{"id":127125,"date":"2021-03-05T11:50:13","date_gmt":"2021-03-05T11:50:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=127125"},"modified":"2022-06-22T23:28:19","modified_gmt":"2022-06-22T23:28:19","slug":"falta-de-afecto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/falta-de-afecto\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo la falta de afecto arruina las relaciones (+ c\u00f3mo recuperarse)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>La intimidad es esencial para <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/tipos-de-intimidad\/\">relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>. Nevertheless, it&#8217;s nothing uncommon to see couples who struggle with lack of affection in their romances.<\/p>\n<p>If this is something you&#8217;re dealing with, you know how it feels to crave physical intimacy from the person sleeping next to you. Ironic, isn&#8217;t it? Well, it&#8217;s also devastating and can be disastrous.<\/p>\n<p>Entonces, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/signos-dolorosos-marido-no-ama\/\">falta de afecto<\/a> incluso en relaciones aparentemente amorosas? \u00bfC\u00f3mo te afecta y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, qu\u00e9 se puede hacer al respecto?<\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfQu\u00e9 se esconde tras la falta de afecto e intimidad en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n<p>\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo desaparecieron los mimos, los besos y los abrazos de tu romance? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo dejaron de dormir juntos? Y lo m\u00e1s importante: \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 ocurri\u00f3?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">Sometimes, you\u2019re loved in a language that you can\u2019t understand<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127133 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back.jpg\" alt=\"hombre abrazando a mujer de espaldas mientras est\u00e1 de pie en la terraza y mirando a la ciudad\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-embracing-a-woman-from-the-back-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s get one thing straight: different people need different levels of affection to function. It all actually depends on your love language.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you know exactly what I\u2019m talking about. Well, one of these five<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/horoscope\/este-es-tu-lenguaje-amoroso-segun-tu-zodiaco\/\"> lenguajes del amor<\/a> es <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/contacto-fisico-lenguaje-del-amor\/\">contacto f\u00edsico<\/a>. These are the people who prefer to use nonverbal communication to express their feelings instead of literally saying &#8220;I love you&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>They won\u2019t tell you they care for you right away. They won\u2019t write you love poems or throw you a romantic surprise every now and then.<\/p>\n<p>Pero aprovechar\u00e1n cualquier oportunidad para tocar a su ser querido, cogerle de la mano al hablar, abrazarle o besarle al pasar.<\/p>\n<p>Estas personas sienten el impulso de estar constantemente cerca de la persona a la que aman. Esta cercan\u00eda les da seguridad, comodidad y satisfacci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>No hay ning\u00fan problema cuando se encuentra una pareja con las mismas ganas de besarse, abrazarse y mantener relaciones sexuales. Pero, \u00bfqu\u00e9 ocurre cuando dos personas que demuestran su amor de formas completamente distintas acaban juntas?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfY si su pareja es introvertida? \u00bfY si mostrar afecto f\u00edsico significa salir de su zona de confort?<\/p>\n<p>What if your assumption that they don&#8217;t love you is misinformation? So, before accusing your partner of indifference, take this possibility into consideration.<\/p>\n<p>Para empezar, observa atentamente su comportamiento. Expresan su amor por ti a trav\u00e9s de otros lenguajes?<\/p>\n<p>Tal vez prefieran hacerte un cumplido o comprarte regalos. Puede que les guste pasar tiempo contigo o que expresen su amor incondicional haci\u00e9ndote peque\u00f1os favores cotidianos.<\/p>\n<p>Si este es el caso,<strong> no hay duda: usted y su pareja <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/que-hacer-si-usted-y-su-pareja-no-hablan-el-mismo-idioma-del-amor\/\">don\u2019t speak the same love language<\/a>. Even though this realization alone won\u2019t magically solve your problem, you know what you\u2019re dealing with.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Besides, it\u2019s a start, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">El peor tipo de distancia es la emocional<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127134 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mujer insatisfecha sentada en la cama mientras su marido duerme\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Las personas que est\u00e1n en longitudes de onda similares no tienen problemas<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-a-distancia-prueba-definitiva-amor\/\"> mantener viva una relaci\u00f3n a distancia<\/a> a pesar de los kil\u00f3metros que los separan. Pero, \u00bfqu\u00e9 pasa con los que se sientan uno al lado del otro, pero nunca han estado m\u00e1s distantes?