{"id":137220,"date":"2021-10-27T17:59:42","date_gmt":"2021-10-27T17:59:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=137220"},"modified":"2022-07-06T09:24:05","modified_gmt":"2022-07-06T09:24:05","slug":"se-debe-besar-en-la-primera-cita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/se-debe-besar-en-la-primera-cita\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfHay que besarse en la primera cita? 10 respuestas afirmativas y negativas"},"content":{"rendered":"

You’re getting ready for the primera reuni\u00f3n<\/a> Quedar con ese chico o esa chica nuevos y por tu cabeza pasan decenas de preguntas. \u00bfDe qu\u00e9 hablar\u00e9is? \u00bfTe gustar\u00e1?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSer\u00e1n como t\u00fa de vuelta<\/a>? \u00bfY si hay silencio inc\u00f3modo<\/a>? What if they don’t show up? What should you do to make a good first impression?<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, I know. Well, the truth is that we’ve all been there.<\/p>\n

Y adem\u00e1s de todo esto, est\u00e1 la pregunta definitiva: Deber\u00eda <\/b>te besas en la primera cita<\/b>? The fact is that some people do, some don\u2019t.<\/b><\/p>\n

But is it obligatory to smooch when you first meet someone? What if you don’t like them enough? Or is it better to wait and see <\/b>si habr\u00e1 un <\/b>segunda cita<\/b><\/a>?<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, luckily for your love life, your troubles have come to an end. I’m here to give you some dating tips to help you resolve this dilemma.<\/p>\n

Not only that \u2013 some daters will also share their experience with you \u2013 to help you get a broader perspective on things.<\/p>\n

5 razones para besarse en la primera cita<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

For starters, here are some reasons why people kiss on first dates. You don’t know \u2013 maybe one of these pros is exactly what you need to head in the right direction.<\/p>\n

1. Pensar demasiado est\u00e1 sobrevalorado<\/h3>\n

Is it okay to kiss on the first date? What if this is the last time you see each other? What if they get the impression that you’re crazy for them?<\/p>\n

\u00bfY si pierden el inter\u00e9s despu\u00e9s de que las beses? \u00bfY si s\u00f3lo te ven como un ligue, pero t\u00fa quieres algo m\u00e1s?<\/p>\n

Yes, you could be racking your brain with all of these questions. But what’s the point?<\/p>\n

Will overthinking help you with the outcome? It most certainly won’t. In fact, it’s more likely to destroy your relationship before it even starts.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s exactly why it’s much better to do your best and turn off your brain and follow your gut. I’m not saying that you should make reckless decisions, but hey, did one kiss ever really harm anyone?<\/p>\n

I don’t think so. Just go with the flow and see where the night takes you!<\/p>\n

2. Hay mucha qu\u00edmica<\/h3>\n

A veces, simplemente congenias con la otra persona desde el principio. Ser\u00eda demasiado llamar a esto amor a primera vista<\/a>, but it’s definitely chemistry at first sight.<\/p>\n

Se prolonga mucho <\/b>contacto visual<\/b>, “accidental” physical contact, and all the other non-verbal signs that you’re both into each other. Don’t pretend like the tension between you two isn’t real.<\/b><\/p>\n

No hay mucho razonamiento detr\u00e1s de esto. Sientes la qu\u00edmica y s\u00f3lo quieres besarte.<\/p>\n

So, why wouldn’t you do exactly that? Wait until your date is over or just start kissing right there. What’s the worst that could happen?<\/p>\n

3. You’re testing the waters<\/h3>\n

Have you ever been in a situation where you’re not sure si te gusta tu cita o no<\/a>? Maybe you’ve met them on an <\/b>aplicaci\u00f3n de citas en l\u00ednea<\/b>,<\/b> y las cosas son de alguna manera diferentes ahora que las ves en persona.<\/b><\/p>\n

Or maybe you just have mixed feelings about them. Don’t worry, that’s perfectly normal, and it happens to everyone.<\/b><\/p>\n

In that case, the first smooch is exactly what you need. It will help you test the waters and realize whether there’s enough chemistry for you to even consider a second one.<\/p>\n

4. No hay mejor se\u00f1al no verbal<\/h3>\n

If you’re not much into talking and hate decirle a alguien cu\u00e1nto te gusta<\/a>besarlas es la mejor manera de demostrar tus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

You don’t need to come up with a mont\u00f3n de cumplidos<\/a>, and you don’t have to worry about finding the right words \u2013 your lips will do all the talking for you.<\/p>\n

Trust me \u2013 sometimes, it’s easier (and more effective) to express yourself with <\/b>lenguaje corporal<\/b> signos que verbalmente.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. Te apetece<\/h3>\n

At the end of the day, do you really need a reason for kissing? You just feel like it, and that’s reason enough.<\/p>\n

