{"id":126792,"date":"2021-03-02T12:18:07","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T12:18:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126792"},"modified":"2022-05-11T11:12:41","modified_gmt":"2022-05-11T11:12:41","slug":"como-suceden-los-asuntos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-suceden-los-asuntos\/","title":{"rendered":"La tentaci\u00f3n de la fruta prohibida en los matrimonios - C\u00f3mo surgen los amor\u00edos"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfSabes qu\u00e9 es lo que puede hacer que cualquier hombre o mujer sienta la tentaci\u00f3n de tomar decisiones impulsivas?<\/em><\/p>\n

What\u2019s one thing that can make you forget to be grateful for what you have and become thirsty for something new?<\/em> It\u2019s el atractivo de la fruta prohibida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When two people decide to marry, they don\u2019t think about anything else but making each other happy. They can\u2019t wait to spend more time together, (eventually) have kids (or not), and connect on a deeper level.<\/p>\n

El matrimonio es una de las cosas m\u00e1s hermosas del mundo, porque te da la sensaci\u00f3n de pertenecer a algo, de que te cuidan y de que eres uno con tu pareja.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cada matrimonio tiene sus altibajos. The lure of forbidden fruit doesn\u2019t strike you overnight.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s something that triggers partners to start thinking about alternatives and finding happiness someplace else.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s something that makes partners choose to have a secret affair instead of salvar su matrimonio.<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 se producen las aventuras en los matrimonios?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 las parejas casadas deciden enga\u00f1ar a su c\u00f3nyuge en un momento dado? \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que les lleva a hacerlo? \u00bfO hay m\u00e1s cosas que les motivan a buscar un romance alternativo?<\/em><\/p>\n

Una de las principales razones por las que se producen las aventuras en los matrimonios es cuando uno de los c\u00f3nyuges (o ambos) empiezan a tener carencias en su matrimonio sin dec\u00edrselo al otro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n podemos relacionarlo con la falta de una comunicaci\u00f3n sana.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hay muchos factores que pueden influir en un matrimonio y convertirlo en una pesadilla, y algunos de ellos son: los horarios agitados, la falta de tiempo que pasan juntos y la falta de esfuerzo en el matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Once a marriage no longer provides certain elements that are crucial for every spouse\u2019s happiness, they decide to find these elements someplace else.<\/p>\n

Ahora, la verdadera pregunta es: Why don’t spouses choose to fight for their marriage instead and talk to their partner about it?<\/strong><\/p>\n

No puedo darle la respuesta correcta a esta pregunta porque var\u00eda de una persona a otra.<\/p>\n

What I can tell you is that a possible reason why spouses avoid talking to their partner about what\u2019s missing in their relationship is because they want to avoid conflicts.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing with marriages. For as long as you refuse to acknowledge that you have a problem in the marriage, everything is perfect.<\/p>\n

Yup, everything is perfect, but only on the surface. If you scratch the surface, then you\u2019ll notice how everything starts melting and showing its true colors.<\/p>\n

Still, there are also spouses who talk, but their significant other doesn\u2019t listen or doesn\u2019t want to understand the seriousness of the situation they\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

Chocante, pero cierto: Las aventuras tambi\u00e9n ocurren en los matrimonios felices.<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s imagine a couple that has everything needed for a decent life and a happy marriage.<\/p>\n

Son econ\u00f3micamente estables, cuentan con el apoyo de sus familias, se respetan, se complementan, etc.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfqu\u00e9 motivar\u00eda a uno de ellos a elegir empezar a buscar una aventura secreta?<\/strong> I\u2019ll give you some time to guess for yourself. The answer is: Algo DIFERENTE.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pod\u00e9is ser la pareja m\u00e1s rica del mundo, con los mejores trabajos y la casa m\u00e1s grande, y estar bendecidos con un amor incondicional, pero todo esto no significa nada cuando uno de los miembros de la pareja decide que quiere algo diferente a eso.<\/p>\n

That \u2018different\u2019 doesn\u2019t have to be better or worse. What matters is that it\u2019s different from what they have now in their marriage and in their life in general.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen couples from happy marriages live together for years while both having secret lovers.<\/p>\n

As a matter of fact, recently, one of the married guys texted me subtly asking whether I\u2019m interested in \u201cgetting to know him better\u201d (if you catch my drift).<\/p>\n

Esto es lo que le dije:<\/strong> Por respeto a tu mujer y a un hijo, nunca tendr\u00eda nada contigo.<\/em><\/p>\n

