{"id":12804,"date":"2020-06-19T14:50:59","date_gmt":"2020-06-19T14:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12804"},"modified":"2022-01-24T14:10:44","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T14:10:44","slug":"la-chica-de-las-cartas-sobrevivio-a-un-abuso-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/la-chica-de-las-cartas-sobrevivio-a-un-abuso-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Una carta a la ni\u00f1a que sobrevivi\u00f3 a un abuso narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

Has pasado por momentos dif\u00edciles. En realidad, tiempos dif\u00edciles ni siquiera lo describe lo suficiente. Has pasado por un infierno.<\/p>\n

Lo que experimentaste puede compararse literalmente con el infierno.<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1s haya otras chicas u otras mujeres que pasaron por algo parecido, y quiz\u00e1s s\u00f3lo ellas puedan entenderte.<\/p>\n

But someone who hasn\u2019t experienced the things you did can\u2019t even begin to understand what happened to you.<\/p>\n

You know, what happened to you doesn\u2019t actually resemble anything anyone else ever went through.<\/p>\n

Habr\u00e1 algunas similitudes entre algunas historias, pero no hay dos historias iguales.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it hurts even more to try to tell your own story.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why your heart breaks even more when they say they understand and then end up blaming you for staying so long.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They don\u2019t understand, how could they possibly?<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

If they haven\u2019t experienced it in their own skin, if they haven\u2019t been in your head, if they haven\u2019t cut your heart open to see what is in it and if they haven\u2019t peeked into your soul to see the amount of fear you were feeling, they can\u2019t possibly understand how or why you stayed so long.<\/p>\n

Estabas convencida de que te quer\u00edan, de que liarte con tu verdugo ser\u00eda el viaje de tu vida. Que con \u00e9l experimentar\u00edas un amor fuera de este mundo.<\/p>\n

You were told how you were one of a kind and how you were all he\u2019d been looking for. You were promised eternal love, but all you got was eternal hell.<\/p>\n

Nunca sab\u00edas en qu\u00e9 te estabas metiendo. Esperabas lo mejor, pero acababas recibiendo lo peor.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t fool yourself that you could’ve been smarter or more careful. You couldn’t.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Because your heart and your mind were never programmed to notice someone who\u2019s really good at disguising. And your tormentor was excellent at disguising.<\/p>\n

Parec\u00eda ser un tipo bueno y cari\u00f1oso. Lo hac\u00eda todo bien. Parec\u00eda demasiado bueno para ser verdad.<\/p>\n

He convinced you that he was the best you\u2019d ever get and that he truly cared. It was one hell of a play he performed to get you hooked. And once you were all his, he changed.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t change all at once. He started changing little by little.<\/p>\n

He shifted one thing at a time because he wanted to get you used to the pain bit by bit, so that once you saw his true face, you wouldn\u2019t be surprised.<\/p>\n

Lo ten\u00eda todo planeado. Ten\u00eda su plan largamente preparado.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He did everything he could to trap you in his net and feed off of your pain. He knew you\u2019d never leave since you were not that type of person.<\/p>\n

Nunca abandonas a los que amas, por mucho que te hagan da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

You never give up. You\u2019re the type of person who fights till her last breath and that\u2019s exactly what he was counting on.<\/p>\n

For so long, you\u2019ve been asking yourself what it was that you did wrong. For so long, you\u2019ve replayed recuerdos en tu cabeza<\/a> para ver qu\u00e9 m\u00e1s se podr\u00eda haber hecho para arreglar las cosas.<\/p>\n

But there wasn\u2019t anything else you could\u2019ve done to make things right, since he wanted everything to go wrong for you.<\/p>\n

The worst part isn\u2019t the fact that you couldn\u2019t let go. The worst part is that you struggled even after everything ended.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Lo peor es que a\u00fan quedaban rasgos de amor por \u00e9l en ti una vez que acab\u00f3 contigo.<\/p>\n

It took you a while to escape him, but it took you even longer to accept the truth and what you\u2019d been through in order to let go of the feelings that were running wild in you.<\/p>\n

Pero incluso cuando escapaste de su red t\u00f3xica, los sentimientos t\u00f3xicos que hab\u00eda impreso en ti permanecieron m\u00e1s tiempo del que esperabas. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You continued to apologize for everything, even when you knew there wasn\u2019t anything you did wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Segu\u00edas pensando que todo lo malo que hab\u00eda pasado era culpa tuya<\/a>incluso cuando la mitad de las cosas no ten\u00edan nada que ver contigo.<\/p>\n

Ten\u00edas miedo de hablar, de mostrar tus emociones o de relacionarte con alguien.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Los sentimientos que proyectaba en ti mientras estabais juntos permanecieron mucho tiempo despu\u00e9s de que terminara contigo.<\/p>\n

Now that it\u2019s all over you still blame yourself, but I promise you that none of what happened to you was your fault.<\/p>\n

Tu verdugo era demasiado astuto para que te dieras cuenta de que algo iba mal.<\/p>\n

So there wasn\u2019t a thing you could\u2019ve done differently. Stop beating yourself up about it. It is not your fault.<\/p>\n

Tienes que dejar de verte como una v\u00edctima cuando te miras al espejo. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Porque no eres una v\u00edctima. Eres un superviviente. Sobreviviste al infierno. Recon\u00f3celo. Deja que duela y luego deja que sane.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Okay, you\u2019re a bit roto ahora<\/a>, but aren\u2019t we all? Okay, you\u2019re still scared, but aren\u2019t we all a little bit scared?<\/p>\n

None of this means your story ends here. It\u2019s where it begins. Because the only way to go from the bottom is up.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que deja de huir de tu pasado. Deja de huir de lo que le pas\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Deja de reprimir tus sentimientos y de atormentarte por lo que has pasado.<\/p>\n

Be proud that you\u2019re still standing after the hell you\u2019ve been through and don\u2019t be ashamed of your wounds and scars because they are the proof of your battles and proof that you\u2019re a true warrior.<\/p>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Hay luz al final del t\u00fanel, s\u00f3lo hay que tener la paciencia suficiente y aparecer\u00e1.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Te espera un futuro brillante, pero tienes que dejar de quedarte parado en el mismo sitio y empezar a caminar hacia \u00e9l.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you know what one famous poet said? He said: \u201cThe wound is the place where the light enters you.\u201d<\/p>\n

You are not broken, you’re full of places where the light can enter. Remember this.<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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