{"id":126538,"date":"2021-03-02T01:13:31","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T01:13:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126538"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:40:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:40:31","slug":"decirle-a-un-chico-que-te-gusta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/decirle-a-un-chico-que-te-gusta\/","title":{"rendered":"Antes de decirle a un chico que te gusta, lee esto"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Whenever I have a crush on someone, I turn into this: I can\u2019t sleep properly, eat, or socialize with other people without always thinking about that one person, aka the object of my affection (and the main cause of so many sleepless nights).<\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de unos d\u00edas\/semanas o incluso meses fantaseando con \u00e9l (el chico de mis sue\u00f1os) y pasando toneladas de horas en sus perfiles de las redes sociales, suelo reunir fuerzas para hacerme la famosa pregunta: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-decirle-a-un-chico-que-te-gusta\/\">\u00bfDeber\u00eda decirle que me gusta?<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nota:<\/strong> Cada chico del que estoy enamorada es el chico de mis sue\u00f1os (tonto, lo s\u00e9).<\/p>\n<p>Mi mente se ocupa con los siguientes pensamientos: <em>You should tell him you like him. If you don\u2019t do it, some other girl will. What if you lose him because of your overthinking and waiting for him to make the first move?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Wait, I never even had him, so I certainly can\u2019t lose him! I swear to God. I\u2019ll never have a crush again. Wait, I don\u2019t even have control over that. My life is over \u2013 the end. Wait, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/me-gusta-24-preguntas-puede-hacer-saber-seguro\/\">\u00bfSiquiera me gusta<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de unos d\u00edas de pensar intensamente en todos los pros y los contras de decirle a un chico que me gusta y de consultar con todas mis amigas sobre lo que deber\u00eda hacer, siempre obtengo la misma respuesta: <strong>Deber\u00edas decirle que te gusta. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Cuando les pregunto por qu\u00e9 me dicen lo siguiente: <strong>Porque no tienes nada que perder.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Me quedo mudo durante unos segundos pensando para mis adentros: <em>OMG, that makes perfect sense. Why haven\u2019t I thought of that before?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Si le digo que me gusta, sabr\u00e9 si le gusto o no. <strong>Either way, I\u2019ve got nothing to lose.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Either way, I win because if he likes me, I\u2019ll be the happiest person in the world, and if he doesn&#8217;t, I\u2019ll be sad for a few days, but then I\u2019ll be grateful for not wasting any more time thinking about him.<\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de todo eso viene lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil, que es aprender <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-decirle-a-un-chico-que-te-gusta-15-formas-de-demostrarle-lo-que-sientes\/\">c\u00f3mo decirle a un chico que te gusta<\/a>. <em>\u00bfLe digo simplemente que me gusta de sopet\u00f3n o lo hago de forma m\u00e1s sutil?<\/em> Esto de las citas es realmente frustrante.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling the same way as the old me, here are all the lessons that I\u2019ve learned when it comes to telling a guy you like him.<\/p>\n<h2>Lesson 1: There\u2019s nothing wrong with a woman making the first move!<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126541 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer sonriendo mientras beben bebidas al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Seriously, girls. There\u2019s truly nothing wrong or shameful about a woman making the first move. If you don\u2019t think that way, you should discard this gender stereotyping immediately.<\/p>\n<p>Even though you will rarely see a girl making the first move in the movies, this doesn\u2019t mean that it\u2019s prohibited.<\/p>\n<p>Preg\u00fantale a cualquier hombre su opini\u00f3n sobre las mujeres que dan el primer paso, y te dir\u00e1 lo siguiente: <strong>A girl making the first move is beyond hot. It shows that she\u2019s confident and she\u2019s not afraid to take the initiative.