{"id":136828,"date":"2021-10-25T11:34:50","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T11:34:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=136828"},"modified":"2022-09-06T11:29:22","modified_gmt":"2022-09-06T11:29:22","slug":"recuperacion-de-la-aventura","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/recuperacion-de-la-aventura\/","title":{"rendered":"6 etapas del proceso de recuperaci\u00f3n de una aventura amorosa para curarse con \u00e9xito"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfTiene usted sorprenda a su c\u00f3nyuge enga\u00f1\u00e1ndole<\/a> en ti? Y, aunque sentir el coraz\u00f3n roto<\/a>, you feel like the whole world is crumbling beneath your feet, yet you still don’t feel ready to give up on your marriage… To give up on your love.<\/p>\n

Well, you have every right to give it a second chance. Especially if you feel deep down in your heart that it’s the right thing to do.<\/strong> However, you should know that you’re about to sail on a very difficult journey because affair recovery is truly an exhausting and emotionally draining process.<\/em><\/p>\n

You’re feeling a whole range of different emotions, I know.<\/em> You just want to close your eyes, make it all disappear, and bring your old ‘happy’ life back.<\/strong> Cr\u00e9eme, te entiendo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, y por desgracia, las cosas no funcionan as\u00ed en la vida real. Necesita reunir la fuerza<\/a> para levantarte y enfrentarte a tus miedos, junto con todos tus problemas y preocupaciones.<\/em><\/p>\n

To make the affair recovery journey less challenging, I have compiled this guide on surviving infidelity. So, let’s save your love and make your marriage affair-proof.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo se tarda en recuperarse de una aventura?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

The first thing you’ll experience is denial. You’ll feel like it’s all an awful nightmare, and you’ll be praying to God to wake you up out of it.<\/em> But, sooner or later, you’ll have to face the ugly truth because…<\/p>\n

It’s happening. And, trust me, as much as you try to deny it, it won’t just go away.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Then, you’ll start wondering how long healing after infidelity lasts. And, unfortunately, I don’t have the right answer to this question. The truth is, nobody does.<\/p>\n

We all experience these things differently, and for some of us, it doesn’t take much time to recover while other ones may struggle with affair recovery for years.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n depende de otras cosas. Por ejemplo, depende de lo fuerte que fuera el amor entre usted y su pareja, y del tiempo que su c\u00f3nyuge viera a su pareja infiel antes de que usted lo descubriera.<\/p>\n

Just try to silence everything and everyone around you and listen to your heart. After all, it carries all those wounds, and only your heart can tell you when it’s ready para seguir adelante<\/a>En efecto.<\/em><\/p>\n

La respuesta est\u00e1ndar del sector es que puede tardar hasta dos a\u00f1os.<\/h3>\n

Seg\u00fan el famoso psic\u00f3logo cl\u00ednico Dr. Wyatt Fisher y muchos de sus colegas, recuperarse de una infidelidad suele llevar entre seis meses y dos a\u00f1os.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O, en sus (realmente alentadoras) palabras, “Affair recovery usually takes anywhere from six months to two years, and is often a painful process, yet a possible one for couples who possess humility, compassion, and tenacity.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Mi respuesta es que lleva tanto tiempo como ambos miembros de la pareja est\u00e9n completamente recuperados<\/h3>\n

Infidelidad emocional<\/a> es doloroso y agotador para ambos c\u00f3nyuges. El c\u00f3nyuge traicionado se siente desconsolado y se culpa a s\u00ed mismo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, they should know that it’s not and can never be their fault because that act of el enga\u00f1o s\u00f3lo puede hablar por la pareja que enga\u00f1\u00f3<\/a>no el que fue enga\u00f1ado.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, tambi\u00e9n puede ser doloroso y tortuoso para el traidor, porque sabe que un error podr\u00eda costarle el matrimonio. Podr\u00eda costarles perder a su verdadero amor.<\/p>\n

That’s why I really think that moving on is possible only when both partners are capable of doing so.<\/strong> Only when both of them heal completely and feel it deep down in their heart is when it’s time to leave it all in the past.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dale tiempo y cultiva la paciencia<\/h3>\n

