{"id":126948,"date":"2021-03-05T12:22:43","date_gmt":"2021-03-05T12:22:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126948"},"modified":"2022-01-04T15:48:36","modified_gmt":"2022-01-04T15:48:36","slug":"los-hombres-y-las-mujeres-nunca-pueden-ser-solo-amigos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/los-hombres-y-las-mujeres-nunca-pueden-ser-solo-amigos\/","title":{"rendered":"Los hombres y las mujeres nunca pueden ser \"s\u00f3lo amigos\" (\u00bfo s\u00ed?)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>\u00bfPueden las mujeres y los hombres ser \"s\u00f3lo amigos\"? \u00bfEs posible tener una amiga o un amigo sin llegar a tener sentimientos rom\u00e1nticos por ellos?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s something interesting, almost all of my romantic relationships started with that famous saying, <em>\u201cOh, we\u2019re just friends.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Recuerdo perfectamente que otras personas me preguntaban por aquel chico con el que pasaba tanto tiempo. Cada vez que alguien me preguntaba si est\u00e1bamos juntos, me re\u00eda inmediatamente de forma sarc\u00e1stica.<\/p>\n<p>I felt in a way offended by others asking me such questions because I couldn\u2019t imagine being in a romantic relationship with him \u2013 my guy best friend.<\/p>\n<p><strong>After some time, I \u201csomehow magically\u201d changed my opinion. <\/strong>Actually, I was scared of myself because I didn\u2019t even know that those feelings existed in me until then.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca hab\u00eda so\u00f1ado con enamorarme de mi mejor amigo (repet\u00ed esa frase demasiadas veces en mi cabeza).<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t only mad at myself but at the whole universe for not giving us a chance to be \u201cjust friends\u201d with people of the opposite gender.<\/p>\n<p>But then again, I still have other guy friends with whom I haven\u2019t fallen in love \u201cyet.\u201d I guess the keyword here is the word YET (or maybe not).<\/p>\n<h2>Is it possible for a man and a woman to be \u201cjust friends\u201d without eventually falling for each other?<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126951 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer hablando con hombre sentada al aire libre\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Given that this is a complex matter and there is no right or wrong answer, I\u2019ll just express my personal opinion in the hope that this will help you find an answer or a hypothesis for yourself.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My personal opinion is that men and women can be \u201cjust friends,\u201d but chances are that at some point, they will fall for each other.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>They say that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. That clich\u00e9 perfectly describes the differences between men and women.<\/p>\n<p>Well, there is probably a reason why we\u2019re so different from each other.<\/p>\n<p>To understand it better, let\u2019s list a few things (read: gender stereotypes) that are characteristic of men and women:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A diferencia de los hombres, a las mujeres les gusta hablar mucho.<\/li>\n<li>A diferencia de las mujeres, los hombres tienen dificultades para expresar sus sentimientos.<\/li>\n<li>A diferencia de los hombres, las mujeres son m\u00e1s sensibles.<\/li>\n<li>A diferencia de las mujeres, a los hombres les gusta presumir y demostrar su fuerza y masculinidad.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If we look closely at the above list, we can draw some logical conclusions. For example, women like to hang out with men because they don\u2019t talk that much, which means they will listen to them.<\/p>\n<p>Or men like to hang out with women because they are more sensitive, which helps them open up and be vulnerable. You see, the reason why we\u2019re so different is that we\u2019re supposed to complement each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Both men and women offer something that the other gender doesn\u2019t. So, yes, it is not only possible to be \u201cjust friends\u201d with the opposite sex, but it is necessary.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/true-love\/bff\/razones-mejor-amigo-masculino\/\">Toda chica deber\u00eda tener un mejor amigo var\u00f3n<\/a> y viceversa.<\/p>\n<p>By surrounding ourselves with different types of people and people from the opposite gender, we learn new perspectives, understanding how the opposite gender functions \u2013 we are evolving.<\/p>\n<h2>Sin embargo, estas diferencias tambi\u00e9n pueden atraernos a un nivel m\u00e1s profundo hacia el sexo opuesto<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126953 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer comiendo helado sentados en las escaleras\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lo sab\u00e9is todo el uno del otro, habl\u00e1is de vuestros miedos, sue\u00f1os, ten\u00e9is una extensa lista de chistes internos y sent\u00eds que es la \u00fanica persona que os comprende de verdad.<\/p>\n<p>But you are still \u201cjust friends\u201d with them. Now, the question is: <strong>\u00bfDurante cu\u00e1nto tiempo?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>At some point, you might find yourself re-reading their texts before going to sleep, listening to their favorite song on repeat, and fantasizing about being more than \u201cjust friends.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>En alg\u00fan momento, podr\u00eda empezar a buscar <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/16-senales-evidentes-de-que-tu-amigo-se-esta-enamorando-de-ti\/\">se\u00f1ales de que tu amigo siente algo por ti<\/a> (or your girl friend) while still convincing yourself that you haven\u2019t developed romantic feelings for them.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tal vez ella o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/11-senales-de-que-le-gustas-mas-que-como-amiga-pero-le-da-miedo-admitirlo\/\">le gustas m\u00e1s que como amiga pero le da miedo admitirlo<\/a>. Puede que ambos sint\u00e1is lo mismo, pero ninguno de los dos tenga el valor suficiente para admitirlo o hablar de ello.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to ruin your friendship because of something more meaningful you might have in the future. Should I repeat the previous sentence?