{"id":133877,"date":"2021-08-24T20:10:55","date_gmt":"2021-08-24T20:10:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=133877"},"modified":"2022-01-12T01:54:10","modified_gmt":"2022-01-12T01:54:10","slug":"si-amas-a-alguien-dejalo-ir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-amas-a-alguien-dejalo-ir\/","title":{"rendered":"\"Si amas a alguien, d\u00e9jalo marchar\": \u00bfdeber\u00edas hacerlo?"},"content":{"rendered":"

How many times have you heard the phrase, \u2018If you love someone, let them go?\u2019 Your best friend probably told you this line if your ex rompi\u00f3 contigo<\/a> \u00faltimamente o si tu relaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 llegando a su fin.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 significa este t\u00f3pico? Al fin y al cabo, lo sabes muy bien, mucha gente te lo repite solo para consolarte.<\/p>\n

They’re probably worried about your heartbreak and mental health, and are ready to say practically everything just to make you feel better. You’re thankful, but for you, this line makes no sense at all.<\/p>\n

If you care for someone \u2013 your best friend, family member, or a romantic partner \u2013 you want them by your side as much as possible, isn\u2019t that right? In fact, you\u2019ll do everything in your power to keep them next to you, won\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Looking at things from this perspective, the phrase, \u2018If you truly love someone, let them go\u2019, makes absolutely no sense.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m here to change your mind.<\/p>\n

If you read on, you\u2019ll realize why this seemingly simple line is actually one of the most valuable lessons you can aprender sobre el amor<\/a>. Not only that: you\u2019ll also finally understand its true meaning.<\/p>\n

Why Do They Say \u2018If You Love Someone, Let Them Go?\u2019<\/h2>\n

The main concept of the saying, \u2018If you love someone, let them go,\u2019 is that you can\u2019t lose what was never yours. At the same time, you can\u2019t keep someone who isn\u2019t truly yours either.<\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, cuando dejas ir a la persona que te importa profundamente, le das libre albedr\u00edo. Si vuelven a ti son realmente el uno para el otro<\/a>. On the other hand, if they don\u2019t \u2013 they were never yours in the first place.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, there is much more to this famous line. Here are some of the reasons why it\u2019s a sentence that should guide you through life.<\/p>\n

El verdadero amor es desinteresado<\/h3>\n

\"unIt\u2019s actually pretty simple: when you love someone, you want them to be happy \u2013 with or without you. At least, that\u2019s what amor verdadero<\/a> se trata. O de lo que deber\u00eda tratarse.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, cuando ames a alguien, d\u00e9jalo ir. Dale su libertad y d\u00e9jale ser.<\/p>\n

I know many people haven\u2019t experienced something like this. To be honest, I had trouble accepting this notion as well.<\/p>\n

After all, when you\u2019re into someone, let alone when you love them (and are in a romantic relationship with them), you want them by your side at all times. You\u2019re a un poco posesivo<\/a> and you can\u2019t stand the mere idea of them giving their attention to someone else.<\/p>\n

Whether we like to admit it or not, this is how most of us act when we fall in love. Well, I hate to be the one to break your bubble, but guess what: this is not your heart talking, it\u2019s your ego.<\/p>\n

You couldn’t face the fact that you\u2019ve been replaced by someone better than you \u2013 that\u2019s why you hold on to your partner so tightly.<\/p>\n

Tu autoestima se arruinar\u00eda en pedazos, y pensar\u00edas que el hecho de que te dejen no es igual a t\u00fa eres suficiente<\/a>. What\u2019s that besides your ego?<\/p>\n

On the other hand, true love is completely selfless. You want only what\u2019s best for your loved one, even if that doesn’t include you.<\/p>\n

And, that\u2019s exactly what you\u2019ll learn if you let go of the one you love.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll know where you stand<\/h3>\n