Please understand that the affair recovery process consists of many other ‘small’ processes you’ll need to go through in order to fully heal and recover.<\/em><\/p>\n

You’ll need to arm yourself with patience. Forget about statistics. Forget about las expectativas<\/a>.<\/strong> Forget about all those irrelevant things and focus only on what’s truly important; how to recover. Not when or if, but how to sup\u00e9ralo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 errores comunes en la reconciliaci\u00f3n matrimonial que debes evitar tras una infidelidad<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Cronolog\u00eda de la recuperaci\u00f3n (6 etapas)<\/h2>\n

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There are six stages of the affair recovery process that all couples need to go through, specifically the ones who don’t want to divorciarse<\/a> y deciden seguir juntos despu\u00e9s de la aventura y arreglar su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed pues, esto es lo que se espera de ti en tu viaje para reconducir tu matrimonio:<\/p>\n

1. La fase de descubrimiento.<\/h3>\n

This is the first stage of the surviving infidelity process. It’s when you first find out that your girlfriend\/tu novio te ha enga\u00f1ado<\/a> despu\u00e9s de preguntarme durante alg\u00fan tiempo if they’re cheating on you or you’re just being paranoid<\/a>.<\/p>\n

El estado de un profundo choque emocional<\/h4>\n

Descubrir que la persona que amas te ha enga\u00f1ado es m\u00e1s que doloroso.<\/strong> It’s a shocking discovery, and you won’t even be able to process it the right way in the beginning.<\/p>\n

It’s a traumatic experience, and most people aren’t even aware of the fact they’ve been betrayed.<\/em> However, that’s a completely normal psychological response to such a terrifying experience.<\/p>\n

Negaci\u00f3n profunda<\/h4>\n

That’s when denial comes on the stage. You don’t want to admit that it’s happening to you, and you rather choose to run away from it by denying it.<\/em><\/p>\n

You think it’ll make the pain go away. You think it’s easier to hide from the problem than to confront and face it…<\/strong> But, oh my, how wrong you are. Just wait, you’ll understand it later on.<\/p>\n

Verg\u00fcenza y culpa<\/h4>\n

Es probable que el c\u00f3nyuge traicionado se autoinculpe.<\/strong> La pareja infiel puede decirles algunas cosas frustrantes<\/a> that will make them think it was all their fault. Their self-esteem will be damaged to the point where they’ll start thinking that their partner is right.<\/p>\n

Que te enga\u00f1en descubre tu secreto y tus mayores inseguridades.<\/strong> Empiezas a pensar que te merec\u00edas ese tipo de humillaci\u00f3n y, muy pronto, empiezas a sentirte avergonzado por ello.<\/p>\n

2. La etapa del trauma.<\/h3>\n

Si ha encontrado rastros de tu pareja enga\u00f1\u00e1ndote en su tel\u00e9fono<\/a> or you caught them in the act, it changes absolutely nothing. You’ll still experience it as a deep trauma for your emotional and mental health.<\/p>\n

Sentirse enfadado<\/h4>\n

Es un sentimiento perfectamente normal despu\u00e9s de descubrir que tu pareja te ha sido infiel. It’s your heart’s most natural response to being betrayed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You actually don’t feel angry because they were with another person. What pisses you off the most is the fact that they betrayed your love and the vows you made in front of God.<\/em><\/p>\n

Experimentar emociones explosivas<\/h4>\n

You’ll feel a whole range of the most explosive emotions from anger to rage, even to some aggressive and violent emotional outbursts.<\/p>\n

In the beginning, you’ll be unable to control them, and it’ll damage your mental health deeply. However, once you cool down, you’ll be able to regain control over your emotions.<\/p>\n

Estar en una aut\u00e9ntica monta\u00f1a rusa emocional<\/h4>\n

You’ll most likely experience an emotional meltdown. Your moods will swing wildly and rapidly, and it’ll leave you confused and completely emotionally drained.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. La etapa del duelo.<\/h3>\n

