{"id":125516,"date":"2021-01-26T11:41:37","date_gmt":"2021-01-26T11:41:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=125516"},"modified":"2022-07-06T09:30:52","modified_gmt":"2022-07-06T09:30:52","slug":"encontrare-alguna-vez-el-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/encontrare-alguna-vez-el-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEncontrar\u00e9 alguna vez el amor? 13 lecciones importantes que nadie te dio"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you’re a twenty-something or thirty-year-old single, I bet that you can’t swear that you have never asked yourself: “\u00bfEncontrar\u00e9 alguna vez el amor<\/a>?”.<\/p>\n

It’s natural that you worry about this. After all, you’re a human being and you have the need to love and be loved.<\/p>\n

You’ve had your own share of breakups and heartbreaks. All of your past relationships have failed, and now you can’t help but wonder “\u00bfEncontrar\u00e9 alguna vez el amor<\/a> again or will I remain forever alone?”<\/p>\n

Bueno, en ese caso, aqu\u00ed tienes algunos recordatorios que te cambiar\u00e1n la vida y cambiar\u00e1n tu perspectiva para siempre.<\/p>\n

Alg\u00fan d\u00eda, todo tendr\u00e1 sentido.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Now, when you feel like you\u2019ve hit a dead-end, it\u2019s natural that you think that everything you\u2019ve been through up to now is completely pointless. <\/p>\n

Why did you have to go through all those heartbreaks? Why did all of your exes hurt you in the most horrible way when you\u2019ve never done anything wrong to them?<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 tuviste que enamorarse locamente<\/a> with that guy or girl if you two weren\u2019t meant to end up together?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHas hecho algo para merecer esta miserable suerte? \u00bfC\u00f3mo es que toda esa gente que te rodea lo ha pasado mejor que t\u00fa?<\/p>\n

So many questions and no answers in sight. It\u2019s not that you\u2019re envious, but you look at your friends, and compared to them, you\u2019re a real angel.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve never dragged a guy or a girl along, you are one of the rare people you know who has always been faithful to their partners, and you have never broken anyone\u2019s heart.<\/p>\n

But, comparing yourself to them, you have the worst luck. You\u2019re the only one who hasn\u2019t found love.<\/p>\n

So, where is the justice in all of it? What was the point of all the hell you\u2019ve been through if you obviously aren\u2019t getting your happy ending?<\/p>\n

Todo sucede por una raz\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

Well, it appears that you\u2019ve forgotten that everything happens for a reason. It\u2019s not like this with romantic love only \u2013 this can be applied to every single aspect of your life.<\/p>\n

Tal vez tuviste que experimentar todo ese dolor para poder apreciar a\u00fan m\u00e1s la alegr\u00eda, una vez que te lleg\u00f3. Quiz\u00e1 estaba destinado a que conocieras a todos esos chicos o chicas t\u00f3xicos para que pudieras valorar al adecuado cuando apareciera.<\/p>\n

Es posible que hayas tenido que ver cambiar a todos tus ex, as\u00ed que tuviste la oportunidad de aprender a dejar ir. Tal vez fue para entender que hay cosas por las que estar agradecido, a pesar de todo lo malo que pas\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Tal vez hayas tenido que romper con todos los hombres y mujeres de tu vida hasta ahora, para poder despejar el camino a la persona de tu vida.<\/p>\n

Tal vez tuviste que pasar por todas esas relaciones pasadas para ver c\u00f3mo mentalmente fuerte<\/a> you actually are. If it weren\u2019t for all of those heartbreaks, you would have never become aware of how much you can take, would you?<\/p>\n

Look, I don\u2019t know your story. But, what I do know is that one day, all the pieces of the puzzle called your life will perfectly fit together.<\/p>\n

El amor rom\u00e1ntico no es todo lo que hay.<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

When you ask yourself \u201cWill I ever find love?\u201d, all you can think about is romance. It\u2019s like, for you, romantic love is all there is.<\/p>\n

Well, guess what \u2013 it\u2019s not. In fact, there are numerous other types of love besides romantic ones.<\/p>\n

First of all, there is your family. I don\u2019t know if you\u2019re close to them or not, but at the end of the day, I\u2019m sure they love you deeply. And, I bet that you love them back.<\/p>\n

Then, there is the family you choose \u2013 your friends. Just look around you and I\u2019m positive that you\u2019ll notice a bunch of people who are ready to move mountains for your sake.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure that you\u2019ll see that there are many more of those who truly love you. I\u2019m sure that you\u2019ll notice at least a few people who have your back no matter what.<\/p>\n

