{"id":137270,"date":"2021-10-29T09:22:52","date_gmt":"2021-10-29T09:22:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=137270"},"modified":"2022-03-24T02:06:52","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T02:06:52","slug":"cuestiones-de-compromiso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuestiones-de-compromiso\/","title":{"rendered":"15 se\u00f1ales claras de que tienes problemas de compromiso y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>\u00bfEres la persona que ahuyenta constantemente a cualquiera que intente acercarse?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u00bfAbandonas toda posibilidad de una relaci\u00f3n cercana?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Si es as\u00ed, puede que tengas fobia al compromiso.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/fobia-al-compromiso\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Cuestiones de compromiso<\/a> are a topic frequently discussed nowadays. But, what does it really mean? If you aren&#8217;t quite sure whether you&#8217;re the one with the problem or it is someone you know, you will certainly find your answer after reading this.<\/p>\n<p>Hablaremos de todos los posibles signos de problemas de compromiso, por qu\u00e9 se producen en primer lugar y qu\u00e9 hacer para superarlos.<\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfQu\u00e9 son los problemas de compromiso?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-137274 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch.jpg\" alt=\"pareja infeliz sentada aparte en el sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/unhappy-couple-sitting-apart-on-couch-1080x716.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em>Esencialmente, si tiene problemas de compromiso, significa que tiene miedo de implicarse seriamente con su pareja. La falta de conexi\u00f3n emocional te ayuda a evitar que te hagan da\u00f1o.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>These issues don&#8217;t necessarily concern only romantic relationships, though, as is widely believed. You can fear commitment when it comes to friendships or any kind of long-term objective for that matter.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The bottom line is that you&#8217;ve gone through extreme trauma that made it troublesome for you to be devoted to another person or goal.<\/strong> Usted tiene un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/persona-que-evita-el-amor\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">estilo de apego evitativo<\/a>. Esencialmente, has aprendido a no depender de nadie.<\/p>\n<p>Ahora bien, este estilo puede manifestarse de tres maneras:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022anxious-preoccupied \u2013 You doubt the other person really wants you back.<\/p>\n<p>-<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/rasgos-evasivos-desdenosos\/\">displicente-evasivo<\/a> \u2013 You don&#8217;t like depending on anyone nor vice versa.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022fearful-avoidant \u2013 You want a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-comprometida\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaci\u00f3n comprometida<\/a>, but you&#8217;re afraid of the potential pain.<\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfCu\u00e1les son los signos de problemas de compromiso?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-137275 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste con anillo en la mano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/sad-woman-holding-ring-1080x716.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you think that you have commitment issues, you probably do. That&#8217;s not too difficult to determine. However, the signs differ from one individual to another. Your problem isn&#8217;t necessarily the problem of someone else who is a commitment-phobe.<\/p>\n<p><strong>However, they all share one underlying problem \u2013 the desire for closeness that is intertwined with the fear of commitment.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re not quite sure whether you have commitment phobia, stay with me and we&#8217;ll figure it out together. Essentially, when you&#8217;re afraid to commit, you do these things:<\/p>\n<h3>1. Eres propenso a las relaciones a corto plazo.<\/h3>\n<p><em>\u00bfAlguna vez echas la vista atr\u00e1s y te das cuenta de que todas tus relaciones han terminado demasiado pronto? Si es as\u00ed, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/66794-6-signs-you-might-seriously-be-a-commitment-phobe\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">puede que tengas fobia al compromiso<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Una relaci\u00f3n a largo plazo puede asustarte, as\u00ed que buscas placeres a corto plazo. Siempre encuentras razones para terminarlas, o simplemente trivializas tu problema. Puede que te enorgullezcas del n\u00famero de tus conquistas.<\/p>\n<p>Por supuesto, tener preferencia por <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-casual\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaciones temporales<\/a> doesn&#8217;t always mean that you have issues. Maybe you&#8217;re just that type of person.