This stage will occur once you finally accept the fact that you’ve been betrayed. You’ll get past all that defensiveness you were trying to build at the beginning, and you’ll finally understand that it’s okay to grieve<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Depresi\u00f3n y ansiedad<\/h4>\n

Los constantes flashbacks y pensamientos intrusivos probablemente desencadenar\u00e1n un trastorno de estr\u00e9s postraum\u00e1tico (TEPT).<\/strong> You won’t be able to sleep, eat, or function the way you used to because you’ll be obsessing about your partner’s betrayal.<\/p>\n

When it comes to grief, there’s no structured way of how people cope with it.<\/em> Pero, una cosa es segura, todos nosotros experimentamos graves depresi\u00f3n<\/a> y episodios de ansiedad.<\/p>\n

Sentirse emocionalmente roto<\/h4>\n

You’ll feel like your heart is broken into a thousand pieces, and you’ll be afraid that you’ll never be able to pick them up and glue them back together.<\/em> But, fortunately, it’s just your response to the trauma you’ve experienced; it’s not the actual truth.<\/p>\n

4. Etapa de aceptaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

En la fase de aceptaci\u00f3n<\/a>, you’ll pick yourself up and try to find a way to move on.<\/strong> It’ll be the first and most important step in your recovery process.<\/p>\n

Coming to terms with your ‘new’ reality<\/h4>\n

Things are not like they used to be, and they’ll never be the same again… that’s a pure fact.<\/strong> Un hecho que debes aceptar y asumir.<\/p>\n

Afrontar los propios sentimientos<\/h4>\n

Whatever you’re feeling right now, you should know that it’s completely normal. Don’t suppress your feelings and hope it’ll speed up your recovery process.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the contrary, it’ll only slow it down. Identifica tus emociones y enfr\u00e9ntate a ellas.<\/strong> Be in control of your emotions or they’ll take full control over you.<\/em><\/p>\n

Tratar de comprender<\/h4>\n

After you’ve confronted your own feelings and gathered the courage to accept them as they are, the next step is to enfr\u00e9ntese a su c\u00f3nyuge infiel<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

I know that all you want is to understand what made them betray you in such a way. So, let them talk and just listen…<\/strong> without accusing, without judgments… just listen to their side of the story.<\/p>\n

5. La fase de recuperaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

Y ahora, aqu\u00ed es donde comienza realmente su proceso de recuperaci\u00f3n de la aventura. You still won’t be able to leave it in the past, but you’ll be on the right path to moving on.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sanar las heridas emocionales<\/h4>\n

Una vez que atravieses la puerta del duelo, podr\u00e1s abrir las puertas de la curaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Necesitas ser amable contigo misma porque tu coraz\u00f3n a\u00fan est\u00e1 roto. You need to treat your emotional wounds with caution because they’re the worst ones… they’re the ones felt in the depths of your being.<\/em><\/p>\n

Focusing on what’s the most important; LOVE<\/h4>\n

Todav\u00eda os quer\u00e9is y quer\u00e9is salva tu matrimonio<\/a>… want to save your love. And, that is undoubtedly the most important thing…<\/strong> el ambos socios deben centrarse en<\/a>.<\/p>\n

El matrimonio es todo menos f\u00e1cil. There will still be many bumps on your journey of togetherness, but as long as you’re traveling through it together and holding hands, you’ll be able to keep it on the right track.<\/em><\/p>\n

And, if you’re asking if it\u2019s worth giving your love a second chance… going from my own experience, sometimes segundas oportunidades<\/a> funcionan mejor que las primeras porque entonces, tienes el privilegio llamado de aprender de tus errores.<\/p>\n

6. La etapa del nuevo compromiso.<\/h3>\n

In the last stage of your affair recovery process, you’ll need to indulge in rediscovering your relationship.<\/strong> This means you’ll have to shift your focus to rekindling your emotional and intimidad f\u00edsica<\/a>reconstruir la confianza y mejorar la comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir la confianza<\/h4>\n

Lo primero y m\u00e1s importante en lo que ten\u00e9is que trabajar como pareja es en recuperar la confianza.<\/em> Al fin y al cabo, los asuntos emocionales son los que m\u00e1s influyen en la confianza.<\/p>\n