\"laUncertainty is one of the worst feelings in the world. And no, I\u2019m not talking about the good kind that includes anticipation of something good and exciting that\u2019s about to happen.<\/p>\n

In your case, uncertainty means not knowing where you stand. This is a hard pill to swallow, but the truth is that you doubt your partner\u2019s feelings.<\/p>\n

One day, it seems like you\u2019re the love of their life. But, soon after that, everything changes.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but wonder if they\u2019re playing juegos fr\u00edos y calientes<\/a> o they just don\u2019t care<\/a> about you. Or maybe, the love they\u2019re feeling is real, but it\u2019s not enough?<\/p>\n

Basically, your biggest fear is this person leaving you. You live in constant agony that one of these days, you\u2019ll wake up and they will be gone.<\/p>\n

You know what\u2019s the best way to chase away your fears? That\u2019s right \u2013 to look them deeply in the eyes and face them with all the courage you can muster.<\/p>\n

People say \u201cIf you love someone, let them go\u201d exactly because of this. Instead of waiting for the other person to leave you behind, why wouldn\u2019t you forestall them and let them go first?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not claiming that volver\u00e1n<\/a>. The truth is that, maybe, you won\u2019t get the outcome you\u2019re hoping for.<\/p>\n

But hey, at least you\u2019ll know where you stand, and that\u2019s always better than these doubts that have been bothering you.<\/p>\n

Reforzar\u00e1 su v\u00ednculo<\/h3>\n

\"unPor supuesto, hay muchas posibilidades de que vuelvan. Usted puede lib\u00e9ralos<\/a>, but maybe they\u2019ll refuse to go in the first place.<\/p>\n

In that case, you can be sure that this experience will make your bond stronger than ever before. You\u2019ll prove to each other that your love is real and one of a kind.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, you\u2019ll prove to your loved one that you love them even more than you love yourself. For you, their happiness comes first, and it\u2019s even more important than yours.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not some possessive jerk who wants them for yourself at all costs. You\u2019re giving them their liberty, and you don\u2019t want to force them into being with you in any way possible.<\/p>\n

No manipulaci\u00f3n emocional<\/a>, no blackmails, no begging \u2013 you\u2019re giving them freedom of choice. And, what bigger proof of love can someone wish for?<\/p>\n

On the other hand, they\u2019re showing you the depth of their emotions as well. They choose to stay next to you despite all of this mentioned above.<\/p>\n

You haven\u2019t put them in chains and you haven\u2019t tied them to you in any way possible. But, despite that, they came back to you because they realized you\u2019re the one.<\/p>\n

Trust me \u2013 if you get your ex back like this without pressure, deceptions, and games, there is no doubt about one thing: this is just pure love.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll stop being emotionally codependent<\/h3>\n

\"unaI don\u2019t care how in love you and your partner are \u2013 being overly dependent on one another is never healthy. You know what I\u2019m talking about: about those relationships where your partner becomes the center of your world.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, todo depende de su estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/a>Pero volverse emocionalmente dependiente en una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica es m\u00e1s com\u00fan de lo que se piensa.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the relationships where you cease to exist without them next to you. You\u2019re literally addicted to them, and when they\u2019re not around, everything becomes pointless and it\u2019s like your entire life has no sense.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that this will happen to you, but a common scenario in these kinds of situations is one person taking advantage of the other. The moment your partner notices that you can\u2019t live without them is the moment they realize you won\u2019t stop loving them no matter how they treat you.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, codependencia emocional<\/a> te hace perderte a ti mismo. Te arrebata tu personalidad y te priva por completo de tu independencia.<\/p>\n

Well, the most efficient way to avoid this is to let go of the person you\u2019re addicted to. Yes, it\u2019s an incredibly difficult step to take, but it will help you not to be so emotionally dependent.<\/p>\n

Tus inseguridades desaparecer\u00e1n<\/h3>\n

\"unaAlong with emotional dependency come self-confidence problems. We\u2019ve already established that you think you\u2019re worth nothing without your partner.<\/p>\n