<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s exactly what\u2019s going on with you and your significant other. They\u2019re physically present in your life, but the truth is that you can\u2019t seem to genuinely feel their presence.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s like the bond you two once had vanished. Someone or something cut the cords, and now, there you are: two strangers who keep waking up next to each other.<\/p>\n<p>Bien, <strong>the lack of physical touch you\u2019re currently struggling with is nothing but a direct consequence of this emotional distance<\/strong>. Ustedes dos se han alejado el uno del otro a lo largo de los a\u00f1os.<\/p>\n<p>Esto es algo a lo que muchas parejas se enfrentan en un determinado momento de su relaci\u00f3n.<strong> You don\u2019t know when and how it happened, but you admit that you feel emotionally disconnected from your partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s like neither of you is mentally or emotionally present in the relationship. Your thoughts and heart wander elsewhere, as far away as possible from your significant other.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando esto ocurre, el mero intento de intimidad f\u00edsica le repugna o, al menos, le incomoda.<\/p>\n<p>Your SO\u2019s touch used to provide relief after a long day, and now you have a hard time falling asleep next to them, let alone something more.<\/p>\n<p>For some couples, sadly, this is the end of their romantic relationship. They have stopped loving each other, and this is nothing but a sign that it\u2019s time to part ways.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, algunos no lo ven m\u00e1s que como una crisis. Deciden luchar contra ella y poner todo su empe\u00f1o en recuperar la intimidad perdida.<\/p>\n<p>Habr\u00e1 que preguntarse cu\u00e1l es el enfoque correcto. Merece la pena salvar una relaci\u00f3n cuando llega a este punto?<\/p>\n<p>Well, nobody can give you the answer to this question \u2013 the choice is always yours.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"\/es\/10-senales-de-que-no-se-esfuerza-lo-suficiente-en-vuestra-relacion\/\">10 se\u00f1ales de que no se esfuerza lo suficiente en su relaci\u00f3n<\/a><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">Incluso los sentimientos m\u00e1s fuertes caducan cuando se ignoran y se dan por sentados<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127135 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"un hombre y una mujer utilizando smartphones en casa sentados en lugares separados\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/man-and-a-woman-using-smartphones-at-home-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Otra raz\u00f3n oculta detr\u00e1s de esta situaci\u00f3n en tu relaci\u00f3n es la rutina en la que t\u00fa y tu novio o novia ca\u00edsteis.<\/p>\n<p>You two have been together for ages, and somehow, along the way, both of you stopped nurturing the relationship. It\u2019s like you forgot it needs to be watered and fed as if it were a human being.<\/p>\n<p>Your love still hasn\u2019t vanished, but it definitely is on the path of destruction. For years, nobody has ever done anything to keep it alive, and now you have to deal with the ruins of what once was great love.<\/p>\n<p>Te suena familiar, \u00bfverdad? Pues s\u00ed, <strong>Se trata de una situaci\u00f3n bastante habitual en las parejas de larga duraci\u00f3n que mantienen una relaci\u00f3n comprometida.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>La conclusi\u00f3n es que hab\u00e9is empezado a daros el uno al otro por sentado. La fase de noviazgo ya ha pasado; se acabaron las citas y las conquistas.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que dejaste de hacerlo. Dejaste de hacer cumplidos, de prestar atenci\u00f3n y de dar afecto.<\/p>\n<p>You got used to this person\u2019s presence and you\u2019re sure they\u2019re not going anywhere, no matter what happens. You\u2019ve lost the desire for someone who is always at your arm\u2019s reach.<\/p>\n<p>La pasi\u00f3n ha desaparecido, las mariposas en el vientre est\u00e1n dormidas, pero el hambre de piel est\u00e1 ah\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>You and your spouse are no longer lovers or romantic partners. You might be friends or co-parents, but most of all, you are roommates. You don\u2019t live together \u2013 you coexist next to each other.<\/p>\n<h4>\u00bfC\u00f3mo se arregla?<\/h4>\n<p>\u00bfQu\u00e9 pas\u00f3 con todos esos fuegos artificiales del principio de vuestro romance? Bueno, ustedes dos los apagaron con fuerzas conjuntas.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, I\u2019m not here to judge you. Trust me: it happens to the best as well.