Of course, what matters here is mutual consent. It’s crucial to <\/b>presta atenci\u00f3n<\/b> to the other person’s non-verbal signals before making a move.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfSer\u00e1 un simple beso entre los labios o compartir\u00e1n un apasionado beso con lengua? \u00bfQu\u00e9 me dice de su colocaci\u00f3n de las manos<\/a>? Will it be just a kiss, or will it end up in making out? It’s only up to you two!<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo confirmar una cita: 9 consejos y ejemplos de texto<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

5 razones para no besar en la primera cita<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Now that we’ve covered the fors, it’s time to pay attention to the reasons kissing on the first date is not the best idea in the world.<\/p>\n

1. You don’t feel ready<\/h3>\n

It’s okay not to feel ready to kiss someone on the first date or just not to be in the mood for it. Your personal boundaries are important, and please, don’t allow anyone to cross them.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don’t do anything just because you feel forced to do it. You’re still allowed to like the other person without having the need to kiss them \u2013 that’s your right.<\/b><\/p>\n

Finally, keep in mind that you don’t need to justify your actions to anyone. If they make the first move, step back or politely tell them that you want to wait \u2013 without any guilt trips included.<\/p>\n

2. You don’t want to send the wrong message<\/h3>\n

You have a feeling that this guy or girl you’ve started seeing will be special. And you don’t want to ruin things by rushing anything.<\/p>\n

Quieres que te tomen en serio y prefieres esperar a que tu <\/b>primer beso<\/b> ser especial y rom\u00e1ntico.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s also a valid reason not to kiss on the <\/b>primera cita<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

3. Un abrazo es m\u00e1s que suficiente<\/h3>\n

A veces, un simple abrazo<\/a> can be more intimate than an actual kiss. Or you just feel like that’s too intimate for your first encounter.<\/p>\n

In that case, be the one to lean in for a hug when you’re saying goodbye before you give them a chance to try and kiss you. Of course, there are <\/b>diferentes tipos de abrazos<\/b><\/a> \u2013 you should hold them a bit tighter and a bit longer, so they get the message.<\/b><\/p>\n

You’ll show them that you like them and that you’re comfortable with being physically close to them. At the same time, you’ll send a message that you want to wait a bit longer for the first kiss to happen.<\/p>\n

4. You’re afraid of rejection<\/h3>\n

Making the first move takes a lot of courage, and don’t let anyone tell you differently. If you want to kiss the other person, but you’re not sure if they want the same, I would always advise you to go for it.<\/p>\n

At least, you’ll know you tried and went after what you wanted.<\/p>\n

No obstante, if you’re insecure about doing it and have trouble reading their non-verbal signals, it may be better to wait for a better opportunity. Maybe next time you’ll feel more confident, or they’ll show you more signs that <\/b>quieren besar<\/b><\/a> de vuelta.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. It’s too intimate<\/h3>\n

For many, kissing is not such a big deal. But for you, it’s an intimate act, and you don’t enjoy locking lips with guys or girls who are practically strangers.<\/p>\n

In that case, the answer to the question of, \u201cShould you kiss on the first date?\u201d is definitely no. Espera a conocer mejor a la otra persona y a sentirte c\u00f3modo. <\/b>besuqueo<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Qu\u00e9 escribir a un chico despu\u00e9s de una primera cita: 70 ejemplos de los mejores textos<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfTe besas en la primera cita?<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

To get the right picture, I’ve asked a couple of daters (both men and women) to talk to me about their habits and experience regarding first dates and first kisses. Here is what they’ve revealed:<\/p>\n

La segunda cita es un encanto<\/h3>\n

“Personally, Creo que el <\/b>primera cita<\/b> es demasiado pronto.<\/b> Maybe it’s just me, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable kissing a stranger.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, despu\u00e9s de mi experiencia, a la mayor\u00eda de los chicos les gustar\u00e1s m\u00e1s si te haces la dura al principio.<\/p>\n

Pero rara vez espero a que el <\/b>tercera cita<\/b> because, let’s face it, a guy could get the impression I don’t like him until then.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why I think that the beso en la segunda cita<\/a> is perfect. Not too soon, not too late!”<\/p>\n

– Julia, 33<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no?<\/h3>\n

“Doesn’t everyone kiss on the first date? Well, at the end of the date, if nothing else :chuckles:<\/p>\n

If you ask me: should you kiss on the first date? \u2013 I ask you: why shouldn’t you? <\/b>That is, if you feel like it, of course. After all, what is there to lose?”<\/p>\n

– Amy, 29<\/i><\/p>\n

Todo depende<\/h3>\n

“Well, I can’t really give you a concrete answer. You see, it’s one thing if I went out with a guy I met on an <\/b>aplicaci\u00f3n de citas en l\u00ednea<\/b> and haven’t had the chance to talk too much before the date.<\/b><\/p>\n