Personas leales que est\u00e1n a tu lado en mitad de la noche. Personas con las que puedes contar y que hacen que tu vida sea mejor.<\/p>\n

In fact, it doesn\u2019t have to be plural. It will be more than enough to have just one person in the world who fits this description \u2013 it will be more than enough to have one person you can call yours.<\/p>\n

Besides, you don\u2019t get love only from those around you.<\/p>\n

Love is your next-door neighbor who brings you Christmas cookies. It\u2019s that little kid who smiled at you on the street without any reason whatsoever. It’s that stranger who helped with your grocery bags.<\/p>\n

Love is all around you \u2013 you just have to look closely.<\/p>\n

Agradece todo el amor que recibes<\/h3>\n

When looking at things from this point of view, I guess there is a lot to be grateful for, am I right? After all, it\u2019s a privilege having someone to love you no matter what kind of love you might be getting from them.<\/p>\n

But, instead of focusing on that, what do you do? You worry about the only type of love you don\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

Yes, I know I\u2019m right. You have dozens of different people who truly love you, but instead, you obsess over not having one person.<\/p>\n

I know that your family or best friend can\u2019t replace a romantic partner, but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should completely disregard the care and attention you\u2019re getting from everyone else.<\/p>\n

Tu mayor responsabilidad es quererte a ti mismo.<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

So, I\u2019ve been talking about all those other types of love you\u2019ve been getting without seeing it. But, I haven\u2019t talked to you about the most important love there is: the one you\u2019re giving to yourself.<\/p>\n

You see, many people who don\u2019t get romantic love automatically assume that they\u2019re unlovable. Out of all the men or women in the world, none of them found you worthy of their unconditional love.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, debe ser cierto: no hay nada que amar en ti y, en consecuencia, dejas de amarte a ti mismo.<\/p>\n

You start wondering why aren\u2019t I enough. What\u2019s wrong with me?<\/p>\n

\u00bfNo eres lo suficientemente atractivo? \u00bfLo suficientemente inteligente o interesante? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 te quieres a ti mismo cuando nadie m\u00e1s lo hace?<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s your number one mistake. You see, people are often led by examples.<\/p>\n

Therefore, if you meet a guy or a girl and show them a lack of self-love and self-care, they will follow you. You won\u2019t have to put a lot of effort into convincing them that there is nothing to be loved about you \u2013 they will believe you right away.<\/p>\n

If you show someone that you don\u2019t respect yourself, they won\u2019t do it either. If you show them that you don\u2019t think that you\u2019re worthy \u2013 they won\u2019t see your value either. It\u2019s that simple.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, amar a los dem\u00e1s es estupendo. Te ayuda a convertirte en tu mejor yo y enriquece tu alma y tu mente. Pero tu mayor responsabilidad es amarte a ti mismo antes que a nadie.<\/p>\n

La relaci\u00f3n que tienes contigo mismo es una prioridad<\/h3>\n

By knowing this, it won\u2019t come to you as a surprise that you have to convi\u00e9rtete en una prioridad<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, people will come and go from your life. I\u2019m not talking about your romantic partners here only \u2013 I\u2019m talking about everyone else.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s just life. You don\u2019t have to intentionally cut ties with someone. Instead, you can lose touch, or maybe your destinies have different paths planned for you.<\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, la conclusi\u00f3n es que puedes perder a todo el mundo, por doloroso que parezca. Todos pueden dejarte menos t\u00fa mismo.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the only one who will stick with yourself. After all, you have no other choice \u2013 there is no option in which you can run from yourself when you feel like it.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfentiendes por qu\u00e9 la relaci\u00f3n entre t\u00fa y t\u00fa es la m\u00e1s importante? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 tienes que trabajar constantemente en ella? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 tienes que cuidarla el resto de tu vida?<\/p>\n

Te mereces el tipo de amor que dar\u00edas a otra persona.<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Desde que tienes uso de raz\u00f3n, siempre has sido el que m\u00e1s ama<\/a>. It has been like that in all of your relationships: you\u2019ve been the one carrying most of the weight.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you begged for someone\u2019s attention and affection<\/a>. But, the bitter truth is that most of your relationships wouldn\u2019t have gotten so far without you pushing them that hard.<\/p>\n

So, it\u2019s perfectly natural that you end up feeling used and taken advantage of. Not only that: you\u2019re also drained and exhausted from all of that work.<\/p>\n

You feel like there is no more energy left in you. You\u2019ve been putting too much esfuerzo en las relaciones<\/a> que estaban condenadas al fracaso.<\/p>\n

