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<\/p>\nTodos queremos que nos quieran, eso es sencillo. Estamos dispuestos a hacer todo tipo de tonter\u00edas y a esforzarnos al m\u00e1ximo s\u00f3lo para conseguirlo. Nunca nos paramos a pensar:<\/p>\n
Pero, \u00bfqui\u00e9n lo intenta por m\u00ed?<\/i><\/p>\n
\u00bfHay alguien preparado para amar mi yo m\u00e1s verdadero?<\/i><\/p>\n
Finding such a person is surely a rarity, but not by any means impossible. However, in order to see what love is, you must first see what it isn’t.<\/p>\n
\u00bfHa o\u00eddo hablar alguna vez de los 3 amores de la vida?<\/i><\/p>\n
\u00bfQu\u00e9 nos ense\u00f1an?<\/i><\/p>\n
\u00bfRealmente <\/i>enamorarse tres veces<\/i>?<\/i><\/p>\n
If you find yourself asking these questions, stay tuned because we’re about to answer them.<\/p>\n
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En su libro, Kate Rose presenta tres tipos de amor<\/a>: the first love, the second love, and the third love. According to her, each of these happens for a specific reason…<\/p>\n Tienes que pasar por todas estas etapas para hacerte m\u00e1s sabio y m\u00e1s experimentado. Y, entonces, llega el momento en que por fin puedes aplicar todo lo que has aprendido con alguien que siempre estuvo destinado a ser tuyo.<\/p>\n Pero, \u00bfqu\u00e9 se aprende realmente? Siga leyendo y desc\u00fabralo.<\/p>\n \u00bfRecuerdas a esa persona de primaria o <\/i>instituto<\/i> del que estabas profundamente enamorado?<\/i><\/p>\n Es probable que sigan vini\u00e9ndote a la mente incluso despu\u00e9s de todos estos a\u00f1os, y si por casualidad te tropiezas con ellas, los mismos sentimientos vuelven de golpe por un momento.<\/p>\n After all, they were your first love… el amor que pensaste que durar\u00eda para siempre<\/b>. And, then it didn’t, and it took you years superar<\/a> ellos.<\/p>\n Quiz\u00e1 tuvieras una relaci\u00f3n, o quiz\u00e1 no fuera m\u00e1s que un flechazo. Pero lo que sent\u00edas era muy real. Al fin y al cabo, te mostraron c\u00f3mo era el amor y, en esos momentos, fuiste realmente feliz.<\/p>\n \u201cCuando perdemos a un ser querido, debemos aprender no a vivir sin \u00e9l, sino a vivir con el amor que nos ha dejado.<\/i>.\u201d – Unknown<\/p>\n Mi primer amor me caus\u00f3 mucho dolor, que perdon\u00e9 felizmente, y hasta hoy no le guardo rencor. Rara vez pienso en \u00e9l, pero cuando lo hago, elijo los buenos recuerdos.<\/p>\n What’s interesting is that while I’m writing this, I am quite indifferent. I value what I had back then, but it’s as if it happened to someone else.<\/p>\n Tal vez tu experiencia sea diferente y a\u00fan guardes mucho afecto a esa persona, o incluso puede que acabes de conocerla. Puede que dentro de unos a\u00f1os te des cuenta de que en realidad era tu primer amor<\/a>.<\/p>\n And, that’s the problem that comes when you fall in love with this person. You think that you have found what you’ve always been looking for.<\/p>\n It’s quite understandable, though, because you had no prior experience. Todo lo que sab\u00edas del amor era por ver las pel\u00edculas de Cenicienta o las telenovelas, y eso puede afectarte mucho.<\/b><\/p>\n Cuando ves tantos personajes en la televisi\u00f3n <\/i>experimentando <\/i>amor verdadero<\/i><\/a>, all the while being constantly told that you will one day marry the right person, you simply can’t wait to live your own <\/i>cuento de hadas<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n Y, entonces, esta persona aparece ante ti, perfecta para ese papel. Intentas alterar cada parte de ti que crees que es poco atractiva para ellos. What they end up loving is an untruthful version of yourself, and what you love is someone you’ve entirely romanticized.<\/b><\/p>\n As a matter of fact, it’s not exactly love, but rather encaprichamiento<\/a>.<\/p>\n It’s quite possible that you didn’t know your first love well, or that you knew them, but something was always off. Still, you firmly believed that you would be together eternally. This is precisely because you loved the idea of love.