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a1Bien, chicas! <strong>As\u00ed que aqu\u00ed tienes dos opciones:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You can continue playing \u201chard to get\u201d and wait for him to notice you and eventually approach you.<\/li>\n<li>Puedes dar el primer paso e impresionarle con tu confianza y valent\u00eda.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Si eliges lo segundo, tendr\u00e1s m\u00e1s posibilidades de conquistarle. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Porque es raro encontrar una mujer tan audaz y segura de s\u00ed misma que no tenga miedo de acercarse primero a los hombres.<\/p>\n<p>If you approach him first, he won\u2019t think of you as being desperate or an easy target.<\/p>\n<p>He will think of you as a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to get it. THAT\u2019S the kind of woman every man is dying to be with!<\/p>\n<h2>Lecci\u00f3n 2: AUTOCONFIANZA, chicas.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126542 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer flirteando en la playa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Aunque esta lecci\u00f3n est\u00e1 estrechamente relacionada con la anterior, merece ser abordada como una unidad independiente.<\/p>\n<p>Self-confidence is the HOLY GRAIL. It is the main thing you need to focus on when approaching a guy or when he\u2019s approaching you.<\/p>\n<p>Si tus niveles de confianza son altos, la mitad de tu trabajo est\u00e1 hecho. <strong>Cr\u00e9eme, puedes llevar la ropa m\u00e1s cara, el maquillaje perfecto y todo eso, pero \u00e9l se dar\u00e1 cuenta si te falta autoestima.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tener confianza en uno mismo es ser uno mismo, aceptar tus imperfecciones y verlas como tu sello distintivo en lugar de como algo malo. Se trata de estar enamorado de uno mismo.<\/p>\n<h3>Lecci\u00f3n secundaria 1: Estar enamorado de uno mismo es obligatorio.<\/h3>\n<p>If you want to win a guy, you need to show him that your world is a fun place to be. You need to be who you are instead of pretending to be something you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n<p>Si lo haces, \u00e9l lo sabr\u00e1. As\u00ed que aseg\u00farate de encontrar tu propio estilo a la hora de vestir, hablar e incluso caminar.<\/p>\n<h2>Lesson 3: No matter how anxious you\u2019re feeling, you won\u2019t die.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126543 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1.jpg\" alt=\"un hombre y una mujer se miran a los ojos cerca de una ventana\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m an anxious person by nature, so whenever I\u2019m about to approach a guy (be it in person or via text), my anxiety goes wild. I literally feel like I\u2019m about to die, but that never happens.<\/p>\n<p>So, no matter how afraid, confused or anxious about it you are, know that in the end, everything will be alright. I\u2019ve been through this multiple times, and I\u2019m still alive and kicking.<\/p>\n<h3>Lecci\u00f3n secundaria 2: Est\u00e1 prohibido pensar demasiado.<\/h3>\n<p>The moment you start overthinking your decision to tell him you like him, it\u2019s game over. Don\u2019t let that happen! Instead of thinking about all the possible worst-case scenarios, think about positive outcomes.<\/p>\n<p>Tengo una amiga que tiene esa necesidad de apagar el m\u00f3vil durante unas horas cuando env\u00eda una solicitud de amistad a un chico que le gusta.<\/p>\n<p>When he texts her for the first time, I\u2019m sure she turns her phone off for a few days because she overthinks. Don\u2019t be her. Don\u2019t overthink but think positively instead.<\/p>\n<h2>Lecci\u00f3n 4: La sencillez es tu mejor amiga.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126544 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer hablando de pie al aire libre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La raz\u00f3n por la que prefiero salir con chicos es que son seres m\u00e1s simples que nosotras, las mujeres.<\/p>\n<p>Simplicity is something that I crave for every second and day of my life, but I\u2019ve also accepted the fact that it\u2019s something unattainable for me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Si crees que puedes dominar la sencillez, aqu\u00ed tienes unos sencillos consejos sobre <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-acercarse-a-un-chico-sin-parecer-desesperado-10-pasos-para-el-exito\/\">c\u00f3mo acercarse a un chico (sin parecer desesperado)<\/a>:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Establece un contacto visual prolongado con un chico que te guste.