{"id":134472,"date":"2021-09-01T07:20:49","date_gmt":"2021-09-01T07:20:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=134472"},"modified":"2022-09-06T11:36:43","modified_gmt":"2022-09-06T11:36:43","slug":"bombardeo-de-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/bombardeo-de-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo detectar y detener el Love Bombing en 15 sencillos pasos"},"content":{"rendered":"

It does happen: you meet someone, and from the very first moment on, you think it’s the real deal. And the best part is that they feel the same way.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed, en lugar de tomarse las cosas con calma, su relaci\u00f3n sentimental avanza a una velocidad incre\u00edble.<\/p>\n

They say they love you right away, they’re showering you with gifts and compliments, and before you know it, your romance has become very very serious.<\/p>\n

Yes, things like this do happen. But I hate to break it to you: they’re extremely rare.<\/p>\n

So, if you’ve found yourself in a similar situation, it’s actually more likely that you’re experiencing something called love bombing. No, it’s not a good thing \u2013 on the contrary, it’s quite toxic.<\/p>\n

I know because I’ve been there. I thought that I’d finally encontr\u00e9 mi alma gemela<\/a>pero despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, todos mis sue\u00f1os estallaron como una burbuja.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, as painful as this experience was, I’m glad I had it. Now, I can help all of you who are sadly going through the same thing without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n

If you read on, you’ll find out everything you need to know about love bombing: the meaning of love bombing, why it happens, how to notice the red flags, and most importantly \u2013 how to save yourself from this unhealthy relationship.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es el Love Bombing?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

According to a definition for love-bombing, it’s an attempt to manipulate and controlar a la otra persona <\/a>con un uso excesivo de la atenci\u00f3n y amor falso<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In this scenario, the love bomber is the abuser \u2013 even though they aren\u2019t physically violent \u2013 and the other person is the victim.<\/p>\n

Simply put, when someone is love bombing you, they show high interest in you, act like you’re the center of their world, and lavish you with attention, gifts, and compliments.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What’s wrong with that, you must be wondering? Isn’t this what we’re all secretly searching for?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, the thing is that none of it’s honest.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por el contrario, el bombardero del amor hace todo esto para obtener poder sobre su v\u00edctima. En realidad, se trata de una t\u00e9cnica narcisista y manipuladora extremadamente peligrosa que, por desgracia, es muy dif\u00edcil de detectar.<\/p>\n

Sasha Jackson, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), says: \u201cLove bombing is characterized by excessive attention, admiration, and affection, with the goal to make the recipient feel dependent and obligated to that person.\u201d<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: La cruda realidad de ser v\u00edctima de un bombardeo amoroso y luego de un fantasma<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Narcisista Love Bombing Signos<\/h2>\n

Entonces, \u00bfes bombardeo de amor <\/a>even possible to spot in time? The answer is yes, but it’s very rare for the victim to see all the red flags right away.<\/p>\n

Even when your intuition is telling you that something is off, you refuse to believe it. After all, isn’t it easier to live in a fantasy and think that you’ve finally found someone to love you the way you deserve?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pero a veces hay que quitarse las gafas de color de rosa y mirar a la realidad a los ojos, por mucho que duela.<\/p>\n

Demasiada atenci\u00f3n y demasiadas expectativas<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you think about your exes, most of them didn\u2019t pay you enough attention, am I right? So you ask yourself if it’s even possible to be getting too much attention from someone.<\/p>\n

At first, this seems ungrateful, but in this type of abusive relationship, you’ll be getting too much attention and affection. And let’s be clear about one thing: we’re talking about a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Is it really natural for a person you’ve just met to call and text you all the time? Didn’t they have a life before they entered yours?<\/strong><\/p>\n

And the worst part is that they expect the same in return. They demand your undivided attention, expect love letters, get upset when you avoid public displays of affection…<\/p>\n

Patrones de comportamiento de acosador<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

De repente, tu nueva pareja est\u00e1 en todas partes. Pasan a sorprenderte en la hora de la comida y empiezan a desayunar en ese sitio que est\u00e1 justo enfrente de tu edificio.<\/p>\n