<\/p>\n<p>But, now that you\u2019re aware of the problem, it\u2019s time to get into action. Revive the spark in your romance and see it go back to its golden era.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">The person you\u2019re trying to reach is emotionally unavailable at this time. Please try again later<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127136 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste sentada en el borde de la cama mientras el hombre yace detr\u00e1s de ella\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-edge-of-the-bed-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00bfHa sido todo esto un problema desde el principio? \u00bfEs posible que no sea la primera vez que ocurre? \u00bfEstabas tan cegado por el amor que no te diste cuenta?<\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you pretended it didn\u2019t bother you back then? But now, you\u2019ve reached a pointwhere you\u2019ve had enough?<\/p>\n<p>In that case, you\u2019re dealing with an emotionally unavailable<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/4-maneras-probadas-de-salir-con-exito-con-un-hombre-con-problemas-de-intimidad\/\"> pareja con problemas de intimidad<\/a>.<strong> Or, maybe they&#8217;re just self-centered to the point where they consciously refuse to love anyone but themselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>To get one thing straight, they\u2019ve been like this forever, and they\u2019ll probably keep their behavioral patterns for as long as they breathe.<\/p>\n<p>Pero, probablemente pensaste que podr\u00edas cambiarlos con el tiempo. Estabas convencido de que ten\u00edas lo que hac\u00eda falta para abrir su coraz\u00f3n al amor.<\/p>\n<p>You ignored all the red flags and you thought you&#8217;d <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/romantic-love\/seduction\/como-enamorar-a-un-hombre-emocionalmente-inaccesible-5-maneras-de-hacerlo\/\">haz que se enamoren de ti<\/a>. It\u2019s not like you failed to see that they were incapable of loving \u2013 you just kept your hopes up that things would turn out differently.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So\u00f1abas con derribar sus muros. Ansiabas que un d\u00eda te dejaran entrar y se ablandaran.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sin embargo, eso nunca ocurri\u00f3, \u00bfverdad?<\/strong> Se volvieron a\u00fan m\u00e1s inasequibles emocionalmente cuando se dieron cuenta de que estabas all\u00ed y de que no ten\u00edas intenci\u00f3n de dejarles.<\/p>\n<h4>\u00bfC\u00f3mo se arregla?<\/h4>\n<p>If this is something you can relate to, you don\u2019t have many options left. Whatever happens, you have to forget about <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/tu-amor-no-puede-cambiar-a-un-hombre-hasta-que-el-mismo-decida-hacerlo\/\">tu amor cambi\u00e1ndolas.<\/a> Si eso hubiera podido ocurrir, lo habr\u00eda hecho hasta ahora. Cuando me di cuenta de que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/34-signos-ya-no-ama\/\">he doesn&#8217;t love me<\/a> (mi ex), decid\u00ed seguir adelante inmediatamente.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Por lo tanto, <strong>puedes aceptar la situaci\u00f3n o abandonarla.<\/strong> Puedes condenarte a una vida sin amor junto a ellos o continuar por tu cuenta.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Puede permanecer en este<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-arreglar-una-relacion-unilateral-7-maneras-eficaces\/\"> relaci\u00f3n unilateral<\/a> o puedes seguir adelante con la esperanza de encontrar a quien te mereces.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t lie to you: in both cases, you\u2019ll break your own heart, but only one option will turn your entire life into a dark tunnel without the light at the end of it.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">La forma en que alguien te responde puede no tener nada que ver contigo.<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127137 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mujer pensativa tumbada en la cama mientras su novio duerme detr\u00e1s de ella\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/pensive-woman-lying-in-bed-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Cuando algo falla en nuestro romance, tendemos a culparnos a nosotros mismos.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re touch-deprived, you\u2019ll immediately see this as the end of the world. Has the love between you and your partner disappeared?<\/p>\n<p>En <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-saber-cuando-romper\/\">tu relaci\u00f3n llega a su fecha de caducidad<\/a>? \u00bfSon infieles? \u00bfTienen una aventura emocional? \u00bfYa no eres atractiva?<\/p>\n<p>Pero.., <strong>have you ever wondered if maybe your partner isn\u2019t affectionate due to some other problem completely unrelated to your relationship? Is it possible that something outside of your romance is going wrong?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Adult life does this to people. We\u2019re all busy, running between errands and responsibilities.