<\/p>\n S\u00f3lo quer\u00edas que te quisieran,<\/a> as\u00ed que aceptaste lo que te ofrecieron aunque fuera mucho menos de lo que merec\u00edas.<\/p>\n Esperabas verlos todos los d\u00edas con gran emoci\u00f3n. Para ti no exist\u00eda nada m\u00e1s que esa sensaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n You’d already fantasized about the ideal future you would have with them. For you, that was the only love that existed, and there was absolutely no possibility of ever enamorarse<\/a> otra vez.<\/p>\n This is why it’s called idealista<\/i> amor<\/i>. Al fin y al cabo, you’re young, and you just want to experience love<\/b>. To achieve that, you’re prepared to lose your individuality if need be. You don’t care much about compatibility.<\/p>\n Cuando miro atr\u00e1s, veo a alguien que me hac\u00eda sentir poco atractiva y despreciable, y aun as\u00ed lo encontraba digno de mis esfuerzos. Ni por un segundo pude ser yo misma porque \u00e9l siempre se burl\u00f3 de qui\u00e9n era.<\/p>\n Hace poco me enter\u00e9 de que se hab\u00eda casado. Pens\u00e9 que era extra\u00f1o que una vez lo am\u00e9. Parec\u00eda tan lejano.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, aunque ahora no sienta nada, lo sent\u00ed entonces, y cada emoci\u00f3n merece nuestra validaci\u00f3n y aprecio, m\u00e1s a\u00fan cuando nos damos cuenta de cu\u00e1l ha sido su papel todo el tiempo.<\/b><\/p>\n Despu\u00e9s de su primer <\/i>desamor<\/i><\/a>piensas que nunca amar\u00e1s a otro <\/i>ser humano<\/i> otra vez. De hecho, incluso te niegas a hacerlo. Sientes que perteneces a tu <\/i>primer amor<\/i> por completo, y rechazas todo lo que se cruza en tu camino.<\/i><\/p>\n It’s then when the segundo amor<\/a> aparece y te convence de lo contrario.<\/p>\n This kind of love is the most powerful thing you’ve ever felt in your life. There\u2019s qu\u00edmica entre vosotros<\/a> que no tiene parang\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Esta es la persona que crees que es tu alma gemela<\/a>, the one you’re ready to write novels about.<\/p>\n You might even see them as your real first love because unlike before, this time, you’re acquainted with each part of their mind. No one has to pretend anymore, and yet…<\/p>\n Te encuentras intent\u00e1ndolo como nunca antes lo hab\u00edas hecho. One minute, everything’s dreamy, and the next, you’re destroying your <\/b>salud mental<\/b> con constantes an\u00e1lisis en profundidad.<\/b><\/p>\n You’re in a constant loop of highs and lows, but no matter how great the pain is, you feel it’s worth it if you get to experience utter ecstasy afterwards.<\/p>\n This type of love isn’t simply lust as it is often perceived, but it IS intense and passionate. It’s also called rom\u00e1ntico<\/i> amor<\/i>.<\/p>\n When you’re in the presence of this person, you feel unimaginably excited, and then suddenly, they retreat and leave you feeling miserable.<\/i><\/p>\n You’re not quite sure what went wrong, and you spend every waking moment waiting for things to be fine again. Oftentimes, you blame yourself.<\/p>\n Cuando te encuentras con esta persona, te consume por completo. Su el amor se convierte en adicci\u00f3n<\/a>. Only one word is enough for you to feel like you can conquer the world by their side. It’s exhilarating to finally be understood. Simplemente <\/b>se siente bien<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n Probablemente disfruten mucho de su compa\u00f1\u00eda y de su bromas tontas<\/a>, and they can listen to you talk 24\/7 without getting bored. Since you’ve always lacked such appreciation, you value your second love all the more.<\/p>\n You feel like you’ve finally found the person you were always meant to be with. You feel like it’s amor verdadero<\/a>, and in a way, it is…<\/p>\n Igual que el primer amor, \u00e9ste ten\u00eda que suceder. Tuvimos que experimentar una tristeza extrema para reconocer c\u00f3mo se siente el amor que nos merece.