At first, you found it cute. Nevertheless, as time goes by, you feel like they’re stalking you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pues bien, tu intuici\u00f3n no se equivoca, y \u00e9sta es sin duda una de las se\u00f1ales de advertencia del bombardeo amoroso.<\/p>\n

While they’re trying to convince you that they can’t spend a second without you, they’re actually being possessive.<\/p>\n

They’re controlling <\/a>your every move under the guise of being romantic. If this is not a red flag of a toxic relationship, I don’t know what is.<\/p>\n

Amor desmesurado<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

How soon is too soon to say “Te quiero<\/a>“? I know you’ve probably watched tons of romantic movies that made you believe in love at first sight.<\/p>\n

Even though I’m not claiming it’s impossible to fall in love right away, you have to admit that it’s pretty rare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But on the other hand, that’s exactly what’s happening to you. Your partner exaggerates with their expressions of love.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They write you love notes, post your photos all over their social media profiles, recite poems, give you lavish gifts, send tons of emojis at the end of every text, introduce you to all of their friends and family members…<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs \u00e9sta la fase de luna de miel o una se\u00f1al de advertencia de una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica?<\/p>\n

“Divine connection”<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Don’t we all want to meet our soulmate and llama gemela<\/a>? Bueno, su abusador narcisista<\/a> lo sabe, y lo usar\u00e1 en tu contra.<\/p>\n

Intentar\u00e1n convencerte de que est\u00e1is hechos el uno para el otro y de que esto es amor verdadero. Que se trata de una conexi\u00f3n divina y que el destino os ha unido.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But that\u2019s not all. They’ll probably gather more information on you, so they can build a fake personality that resembles yours.<\/p>\n

Once you realize how “similar” you two are, you’ll believe in this union even more.<\/p>\n

Presi\u00f3n para comprometerse<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

En bombardero del amor <\/a>doesn’t have much time. Quieren enga\u00f1arte para que te comprometas con ellos lo antes posible, antes de que tengas la oportunidad de descubrir sus verdaderos colores.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That’s why you can expect a marriage proposal in just a few weeks after the new relationship starts. If not that, they will definitely pressure you to commit in other ways without waiting for you to be ready for the next step.<\/p>\n

Sin l\u00edmites<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntos mensajes de texto y llamadas recibe al d\u00eda? T\u00fa y yo sabemos que la respuesta es: demasiados.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The point is that this person doesn’t allow you to have privacy. They don’t respect your personal space and time, and they expect you to throw away your individuality completely.<\/p>\n

Trust me: there is nothing romantic about this. In fact, it’s toxic and extremely dangerous.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 ocurre despu\u00e9s?<\/h2>\n

Up until now, things don’t seem so alarming, do they? Well, this is when things get rough, and here is exactly how it progresses:<\/p>\n

Te sientes abrumado y asfixiado<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After a while, it’s completely natural for you to feel burdened. As much as you love the other person, you can’t stand this much pressure anymore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At the same time, you’re staying silent about this. The last thing you want is to insult your partner by telling them to back off.<\/p>\n

Dependencia emocional<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Aqu\u00ed es donde dependencia emocional<\/a> entra en juego. Te guste o no, toda esta atenci\u00f3n y afecto te est\u00e1 dando alg\u00fan tipo de validaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You’re worthy of someone’s love, and that realization skyrockets your low self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Of course, you’re still not aware that this is actually an introduction to emotional abuse and that you’re becoming emotionally dependent on this person.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Suplicar atenci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When this happens, your abuser suddenly changes their ways. They’ve made you addicted, and they have you right where they wanted you all along.<\/p>\n

Now, they withhold their love and affection and bring devaluation into the picture. At the same time, you’re ready to do whatever it takes to get back to the honeymoon phase.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That’s when the real juegos mentales<\/a> start. You’re willing to agree to different emotional blackmailings, and you’ll do whatever they want you to, just to get the validation you became so dependent on.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo detener el Love Bombing<\/h2>\n