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe, your SO is dealing with some mental health issues; maybe they\u2019re depressed or are just going through a stressful period. Either way, it\u2019s more than obvious that they\u2019re bothered with something.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, showing you affection simply isn\u2019t the primary thing on their mind right now.<\/p>\n<h4>\u00bfC\u00f3mo se arregla?<\/h4>\n<p>Even though this reason seems quite benign, it\u2019s still not the best news in the world. You see, if your partner is going through a rough patch, but you know nothing about it, you still have a problem.<\/p>\n<p>This time, we\u2019re not talking about touch-deprivation only. It\u2019s clear that you two have some communication issues.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why you have to start working on the cause before dealing with the consequences. Talk to your SO, regain their trust, and make them realize they can tell you everything.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t judge them, but carefully listen to whatever they have to say. Don\u2019t pressure them either unless you want to scare them off.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Vosotros dos deber\u00edais <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/reconstruir-la-confianza-en-una-relacion\/\">recrear el entorno seguro en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/a><\/strong> En el momento en que consigas este dif\u00edcil objetivo, vuestra comunicaci\u00f3n mejorar\u00e1 y el afecto f\u00edsico har\u00e1 su gran reaparici\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n:<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/salir-con-una-persona-no-afectuosa\/\"> 13 cosas que debes recordar cuando salgas con una persona poco afectuosa<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfC\u00f3mo puede afectarle la falta de afecto de su marido o mujer?<\/h2>\n<p>You&#8217;re a social being, and whether you&#8217;re aware of that or not, you need human touch as you need air to breathe. You especially need it from your partner \u2013 the person you see as your soulmate.<\/p>\n<p>So, what happens when you&#8217;re deprived of physical contact with them? Well, it has to leave some consequences on you, doesn&#8217;t it?<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">&nbsp;If stress burned calories, you\u2019d be a supermodel<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127138 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table.jpg\" alt=\"mujer cansada sentada a la mesa al atardecer\" height=\"1062\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table-1024x680.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table-768x510.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table-1536x1020.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/tired-woman-sitting-at-the-table-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Skin hunger and lack of human contact in general lead to stress \u2013 there is no doubt about that. Lonely people are more frequently frustrated and discontent with their lives.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que imag\u00ednate lo que te puede hacer sentirte solo mientras est\u00e1s f\u00edsicamente al lado de tu ser querido. Te enfada, te hace infeliz y miserable.<\/p>\n<p>Te apetece discutir con todo el que se cruza en tu camino, tienes tolerancia cero a cualquier tipo de desacuerdo, y podr\u00edas morder literalmente a todo el que utiliza un tono incorrecto contigo, por no hablar de otra cosa.<\/p>\n<p>The worst part is that, in most cases, it takes you awhile to understand what\u2019s going on with you. You see that something is off, but you have a hard time figuring the cause of all of this stress.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que, en lugar de trabajar en la causa,<strong> this amount of stress stresses you even more, and before you know it, you\u2019re trapped in an endless, vicious cycle that you see no way out of.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Your mood shifts dozens of times during the day, your relationships with friends and family get into crises, and you end up in some kind of social isolation because if the truth is told, you&#8217;re not good company for anyone.<\/p>\n<p>Toda tu vida empieza a desmoronarse. Lo m\u00e1s desastroso es que la relaci\u00f3n que mantienes contigo mismo tambi\u00e9n parece tambalearse.<\/p>\n<p><strong>La verdad es que \u00faltimamente te cuesta soportarte. Toda esta situaci\u00f3n ha hecho mella en tu salud mental.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You become more and more anxious, and it\u2019s like you fail to see that you\u2019re in desperate need of something so simple as your loved one\u2019s affection. Of course, you\u2019re not getting any, so your condition worsens.<\/p>\n<p>Please remember one thing: nothing and nobody is worthy of your mental health. Put yourself as a priority and put an effort into making yourself happy if you can\u2019t fix your relationship.