Ambos miembros de la pareja deben estar dispuestos a hacer lo que sea necesario. reconstruir la confianza en su relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/strong> Without it, they’ll never be able to prosper together and get their marriage back on track.<\/p>\n

Dar un nuevo significado a la relaci\u00f3n<\/h4>\n

Has pasado por algo horrible. You experienced something that has nearly killed your marriage. Now, it’s important to draw a lesson out of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Conc\u00e9ntrate en todas las cosas que quieres mejorar en tu relaci\u00f3n. Establezca l\u00edmites firmes y claros<\/a>. Sin duda puedes convertirlo en el comienzo de una vida juntos totalmente nueva y mucho m\u00e1s hermosa.<\/em><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo terminan la mayor\u00eda de las relaciones sentimentales (15 formas habituales)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo curarse despu\u00e9s de una aventura? (Para la pareja)<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Heads up… mending your marriage and coping with infidelity won’t be easy.<\/strong> However, it’ll be worth it. If there’s true love, it’ll be worth the sacrifice… the effort… and all the hard work.<\/p>\n

A continuaci\u00f3n se indican los pasos m\u00e1s importantes para sobrevivir a una infidelidad, que le conducir\u00e1n a la curaci\u00f3n completa. Recuerde que debe ir paso a paso.<\/em> En realidad, necesitas dar pasos de beb\u00e9 si realmente quieres que tu matrimonio vuelva a funcionar.<\/p>\n

1. Dedique tiempo a su proceso individual de curaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

El c\u00f3nyuge traicionado probablemente necesitar\u00e1 m\u00e1s tiempo para curarse.<\/strong> They’re the wounded ones, and their healing will be significantly slower than that of the betrayer.<\/p>\n

Repairing a marriage is a two-person job. Both sides need to be included in that process, and they won’t be able to cooperate if they don’t heal properly.<\/strong> Constant flashbacks and all the pain they’re feeling might even make them think that it’s all worthless, and it might make them give up on fixing things.<\/em><\/p>\n

2. Mejorar la eficacia de la comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

\u00bfSab\u00edas que una comunicaci\u00f3n deficiente y poco saludable es la causa m\u00e1s com\u00fan de los l\u00edos sentimentales? Well, that’s not quite a shocking fact because effective communication is the fundamental basis of every healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed, en lugar de acusar a su c\u00f3nyuge infiel<\/a> y echarles la culpa a ellos, deber\u00edas hablarlo abiertamente con ellos. Deber\u00edas intentar comprender sus motivos para poder trabajar juntos en solucionar esas cosas.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Encontrar la causa ra\u00edz.<\/h3>\n

That’s it. You can’t find the cause of your partner’s infidelity if you don’t talk with them.<\/strong> And, you’ll never be able to understand their reasons if you don’t listen to them carefully.<\/p>\n

Probablemente hay m\u00e1s de una raz\u00f3n por la que ha ocurrido. All those little things and problems that you didn’t talk through during the years have accumulated and made your partner choose the wrongest possible choice… finding comfort in another person.<\/em><\/p>\n

4. Reconocer las consecuencias.<\/h3>\n

It’s possible for a marriage to recover from an affair; however, this doesn’t mean that infidelity won’t leave any consequences on the couple. To be completely honest, it’ll emotionally scar both partners for life and leave a chronic wound on their marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Su se rompe la confianza<\/a>...y tu intimidad tambi\u00e9n se destruir\u00e1. La reputaci\u00f3n de su matrimonio seguramente sufrir\u00e1. Sin embargo, todo eso son consecuencias de vuestras acciones y errores, y ahora ambos ten\u00e9is que rendir cuentas y respaldar vuestras acciones.<\/em><\/p>\n

Como dice el t\u00edtulo de uno de los libros de la doctora Margaret Rutherford, psic\u00f3loga cl\u00ednica: El matrimonio no es para las gallinas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Ambas partes deben admitir sus errores.<\/h3>\n