Looking at things from this perspective, it looks like you’re doomed. Getting out of this mess will be hard, but trust me \u2013 it’s possible. Here is how to do it:<\/p>\n

Don’t pay attention to those who offer too much<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, ten cuidado. Ten en cuenta que el bombardeo amoroso existe y evita a los que ofrecen demasiado.<\/p>\n

Odio reventar tu burbuja, pero si alguien es demasiado bueno para ser verdad, probablemente tenga algo raro.<\/strong> I’m not telling you to be skeptical about everyone you meet, but don’t get your hopes up too soon either.<\/p>\n

La honestidad es siempre la respuesta<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si sientes que alguien va demasiado deprisa, te asfixia o te pide demasiado, s\u00e9 sincero al respecto. Antes de nada, s\u00e9 sincero contigo mismo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Admite lo que sientes y mira qu\u00e9 puedes hacer al respecto. El siguiente paso es sincerarte tambi\u00e9n con tu pareja.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, you’re not ungrateful, and you’re not throwing away your only chance at happiness. You’re just following your intuition.<\/p>\n

Don’t allow your loyalty to become your slavery<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Remember this: you don’t owe anyone anything. You’re not obligated to stay in an relaci\u00f3n malsana<\/a> s\u00f3lo porque la otra persona te haya declarado su amor o te haya comprado un regalo caro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s one thing to be loyal and faithful, but it’s completely different to keep on destroying your mental wellness because of a sense of duty.<\/p>\n

Cortar los lazos es una pr\u00e1ctica de salud mental<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you’re dealing with a love bomber who is padece un trastorno narcisista de la personalidad<\/a>no te queda m\u00e1s remedio que cortarlas para siempre.<\/p>\n

Trust me: they’ll ignore all of your pleas, and they’ll continue with their toxic practices so long as they have access to your life.<\/p>\n

That’s exactly why you have to kick them out for good.<\/p>\n

This is hard to do while you’re being love-bombed because the abuser will probably usar gaslighting<\/a>chantaje emocional y agresi\u00f3n pasiva para atraerte a\u00fan m\u00e1s a sus redes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, once you realize what’s going on, I suggest you run for your life because it’s the only way to really save yourself.<\/p>\n

El amor propio es la clave de la felicidad<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Having a healthy relationship with yourself is mandatory \u2013 regardless of whether you’re being love-bombed or not. You see, when you know your worth, it’s impossible to get trapped in this poisonous cycle of validation and devaluation.<\/p>\n

Es m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil decirlo que hacerlo, lo s\u00e9. Bueno.., aprender a quererse a uno mismo<\/a> comienza con pasos de beb\u00e9.<\/p>\n

You have to decide to put yourself and your mental health first \u2013 no compromise. Pamper yourself and work on becoming the best possible version of the person you used to be.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una vez que empieces a sentirte realmente bien en tu propia piel, ning\u00fan narcisista podr\u00e1 darte o quitarte la sensaci\u00f3n de valor.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no shame in asking for help<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Finally, please don’t feel guilty for being love-bombed, keeping in mind that you’re probably not their primera v\u00edctima <\/a>and that you’re dealing with a trained professional in manipulation.<\/p>\n

This is a serious matter, and that’s exactly why I’m begging you to ask for help if you see that you have trouble healing on your own.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Los psicoterapeutas que han trabajado en casos similares sabr\u00e1n exactamente c\u00f3mo ayudarte de la forma adecuada. Cr\u00e9eme: \u00a1no es ninguna verg\u00fcenza pedir ayuda!<\/p>\n

Para concluir<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You don’t have to have a PhD in romance to see how unhealthy and potentially dangerous love bombing is.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, tomar conciencia de ello es dif\u00edcil. Huir de ello es a\u00fan m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But both can be done \u2013 especially with the knowledge you possess now after reading this article.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Please, be smarter than I was and learn from my mistakes! Don’t wait for something like this to happen to you before you learn your lesson.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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