Naturalmente, ves a todos los que te rodean como tu competencia. Los ves como una amenaza y como alguien por quien tu pareja podr\u00eda dejarte.<\/p>\n

Even though they never told you this directly, you feel like you\u2019re not enough in this relationship. You\u2019re convinced that your partner can do better than you, and this fear paralyzes you.<\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s my piece of advice? Should you cling to them even harder? Should you hold them as if your life depended on them?<\/p>\n

En absoluto. D\u00e9jalos ir y ver\u00e1s c\u00f3mo tus inseguridades desaparecen en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.<\/p>\n

Once they come back to you, you\u2019ll understand that you\u2019ve been the one they\u2019ve wanted all along. Just imagine this scenario: you give them all the freedom in the world and they could choose whoever they wanted.<\/p>\n

But, what did they do? They came back to the only person they ever loved \u2013 you.<\/p>\n

Su ex te quiere<\/a> and only you, and they’ve made it very clear. Whose confidence wouldn\u2019t skyrocket under these circumstances?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a chance for a new beginning<\/h3>\n

\"unaLet\u2019s get one thing straight here: there is a possibility of your loved one never coming back \u2013 I won\u2019t lie to you about it. But, even if that happens, is it the end of the world?<\/p>\n

It most certainly isn\u2019t. Actually, it can be a great chance for a fresh start.<\/p>\n

Now that you know where you stand, you have no other option but to accept your faith. Now that you\u2019ve let this person go, you have no other option but to seguir adelante<\/a> con tu vida.<\/p>\n

En lugar de ver esto como lo peor que podr\u00eda haber pasado, m\u00edralo como un acto de Dios. \u00c9l te liber\u00f3 de alguien que claramente no estaba destinado a ser tuyo.<\/p>\n

Besides, the most important thing is that you gave your best. Most importantly: you weren\u2019t too clingy and you didn\u2019t force anyone<\/a> estar contigo.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, it\u2019s their loss \u2013 not yours.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo dejar marchar a alguien aunque le ames?<\/h2>\n

\"elIf you love something, let it go. Easier said than done, am I right? After reading the previous passage, you know why it\u2019s the best thing you can do in every life situation.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, nobody has taught you how to actually do it. Well, that\u2019s about to change.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que dejar ir a la persona que te importa profundamente<\/a> is one of the most devastating things you\u2019ll ever have to do in life. I know it because I\u2019ve been there.<\/p>\n

There was a point in my life when I had to give up the other person for their own good, and most importantly \u2013 for my own well-being and the essence of my own life. Long story short, it was one of the hardest things I had to do.<\/p>\n

Pero, mirando las cosas desde esta distancia temporal, sigo pensando que era algo que hab\u00eda que hacer. Estos son los consejos que me ayudaron a atravesar este angustioso periodo de mi vida:<\/p>\n

Remember you don\u2019t possess people<\/h3>\n

\"unaFirst and foremost, you must always keep in mind that you don\u2019t possess people. Actually, no one does.<\/p>\n

Your partner chose to be with you (sometimes for a certain amount of time; sometimes for the rest of your life), but that doesn\u2019t make them your property. Of course, it goes both ways.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not talking about jealousy here only. You\u2019re just a human being, and it\u2019s perfectly natural that you can\u2019t stay indifferent to the possibility of your significant other having an affair.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about possessiveness. We\u2019re all guilty of it to some extent, and it\u2019s time you ditch it.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be clear here: nobody can STEAL a human being from you. You don\u2019t own them and they\u2019re not yours to keep.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t tie them to yourself, and there is absolutely nothing you can do if they want out. Basically, you have no other choice but to let them go.<\/p>\n