You need to understand that whatever happens in a marriage, it’s never completely one partner’s fault.<\/strong> Constant blame-shifting won’t lead you anywhere, especially if both of you want to arregla tu matrimonio<\/a> y darle otra oportunidad.<\/p>\n

The failure of a relationship or a marriage happens because partners neglect each other’s emotional needs, are not willing to make compromises, don’t communicate in a healthy way, and don’t put enough effort into nurturing their marriage.<\/em><\/p>\n

You may think I’m completely wrong right now, and you probably disagree with me, but it’s always a two-sided thing. I don’t say that you’re to blame for being cheated on (both of us know very well who is the main culprit)… I’m just saying that obsessing over whose fault it was won’t bring you any good.<\/strong><\/p>\n

6. Enmendar las cosas.<\/h3>\n

Perdonaros los unos a los otros.<\/strong> I know that this is easier said than done for the betrayed spouse, but it’s truly the most important step in your affair recovery process.<\/em><\/p>\n

No obstante, t\u00f3mese su tiempo. Forgiveness isn’t just something that needs to be said out loud. You need to feel deep down in your heart that you’re ready to forgive your partner and take them back into your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Recuerda que el principal rasgo de las personas fuertes es su capacidad para perdonar a los dem\u00e1s.<\/em><\/p>\n

Y, el traidor tiene que saber que pedir perd\u00f3n<\/a> doesn’t cut it when it comes to infidelity.<\/strong> Puede disculparse por hacer trampas<\/a> a million times, but if your actions don’t match your words, you’ll never earn forgiveness.<\/p>\n

7. Aceptaci\u00f3n de la pr\u00e1ctica.<\/h3>\n

After you decide to forgive each other and leave it all behind you, the fact is that none of you will ever be able to forget about it completely. And, you shouldn’t.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ha sido una gran lecci\u00f3n para los dos y para vuestro matrimonio, y as\u00ed es como deb\u00e9is aceptarlo.<\/strong> Forgetting it means you’re forgetting the lesson, too. And, that could lead to repeating the same scenario all over again.<\/p>\n

8. Crea un plan de acci\u00f3n para reparar tu matrimonio.<\/h3>\n

Ya he dicho que tienes que ir paso a paso si quieres hacer las cosas bien y arreglar tu matrimonio. Eso significa que debes elaborar un plan y definir claramente cada uno de esos pasos. Haga un lista de necesidades de relaci\u00f3n<\/a> tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

El matrimonio es un viaje de dos personas que han acordado recorrerlo juntas para siempre.<\/strong> And now, you’ve got a little lost on that journey, and you simply need to create a roadmap that will help you return to the right path.<\/em><\/p>\n

9. Trabajar para recuperar la confianza.<\/h3>\n

La confianza es uno de los pilares m\u00e1s importantes de una sociedad sana y solidaria. relaci\u00f3n comprometida<\/a>. Without it, it’s impossible to maintain una relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>, and it’ll all go down like a ton of bricks.<\/em><\/p>\n

Es probable que el c\u00f3nyuge traicionado haya perdido completamente la confianza en su pareja infiel.<\/strong> Y, por mucho que quieran arreglar las cosas con su c\u00f3nyuge<\/a>, they just can’t let go of the feeling that they’ll never be able to trust their partner again.<\/p>\n

That’s why the first thing you’ll need to focus on in your journey of fixing your marriage is rebuilding trust.<\/strong> And, the best way to do this is to start from the beginning… to behave like you two have just met.<\/p>\n

10. Busque ayuda en terapia de pareja.<\/h3>\n

If you can’t deal with it alone, you should try terapia de pareja<\/a>. Puede seguir un curso en l\u00ednea o concertar una cita en directo con un terapeuta de pareja.<\/p>\n

The important thing is to seek advice from experts. They’ll tell you how to direct your healing and rebuild trust in your marriage again.<\/em><\/p>\n

“Trust is an obvious issue, and is vital to regain. But, if both partners are committed to reconciling the marriage, or at least to try, then acudir a un terapeuta de pareja<\/a> together is most helpful,”<\/em> dice la Dra. Margaret Rutherford, psic\u00f3loga cl\u00ednica.<\/p>\n