<\/p>\n<p>D\u00e9jame decirte una cosa. La amistad es una de las relaciones m\u00e1s poderosas de todas.<\/p>\n<p>Everything stems from friendship. The greatest relationships have started with two people being \u201cjust friends,\u201d which brings us to another hypothesis:<\/p>\n<h3>Being \u201cjust friends\u201d is sometimes just a bridge to something more meaningful and larger than ourselves.<\/h3>\n<p>Yes, men and women can be \u201cjust friends,\u201d but they can also be more than that. Not every friendship is bound to turn into something more meaningful (romantic), which is totally okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But sometimes, the reason why you were \u201cjust friends\u201d is that you were meant to evolve and become lovers.<\/strong> La cuesti\u00f3n es que la gente pierde demasiado tiempo d\u00e1ndole vueltas y definiendo las cosas.<\/p>\n<p>Why aren\u2019t we be able to do both? Why do people of the opposite gender have to be categorized as either \u201cjust friends\u201d or lovers?<\/p>\n<p>When we stop thinking about it and embrace every possible outcome of a friendship (or the lack of thereof), we\u2019ll stop forcing this unnecessary categorization and unpopular or popular opinion.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m aware that by saying this, I\u2019m directly criticizing my own story, but maybe that was my intention after all; to make a hypothesis in the title and then prove how it can be wrong.<\/p>\n<h2>Sin embargo, aprender a evitar enamorarse de un amigo puede (a veces) ser un aut\u00e9ntico salvavidas<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126954 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer hablando sentados en una roca\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>While there\u2019s nothing wrong with you two being more than \u201cjust friends,\u201d still, if you for some reason don\u2019t feel comfortable with that idea, you need to master how to avoid falling in love with your friend.<\/p>\n<p>Perm\u00edteme empezar esta minigu\u00eda diciendo que nuestras mentes son realmente magn\u00edficas. Puedes entrenarte para no contagiarte de sentimientos hacia alguien simplemente estableciendo algunas reglas b\u00e1sicas:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Define tu amistad.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Always remind yourself of why you became friends in the first place. Treat your friend of the opposite gender as your family member so that you\u2019re not tempted to think about them as a potential lover.<\/p>\n<p>Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, sigue saliendo con otros y si\u00e9ntete libre de hablar de otros chicos o chicas sin preocuparte de poner celoso a tu amigo.<\/p>\n<p>Well, your friend shouldn\u2019t be jealous, and you shouldn\u2019t be worrying about that in the first place.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Pon l\u00edmites.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Avoid holding hands (if you don\u2019t want to be perceived as a legit couple), avoid snuggling intimately, or kissing.<\/p>\n<p>Also, try limiting time spent with them. Remember that they are not, and they should not be your only friend. You\u2019re supposed to hang out with other people as well, go on dates, and so on.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Pasar tiempo en grupo en lugar de s\u00f3lo uno a uno.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Pasar tiempo s\u00f3lo a solas puede ser un h\u00e1bito arriesgado. En lugar de eso, intenta pasar tiempo en grupo, incluyendo tambi\u00e9n a tus otros amigos.<\/p>\n<p>El objetivo aqu\u00ed es evitar estar demasiado centrado en ellos o establecer una conexi\u00f3n s\u00f3lo con ellos.<\/p>\n<p>Si tu amigo sigue prefiriendo pasar tiempo a solas, inventa excusas. Adem\u00e1s, cuando pases tiempo a solas, ve a lugares p\u00fablicos y no a su apartamento o al tuyo.<\/p>\n<p>We all know what it means when someone invites you to dinner at their place. If you add wine to the equation, there you have it: From being \u201cjust friends\u201d to lovers.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Busca distracciones.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you notice that you\u2019re catching feelings for them, it\u2019s important to find distractions and surround yourself with other people.<\/p>\n<p>Decrease the amount of time spent with them, go for a walk (without them!), draw something, watch TV shows, go for a drink with some of your friends you haven\u2019t seen in a while.<\/p>\n<p>By distracting yourself, you\u2019ll protect yourself from developing even more feelings for them.<\/p>\n<p>Still, if you notice that it is impossible to distract yourself from thinking about them, you might as well tell them how you feel (but only if you\u2019re ready to become something more).<\/p>\n<h2>\u201cA guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other&#8230; Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever.\u201d \u2013 Dave Matthews<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126956 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con el pelo rizado sonriendo mientras mira a un hombre\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A friendship is a promise that you\u2019ll always be there for each other no matter what. That promise sometimes evolves into deeper feelings followed by a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n<p>A guy and a girl can be \u201cjust friends&#8221; and time will show if they were meant to be something more than that.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Can women and men be \u201cjust friends\u201d? Is it possible to have a girl friend or a guy friend without eventually developing romantic feelings for them? Here\u2019s something interesting, almost all of my romantic relationships started with that famous saying, \u201cOh, we\u2019re just friends.\u201d I vividly remember other people asking me about that one guy&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":126950,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-126948","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&amp;family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Men-And-Women-Can-Never-Be-Just-Friends-Or-Can-They_-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&amp;family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? 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