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What&#8217;s crucial is determining whether you have a problem or not is the motivation behind your choices. Is it pleasure? Or, is it fear?<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>2. Prefieres las relaciones casuales.<\/h3>\n<p>Puede que no quieras <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-seria\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">tener relaciones serias<\/a> de cualquier tipo. En cambio, prefiere las que le proporcionen el disfrute sexual que busca, ya sea con una persona durante un periodo de tiempo m\u00e1s largo o con aventuras de una noche.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Podr\u00eda ser que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/significado-fwb\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">tener amigos con derecho a roce<\/a> simplemente te aporta satisfacci\u00f3n y alegr\u00eda. Sin embargo, si tienes el m\u00e1s m\u00ednimo deseo de buscar una verdadera conexi\u00f3n con alguien, tal vez quieras reevaluar tus opciones.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Su problema puede estar reprimido, pero a\u00fan as\u00ed es posible reconocerlo y afrontarlo.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Sueles cancelar planes.<\/h3>\n<p>If you&#8217;re in a constant loop of arranging and cancelling plans, you may want to sit down and contemplate for a while.<\/p>\n<p>El hecho de que hagas planes demuestra que los deseas. Pero.., <strong>si continuamente encuentras excusas para abandonarlos, tienes <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/fear-of-intimacy#:~:text=Fear%20of%20sex%20or%20sexual,it%20can%20cause%20these%20feelings.\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">miedo a la intimidad<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Devoting someone your time will result in closeness, and you&#8217;re not particularly tempted by the idea of an intimate relationship.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Tardas siglos en responder a los mensajes.<\/h3>\n<p><em>It&#8217;s quite possible that you are just not the type of person who&#8217;s fond of texting. However, if you find that you really enjoy someone&#8217;s presence, but nevertheless reply to their message days later, that&#8217;s a sign.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Texting, just like any kind of communication, is a serious matter. Choosing to engage in conversions every day is bound to turn into something greater. That&#8217;s how you often form bonds that last a lifetime.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You keep people at arm&#8217;s length because an intimate connection might bring worse feelings than the ones you&#8217;re experiencing due to a lack of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>5. Descartas las discusiones sobre el futuro.<\/h3>\n<p>Cada vez que tu pareja intenta hablar sobre a d\u00f3nde podr\u00eda llevarte la relaci\u00f3n, te vas o cambias de tema. <em>The idea of a serious commitment terrifies you, and what&#8217;s more serious than future plans?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Your partner may talk about marriage, a shared apartment, or something as seemingly simple as a summer holiday. Still, that&#8217;s too far ahead for you to think about.<\/p>\n<p><strong>El entusiasmo por esos planes puede destruirse en un instante. As\u00ed que, para evitar decepciones, se niega a experimentar tambi\u00e9n la alegr\u00eda de la imaginaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>6. Cuando hablas de planes de futuro, nunca mencionas a tu pareja.<\/h3>\n<p>A veces, cuando hablas del futuro con tu pareja, no mencionas nada sobre vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Puede que hables del trabajo de tus sue\u00f1os o de una casa en la que s\u00f3lo te imaginas a ti mismo o a una hipot\u00e9tica familia. Sin embargo, tu pareja queda totalmente al margen.<\/p>\n<p><em>This doesn&#8217;t necessarily mean that you don&#8217;t want a committed relationship. Perhaps that&#8217;s your greatest wish. Nevertheless, fulfilling it brings you unimaginable discomfort, so you don&#8217;t even reveal it.<\/em><\/p>\n<h3>7. Te resulta dif\u00edcil establecer un v\u00ednculo.<\/h3>\n<p>Permitirse invertir profundamente en alguien conlleva un gran riesgo. <strong>Para evitar posibles da\u00f1os emocionales, tiendes a inclinarte por los m\u00e1s <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/las-10-reglas-de-las-citas-esporadicas-que-debes-seguir\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaciones superficiales<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Perhaps you seek people with similar wishes, or you are the one who rejects any emotion. Naturally, emotions often come uninvited, but that doesn&#8217;t mean that you can&#8217;t pretend that they aren&#8217;t there.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t matter if it&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/8-senales-de-emociones-reprimidas-formas-de-manejarlas-con-exito\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">represi\u00f3n emocional<\/a> o la falta de apego a su pareja, la conexi\u00f3n \u00edntima es pr\u00e1cticamente inexistente.