La curaci\u00f3n de la infidelidad (a la pareja traicionada)<\/h2>\n

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Ser enga\u00f1ado y traicionado por alguien a quien quieres de verdad es, sin duda, la experiencia m\u00e1s dolorosa por la que puede pasar una persona.<\/em> Afecta a tu autoestima y a tu salud emocional y mental, y te deja marcado de por vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s not like a physical wound because those kinds of wounds can be treated easily. Unfortunately, you can’t put a band-aid on your heart and hope it’ll heal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotional wounds take time and demand very gentle treatment. And, the absolute worst thing is that nobody can guarantee you that you’ll ever be cured completely.<\/em> Aqu\u00ed tienes algunos consejos que te ayudar\u00e1n a sobrellevar la traici\u00f3n y a curarte adecuadamente.<\/p>\n

1. Understand that it wasn’t your fault!<\/h3>\n

The betrayed partner starts questioning literally everything after they’ve been cheated on. They even start wondering if they did something wrong… something that made their partner hurt them in this awful way.<\/strong> Lo s\u00e9 muy bien porque yo tambi\u00e9n fui una vez la pareja traicionada.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is that no matter what you did, you didn’t deserve to get your heart broken. Tu \u00fanico error es darle a alguien ese poder para arruinarte, pero, una vez m\u00e1s, eso es amor.<\/em><\/p>\n

2. La autoculpabilidad s\u00f3lo te llevar\u00e1 a la autodestrucci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n

Oh, si tan s\u00f3lo alguien estuviera ah\u00ed para decirme esto y advertirme antes de que me involucrara completamente en la autodestrucci\u00f3n. Me culp\u00e9 durante demasiado tiempo y eso min\u00f3 mi salud mental.<\/strong> Me hac\u00eda sentir deprimida y ansiosa.<\/p>\n

If you’re blaming yourself, too, I can only say that you’re addressing it in the wrong way.<\/em> La \u00fanica persona que merece ser culpada es tu pareja infiel que te hizo sentir as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

3. Perm\u00edtete hacer el duelo.<\/h3>\n

Even the strongest and most courageous people are vulnerable. Even they cry sometimes, and they can’t handle that pain in their chest after their loved one hurts them.<\/em> Porque la verdad es que el amor nos debilita a todos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You’ll never be able to recover properly if you don’t get it all out of yourself. Cry your heart out and scream from the top of your lungs…<\/strong> sometimes, it’s truly the price we have to pay for true love.<\/p>\n

4. P\u00f3ngase usted primero.<\/h3>\n

Love is important… heck, it’s the most important thing in the world.<\/em> Arreglar tu matrimonio tambi\u00e9n es importante.<\/p>\n

But, right now, you’re trying to heal yourself. That makes you more important than both of those things. Tienes que centrarte en ti mismo, escuchar lo que te dice tu mente y hacer lo que te pide el coraz\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Acepta tus emociones, incluso las negativas.<\/h3>\n

Durante el proceso de curaci\u00f3n, todo tipo de emociones son bienvenidas.<\/strong> Lo peor que puedes hacer es intentar embotellarlos dentro de ti y hacer como si no pasara nada.<\/p>\n

Because it’s happening. It’s the reality. And, the more you try to deny it, the more it’ll haunt you. The more you try to suppress your feelings, the more painful they will become.<\/em><\/p>\n

You’ve been betrayed, and you have every right to be pissed off. You’ve been hurt, so it’s completely normal to feel sad and broken. Accept your emotions just the way they are currently, and have faith that they’ll change soon.<\/p>\n

6. Comparte tu dolor con un amigo \u00edntimo.<\/h3>\n

Intenta crear tu propio grupo de apoyo.<\/strong> You can confide in your best friend or in a family member… it’s irrelevant. The only important thing is to talk about it.<\/p>\n