But, the worst part is that you rarely got anything back. You feel like everything was in vain, and you don\u2019t plan on repeating the same mistakes again.<\/p>\n

The last thing you want is another relationship in which you\u2019re the one who gives more \u2013 a relationship in which you\u2019re the one who keeps on pushing things forward without the other person moving an inch.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but feel like you were alone in most of your relationships. Instead of fighting side by side with your partner, most of the time, you had to fight against them.<\/p>\n

Well, I promise you that this will change. You\u2019ll never be in a similar situation again.<\/p>\n

\u00bfY sabes por qu\u00e9? Porque el Universo lo vio todo. Vio tus l\u00e1grimas y tus esfuerzos.<\/p>\n

The Universe saw how capable you are of loving. And, you\u2019ll never meet anyone who doesn\u2019t have the same abilities as you.<\/p>\n

Instead, the next time you meet someone special, they will give you back the love they\u2019ll receive from you because you deserve all the love you keep giving to everyone else.<\/p>\n

Once you understand that, you\u2019ll never settle for anything less. You\u2019ll never settle for someone who doesn\u2019t have the capacity to do good.<\/p>\n

Conocer\u00e1s a tu alma gemela: alguien que te amar\u00e1 profundamente y que nunca se guardar\u00e1 nada de s\u00ed mismo. Te encontrar\u00e1s con una persona que har\u00e1 realidad todos tus sue\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

You will meet someone who won\u2019t make you feel emotionally neglected and unloved. Trust me: all the positive energy and love you\u2019ve given to the world will find their way back to you.<\/p>\n

Volverse desalmado no es el camino a seguir<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t get disappointed in love just because you\u2019re meeting people who don’t know how to reciprocate your efforts. Don\u2019t construir muros<\/a> just because you\u2019ve run into someone who didn\u2019t see the magnitude of your heart.<\/p>\n

Instead, you keep on doing you. I promise you \u2013 karma will reward you for all of your hard work.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re never too old and it\u2019s never too late.<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Who told you that love has an age limit? Trust me: this is nothing but a myth that we\u2019re about to bust.<\/p>\n

I don’t know how and when this happened, but it seems that people renunciar a encontrar el amor<\/a> al cabo de cierto tiempo.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like romance is reserved for your twenties only. Once you hit your thirties, everyone acts like they\u2019re trying to catch the last chance for love.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you\u2019ll cease to exist after a certain age. Like your ability to feel will suddenly disappear as you walk into the fourth or fifth decade of your life.<\/p>\n

Well, guess what: it won\u2019t. In fact, there are countless examples of people who found the love of their life in retirement homes.<\/p>\n

So, please, don\u2019t let society limit you with this nonsense. There is absolutely no need for you to panic about not finding your forever person just because you\u2019ve reached a certain age.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care how long you\u2019ve waited to go back out there \u2013 you might just as well meet your Ms. or Mr. Right tomorrow.<\/p>\n

There is no guarantee that relationships that start in your twenties or thirties will be more successful. Instead, it\u2019s the other way around.<\/p>\n

Relaciones a una edad m\u00e1s avanzada<\/h3>\n

Yes, I know it seems that finding someone when you’re a fifty-, sixty-, or seventy-year-old single man or woman looks like mission impossible. Most of the people your age are already taken.<\/p>\n

\u00bfY los que no lo son? Bueno, todos ellos tienen alg\u00fan peso pesado sobre sus hombros. Todos, incluido t\u00fa, llevamos cargas emocionales.<\/p>\n

But, let\u2019s look at things from another perspective: at this point, you and your potential partners know exactly what you\u2019re looking for. If not, at least, you know what you don\u2019t want, and that\u2019s much more than the knowledge you had back when you were younger, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

So, all of this experience doesn\u2019t make it harder to love and be loved. Instead, it makes your heart a lot more break-resistant.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, \u00bfqui\u00e9n dice que no puedes encontrar a alguien de tu edad? Nadie te impide salir con gente de fuera de tu generaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Just because you\u2019re a little bit older than a typical bachelor doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t have the right to look for love.<\/p>\n

Forget about all that advice telling you to settle for anything. Forget about people telling you that you\u2019re too picky and that you should take the first offer you have. In fact, according to them, you should be lucky if you find anyone your age.<\/p>\n

Well, trust me when I tell you that this can\u2019t be farther from the truth. Remember this: it\u2019s never too late and you\u2019re never too old.<\/p>\n