Separaci\u00f3n emocional \/ desapego mental<\/h3>\n

\"unaEverything that you feel happens inside of you \u2013 in your heart and head. Yes, different things happening in the outside world have a huge impact on your emotions and thoughts, but at the end of the day, what counts is how you process everything around you.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, antes de dar el paso de dejar ir realmente a su ser querido, tiene que emprender un proceso de separaci\u00f3n emocional<\/a> y desapego mental.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not telling you to suddenly start avoiding them or to drastically change your behavior. It’s still not the time to block them on social media or to go absolutely no contact.<\/p>\n

El desapego emocional y mental consiste en distanciarte de esa persona en tu mente y en tu coraz\u00f3n. Para empezar, deja de imaginaros a los dos exclusivamente como una uni\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019re a team, but that doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re not two separate individuals.<\/p>\n

A continuaci\u00f3n, intenta imaginar tu futuro sin ellos. Duele, lo s\u00e9, pero nunca se sabe lo que puede pasar.<\/p>\n

Deja de asumir que estar\u00e1n en tu vida para siempre. En lugar de eso, imag\u00ednate sin ellos a tu lado.<\/p>\n

Start getting used to this image. Believe me \u2013 it hurts like hell the first time you do it, but later on, it becomes a lot easier.<\/p>\n

Autopriorizaci\u00f3n y autocuidado<\/h3>\n

\"unaWe\u2019ve already talked about emotional dependency. Well, this is the step in which you do everything in your power to overcome it.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, lose the idea that your world revolves around this one person \u2013 it doesn’t. Actually, the only one who is the center of your Universe is you, and you better start looking at things like that.<\/p>\n

Remember that the most significant relationship you have is the one with yourself. You\u2019re tu propia prioridad n\u00famero uno<\/a> y nadie puede ocupar tu lugar.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 es importante? Bueno, si consideras que tu SO es tu Sol, nunca podr\u00e1s dejarle marchar.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re the one giving meaning to your life and the one making your existence valuable. Nobody is strong enough to leave their purpose behind, I guarantee you that.<\/p>\n

But, if you turn the tables and realize that you\u2019re the lead role in this movie and that they’re only a part of your life, it hits you: you\u2019re the only person you can\u2019t live without. Everyone else is replaceable.<\/p>\n

Algunas personas no est\u00e1n destinadas a ser<\/h3>\n

\"unaI don\u2019t know if you\u2019re a spiritual person, but I strongly believe that some people are no debe ser<\/a>. You can do everything by the book, you can be the perfect girlfriend \/ boyfriend, but sometimes, you won\u2019t get the happily ever after that you\u2019ve been expecting.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not you and it\u2019s not them \u2013 it\u2019s just how real life works. Some people were sent to you as valiosas lecciones<\/a> y algunos te necesitaban para seguir adelante.<\/p>\n

Either way, the point is that you weren\u2019t each other\u2019s final destinations \u2013 you were just stops along the way. You weren’t soulmates<\/a> tanto como t\u00fa pensabas de otra manera.<\/p>\n

Once you understand that, then letting go will become much easier. I\u2019m not saying your heartbreak will magically stop, but you\u2019ll definitely feel better when you realize that this is how things were scripted from day one.<\/p>\n

Si amas algo, d\u00e9jalo ir Cita<\/h2>\n

\"laI\u2019m sure you\u2019ve run into an \u2018If you love someone, let them go\u2019 quote<\/a> before. If you have, you know that they’re not your usual romantic love quotes.<\/p>\n

Esta es la lista de las citas m\u00e1s inspiradoras sobre el tema. Cada una de ellas te har\u00e1 reflexionar y, con un poco de suerte, te ayudar\u00e1 a comprender el verdadero significado de este dicho.<\/p>\n

1. \u201cLearning to let go should be learned before learning to get. Life should be touched, not strangled. You\u2019ve got to relax, let it happen at times, and at others, move forward with it. It\u2019s like boats. You keep your motor on so you can steer with the current. And, when you hear the sound of the waterfall coming nearer and nearer, tidy up the boat, put on your best tie and hat, and smoke a cigar right up till the moment you go over. That\u2019s a triumph.\u201d \u2015 Ray Bradbury<\/p>\n

