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido posible, pero deber\u00edas intentar tomarte las cosas con calma e ir paso a paso.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, debes volver a casa y mantener una conversaci\u00f3n sincera con tu pareja. Luego tambi\u00e9n tienes que ser sincero contigo mismo.<\/p>\n

Is this the first time you’ve thought about divorce, or is it something you’ve been thinking about for some time now?<\/p>\n

You have to think it through. You need to be sure that there’s no way to make your marriage work and that el divorcio es su \u00fanica opci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You should file for divorce only when you’ve tried all options to make things work back home, like terapia matrimonial<\/a>hablar con su c\u00f3nyuge, etc.<\/p>\n

DON’T expect that this will be easy<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve tried to salvar el matrimonio<\/a> and until you’re convinced that divorce is the only option, only then should you file for divorce.<\/p>\n

However, you need to be prepared that it won’t be easy. Te espera un viaje infernal, y tienes que estar preparado para luchar contra todo lo que se te ponga por delante.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There will probably be a lot of phone calls and surprise visits from your spouse, and you need to be prepared to handle it carefully. After all, you don’t want to hurt your spouse, right?<\/p>\n

Of course, if you have kids together…<\/em><\/h2>\n

H\u00e1blales de tus hijos<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cuando me divorci\u00e9 de mi ex marido, ten\u00edamos un hijo de un a\u00f1o y, por supuesto, ten\u00edamos que hablar de \u00e9l y ponernos de acuerdo en cosas relacionadas con nuestro peque\u00f1o. Lo \u00faltimo que quer\u00edamos los dos era pelearnos por nuestro hijo.<\/p>\n

Quer\u00edamos que nuestro proceso de separaci\u00f3n fuera lo m\u00e1s fluido posible, as\u00ed que tuvimos que ponernos de acuerdo sobre la manutenci\u00f3n y la custodia de los hijos.<\/p>\n

Esto es inevitable. Tienes que recordar que tus hijos son lo m\u00e1s importante, y debes intentar que todo esto sea m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil para ellos porque probablemente les cueste aceptar tu divorcio.<\/p>\n

DON’T involve your children in your mess<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

If you’ve decided to divorce your spouse, then you must be aware that it’s something between you and them. Don’t involve other people, especially your kids.<\/p>\n

They deserve to have a happy family, even if their mommy and daddy aren’t together anymore. And it\u2019s possible, trust me, because I\u2019ve gone through this twice already.<\/p>\n

I’m a child of divorced parents, and I divorced a man with whom I have a one-year-old son. I never saw my parents fight, and I never fought with my husband, well, not in front of our kid anyway.<\/p>\n

Sus hijos son la parte m\u00e1s importante de esta historia.<\/p>\n

If the divorce gets ugly at any stage, you need to be sure that your children aren’t in the middle of it and that they don’t know what’s happening between you two.<\/p>\n

Don’t bring your quarrels and issues back home to your kids. Trust me, it could leave some irreparable consequences on their mental health.<\/p>\n

Dedique tiempo a los ni\u00f1os<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

You have to leave your kids out of your divorce as much as possible. Don’t fight about them and try to reach an agreement on child support and visitation issues.<\/p>\n

You’re their parent, and even if you don’t get custody, no one will forbid you from seeing and hanging out with your kids.<\/p>\n

Even if your partner has a hard time accepting your separation, they shouldn’t forbid you from coming back home to see your kids.<\/p>\n

Nunca me he peleado con mi marido por eso, y creo que nos ha ayudado a mantener una buena relaci\u00f3n. La semana pasada incluso nos fuimos juntos de vacaciones en familia.<\/p>\n

I only want what’s best for my son, and I suppose it’s something we all want for our kids.<\/p>\n

DON’T spend time with your kids at your partner’s home<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

You should spend time with your kids, but doing it at your partner\u2019s home would be a bad thing. If you do, then you won\u2019t be able to ignore your partner.<\/p>\n

La primera vez que hables con tu pareja de visitar a tus hijos, haz hincapi\u00e9 en que quieres que salgan o estar con ellos en tu casa.<\/p>\n

It would be for the best. That way, you’ll get to spend time with your kids in peace, without having to pay attention to the possible tension between you and your soon-to-be-ex-husband\/wife.<\/p>\n

Para concluir<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I know it’s difficult to accept that things have changed so much since last year when you were a happily pareja casada<\/a> and couldn’t even imagine that one day it\u2019d come to this.<\/p>\n

Life is unpredictable. Sometimes, even if we still have feelings for our spouse, we’re aware that divorce is the best option for both of you.<\/p>\n

However, if divorce is something you’ve been thinking about since last week, you should take some time to think about it some more.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00edas empezar con terapia matrimonial o cualquier otra cosa que creas que puede ayudar a salvar el matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Married life isn’t easy; I know that. But, when you’re with the right person, together, you can overcome all obstacles that come your way.<\/p>\n

Si decide divorciarse, ignorar a su c\u00f3nyuge durante la separaci\u00f3n facilitar\u00e1 el proceso para ambos.<\/p>\n

Of course, sometimes it’ll be almost impossible, but with these tips, you’ll manage to deal with it in the most painless way, if we can say it that way.<\/p>\n

I’ll end this with one more tip for you: arm yourself with patience because you’ll definitely need it, maybe now more than ever.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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