Every time you\u2019re rejected, you\u2019re redirected to something better.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you here: nobody likes being rejected. It doesn\u2019t have to necessarily mean that you loved the person who said \u201cno\u201d to your offer.<\/p>\n

If your heart doesn\u2019t get broken in this process \u2013 your ego certainly will. When something like this happens, you can\u2019t help but wonder what\u2019s wrong with you.<\/p>\n

How come the person you liked couldn\u2019t even give you a chance? Are you that unlovable?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHay mejores opciones que t\u00fa? \u00bfO eres tan malo que prefieren estar solas a pasar tiempo contigo?<\/p>\n

Why couldn\u2019t you be suficientemente bueno<\/a> for them? Does that mean that you won\u2019t be good enough for anyone else in the future either?<\/p>\n

These are all the questions running through your head while you\u2019re trying to figure out the answer to the ultimate one: \u201cWill I ever find love?\u201d<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: rejection is hard for everyone. It\u2019s not pleasing even for those players that hit on dozens of girls in one night.<\/p>\n

Te hace cuestionar tu val\u00eda, tu capacidad para atraer al sexo opuesto y todo tu futuro rom\u00e1ntico.<\/p>\n

Well, let\u2019s switch tables for a little bit. Instead of seeing rejection as a curse, try observing it as a blessing.<\/p>\n

Yes, that\u2019s right. You remember how everything happens for a reason. So, what if you got rejected for a reason?<\/p>\n

What if this was the Universe\u2019s life-changing way of redirecting you to algo mucho mejor<\/a>? \u00bfY si estuvieras destinado a cosas mayores?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs posible que en realidad esquivaste una bala<\/a> when this person decided not to give you a chance? Was this God\u2019s way of saving you from a lot of misery?<\/p>\n

Tal vez ser\u00edas infeliz al lado de esta persona. O quiz\u00e1s acabar\u00edas atrapado en esta relaci\u00f3n y perder\u00edas la oportunidad de conocer a tu verdadera persona para siempre.<\/p>\n

\"Chica<\/p>\n

Please, try thinking this way every time you get rejected. Yes, it will keep on happening, but you\u2019ll stop seeing it as the end of the world.<\/p>\n

No hay nada peor que una oportunidad perdida<\/h3>\n

You\u2019ll always know you\u2019ve tried. You\u2019ll know that you gave your best and did everything in your power to make this person yours.<\/p>\n

At least, you\u2019ll have that realization. There won\u2019t be all of the \u201cwhat ifs\u201d and \u201ccoulda, shoulda have beens\u201d haunting you forever.<\/p>\n

You saw an opportunity and you grabbed it. The truth is that it didn\u2019t work out as you had planned, but that doesn\u2019t mean that it didn\u2019t work out for the best in the long run.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de dejar que esta experiencia arruine tu autoestima, deber\u00eda hacerte sentir orgullosa. Tuviste el valor suficiente para abrir tu coraz\u00f3n a alguien, y que no te viera como un gran captura<\/a> que eres es su p\u00e9rdida.<\/p>\n

El rechazo no es personal<\/h3>\n

Another thing you must keep in mind is that different people will reject you for different reasons. Whatever that is in question, the bottom line is that you can\u2019t take it personally.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, everyone has the right to choose who they\u2019ll be with. The object of your affection is no different.<\/p>\n

Them refusing to give you a chance doesn\u2019t necessarily mean they don\u2019t like you. Maybe they\u2019re not ready for a relationship right now.<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 disfrutan de su solter\u00eda. O bien, tienen algunos problemas sin resolver con el pasado y son lo suficientemente honestos como para no arrastrarte a su l\u00edo.<\/p>\n

Or, they\u2019re just not that into you. That doesn\u2019t make you any less worthy. Just because one person doesn\u2019t like you or doesn\u2019t find you attractive doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re not likable or hot.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget that we all have our tastes and preferences, and if someone doesn\u2019t see you as their suitable match \u2013 whatever the reason is \u2013 don\u2019t take that as an insult.<\/p>\n

En lugar de eso, respeta sus decisiones y sigue adelante.<\/p>\n

Lo que est\u00e1 destinado a ser siempre encontrar\u00e1 un camino.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The bottom line is that you can\u2019t force anyone to be with you, let alone to care for you. If you still haven\u2019t found the love you\u2019re looking for, one thing is for sure: love still hasn\u2019t been meant to find you.<\/p>\n

There is no point in forcing anything. You can\u2019t lose what\u2019s not truly yours nor can you get what\u2019s not destined to be yours.<\/p>\n