<\/p>\n<h3>8. A menudo dudas de tu elecci\u00f3n de pareja.<\/h3>\n<p><em>\u00bfBusca constantemente defectos en su pareja?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Do you find reasons to convince yourself that they&#8217;re just not good enough?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Si es as\u00ed, es posible que la causa de su comportamiento no se deba a una <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/estas-en-una-relacion-profundamente-infeliz-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaci\u00f3n infeliz<\/a>. <strong>It&#8217;s possible to question your partner even when you find them impeccable because it&#8217;s not necessarily about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Si echas un vistazo a tus relaciones anteriores y observas el mismo patr\u00f3n, entonces el problema es tu incapacidad para resolver tus problemas de compromiso.<\/p>\n<h3>9. Buscas cualquier tipo de excusa para terminar la relaci\u00f3n.<\/h3>\n<p><em>\u00bfSiempre eres t\u00fa el que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/citas-sobre-el-fin-de-una-relacion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">terminar una relaci\u00f3n<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u00bfEncuentras las razones m\u00e1s tontas para conseguirlo?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Of course, sometimes, even a seemingly minor thing might hide a more enormous problem underneath, but let&#8217;s be frank \u2013<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you somehow always find excuses to terminate a relationship, especially when it&#8217;s about to progress, you rarely do it because you truly want to.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Optar por la salida antes de implicarse seriamente es la forma de evitar posibles da\u00f1os.<\/p>\n<h3>10. Te cuesta confesar tu amor.<\/h3>\n<p>What&#8217;s relevant to realize is that having commitment issues doesn&#8217;t mean you&#8217;re incapable of feeling <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/que-es-el-apego-emocional\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">apego emocional<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It might be the most powerful affection you&#8217;ve ever experienced, but that doesn&#8217;t mean that you&#8217;re ready to welcome it with open arms.<\/p>\n<p><strong>There&#8217;s nothing that can bring you closer to your partner like a love confession. This is precisely why you choose to suffer in silence.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>However, sometimes, you may choose to say the words. You want honesty, and you feel prepared for what may come&#8230; that is, until it comes.<\/p>\n<h3>11. Si tu compa\u00f1ero se acerca, huyes.<\/h3>\n<p>Si tu pareja hace cualquier movimiento que sugiera un deseo de m\u00e1s intimidad, huyes al instante. O lo rechazas o decides poner fin a las cosas.<\/p>\n<p><em>Podr\u00edas estar muri\u00e9ndote de lo mucho que les quieres, pero convertir tus sentimientos en acci\u00f3n es imposible.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>This doesn&#8217;t mean that you never dare to get close. Some people do experience intimacy at its height. But, at some point, <strong>they always opt for departure because they&#8217;re afraid of what comes next.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>12. Buscas personas emocionalmente no disponibles.<\/h3>\n<p>Realmente podr\u00eda ser una coincidencia que sigas enamor\u00e1ndote de las personas equivocadas que nunca podr\u00edan darte lo que quieres. O podr\u00eda ser simplemente un patr\u00f3n que repites inconscientemente.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Your love is never reciprocated because that&#8217;s precisely what you want. If it was, you&#8217;d be petrified. You choose people you can&#8217;t be with because you know that you&#8217;ll <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/solo-citas-refranes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">acabar solo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This doesn&#8217;t mean that your love is any less real. Nevertheless, you allow it to happen only to continue with the pattern that takes away the fear, yet leaves nothing but a life devoid of the passion that you truly crave.<\/p>\n<h3>13. Evita las conversaciones personales.<\/h3>\n<p>Permitir que alguien acceda a tus pensamientos y sentimientos es un paso que rara vez est\u00e1s dispuesto a dar. Las conversaciones \u00edntimas requieren que seas vulnerable, es decir, tu verdadero yo.<\/p>\n<p><em>After all, when someone sees your true nature, doesn&#8217;t that connect you for life?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>You are aware of that, and that&#8217;s why you&#8217;re so hesitant. You can&#8217;t reveal anything but the most trivial facts and everyday occurrences you could tell anyone.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, cada caso es espec\u00edfico, y puede que alguien no tenga ning\u00fan problema en revelar todos los aspectos de su personalidad. No todos los signos pueden aplicarse a su situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<h3>14. Siempre env\u00edas se\u00f1ales contradictorias.