2. \u201cIf you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.\u201d \u2015 Kahlil Gibran<\/p>\n

3. \u201cIf you truly love someone, then the only thing you want for them is to be happy. Even if it\u2019s not for you.\u201d \u2015 Author Unknown<\/p>\n

4. \u201cIf you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don\u2019t, their love was never to begin with.\u201d \u2015 Author Unknown<\/p>\n

5. \u201cThey say when you really love someone, you should be willing to set them free. So, that is what I am doing. I will step back and you will seguir adelante<\/a>. I will let you go\u2026 Your happiness means everything to me. I will listen for your voice in the distance. I will look at the moon. I will keep you in my pocket. I will carry your smile with me everywhere like a warm and comforting glow.\u201d \u2015 Tabitha Suzuma<\/p>\n

6. \u201cIf you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were.\u201d \u2015 Richard Bach<\/p>\n

7. \u201cSome people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.\u201d \u2015 Ann Landers<\/p>\n

8. \u201cWhy do you give so much of yourself to a person? Does this person really need it? Isn’t it a contradiction of life that when you love someone so much that you overwhelm them with too much of yourself? You want to spend more time with this person. You want to keep messaging this person. You want to know what they are doing every minute of their life! If you truly love someone, then you should set them free. Give them the freedom to be themself!\u201d \u2015 Avijeet Das<\/p>\n

9. \u201cLove is always bestowed as a gift \u2013 freely, willingly, and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.\u201d \u2015 Leo Buscaglia<\/p>\n

10. \u201cTo let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let go with compassion, things come and go on their own.\u201d \u2015 Jack Kornfield\"una11. \u201cThere’s something about the act of letting go that may bring tears to the eyes, but at the same time, what was being held on to so long can now be released where we then become capable of exhaling.\u201d \u2015 Jason Micheal Ratliff<\/p>\n

12. \u201cSome birds are not meant to be caged, that\u2019s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So, you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them, they somehow fly out past you. And, the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.\u201d \u2015 Stephen King<\/p>\n

13. \u201cAll the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.\u201d \u2015 Havelock Ellis<\/p>\n

14. \u201cLetting go doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t care about someone anymore. It\u2019s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.\u201d \u2015 Deborah Reber<\/p>\n

15. \u201cTrue love doesn’t have a happy ending because true love never ends. Letting go is one way of saying I love you.\u201d \u2015 Author Unknown<\/p>\n

16. \u201cIf you love someone<\/p>\n

Que lo sepan y que se vayan<\/p>\n

If it’s meant to be, they’ll find you again or maybe the other way around<\/p>\n

Nunca se sabe<\/p>\n

You never really know.\u201d \u2015 Mayank Sharma<\/p>\n

17. \u201cDad used to say if you love someone, let them go. I don\u2019t agree with him. If you really love someone, I think you have to take them back.\u201d\u2015 Caroline George, Dearest Josephin<\/p>\n

18. \u201cWhoever said if you love someone, you should set them free?<\/p>\n

They don’t know shit about you and me<\/p>\n

‘Cause I won’t let you go, no, I won’t let you go<\/p>\n

Quien dijo que estaba destinado a ser, pero vuelves enseguida<\/p>\n

We ain’t never gonna find out about that\u201d \u2015 The Script<\/p>\n

19. \u201cIf you love someone, set them free. If they come back, it means nobody liked them. Set them free again.\u201d \u2015 Author Unknown<\/p>\n

20. \u201cIf you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it\u2019s yours. And, if it just sits there on the sofa watching TV, unaware that it has been set free, you probably married it or gave birth to it.\u201d \u2015 Harsh Goenka<\/p>\n

21. \u201cIf you love someone, set them free. If you hate someone, set them free. Basically, set everyone free and adopt a dog.\u201d \u2015 Author Unknown<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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