Puede que encuentres el amor ma\u00f1ana o puede que dentro de una d\u00e9cada. En cualquier caso, llamar\u00e1 a tu puerta en el momento oportuno.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t catch it and you certainly can\u2019t run away from it. Whoever is meant to be yours will always find a way.<\/p>\n

You will cross paths with your soulmate and there isn\u2019t anyone or anything that can prevent that from happening.<\/p>\n

Even when it seems impossible and even when everything seems lost \u2013 what is meant to be yours will end up in your hands.<\/p>\n

No tiene sentido darle demasiadas vueltas<\/h3>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not saying that you should sit on your couch, expecting the love of your life to actually knock on your door.<\/p>\n

Bueno, t\u00e9cnicamente, de esta manera, puede que te des cuenta de que tu repartidor de comida es en realidad tu pareja hecha en el cielo, lo que tambi\u00e9n ser\u00eda el destino.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s as if you keep asking God or the Universe to help you win the lottery without you ever actually filling out a ticket.<\/p>\n

After all, that\u2019s what makes us human (among other things): our judgment and decision-making skills. Therefore, I\u2019m not advising you to put your entire life in the hands of destiny.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t be a passive bystander, but there is no point in being a relaci\u00f3n sobrepensante<\/a> tampoco.<\/p>\n

Puedes preocuparte por tu vida amorosa todo lo que quieras, pero las cosas caer\u00e1n en su sitio en un momento predestinado.<\/p>\n

I know that this probably sounds scary, but the bottom line is that some things are out of your reach, and you\u2019ll just have to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Dios tiene un plan para ti.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Puedo prometerte una cosa: Dios tiene el tiempo perfecto. Por favor, tenga en cuenta que la paciencia es la clave del \u00e9xito<\/a>, and don’t rush anything. He knows a lot more than you and He will give you what\u2019s right for you to have.<\/p>\n

He has a plan for each one of us. It\u2019s just that sometimes, we fail to understand His intentions.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all been there: in a situation where we think we\u2019ve reached our breaking point. There you are: at rock bottom.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t see a way out. You think of a million solutions, but not one gives you hope that there is a better tomorrow.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019re on the verge of a breakdown. You are about to give up on everything and embrace spending the rest of your life in misery.<\/p>\n

Bien, entonces es cuando Dios te salvar\u00e1. \u00c9l te ha dado exactamente cu\u00e1nto puedes aguantar.<\/p>\n

He has been testing you and putting you in front of many walls. He has taken a lot from you \u2013 but that\u2019s because He has had much better things and people in store all along.<\/p>\n

God won\u2019t give you what you want \u2013 He will give you what you need<\/h3>\n

Y lo m\u00e1s importante: Dios nunca te dar\u00e1 lo que quieres. Naturalmente, piensas que eso es lo peor que te podr\u00eda pasar.<\/p>\n

But, trust me: it\u2019s actually the best. And, you know why? Because He\u2019ll always give you exactly what you need without you even being aware of it.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re just a human being. That means that there are some things beyond your comprehension and you\u2019ll just have to deal with them.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you wish for things and people that are actually no good for you \u2013 you just don\u2019t see it. Well, the good news is that He always does.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, your job is only to never lose faith, even when you\u2019re at your worst. Trust me: God loves you, even when you don\u2019t love yourself.<\/p>\n

He will never betray you and He will never give up on you. As long as you believe in His judgments, you\u2019ll never have to walk alone in this world.<\/p>\n

Nada desaparece hasta que te ense\u00f1a una lecci\u00f3n.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After all those failures and wrong choices, you not only wonder: \u201cWill I ever find love?\u201d, but you also ask yourself: \u201cWhen will my bad luck go away?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 m\u00e1s deber\u00eda pasar para que recibas tu raci\u00f3n de felicidad? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo acabar\u00e1 por fin este ciclo de tristeza y desamor?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo dejar\u00e1s de encontrarte con gente que obviamente no te conviene?<\/p>\n

Or, maybe this is all just about one person who clearly doesn\u2019t care for you enough. When will you get the strength to finally cut ties with this man or woman who doesn\u2019t deserve you?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo seguir\u00e1s adelante con tu vida y cu\u00e1ndo sanar\u00e1 tu coraz\u00f3n destrozado? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo comprender\u00e1s que \u00e9sta no es la elecci\u00f3n correcta para ti? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo te salvar\u00e1s y superar\u00e1s esto persona t\u00f3xica<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Bueno, la respuesta es: todo este dolor desaparecer\u00e1 cuando aprendas algo de \u00e9l. Ver\u00e1s, nada desaparece hasta que te ense\u00f1a una lecci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Una vez m\u00e1s, volvemos a la idea de que todo ocurre por alguna raz\u00f3n. Pues bien, todas estas malas personas simplemente ten\u00edan que desfilar por tu vida para ense\u00f1arte algunas cosas.<\/p>\n

