Let’s be real \u2013 sometimes, we’re all guilty of passive-aggressive behavior. I know I am, even though I’m aware of how toxic it is.<\/p>\n
Hay situaciones en las que resulta m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil quedarse callado o enfurru\u00f1arse que hacer las cosas con madurez emocional y expresar las emociones de forma saludable.<\/p>\n
As long as it doesn’t happen frequently and you identify it as harmful, there is probably nothing to be worried about.<\/p>\n
But what if you’re dealing with someone who is completely unaware of their behavioral patterns?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo tratar a una pareja cuya principal forma de comunicaci\u00f3n es la agresi\u00f3n pasiva?<\/strong><\/p>\n Espera, \u00bfqu\u00e9 significa pasivo agresivo? La Cl\u00ednica Mayo define pasivo-agresivo<\/a> comportamiento como “a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them.”<\/strong><\/p>\n When you get in an argument with a passive-aggressive individual, you’ll never get them to respond. They won’t tell you what’s bothering them, nor will they name your mistakes out loud.<\/p>\n Instead, what you’ll get is something else: the silent treatment and sulking. You’ll see that they’re in a bad mood and that something is wrong, but not one word will come out of their mouth.<\/p>\n Aquellas parejas que se pelean constantemente en una relaci\u00f3n y tienen la Segunda Guerra Mundial en marcha todos los d\u00edas podr\u00edan asumir que esto es algo refrescante despu\u00e9s de todo el drama. Pero cr\u00e9eme, \u00a1esto es una se\u00f1al de alarma!<\/strong><\/p>\n Mantener reprimidas las emociones<\/a>La violencia, incluidos los sentimientos de ira, no es sana. Toda forma de comunicaci\u00f3n directa, que a veces incluye discutir, es mejor que las formas pasivo-agresivas de manejar las cosas.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo manejarlo?<\/p>\n If you’re in a relaci\u00f3n pasivo-agresiva<\/a>, your partner has to improve their communication skills \u2013 that’s pretty clear. But they can’t do it without your help.<\/p>\n Lo mejor es dejar que se enfr\u00eden un poco y darles espacio<\/a>. Don’t ask for answers right away, and let the situation calm down before engaging in another confrontation.<\/strong><\/p>\n After enough time has passed, go back to the passive-aggressive individual and tell them that you want to acknowledge their feelings. Tell them that they’re being heard and encourage them to speak up.<\/p>\n Another example of passive-aggressive behavior is the excessive use of sarcasm and irony. Let’s be honest \u2013 we all use it from time to time, but the difference here is that people who suffer from passive-aggressive disorder use sarcasm to mask their true feelings.<\/p>\n En lugar de criticarte abiertamente, te insultan sutilmente. Al mismo tiempo, esperan que captes la indirecta y cambies m\u00e1gicamente lo que les molesta.<\/strong><\/p>\n Let’s take this as an example: Your co-worker, family member, or partner doesn’t like your outfit choice for the day.<\/p>\n But when you ask them what they think about it, they’ll say something like, “Oh, your sweater is really nice. Did you borrow it from your grandma?” or “I like it. But I didn’t know the 80s are back in style.”<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo manejarlo?<\/p>\n La peor idea es seguir la corriente y responder con otra broma sarc\u00e1stica. S\u00e9 que quieres darles a probar de su propia medicina, pero cr\u00e9eme, esto ahondar\u00e1 a\u00fan m\u00e1s el conflicto.<\/p>\n Instead, let them know that you’re perfectly aware of what they’re doing. Tell them loud and clear that they’re allowed to express their opinion without insulting you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Los signos m\u00e1s comunes de agresi\u00f3n pasiva son la terquedad, la hosquedad y el comportamiento hostil.<\/p>\n De hecho, en 2009, un equipo de expertos realiz\u00f3 un estudio. Psiquiatr\u00eda Procesos interpersonales y biol\u00f3gicos: La validez de constructo del trastorno pasivo-agresivo de la personalidad,<\/em> en pacientes con trastorno pasivo-agresivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfY adivina qu\u00e9? La mayor\u00eda eran hoscos y discutidores.<\/strong><\/p>\n To be honest, we’re all guilty of this from time to time. Nevertheless, when these responses become the only form of opposition a person is able to display, that’s definitely a red flag.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 significa esto en una relaci\u00f3n sentimental? Pues que tienes ciertas exigencias para con tu pareja.<\/p>\n And it’s perfectly normal that they disagree with some of your conditions or are unable to meet sus normas<\/a>. That’s not the issue \u2013 the issue is that they won’t say anything about it.<\/p>\n Instead, they’ll begin to fail even more, just in spite. Also, they’ll get all gloomy and sad without telling you the real reason behind this type of behavior.