<\/li>\n<li>Encuentra un motivo para iniciar una conversaci\u00f3n.<\/li>\n<li>Encuentra una raz\u00f3n para volver a verle.<\/li>\n<li>Dile que te gusta en persona (para los valientes).<\/li>\n<li>Dile que te gusta por SMS (para los menos valientes).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Si decides decirle que te gusta por SMS, tienes la oportunidad de hacerlo de forma m\u00e1s sutil.<\/p>\n<p>You can use a GIF that says I like you, or you can pretend that you\u2019re joking by adding a few emojis. Subtle and simple is definitely the way to go!<\/p>\n<h2>Lecci\u00f3n 5: Tus vibraciones son m\u00e1s importantes que tu atuendo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126546 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con gorra blanca sonriendo mientras usa un smartphone\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Regardless if you\u2019re seeing him in person or you\u2019re just texting, your vibes are equally important. There\u2019s something called texting vibes, so your texting style can tell him a lot about your personality.<\/p>\n<p>The other day when I was texting with a guy, he told me that he\u2019s impressed by my laid-back attitude and he enjoys texting with me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me lo dijo despu\u00e9s de unos cuantos mensajes, lo que significa que tus primeros mensajes son cruciales a la hora de dejar una impresi\u00f3n poderosa.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que aseg\u00farate de que tus vibraciones son positivas, porque eso es lo que le atraer\u00e1 de ti en primer lugar. Puede que tu atuendo llame su atenci\u00f3n, pero tus vibraciones y tu personalidad son lo que mantendr\u00e1n su atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Also, don\u2019t worry that much about being nervous around him. Most guys find it cute because it tells them that you really like them and worry about making a great impression.<\/p>\n<h2>Lecci\u00f3n 6: Prep\u00e1rate para lo mejor, pero tambi\u00e9n para lo peor.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126547 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con camisa azul sonriendo mientras mira a una mujer\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know what you\u2019re thinking: <em>\u00bfQu\u00e9 demonios te pasa, mujer? \u00bfC\u00f3mo puedo ser optimista a la hora de acercarme a un chico y al mismo tiempo estar preparada para lo peor?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I know it\u2019s easier said than done, but you have to be mentally prepared for the worst. When you tell him that you like him, you can only hope you\u2019re on the same page.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Here\u2019s my verified formula:<\/strong> Tell him you like him (subtly or directly), don\u2019t expect anything from him, and hope for the best.<\/p>\n<p>Pray that he\u2019s one of those shy guys waiting on a girl to make the first move or that he liked you all this time but wasn\u2019t sure that you liked him too.<\/p>\n<p>Even if none of these are the case, don\u2019t see it as the end of the world if he reacts in a way that doesn\u2019t please you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Acu\u00e9rdate:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got nothing to lose.<\/p>\n<h3>Sub Lesson 3: \u201cTwenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn\u2019t do than the ones you did do.\u201d \u2013 Mark Twain<\/h3>\n<p>S\u00ed. Cuando miro atr\u00e1s, hay tantas cosas que desear\u00eda haber hecho (o haber hecho de otra manera), pero ya no puedo influir en ello.<\/p>\n<p>Hoy elijo centrarme en estar en el momento y hacer cosas en lugar de arrepentirme de no haberlas hecho. Dentro de veinte a\u00f1os te reir\u00e1s de lo mucho que has pensado en decirle a un chico que te gusta.<\/p>\n<p>Comprender\u00e1 lo sencillo que es todo en realidad.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whenever I have a crush on someone, I turn into this: I can\u2019t sleep properly, eat, or socialize with other people without always thinking about that one person, aka the object of my affection (and the main cause of so many sleepless nights). After a few days\/weeks or even months of fantasizing about him (my&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":126540,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-126538","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Before-Telling-A-Guy-You-Like-Him-Read-This-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? 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