He respected my decision and didn\u2019t push things further. One more thing… I was really interested in why he would do such things behind his wife\u2019s back, so I openly asked him about it.<\/p>\n

Me dijo esto:<\/strong> Sol\u00eda pensar que uno puede enamorarse de su c\u00f3nyuge y ser feliz el resto de su vida con \u00e9l. <\/em>Now, I see that it is impossible because human beings are not meant to be in love with one person for the rest of their lives. It’s in their nature to always seek something different from what they have.<\/em><\/p>\n

Me sorprendi\u00f3 mucho su respuesta y empec\u00e9 a pensar que, despu\u00e9s de todo, tal vez hubiera algo de verdad en ello.<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 la naturaleza del deseo humano de buscar variedad sea la culpable de que se busquen aventuras fuera del matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Perhaps those spouses are still in love with each other, but they have to appease their human desire for variety in order to be completely happy in marriage. Hmm\u2026<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1 mal salir con un hombre o una mujer casados?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another question that is really difficult to answer, and it depends on different perspectives.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re the one who is married, but enamorado de otra persona<\/a>, chances are you don\u2019t see it as something wrong (until your spouse finds out about it).<\/p>\n

Uno de los mayores signs that you\u2019re married, but in love with someone else<\/a> es prestar m\u00e1s atenci\u00f3n a la otra persona que a su c\u00f3nyuge.<\/p>\n

Now, do you think it\u2019s okay toward your current partner to pay more attention to others than them? I\u2019ll let you think about it.<\/p>\n

Casi todos los asuntos secretos empiezan con amistades inapropiadas en el matrimonio<\/a>. Puede tratarse de un compa\u00f1ero de trabajo, un chico\/chica cualquiera que conociste en el gimnasio o similar.<\/p>\n

Pronto, las amistades se convierten en algo m\u00e1s significativo y, antes de lo que imaginas, te encuentras teniendo una aventura.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong with having friends outside of marriage, but the problem arises when those friendships become more prioritized than the one you have with your spouse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see things from other perspectives. Let\u2019s say that un hombre casado est\u00e1 enamorado de ti<\/a>. \u00bfA qu\u00e9 te dedicas?<\/p>\n

Do you continue hanging out with him even though you know that he\u2019s in love with you and he might want something more from you?<\/p>\n

Do you tell him something similar to what I told that married guy I was talking about above? Do you tell him that he\u2019s being disrespectful toward his wife and children?<\/em><\/p>\n

Puedes dec\u00edrselo o puedes seguir saliendo con \u00e9l, pensando que te prioriza sobre su mujer.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry to spoil this to you, but the chances of a married man leaving his wife because of su amante<\/a> son realmente BAJAS, por no decir INEXISTENTES.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Because the reason why he\u2019s cheating on his wife in the first place is because he wants both to keep her and to experience something different \u2013 you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Un hombre as\u00ed nunca descartar\u00eda lo que tiene (su esposa) porque sabe que puede encontrar muchas mujeres diferentes por ah\u00ed f\u00e1cilmente, pero no puede encontrar otra esposa tan f\u00e1cilmente (por no hablar de la sensaci\u00f3n de ser juzgado por la sociedad por dejar a su esposa).<\/p>\n

That might sound harsh, but it\u2019s the truth.<\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre cuando se trata de salir con una mujer casada<\/a>, but it\u2019s slightly even worse in some aspects.<\/p>\n

Dado que los hombres son excesivamente protectores con sus mujeres, piensa en lo que pasar\u00eda si su marido se enterara de tu aventura.<\/p>\n

DESCARGO DE RESPONSABILIDAD:<\/strong> If you\u2019re having an affair with a married woman\/man, or you\u2019re married, but in love with someone else, I\u2019m not trying to judge you or prove to you that you\u2019re wrong. I\u2019m trying to understand you and put things in perspective.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf it’s true that men and women can be ‘just friends’, then how come all cheaters first start out as ‘just friends?\u201d \u2013 Oliver Markus Malloy<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

This is an interesting hypothesis. When it comes to marriages, there is a thin line between being \u2018just friends\u2019 with someone outside the marriage and gradually becoming something more than that.<\/p>\n

Be it unhappy or happy, any marriage can be threatened by the lure of a forbidden fruit because it\u2019s in our nature to keep seeking something different from what we have at the moment.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s in our nature to take things for granted and think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.<\/em><\/p>\n

The only time we\u2019ll learn to control ourselves is when we learn to detach from the sinful and irrational aspects of our nature.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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