First of all, you have to learn that you don\u2019t depend on anyone. Yes, contrary to your expectations, I guess you survived without that boy or girl you were so obsessed about a year ago. So, why do you think that this time will be different?<\/p>\n

Also, you have to learn to appreciate yourself. Nothing good ever came out of you begging for someone\u2019s love, did it?<\/p>\n

Every toxic person in your life served a purpose. So, don\u2019t look at them as your own personal misery \u2013 look at them as your path to happiness.<\/p>\n

Las lecciones m\u00e1s duras son las m\u00e1s valiosas<\/h3>\n

So, why did I have to learn all of this the hard way? Why couldn\u2019t it have been a little simpler?<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s the whole point: the toughest lessons are the most valuable ones. They\u2019re the only ones you\u2019ll never forget.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the experiences that cost you a lot… about the ones you had to waste a lot of sweat and tears over before you finally understood the core.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the lessons that left unerasable scars on your heart and soul… about the ones that changed you forever. These are the only lessons you\u2019ll remember for as long as you breathe.<\/p>\n

Parece que todo el mundo tiene una relaci\u00f3n ahora mismo.<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

When you look around, it seems that you\u2019re the only single person you know. It\u2019s like everyone has found their special someone. Everyone besides you.<\/p>\n

And, I\u2019m not talking about casual hook-ups here only. It seems that all of your friends, coworkers, and acquaintances are in serious, relaciones duraderas<\/a>.<\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de ellos est\u00e1n casados, y los que no lo est\u00e1n planean casarse pronto.<\/p>\n

Siempre que miras tus redes sociales, lo \u00fanico que ves son parejas felizmente enamoradas. Ves a gente viviendo la vida con la que t\u00fa solo puedes so\u00f1ar.<\/p>\n

So, it\u2019s natural that you feel like an outcast. You can\u2019t help but wonder what your fatal flaw is. How is it possible that you\u2019re the only one who can\u2019t find your perfect match?<\/p>\n

Bueno, d\u00e9jame decirte algo: s\u00f3lo parece que todo el mundo est\u00e1 en una relaci\u00f3n en este momento. As\u00ed es como funciona la mente humana.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but focus on the things you crave. You\u2019re so obsessed with having a loving relationship right now that it has become the only thing on your mind.<\/p>\n

You meet people with one goal only: to find a lover. You spend all of your free time on online dating sites and dating apps, such as Tinder, or going from one blind date to another. You’re obviously forcing something to fit in.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t notice all the breakups and divorces around you. You don\u2019t notice a bunch of forever alone girls and guys surrounding you.<\/p>\n

Instead, you only see what you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

Besides, don\u2019t believe everything you see on social media. Most of the time, things are nowhere near the way they look.<\/p>\n

People don\u2019t like sharing their misery with the rest of the world. Instead, they want their followers to think that they have the most perfect life ever.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you keep getting the impression that everyone is happy but you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be bothered with society\u2019s standards<\/h3>\n

I just want you to know one thing: you should never let society dictate your life. They\u2019re not paying your bills and they\u2019re not there to give you a hug when you\u2019re crying yourself to sleep.<\/p>\n

So, who are they to tell you that you\u2019re less valuable just because you don\u2019t have a partner? Therefore, if the only reason why you\u2019re so desperate to find your match is to fit in \u2013 you\u2019re not actually looking for love.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re looking for someone to accompany you on double dates with your BFF. You\u2019re looking for someone to be your plus one at weddings and important events.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re looking for someone to post happy selfies on your social media profiles. You\u2019re looking for someone to take you out on Valentine\u2019s day, so you don\u2019t have to p\u00e1salo solo<\/a> en casa como el a\u00f1o pasado.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: these are all parts of a relationship. These are the little things that make every girl and guy happy.<\/p>\n

But, this shouldn\u2019t be your primary reason for your question of, \u201cWill I ever find love?\u201d It\u2019s one thing if you really echar de menos tener un compa\u00f1ero de vida<\/a>, but it\u2019s completely different if you want one just to avoid people asking you about your love life and feeling sorry for you when you tell them that you\u2019re still single.<\/p>\n