In that case, I probably won’t kiss him.<\/b><\/p>\n

But if I’m going out on a date with a friend of a friend I’ve been texting for a while, then, yes, I wouldn’t mind kissing him.<\/b><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n depende del tipo de cita. \u00bfEs una <\/b>cita para tomar caf\u00e9<\/b>? \u00bfO estamos en el cine?<\/b><\/p>\n

And let’s not forget about body language. If there is some serious eye contact, and if he sends me the vibe of a good kisser, I’d definitely step up my game and take things to the next level.”<\/p>\n

– Nikkie, 22<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hay que esperar?<\/h3>\n

“Absolutely! Nada me excita m\u00e1s que un buen <\/b>Beso franc\u00e9s<\/b> en el <\/b>fin de la noche<\/b>. Salir con alguien en el <\/b>primera cita significa<\/b> that you’re, if nothing else, attracted to them enough to kiss them.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s my job to make the first move, but hey, if she isn’t down for a smooch, it’s no big deal. I’ll take it like a man and accept it as the end of the night without a problem.”<\/p>\n

– Steve, 38<\/i><\/p>\n

Tantear el terreno es lo mejor<\/h3>\n

“Who doesn’t enjoy a good kiss, especially if it ends up with algunos besos<\/a> y besarse<\/a>? Yo s\u00e9 que s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Al mismo tiempo, I also make sure to respect my date’s boundaries.<\/b> I pay attention to her body language signs and do my best to determine whether she’s down for it as well.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00faltimo que quiero es incomodar la situaci\u00f3n. <\/b>Trust me \u2013 there is nothing worse than leaning in for a kiss on the mouth and having a girl give you a beso en la mejilla<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But if that happens, what can you do? It certainly won’t discourage me. I get it: some girls are shy and have a strict policy of no kissing when they first meet on a date.”<\/p>\n

– Mark, 27<\/i><\/p>\n

Is it bad if you don’t kiss on the first date?<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Some people prefer taking things slow, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean that they don’t like you if they don’t initiate the <\/b>primer beso<\/b> en el <\/b>primera cita<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ten en cuenta que esto es s\u00f3lo el principio y que queda mucho tiempo para que los dos desarroll\u00e9is una conexi\u00f3n significativa que termine con un beso.<\/p>\n

\u00bfUn beso en la primera cita es una buena se\u00f1al?<\/h2>\n

Un beso (o cualquier otra forma de contacto f\u00edsico) en una primera cita no es s\u00f3lo una buena se\u00f1al de que le gustas a alguien<\/a> \u2013 it’s a great sign. If they want to kiss you right after meeting you, it’s a signal that the attraction they feel for you is so strong that they can’t wait to see you again.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s definitely a sign that they like you and want something more. Of course, it’s up to both of you to take the wheel and drive this romance in the right direction.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 fecha debes besar?<\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

If you’re sure that there is mutual attraction and qu\u00edmica f\u00edsica<\/a>, there is nothing wrong with kissing on the first date (keep in mind that most people wait for the end of the date). But if you need more time to decide whether this person is kissable, it’s perfectly okay to wait for the second date.<\/p>\n

En <\/b>tercera cita<\/b><\/a> es probablemente cuando debes saber si te ves alguna vez besando a la otra persona o no. <\/b>If there is still not enough chemistry between you two at this point, I’m afraid to break it to you, but you should stay friends.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 no se debe hacer en una primera cita?<\/h2>\n

I’m begging you not to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Don’t do something just to please the other person or just because you think it’s expected from you.<\/b><\/p>\n

But besides this, there are some other things you should avoid the first time you go out with someone (or ever). So, don’t:<\/p>\n

    \n
  • Llegar tarde<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Baja tu cita para sentirte mejor<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Menciona demasiado a tu ex novio\/a<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Pasar la noche al tel\u00e9fono<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Parecer barato<\/b><\/li>\n
  • Ser demasiado insistente<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

    \"un<\/p>\n

    Todos los expertos en relaciones te dir\u00e1n m\u00e1s o menos lo mismo: there is no right or wrong answer to the question, \u201cshould <\/b>you kiss on the first date?\u201d<\/b> This decision is all yours, so forget about some nonexistent dating rules that tell you what you’re allowed to do.<\/b><\/p>\n

    \u00bfSabes qu\u00e9 es lo m\u00e1s importante aqu\u00ed? Besarse en la primera cita est\u00e1 bien. Esperar a que te den el primer beso tambi\u00e9n es perfectamente aceptable.<\/p>\n

    The only thing that matters is that you and your date are both happy with the decision you’ve made. Forget about the norms and regulations!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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