<\/b><\/p>\n If you’re in pain right now, and you feel like it’s going to last forever, know that it doesn’t have to be that way. Your love won’t be any less meaningful if you decide to suelta<\/a>.<\/p>\n You can’t wait for someone forever. This person obviously can’t commit to you in a way that you deserve. Love them, but walk away.<\/i><\/p>\n It’s quite understandable that you’re going to have a hard time forgetting this person. After all, what you felt was extraordinary. What’s important is not looking back, not trying so hard anymore.<\/p>\n You gave all your best, and it’s finally time to desapegarse emocionalmente de ellos<\/a> y aprender a aceptar otra cosa.<\/p>\n If you find that the past is still haunting you, know that it’ll only continue to do so if you let it.<\/b><\/p>\n Realmente hay una manera de recordar a una persona con cari\u00f1o sin que te impida encontrar la felicidad<\/a> with someone else. You don’t have to hate them nor suppress the memories.<\/p>\n El amor puede seguir ah\u00ed, simplemente tendr\u00e1 menos poder sobre la forma en que elijas vivir tu vida.<\/p>\n ” …there will be a piece of you in me always, and I’m grateful for that. Whatever someone you become, and wherever you are in the world, I’m sending you love. You’re my friend to the end.” <\/i>\u2013 the movie, ”Her”<\/p>\n Despu\u00e9s de luchar tanto por dejar ir el amor dif\u00edcil, puede que te preguntes: \u00bfEs real el amor?<\/i><\/a>? And, then the third love comes knocking on your door…<\/p>\n Puede que a\u00fan te encuentres en un estado vulnerable, no del todo preparado para experimentar algo nuevo, pero cuando este <\/i>tipo de amor<\/i> arrives, it’s a <\/i>tendencia<\/i> bienvenido de todo coraz\u00f3n.<\/i><\/p>\n It feels peaceful and liberating. You aren’t the only one trying because this person reciprocates your feelings. They offer you constancia y esfuerzo<\/a>y nunca dejan de luchar por ti.<\/p>\n If you’re tired of the relaciones de monta\u00f1a rusa<\/a> you used to have, you can be at peace because that period of your love life is over. And, this is why the 3 loves in life exist \u2013 they help you find peacefulness.<\/p>\n Esta persona nunca duda de ti y nunca juega. No tiene un comportamiento fr\u00edo o caliente, sino m\u00e1s bien amor incondicional<\/a> y certeza, que te atraen como ninguna otra cosa.<\/p>\n Ya no te sientes indeseado, ni siquiera por un segundo. This time, they don’t leave you all confused, but they rather reassure you of their love even without you asking.<\/b><\/p>\n If there’s a problem, you solve it by communicating. There is no toxic fighting nor silent periods. You care enough to fix the issue in a healthy way.<\/p>\n It’s not uncommon for your first or second love to be puzzling. You’re never quite sure where you’re at. You’re either in a fake relationship or a situaci\u00f3n<\/a>, and you constantly overthink if it’s ever going to become anything more.<\/p>\n Bueno, con este llama gemela<\/a> kind of love, there are no such problems. This person instantly tells you what their intention with you is, so you don’t have to stay up all night wondering. Tienen la madurez emocional para lidiar con el amor que sienten por ti.<\/b><\/p>\n ”No <\/i>ser humano<\/i> has ever stood so close to my soul as you stand…<\/i>” \u2013 James Joyce<\/p>\n This is not just a romantic relationship between two people, but it’s rather two best friends who are in love with each other. What does this mean?<\/p>\n Siempre que tienes algo en mente, la otra persona est\u00e1 dispuesta a escucharte. Nunca dejan que experimentes la pena a solas, as\u00ed que tambi\u00e9n la hacen suya.<\/p>\n When you’re happy, they do the very same. It’s enough for them to see you filled with joy in order for them to feel that way, too.<\/p>\n Tras experimentar otros <\/i>tipos de amor<\/i>, nothing quite makes sense yet. It’s only when you stumble upon your <\/i>tercer amor<\/i> que te das cuenta del prop\u00f3sito de todo lo que te ha sucedido. Te das cuenta del significado de los 3 amores de la vida.