Remember: this is your life and you shouldn\u2019t live it by anyone\u2019s expectations. Don’t le importa un bledo lo que piensen los dem\u00e1s<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re looking for the wrong type of love.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Before you get the answer to the question: \u201cWill I ever find love\u201d, firstly, you have to know what kind of love you\u2019re looking for. Could it be that you idealize the concept of love and soulmates?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not saying that the perfect person for you doesn\u2019t exist out there. I assure you that your other half awaits you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not advising you to settle for anything less than this. I\u2019m not telling you to lower your standards just to avoid ending up alone.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just asking you to differentiate between real life and fairytales. Your love story doesn\u2019t have to be like it is in the movies or in old novels.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to necessarily bump into your forever person like you\u2019ve seen it in romantic high-school comedies. It doesn\u2019t have to mean that the Earth will stop spinning the moment you meet them.<\/p>\n

Pasi\u00f3n frente a amor verdadero<\/h3>\n

Ver\u00e1, un amor profundo del alma<\/a> is usually not a roller coaster of emotions \u2013 el amor es calma<\/a>. No, this doesn\u2019t mean that it will make you feel indifferent.<\/p>\n

But, please don\u2019t mistake your forever person with that guy or girl you keep on breaking up and getting back together with for years. It\u2019s not that person you can\u2019t seem to get along with nor the one you enjoy fighting with.<\/p>\n

Most importantly: don\u2019t mistake true love for butterflies because in most cases, the two don\u2019t have anything in common. In fact, those butterflies and fireworks are usually just passion.<\/p>\n

Often, it\u2019s what you feel in a relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a>. It\u2019s not love: it\u2019s the feeling of never knowing where you stand… it\u2019s the anticipation of what\u2019ll happen next, and it\u2019s the constant chase.<\/p>\n

Bueno, el amor de verdad nunca te har\u00e1 sentir as\u00ed. En su lugar, se sentir\u00e1 como en casa.<\/p>\n

Cuando amas a alguien<\/a>...te aporta una tranquilidad incre\u00edble que nunca antes hab\u00edas experimentado.<\/p>\n

El amor verdadero no es perfecto<\/h3>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you should expect it to be perfect. The truth is that you\u2019ll have your own share of turmoil in every relationship.<\/p>\n

Habr\u00e1 desacuerdos y grandes peleas<\/a>. Tu pareja te molestar\u00e1 de vez en cuando y algunos de sus h\u00e1bitos te sacar\u00e1n de quicio.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, that\u2019s how things should be. After all, you\u2019re not perfect and neither are they. So, how can you expect your relationship to be flawless?<\/p>\n

Tu felicidad empieza por ti.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El truco de la gente desesperada para encontrar el amor<\/a> is that, in most cases, they expect it to change… to turn their world upside down in a blink of an eye. I\u2019m sure you know exactly what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n

If nothing else \u2013 you\u2019ve seen it in the movies. Or, maybe you\u2019re a rom\u00e1ntico empedernido<\/a> mismo que tiene las mismas percepciones.<\/p>\n

You think that every single problem you have will disappear the moment you meet your companion. It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re struggling with mental health, finances, or any other issue \u2013 this person will be your savior and will put an end to all of your sufferings.<\/p>\n

Look, love is very powerful, but let\u2019s be real for a second: it’s not the be-all and end-all. This person doesn\u2019t go around carrying a magic stick made just for you.<\/p>\n

They will make all of your troubles look a lot more bearable, but they won\u2019t chase them away just like that. They will make the sleepless nights a lot less lonely, but they won\u2019t bring the sunshine out of nowhere.<\/p>\n

Odio tener que dec\u00edrtelo, pero ese, querida, es tu trabajo y s\u00f3lo el tuyo. Ver\u00e1s, tu felicidad empieza contigo.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is this: if you\u2019re not happy being single, tough luck, but you won\u2019t be happy in a relationship either. The steering wheel is in your hands only. You’re taking responsibility whether you like it or not.<\/p>\n

The point is that you have to sort things out in your life instead of expecting someone else to do it for you. Otherwise, you\u2019ll always be disappointed.<\/p>\n

\u00bfVolver\u00e9 a encontrar el amor?<\/h3>\n

El momento en que tienes que recordar esto especialmente es cuando terminan tus relaciones rom\u00e1nticas. La verdad es que cometes el mayor error de todos los tiempos cuando relacionas tu felicidad \u00fanicamente con tu vida amorosa.<\/p>\n

When this happens, you don\u2019t see the light at the end of the tunnel after each break-up. It crushes you because you not only lose someone you love \u2013 you lose your entire joy, which would be devastating for everyone.<\/p>\n