<\/h3>\n<p>You&#8217;re the kind of person who is cold and merciless one minute, and the embodiment of tenderness the next. <strong>Nunca existes en un estado constante de emociones.<\/strong> It\u2019s a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-montana-rusa\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaci\u00f3n monta\u00f1a rusa<\/a> porque la otra parte nunca est\u00e1 segura de cu\u00e1les son tus verdaderos deseos.<\/p>\n<p><em>You awake interest only to vanish right afterwards. While there certainly are people who are inclined towards such selfish acts, more often than not, it&#8217;s a sign of your fear of commitment.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Toying with someone&#8217;s feelings in this manner isn&#8217;t your true motivation. You are simply unable to fully commit to a person but unable to depart from them, too.<\/p>\n<h3>15. You&#8217;re only up for a &#8221;situationship.&#8221;<\/h3>\n<p>You have no problem regularly arranging &#8221;dates&#8221; or texting the whole time. Being utterly vulnerable isn&#8217;t an issue either. You talk freely about everything with no holding back.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Simply put, you enjoy each benefit that comes with a relationship, but you&#8217;re not quite ready to actually start one.<\/strong> Le gusta estar en un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/que-es-la-situacion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">situaci\u00f3n<\/a>. Cada vez que tu pareja potencial intenta hacer las cosas oficiales, lo evitas como puedes.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re comfortable with the situation the way it is, and you have no need to put any labels on it. At least, that&#8217;s what you convince yourself. Secretly, you share the same wishes as the other person.<\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 tengo problemas de compromiso?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-137276 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1.jpg\" alt=\"pareja discutiendo en el sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-arguing-on-couch-1-1080x716.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The causes of commitment issues are different for each person. While a lot of people don&#8217;t fully understand where the problem stems from, others understand it perfectly.<\/p>\n<p>If you belong in the first group, that&#8217;s fine. Revelation time is here, so buckle up! Here are the possible explanations for your struggle:<\/p>\n<h3>1. Trauma infantil extremo.<\/h3>\n<p>Cada persona tiene experiencias traum\u00e1ticas diferentes. Puede que ocurriera en tu casa familiar o en cualquier lugar de tu entorno. Sus agresores pueden haber sido miembros de su familia o los ni\u00f1os con los que sol\u00eda pasar el tiempo.<\/p>\n<p><em>En cualquier caso, quedaste marcado para siempre. Quien te hizo da\u00f1o te hizo creer que eras, y siempre ser\u00e1s, indigno.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Precisamente por eso rechaza los avances serios.<strong> O temes a tu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/te-sientes-indigno-de-amor\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">sentimientos de indignidad<\/a> will be intensified, or you don&#8217;t believe you deserve love in the first place.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>2. Padres poco disponibles en la infancia.<\/h3>\n<p>Si tus padres estuvieron ausentes siempre que los necesitaste de ni\u00f1o, eso pudo haberte causado una extrema <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/problemas-de-confianza\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">problemas de confianza<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>After all, being a vulnerable creature, you needed their support and they failed to provide you with it. You couldn&#8217;t depend on them for help. You had to take care of yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Si lo miras as\u00ed, tus problemas de compromiso profundamente arraigados cobran sentido.<\/p>\n<p>Your family life wasn&#8217;t what it was supposed to be for a child. Your primary caregivers emotionally abandoned you (perhaps even physically), and you feel like you will forever be the abandoned one.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Your parents&#8217; doomed marriage.<\/h3>\n<p>It&#8217;s also possible that you continuously witnessed your parents arguing. Their constant, oftentimes loud, disagreements formed your belief that relationships simply cannot bring you any happiness.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Think about it. You&#8217;re only a child, and you hear your parents yelling at each other. You know that one day, you&#8217;ll grow up, too, and you will think: &#8221;Well, this is how it&#8217;s going to be, I guess.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Lo que ves, sobre todo en la primera infancia, es lo que crees. Y destruir nuestras creencias b\u00e1sicas puede ser dolorosamente dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Historial de malas relaciones.