{"id":12902,"date":"2020-11-22T14:47:39","date_gmt":"2020-11-22T14:47:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12902"},"modified":"2022-03-08T18:43:17","modified_gmt":"2022-03-08T18:43:17","slug":"validate-know-feel-real","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/validate-know-feel-real\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo validarte: Saber que lo que sientes es real"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThe woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.\u201d – Mohadesa Majumi<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When you depend on people to build you up, they\u2019ll have the same power to break you down. You don\u2019t need their validation to know your worth.<\/p>\n

So instead of seeking others to validate you, make sure your validate yourself. Make sure your self-validation is on fleek and no matter what others say, they won\u2019t be able to break you down.<\/p>\n

Buscar validaci\u00f3n es lo mismo que pedir a otros que te lo digan<\/a> who you are and what you\u2019re worth. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Whatever they tell you won\u2019t be true because it didn’t come from you. You\u2019re the only one who can validate yourself because that\u2019s the only validation that counts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need to get your friends\u2019 approval to do something. Your family doesn\u2019t have to like your choices and your boyfriend can\u2019t determine which path should you take.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s up to you to follow your gut and say \u2018no\u2019 things which don\u2019t feel right or do something just because you feel like doing it.<\/p>\n

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As a human being on this journey with your own thoughts of and in life, you have the right to feel the way you feel, no matter when you\u2019re feeling it or why. Always keep this in mind.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cNothing destroys self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-love faster than denying what you feel. Without feelings you wouldn\u2019t know where you are in life. Nor would you know which areas to work on. Honour your feelings. Allow yourself to feel them.\u201d – Iyanla Vanzant<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

La validaci\u00f3n es algo que todos buscamos. Pero muy poca gente sabe que el lugar adecuado para pedir validaci\u00f3n es dentro de uno mismo.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s called self-validation and once you get on good terms with yourself, when you make peace within, nothing irrelevant can touch you.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que antes de que elijas buscar validaci\u00f3n fuera de tu propia piel, recu\u00e9rdate que s\u00f3lo t\u00fa puedes validarte a ti mismo y a tus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

In case you\u2019re still struggling with doing so, here are a few steps delivered by Marsha Linehan to help you in your process of self-validation.<\/p>\n

Estar presente<\/h2>\n

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Being present means grounding yourself. Don\u2019t dissociate, don\u2019t daydream and don\u2019t suppress or numb your emotions. Never allow them to bottle up to the point where they\u2019ll take you on the verge of exploding.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to turn off what you\u2019re feeling because even if it seems like you\u2019ve succeeded, it will come to collect later. So don\u2019t fool yourself and estar presente.<\/a><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, sentir todo el dolor y dejar que te hunda a veces puede ser duro, pero negarlo puede traer consecuencias mayores.<\/p>\n

Always assess your feelings and always work on them. Never try to run away because it will be like you\u2019re running away from yourself.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible and eventually all that you\u2019ve been trying to avoid will come to the surface in waves.<\/p>\n

Reconocer su estado interno<\/h2>\n

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Whatever you\u2019re feeling, try to label it accurately. Instead of fooling yourself and making yourself believe that it\u2019s not too big of a deal, reflect on your emotions and events that occured.<\/p>\n

Instead of falling into deep depression or something even worse, instead of beating yourself down, instead of saying: \u201cNobody is ever going to love me\u201d; say: \u201cI\u2019m feeling sad and hurting because my boyfriend broke up with me\u201d.<\/p>\n

Never allow yourself to neglect your state to the point of convincing yourself that there is something wrong with you and that you\u2019ve fallen into a hole from which there is no way out.<\/p>\n

Adivinando<\/h2>\n

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In certain situations, even you won\u2019t be able to identify your feelings. Perhaps you\u2019ll have a hard time realizing how you feel so you should try to think how would any other person feel in your situation.<\/p>\n

For example: \u201cSomeone else would normally feel sad in my situation. Am I feeling sad?\u201d Repeat this process until you actually figure out exactly what you feel.<\/p>\n

Validaci\u00f3n por historial<\/h2>\n

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En la mayor\u00eda de los casos, tendemos a llevar con nosotros muchas cargas de nuestro pasado. \u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces los acontecimientos del pasado han perturbado tu presente<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Too many times, I\u2019d take a wild guess. So, before giving your feelings any diagnosis, think about how similar events affected you in the past and if you are projecting some of your trama from the past today.<\/p>\n

Stay true to yourself and don\u2019t let it just sneak upon you. Know when something hurt you and always try to see how much damage it has done. Know that often the feelings you feel today have something to do with the past.<\/p>\n

Normalizaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

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Instead of beating yourself because of the way you feel or thinking how you\u2019re the weakest person alive, acknowledge that it\u2019s normal to feel the way you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Remind yourself that it\u2019s all comes with being human and that you have to allow yourself to feel in order to be able to heal.<\/p>\n

Autenticidad radical<\/h2>\n

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En t\u00e9rminos de autovalidaci\u00f3n, esto significa ser uno mismo y no mentirse. Don\u2019t pretend to be someone you\u2019re not.<\/a> Don\u2019t fool yourself into rejecting who you are.<\/p>\n

No matter if you like some of your traits or not, admit to yourself those are your traits and that you\u2019re the one living with them. Always stay true to who you are and accept yourself like you are at the moment.<\/p>\n

In your mind, learn to put your opinion first. Never allow yourself to think badly about yourself when you\u2019re hurting or when you’re emocionalmente vulnerable<\/a>. Those are emotions and thoughts woken up by the pain and that\u2019s not who you truly are.<\/p>\n

Cuando el dolor disminuya, intenta mirarte con las gafas de tu yo superior. Ese yo superior es la parte de ti que te acepta por lo que eres y esa parte de ti te ama con tus perfecciones y tambi\u00e9n con tus defectos.<\/p>\n

\u201cAll the wonders you seek are within yourself.\u201d ~ Sir Thomas Browne<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Deja de preguntarte si gustas a los dem\u00e1s. Piensa si te gustas a ti mismo. Porque s\u00f3lo cuando te lleves bien contigo mismo, s\u00f3lo cuando ac\u00e9ptate por lo que eres<\/a> y aprende a amar tu verdadero yo, s\u00f3lo entonces los dem\u00e1s podr\u00e1n amarte tambi\u00e9n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never ask others to validate you, your behaviour or your feelings. Know that you\u2019re the only one who can do it and learn how to do it.<\/p>\n

Ed\u00facate para sentirte mejor contigo mismo. Y haz todo lo posible por enamorarte de tu vida y de c\u00f3mo la vives.<\/p>\n

Never look for a knight to save you\u2014always look for a sword to save yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y al final, hagas lo que hagas, vayas donde vayas, te sientas como te sientas, recu\u00e9rdalo: La mujer que no requiere la validaci\u00f3n de nadie es el individuo m\u00e1s temido del planeta.<\/em><\/p>\n

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