Well, I can\u2019t emphasize this enough, but the end of your relationship is not and should not be the end of your world. Instead, it is actually a chance for a new, fresh beginning\u2026 a chance to take your life into your own hands, and that\u2019s the chance you have to take before you start another quest for love.<\/p>\n

Estar soltero es una oportunidad de vivir tu vida a tu aire.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I know that you\u2019re here to get the answer to the question: \u201cWill I ever find love?\u201d And, you expect me to tell you when it will happen and probably even how to speed up the process. Well, you can always use the power of learning c\u00f3mo manifestar que le gustas a alguien<\/a> y enamorarme de ti. <\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019ll most likely end up with your happily ever after. You\u2019ll find your perfect match who will make your life even better.<\/p>\n

But, what if that doesn\u2019t happen? Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not claiming that you\u2019ll die alone.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, the fact is that no relationship expert can tell you what waits for you. Your destiny is written in the stars, and I can\u2019t possibly predict what will happen next.<\/p>\n

So, without the intention of breaking your bubble, let\u2019s just stop for a moment and take another option into consideration.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s think about the chance that you remain single. I\u2019m not talking about being soltero para siempre<\/a> here \u2013 I\u2019m talking about being single for some time.<\/p>\n

Is that the worst thing that could happen to you? I know that your answer will be positive; otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here.<\/p>\n

But, hey, trust me: you can\u2019t be more wrong. There is absolutely nothing miserable about being single.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you have to be lonely and desperate. It doesn\u2019t mean that your life will lose its meaning.<\/p>\n

Yes, finding the right guy or girl can make you happier. Nevertheless, haven\u2019t we already established that you\u2019re the one who holds the keys to your own happiness?<\/p>\n

Look at things this way. Instead of lamenting over your bad luck, why don\u2019t you start observing your single status as a chance to live your life on your own terms?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be dead honest here. No matter how compatible you are with your significant other, you\u2019ll always have to make some sacrifices for the sake of your relationship.<\/p>\n

When you are taken, you\u2019re a part of a team. Of course, you don\u2019t lose your individuality in a healthy relationship, but since you\u2019re no longer an item but a part of a couple, then you’ll have to encuentre el equilibrio en su relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

From that moment on, you can\u2019t make any crucial decisions by yourself. It\u2019s not like you can wake up one morning and decide to move to another city, or quit your job and start over.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t even change apartments or pick your next vacation spot if the other person doesn\u2019t agree. The truth is that you\u2019ll have to meet halfway regarding mostly everything.<\/p>\n

What I\u2019m trying to tell you is that your vida de soltero<\/a> is the last chance you have to make your own choices without having to think about how they\u2019ll influence someone else. Appreciate that before you start to miss it.<\/p>\n

La solter\u00eda supera a una relaci\u00f3n equivocada<\/h3>\n

Hay algo a\u00fan m\u00e1s importante que quiero que recuerdes para siempre: ser soltero late<\/a> estar en una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica en cualquier momento.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 le digo esto? Porque muchos hombres y mujeres se involucran en nuevas relaciones por todas las razones equivocadas.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you\u2019re just sick and tired of being the only one without a partner, so you jump on the first person that comes along.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t think things through, you don\u2019t analyze whether you two are a good match, and you don\u2019t grow any feelings for them in particular. Instead, you think that this is your last chance for happiness, and you hold on to them.<\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, te conviertes en un ahogado que se agarra a una pajita.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you don\u2019t get your happiness. Instead, you make the situation much worse.<\/p>\n

Te quedas atrapado en una relaci\u00f3n que en realidad nunca quisiste, con alguien a quien nunca amaste de verdad. O haces da\u00f1o a esa persona que tienes al lado o t\u00fa mismo acabas con el coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n

Cuando esto ocurre, tienes dos opciones. Puedes quedarte donde est\u00e1s, dejando que tu vida pase de largo, o puedes poner fin a las cosas a tiempo.<\/p>\n

If you choose the first one, be aware that you\u2019ll spend every day of your life feeling like you\u2019re suffocating.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you do break things off, which is a better choice, you\u2019ll have to do a lot of healing and damage repair.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfsigues pensando que estar soltero y disfrutarlo es peor que estos escenarios?<\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

It’s one thing if the question, “Will I ever find love”, crosses your mind every now and then. This is something that everyone thinks about from time to time.<\/p>\n

But, please, whatever happens, don’t let this become your only obsession. Remember: whatever you chase runs away from you.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de devanarte los sesos, haz todo lo posible por relajarte y disfrutar de cada momento precioso que tengas. Mientras tanto, s\u00e9 paciente y espera al amor.<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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