<\/h3>\n<p>Perhaps when you look back at your life, you see only romances that didn&#8217;t end well nor were they good to begin with. Since that&#8217;s your experience, it\u2019s natural for you to be <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/incertidumbre-en-las-relaciones\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">incertidumbre sobre las relaciones<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s also difficult if someone you deeply cared about rejected you in the end. Commitment issues can only get stronger then.<\/p>\n<p><em>You think that if your most beloved person, the person who actually got to know you, didn&#8217;t accept you, nobody ever will.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Your self-esteem issues start getting in the way of every connection you wish to create. The trauma that your past relationships bring simply doesn&#8217;t allow you to move on.<\/p>\n<h3>5. Hollywood&#8217;s idea of romance.<\/h3>\n<p>Tus problemas de compromiso tambi\u00e9n pueden deberse al gran ideal rom\u00e1ntico que se muestra en las pel\u00edculas de hoy en d\u00eda. <strong>Esperas al hombre o la mujer sin defectos porque Hollywood te ha hecho creer que existen.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Usted tiene extremadamente <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-eso-es-importante-establecer-normas-estrictas-para-su-relacion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">altos est\u00e1ndares<\/a>, and therefore, reject anyone who doesn&#8217;t meet them. If you see someone even slightly flawed, you want nothing to do with them.<\/p>\n<p>La \u00fanica clase de persona digna de tu aceptaci\u00f3n es la que es capaz de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cosas-romanticas-que-hacer-para-tu-mujer\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">grandes gestos rom\u00e1nticos<\/a>. Puede ser alguien que te regale flores o que lo sacrifique todo por tu amor.<\/p>\n<p><em>Quieres poes\u00eda, o nada.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfC\u00f3mo solucionar los problemas de compromiso?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-137277 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"un hombre consuela a una mujer triste\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/man-comforts-sad-woman-1080x716.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You must be exhausted from wanting intimacy, yet rejecting it each time it comes to you. You&#8217;re not quite sure how to get rid of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-senales-de-que-tienes-filofobia-el-miedo-a-enamorarte\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">el miedo a enamorarse<\/a>, even though there&#8217;s nothing you want more.<\/p>\n<p>Miras a otras parejas que est\u00e1n en <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/15-caracteristicas-de-una-relacion-sana\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaciones sanas<\/a>y piensa en todas las oportunidades que perdiste porque tem\u00edas su imprevisibilidad.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u00bfLe ser\u00e1 posible alguna vez experimentar lo que otros experimentan con facilidad? \u00bfC\u00f3mo conseguirlo?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Well, it&#8217;s hard work, but certainly not impossible. This is how you do it:<\/p>\n<h3>1. Comunicaci\u00f3n saludable.<\/h3>\n<p>Cuando tienes problemas de compromiso, puede ser realmente dif\u00edcil <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-comunicarse-con-los-hombres\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">comunique sus sentimientos<\/a>. Darse cuenta de que la falta de comunicaci\u00f3n es una <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/citas-sobre-relaciones-toxicas\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a> h\u00e1bito que hay que superar.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don&#8217;t just flee from your partner. Tell them all about it. Explain how hard being in a serious relationship is for you. If you are truly compatible, they will understand.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Si <a href=\"https:\/\/www.happify.com\/hd\/why-having-alone-time-is-good-for-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">necesitas tiempo a solas<\/a> para resolver las cosas, d\u00edselo tambi\u00e9n. Al fin y al cabo, el \u00e9xito de una relaci\u00f3n depende de una comunicaci\u00f3n sincera.<\/p>\n<h3>2. Terapia de pareja.<\/h3>\n<p>If you and your partner aren&#8217;t able to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-arreglar-una-relacion-que-se-esta-desmoronando\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">arregla tu relaci\u00f3n<\/a> problemas simplemente hablando entre vosotros, siempre hay <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/terapia-de-pareja\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">terapia de pareja<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You might feel like the relationship is doomed if you&#8217;ve become this desperate. But, the truth is, this only means that you love each other enough to overcome any obstacle.