<\/i><\/p>\n Necesitabas sentir el dolor de una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica para comprender que merec\u00edas una sana desde el principio.<\/p>\n This doesn’t mean that what happened to you <\/b>ten\u00eda raz\u00f3n<\/b> ni que debas <\/b>s\u00e9 agradecido<\/b><\/a>. No one should feel grateful for the sadness they’ve experienced.<\/b><\/p>\n It’s rather about accepting what happened and choosing to see the good side of it (nonetheless allowing yourself to grieve).<\/p>\n If you’re of the opinion that you could’ve learned your lessons the easy way, you’re correct. But, that’s not on us to decide. The only thing we can do is make peace with the past and cherish the current relationship.<\/p>\n Wishing your destiny was different only makes you unhappy. Why don’t you rather go to your lover and tell them that you appreciate them, and how you’ve always waited for them even when you didn’t know it.<\/p>\n It’s different for each person. Some may find it very early, and others at the end of their days. It’s really both a stroke of luck and your eagerness to accept it.<\/p>\n If you’re still stuck on the first or <\/i>segundo amor<\/i>, and you can’t seem to <\/i>seguir adelante<\/i><\/a>El verdadero amor puede estar delante de ti, pero te lo perder\u00e1s. S\u00f3lo llegar\u00e1 en el momento en que est\u00e9s totalmente preparado para \u00e9l.<\/i><\/p>\n Perhaps you\u2019re just no estoy listo para una relaci\u00f3n en este momento<\/a> even if you want to be. Wishing for something isn’t enough, but I know you can’t just turn your emotions off either.<\/p>\n Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo puedes estar preparado para tu amor verdadero? \u00bfC\u00f3mo puedes vivir los 3 amores de la vida? Si tu curiosidad te est\u00e1 matando, tal vez quieras leer lo siguiente:<\/p>\n RELACIONADO: 20 se\u00f1ales reveladoras de que nunca encontrar\u00e1s el amor (y c\u00f3mo cambiarlo)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n It is, and it isn’t.<\/i><\/p>\n Algunos experimentan realmente 3 amores en la vida, mientras que otros s\u00f3lo experimentan uno. Algunos nunca dejan de aferrarse al amor dif\u00edcil, y el resto tiene un gran n\u00famero de ellos.<\/p>\n It doesn’t strictly happen three times to all of us. Ocurre tantas veces como sea necesario para aprender las lecciones.<\/b>. Sadly, there are those who never learn anything…<\/p>\n Cuando la tristeza por un amor pasado es demasiado abrumadora, empiezas a ser miedo a enamorarse.<\/a> You protect yourself in this manner when all you’re really doing is preventing yourself from seeing and being with your true love.<\/p>\n So, yes, the theory is accurate\u2026 if you allow it to be. Slowly mend your wounds and volver a salir<\/a>\u00a1! Te espera un mundo lleno de oportunidades.<\/p>\n We all have different romantic experiences. There’s no same love that happens twice. Still, the universal truth is that most of the time when we enamorarse<\/a>nos ayuda a adquirir conocimientos y sabidur\u00eda.<\/p>\n La teor\u00eda de los 3 amores de la vida lo explica perfectamente. Quiz\u00e1 no todo el mundo experimente exactamente tres tipos de amor, pero sin embargo habr\u00e1 lecciones cuyo prop\u00f3sito sea conducirles hacia su verdadero amor.<\/p>\nEl primer amor<\/h3>\n
It’s your first heartbreak<\/h4>\n
You’re in love with the idea of love<\/h4>\n
Suprimes tu verdadero yo<\/h4>\n
El amor dif\u00edcil<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nIt’s never peaceful<\/h4>\n
Se siente como el amor verdadero<\/h4>\n
Sucede por una raz\u00f3n<\/h4>\n
It’s okay to struggle<\/h4>\n
El amor que permanece<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nIt’s a tranquil kind of love<\/h4>\n
Las verdaderas intenciones quedan claras<\/h4>\n
There’s friendship<\/h4>\n
Te das cuenta de por qu\u00e9 sucedi\u00f3 todo<\/h4>\n
\u00bfA qu\u00e9 edad encontrar\u00e9 el amor verdadero?<\/h2>\n
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\u00bfEs exacta la teor\u00eda de los 3 amores de la vida?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nReflexiones finales<\/h2>\n