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019re no longer comfortable in your own skin<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127139 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"mujer insatisfecha que se mira al espejo y piensa\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/dissatisfied-woman-looking-herself-in-the-mirror-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lack of physical contact in a romantic relationship brings numerous self-esteem problems. It\u2019s actually pretty logical.<\/p>\n<p>The person you share your life with doesn\u2019t kiss you, doesn\u2019t hold you in their arms, doesn\u2019t hug you, and ultimately, doesn\u2019t sleep with you. So, who could blame you for concluding that they find you repulsive?<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re convinced that your partner no longer sees you as attractive. The first thing you do is start looking for flaws in your body.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00bfHa engordado? \u00bfO tal vez has perdido un kilo de m\u00e1s? \u00bfDeber\u00edas hacer algo diferente con tu pelo? \u00bfTe ayudar\u00eda ir al gimnasio? \u00bfO cambiar de perfume?<\/p>\n<p>You start comparing yourself to all other men and women \u2013 especially to those near your SO. You picture your partner admiring everyone\u2019s looks and then realizing that you are the worst choice they could have ever made.<\/p>\n<p>Y no s\u00f3lo eso: tambi\u00e9n te comparas con la persona que eras al principio de vuestro romance. Al fin y al cabo, esa es la persona de la que se enamor\u00f3 tu pareja, as\u00ed que el camino hacia su coraz\u00f3n es volver a ser t\u00fa mismo de joven.<\/p>\n<p>El mayor problema es que estos problemas de autoestima te acompa\u00f1an incluso si la relaci\u00f3n se rompe. Se convierten en una pesada carga que arrastrar\u00e1s en todos tus futuros romances.<\/p>\n<p>Creas problemas que te persiguen durante mucho tiempo. Cuando empiezas a sentirte inc\u00f3modo en tu propia piel, tu imagen corporal cambia para siempre.<\/p>\n<p>It takes you a long time to understand that you\u2019re gorgeous just the way you are, and it takes you a long time to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/pasos-hacia-el-amor-incondicional-a-uno-mismo\/\">acepta tus imperfecciones.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>But, it takes you the longest time to realize that your physical appearance had nothing to do with touch deprivation. When you\u2019re in a healthy relationship, your loved one will love you back no matter how you look \u2013 that\u2019s the whole point.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">Loneliness is not a lack of company \u2013 it\u2019s a lack of purpose<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127140 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow.jpg\" alt=\"mujer solitaria abrazando una almohada y mirando a un lado\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/lonely-woman-hugging-a-pillow-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>University of Arizona Professor, Kory Floyd, says: &#8220;Touch, in particular, is so important, not only to relationships, human connection, and human attachment, but also to our health and well-being, both physically and mentally.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, it&#8217;s <strong>No es de extra\u00f1ar que la falta de intimidad y la privaci\u00f3n de contacto provoquen un d\u00e9ficit de oxitocina, la hormona del amor.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Consequently, depression starts to crawl into your world. Even though you\u2019re not physically and technically alone, you\u2019re very much lonely.<\/p>\n<p>You have a romantic partner, but most of the time, you feel like you\u2019re single. You feel unloved and unwanted, which can\u2019t be pleasing for anyone.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that your relationship is the only thing falling apart here \u2013 your entire life is. You think that all of your efforts are in vain and like you have lost all purpose in this world.<\/p>\n<h3>\u00bfQu\u00e9 puede hacer al respecto?<\/h3>\n<p>Well, you haven\u2019t! Even if the person next to you has stopped loving you, you must never stop loving yourself.<\/p>\n<p>I know that you\u2019re lonely. Yes, it sucks. But, hey, you still have yourself, and who can be more important than that?<\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfC\u00f3mo salvar una relaci\u00f3n carente de afecto?<\/h2>\n<p>La mejor noticia es que no todo est\u00e1 perdido. Una relaci\u00f3n privada de tacto puede salvarse, y aqu\u00ed tienes exactamente c\u00f3mo hacerlo.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">If love isn\u2019t given freely to you, it isn\u2019t worth having<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127141 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man.jpg\" alt=\"mujer rubia alejandose de hombre mirando al suelo\" height=\"1071\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man-768x514.