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Acudir\u00e1s a alguien que crear\u00e1 un espacio seguro para que puedas expresar todas tus <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/inseguridades-en-una-relacion\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">inseguridades<\/a> en. Por muy dif\u00edcil que pueda llegar a ser, la situaci\u00f3n nunca es desesperada.<\/p>\n<h3>3. Terapia individual.<\/h3>\n<p>Perhaps you have no desire to discuss your fear of commitment with your partner just yet. You want to handle it on your own, but it&#8217;s not going quite as you planned. If that&#8217;s the case, remember that you can always try individual therapy.<\/p>\n<p>Hablar con un profesional de la salud mental que te d\u00e9 una opini\u00f3n objetiva sobre tu estado mental podr\u00eda ayudarte mucho. Se determinar\u00edan las causas profundas de tus problemas de compromiso y, por tanto, ser\u00eda muy f\u00e1cil tratarlas.<\/p>\n<p>Este es realmente el mejor curso de acci\u00f3n que puede tomar para alcanzar el bienestar.<\/p>\n<h2>\u00bfC\u00f3mo salir con alguien que tiene fobia al compromiso?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-137278 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking.jpg\" alt=\"pareja sentada en el suelo hablando\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/couple-sitting-on-floor-talking-1080x716.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em>Dating someone with commitment issues can be challenging, but don&#8217;t give up just yet. Their refusal doesn&#8217;t always mean that they don&#8217;t appreciate you.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So, if you&#8217;re interested in finding out how exactly you can make a relationship with them work, this is how:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022Encourage them to communicate with you.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022Try not to rush things.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022Educate yourself to understand them better.<\/p>\n<p>\u2022Don&#8217;t blame them for their issues.<\/p>\n<p>If, even after you&#8217;ve tried all these things, it&#8217;s still impossible to reach them, that&#8217;s a major red flag. Even if they&#8217;re a marvellous person, <strong>realize that you can&#8217;t wait forever for someone to decide to be with you.<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/senales-de-que-es-hora-de-seguir-adelante\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Seguir adelante<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><em>P.D. Aseg\u00farate de diferenciar entre una persona con fobia al compromiso y <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/senales-de-que-no-quiere-una-relacion-contigo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">someone who doesn\u2019t want a relationship<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2>Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-137279 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend.jpg\" alt=\"hombres mostrando algo en el tel\u00e9fono a su novia\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1536x1018.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-735x487.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-335x222.jpg 335w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-347x230.jpg 347w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-520x345.jpg 520w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-640x424.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/men-showing-something-on-phone-to-his-girlfriend-1080x716.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>B\u00e1sicamente, los problemas de compromiso suelen tener su origen en alg\u00fan tipo de trauma infantil, pero no necesariamente. Uno puede quedar profundamente traumatizado a cualquier edad. El caso es que apenas lo superas, por lo que empiezas a temer cualquier tipo de compromiso.<\/p>\n<p>If you find it hard to overcome the problem, consider opening up to some, whether it&#8217;s a friend or a professional.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It may be exhausting, and it might seem like it will never end. But, it doesn&#8217;t have to be that way. Reach out to someone and dig up all the trauma. You can win this battle.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you the person who constantly drives away anyone who tries to get close? Do you abandon each chance of a close relationship? If so, you might just be a commitment-phobe. Commitment issues are a topic frequently discussed nowadays. But, what does it really mean? If you aren&#8217;t quite sure whether you&#8217;re the one with&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":137281,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29620,29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-137270","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29620,"label":"RELATIONSHIPS"},{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/15-Clear-Signs-You-Have-Commitment-Issues-And-What-To-Do-About-It-1-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29620,"name":"RELATIONSHIPS","slug":"relationships","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29620,"taxonomy":"category","description":"<b><i>Relationships are complicated, we know. 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