Don’t keep things like this to yourself. Don’t continue to suppress your innermost feelings because that definitely won’t make them go away.<\/em> Right now, you need a shoulder to lean on, and that’s exactly what best friends are for, right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. Las cosas apestar\u00e1n durante un tiempo, as\u00ed que intenta no perderte.<\/h3>\n

I don’t know how many times I’ll repeat it, but it’s really the truth. And, the sooner you accept it, the sooner you’ll be able to heal. El proceso de curaci\u00f3n lleva su tiempo, y de ning\u00fan modo puede producirse de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana.<\/em><\/p>\n

There are many stages of grieving and healing you’ll have to go through, and I really don’t want to lie to you; a hell of a difficult time is in front of you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even when you start thinking that you’ve recovered fully, you’ll experience some bad flashbacks, and it’ll only prove to you that you still need time.<\/em> Stay strong and stay true to yourself. It’s a fact that many people tend to lose themselves in this process.<\/p>\n

8. Qui\u00e9rete m\u00e1s a pesar de todas esas cosas que intentan hundirte.<\/h3>\n

You’re strong. You’re powerful. You’re good enough… heck, you’re better than that. You’re a magically unique human being capable of achieving some great things in life.<\/em> Don’t ever let anyone or anything diminish your power.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Qui\u00e9rete m\u00e1s a ti mismo. Siempre. Don’t let this experience make a victim out of you. You’re a freaking hero, and don’t ever allow anyone to make you think otherwise.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. T\u00f3mate un mini descanso del mundo.<\/h3>\n

Right now, the only thing you need to do is focus on yourself… on your healing. That’s why the best thing would be to deactivate your social media accounts, and also, disconnect from real life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Necesitas estar a solas con tus propios pensamientos y sentimientos.<\/em> Tienes que tomar algunas decisiones, decisiones muy importantes que influir\u00e1n en tu vida a muchos niveles.<\/p>\n

Necesitas reforzar tu relaci\u00f3n contigo mismo y aprender a quererte de nuevo.<\/strong> Necesitas deshacerte de toda la negatividad que ha estado dando vueltas a tu alrededor, y dejar ir toda la amargura y los rencores.<\/p>\n

10. Perdona. Por tu propia tranquilidad, perd\u00f3nales.<\/h3>\n

Even if you decide that you can’t move on with your relationship and leave this thing in the past, you should still perdona a tu infiel<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

I know it sounds impossible right now because there are still so many unresolved things and feelings between you. However, until you come to this final stage of your healing process, you won\u2019t understand what I am talking about.<\/p>\n

El perd\u00f3n es una parte esencial de tu curaci\u00f3n.<\/strong> It actually has nothing to do with the other person. It’s something you need to do for your own well-being. It’s how you’ll unshackle yourself from all that resentment, bitterness, and, most importantly, hate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ten presente que, por mucho que alguien te haya herido, nunca envenenar\u00e1s tu coraz\u00f3n con odio.<\/em> Don’t dye your beautiful pink heart with those ugly dark colors.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPueden funcionar los matrimonios despu\u00e9s de una aventura?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Claro que pueden. En realidad, aunque pueda parecer una locura, puede acercar a una pareja y reforzar su v\u00ednculo.<\/strong> Y, sin duda, las estad\u00edsticas lo demuestran.<\/p>\n

Sobrevivir a la infidelidad es dif\u00edcil. Mending your marriage after an affair is an arduous journey. But, it’s definitely possible. Needless to say, ONLY if both parties are willing to work on it and put immense effort into fixing their marriage.<\/em><\/p>\n

Just don’t let this define your marriage…<\/h3>\n

Despu\u00e9s de hacer las paces y acordar dejarlo en el pasado, lo m\u00e1s importante es pasar p\u00e1gina en vuestro matrimonio. The truth is, all marriages have ups and downs, and if you allow those ‘downs’ to define your entire relationship, it’ll be impossible to maintain it.<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, my marriage is also a great real-life example that a marriage can work after going through the hell called ‘aventura emocional<\/a>‘.<\/p>\n