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man-1536x1028.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/blonde-woman-walking-away-from-man-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>El error n\u00famero uno que la gente comete en las relaciones carentes de afecto es <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/self-love\/confidence\/tengo-que-pedir-tu-atencion-ni-siquiera-la-quiero\/\">mendigando atenci\u00f3n.<\/a> Empiezan <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/messages\/historias\/no-persigas-el-amor-te-encontrara-cuando-sea-el-momento-adecuado\/\">persiguiendo el amor<\/a> en intentos desesperados por atraparlo.<\/p>\n<p>There is nothing unusual about this. You get scared that you\u2019re losing the person you love, and you want to hold them next to you as tightly as possible.<\/p>\n<p>Pero.., <strong>\u00bfmerece la pena tener el amor que persigues? Seg\u00fan todos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/consejos-de-pareja-2\/\">consejos sobre relaciones<\/a>, it definitely isn&#8217;t.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not saying that you should sit arms crossed and not move a finger. Don\u2019t let pride ruin your love.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, don\u2019t forget about your dignity either. It\u2019s one thing to ask your partner to talk about your problem, but begging them down on your knees is something completely different.<\/p>\n<p>Mira, <strong>you can\u2019t force anyone to be affectionate the same way you can\u2019t force anyone to love you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You can do your best to find a compromise regarding this issue, and you can be open about what\u2019s bothering you and hope for the best. Everything else is pretty much outside of your reach.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"numbered-headline\">No tiene sentido devolver el favor<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127142 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband.jpg\" alt=\"mujer ofendida mirando a su serio marido sentado cerca de ella\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/offended-woman-looking-at-her-serious-husband-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing you shouldn\u2019t be doing is getting even. I know that you want to boost your ego by giving your partner a taste of their own medicine, but trust me: it\u2019s not the way to go. Besides being immature, it won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>You know exactly what I\u2019m talking about. Your SO was depriving you of physical affection for awhile, so now that they are trying to get closer to you, you\u2019re not letting them in.<\/p>\n<p>You avoid their cuddles, kisses, and hugs despite the skin hunger that&#8217;s overwhelming you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re actually punishing them for their behavior. This is your revenge \u2013 you don\u2019t plan on running to them every time they remember to show affection.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Even though I get your point of view, the better choice is to let them slide this time. If you don\u2019t, then the abyss between you two will only become deeper.<\/p>\n<h2>Para terminar:<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-127143 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation.jpg\" alt=\"una pareja conversa seriamente sentada en el sof\u00e1\" height=\"1064\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation-1024x681.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation-768x511.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation-1536x1021.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-couple-having-serious-conversation-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lack of affection in a relationship is a big deal \u2013 don&#8217;t let anyone tell you otherwise. Nevertheless, it&#8217;s crucial to understand that the lack of physical contact is actually, in most cases, just a consequence of a deeper problem.<\/p>\n<p>But, the good news is that things don&#8217;t have to always remain like this. This problem can be solved and your relationship can be saved.<\/p>\n<p><strong>S\u00f3lo hay una condici\u00f3n: tanto t\u00fa como tu pareja ten\u00e9is que unir fuerzas para arreglar las cosas.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Intimacy is essential for every healthy relationship. Nevertheless, it&#8217;s nothing uncommon to see couples who struggle with lack of affection in their romances. If this is something you&#8217;re dealing with, you know how it feels to crave physical intimacy from the person sleeping next to you. Ironic, isn&#8217;t it? Well, it&#8217;s also devastating and can&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":127132,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-127125","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/How-Lack-Of-Affection-Ruins-Relationships-How-To-Recover-1024x680.jpg",1024,680,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. 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