<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo afrontarlo?<\/p>\n El mejor consejo que puedo darte es elige tus batallas. Si quieres intentar arreglar esta relaci\u00f3n<\/a>, keep in mind that you can’t change this about your partner, so don’t lose it over every little thing they get stubborn or hostile about.<\/strong><\/p>\n Seg\u00fan algunos estudios cient\u00edficos, existe una estrecha relaci\u00f3n entre la agresividad pasiva y el trastorno negativista de la personalidad. Las personas pasivo-agresivas suelen ser tambi\u00e9n pesimistas y rara vez ven algo positivo en la vida.<\/p>\n En pocas palabras: las personas pasivo-agresivas se quejan todo el tiempo. Pero rara vez protestan contra algo concreto.<\/strong><\/p>\n En realidad, se quejan y refunfu\u00f1an todo el tiempo.<\/strong> They’re obviously not happy with their own mental well-being but refuse to do anything about it.<\/p>\n Instead, they prefer spreading their negative energy all over the place and destroying everyone else’s wellness in the process.<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo manejarlo?<\/p>\n If negativity is one of your partner’s predominant personality traits, the most important thing is not to let it get you. Don’t let their negativity take what’s best from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mientras tanto, siempre puedes hacer todo lo posible por mostrarles toda la belleza que ofrece la vida.<\/p>\n It’s perfectly normal to feel resentful from time to time, especially when we’ve been treated unfairly. Nevertheless, it’s unfair to claim that everything is fine when you’re actually holding a grudge about something that went on ages ago.<\/p>\n That’s exactly what your partner does. They’re frustrated and bitter but refuse to admit it. And when you call them out on their behavior, they accuse you of being crazy.<\/strong><\/p>\n You’re nowhere near perfection, and you admit that you made a mistake in the past. But if they say they forgave you, should that really be held against you for the rest of your life?<\/p>\n \u00a1De ninguna manera!<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo manejarlo?<\/p>\n Ante todo, haz todo lo posible por corregir tus errores. Pero si sabes que te disculpaste e hiciste todo lo que estuvo en tu mano para mostrar remordimiento, ignora sus formas pasivo-agresivas.<\/strong> Don’t let your SO make you feel guilty about something they allegedly forgave you for.<\/p>\n Passive aggression is frequently connected with a narcissistic personality disorder. To be exact, it’s one of the symptoms of covert narcisismo pasivo-agresivo<\/a>.<\/p>\n If you’re dealing with this type of narcissist, they’ll use all of their energy to make you feel less worthy. They’ll put a lot of effort into lowering your self-esteem and eventually destroying your mental well-being.<\/p>\n The trick is that they won’t use direct insults \u2013 at least, not at first. But have you ever heard of something called backhanded compliments? It\u2019s an even more efficient tool for killing someone’s self-esteem.<\/strong><\/p>\n B\u00e1sicamente, un cumplido por la espalda es una mezcla perfecta de un cumplido y un insulto. Por ejemplo, si te ascienden, tu pareja narcisista dir\u00e1 algo as\u00ed:<\/p>\n “I didn’t expect you to get that promotion. Well done”.<\/p>\n Do you see what they did there? At first glance, they congratulated you, but actually, they showed that they never believed in you or that you didn’t deserve it.<\/p>\n The problem is that most victims don’t get this right away. Instead, their partners have been sabotaging them for years with the help of these and similar t\u00e9cnicas de manipulaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n Sin darte cuenta, dejas de creer en ti mismo. Piensas que nada de lo que haces es lo bastante bueno y tu autoestima queda arruinada.<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo manejarlo?<\/p>\n Lo mejor es salir de esta situaci\u00f3n cuanto antes. Pero s\u00e9 que dejar atr\u00e1s a un narcisista<\/a> es un proceso, as\u00ed que hasta que eso ocurra, por favor, trabaja en tu confianza.<\/p>\n Remember that nobody is more important than your mental health and wellness. Instead of focusing on their insults, focus on all the good things you’ve achieved.<\/strong><\/p>\n Keep in mind that someone else’s opinion can never define who you are. Besides, your partner obviously sees that you’re way better than them; otherwise, they wouldn’t have felt the need to devalue your worth at all costs.<\/p>\n1. Tratamiento silencioso<\/h2>\n
2. Sarcasmo e iron\u00eda<\/h2>\n
3. Obstinaci\u00f3n y hosquedad<\/h2>\n
4. Quejas constantes<\/h2>\n
5. Negar el resentimiento<\/h2>\n
6. Desvalorizaci\u00f3n de la v\u00edctima<\/h2>\n
7. Procrastinaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n