My surviving infidelity testimonial goes like this…<\/p>\n

Llev\u00e1bamos 7 a\u00f1os casados cuando nos ocurri\u00f3. Bueno, esos son los a\u00f1os m\u00e1s duros de un matrimonio, o como lo llaman la mayor\u00eda de los expertos, la picaz\u00f3n de los siete a\u00f1os.<\/em><\/p>\n

Para resumir, mi pareja me enga\u00f1\u00f3 y sent\u00ed que todo mi mundo se derrumbaba.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Para ser sincera, al principio le odiaba desde lo m\u00e1s profundo de mi coraz\u00f3n. No quer\u00eda volver a verle. I didn’t want my husband to touch me<\/a> ni quer\u00eda darle la oportunidad de hablar conmigo.<\/p>\n

I was a strong believer of all that ‘once a cheater \/ always a cheater’ crap.<\/strong> I thought that as much as my love is strong, it’ll never be strong enough to change my unfaithful partner.<\/p>\n

And, I really thought that even if we give our marriage another try, it’ll never be able to function like it used to… that we’ll never be able to move from it completely.<\/em><\/p>\n

En lugar de eso, \u00a1permita que le aporte un significado totalmente nuevo!<\/h3>\n

Y, afortunadamente, me di cuenta a tiempo de lo equivocada que es esta forma de pensar. Empec\u00e9 a ver todo esto como una gran tentaci\u00f3n de Dios.<\/strong> I started to feel like it was just the way the universe was testing us… our love.<\/em><\/p>\n

After some time, after I allowed myself to grieve, and eventually, to heal… and after so many tries of my desperate husband to convince me he’s feeling guilty<\/a> and repentful… Decid\u00ed darle una segunda oportunidad.<\/em><\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed darle otra oportunidad a nuestro matrimonio. Todav\u00eda lo amaba<\/a>y quer\u00eda luchar por ese amor.<\/em><\/p>\n

That’s when we understood how infeliz y malsano nuestro matrimonio<\/a> actually was before all of it happened. This awful experience also made us understand how strong our bond is despite everything, and it showed us and the rest of the world that we’re meant to be together… Forever.<\/p>\n

And, guess what… 5 years afterward, we’re still happily married, and I’m now surer than ever that we’ll have that \u2018happily ever after\u2019…<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 porcentaje de matrimonios funcionan despu\u00e9s de una aventura?<\/h3>\n

Encontrar el porcentaje exacto de cu\u00e1ntos matrimonios han conseguido funcionar despu\u00e9s de que uno o ambos miembros de la pareja fueran infieles es una tarea dif\u00edcil.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, las encuestas nacionales muestran que entre el 40 y el 50% de los divorcios se produjeron por infidelidad. Y, entre el 20 y el 40% de las parejas que sufrieron infidelidad consiguieron permanecer juntas y arreglar su matrimonio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, las encuestas muestran que la mayor\u00eda de las parejas que deciden quedarse con su c\u00f3nyuge infiel son mujeres.<\/strong> In most cases, it’s because of the children, but it could also be because of financial reasons or the fear of being single again.<\/p>\n

Men, in general, aren’t so good with forgiveness. Cuando un hombre descubre su su mujer le enga\u00f1a<\/a>y todo el amor se convierte en odio lo antes posible.<\/strong> He is unable to gather the strength to forgive his spouse, and that’s when their marriage ends for good.<\/p>\n

Claves para recuperarse de una infidelidad<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Hay dos cosas que debes entender sobre el proceso de recuperaci\u00f3n de una aventura: lleva tiempo y exige mucha paciencia, comprensi\u00f3n y esfuerzo por parte de ambos c\u00f3nyuges.<\/em><\/p>\n

The good news (and the only one you should be focusing on) is that it’s possible to recover from infidelity. It’s possible to repara tu matrimonio<\/a> y salvar tu amor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo tienes que desearlo con todas tus fuerzas. Y, por supuesto, tener fe en el poder del amor porque, efectivamente, el amor verdadero cura, y es capaz de afrontar y superar incluso los obst\u00e1culos m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles.<\/p>\n

I’m cheering for your love, and I hope you’ll accept the blessing of envejecer juntos<\/a>…<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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