{"id":144095,"date":"2022-02-09T18:09:46","date_gmt":"2022-02-09T18:09:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144095"},"modified":"2022-12-13T14:32:27","modified_gmt":"2022-12-13T14:32:27","slug":"lista-de-limites-para-la-suegra-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/lista-de-limites-para-la-suegra-2\/","title":{"rendered":"La Mejor Lista De L\u00edmites Para La Suegra: 15 Limitaciones"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let’s take a deep breath and tackle one of the most sensitive, but crucial topics for every married woman: relaciones familiares<\/a>. O, para ser exactos, la suegra. O, \u00bfdeber\u00eda decir el monstruo-en-ley?<\/p>\n

Bueno, d\u00e9jame darte una buena noticia: it’s possible to have a <\/b>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/b> con su <\/b>husband’s mother<\/b>. And, you know what’s necessary for that to happen?<\/b><\/p>\n

Esta lista de l\u00edmites para <\/b>suegra<\/b>! <\/b>La \u00fanica forma de evitar que se extralimite e interfiera en todos los aspectos de tu vida es establecer l\u00edmites sanos desde el principio.<\/p>\n

\u00c9stas son las normas b\u00e1sicas y las limitaciones m\u00e1s importantes.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son los l\u00edmites saludables con la familia pol\u00edtica?<\/h2>\n

Healthy boundaries with your husband’s family are all limitations, which impose them to finally understand that you’re his primary family now. They have to learn to respect you, your attitudes, opinions, privacy, personal time, and space…<\/p>\n

Lista de l\u00edmites para una suegra<\/h2>\n

\u200bHere is the ultimate list of boundaries for a mother in law that you should set if you want a happier family life.<\/p>\n

1. No criticar la relaci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Rule number 1: nobody is allowed to criticize your relationship or either of the partners. Actually, let’s be clear: your suegra narcisista<\/a>La cu\u00f1ada, el suegro, el mejor amigo o un familiar no tiene derecho a opinar sobre la forma en que usted y su c\u00f3nyuge llevan su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Puede que no les guste la forma en que usted y su marido hacen algo. Puede que no est\u00e9n de acuerdo con algunas de sus decisiones. Pero deben guardarse su opini\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

I know I’ve heard my MIL telling me that “things weren’t like that back in her days” or “how she would do something differently”. She wasn’t criticizing my marriage straightforwardly, but she was definitely doing it indirectly.<\/p>\n

That’s exactly why one of your ground rules should be to ban this right from the start. If you catch your MIL starting to criticize some of your relationship practices, tell her that it’s not acceptable and ask her for some privacy.<\/p>\n

2. No “choosing the side”.<\/h3>\n

Let’s get one thing straight: parental love and romantic love are two different concepts. They can’t be measured, and they shouldn’t be compared.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, a pesar de ello, uno de los m\u00e1s comunes <\/b>comportamientos t\u00f3xicos<\/b> visto en <\/b>familias extensas<\/b> who don’t care about you<\/b><\/a> is the practice of “choosing the side.”<\/b><\/p>\n

“Do you really love her more than you love your mother?” “I can’t believe your wife’s needs are more important than mine.”<\/p>\n

“She can come and go, but your mother stays with you forever.” “You can have as many wives as you want throughout your life, but you only have one mother.”<\/p>\n

“Who will you trust more: me or her?” “Are you really going to choose her side?”<\/p>\n

\u00bfLe suena familiar? Si es as\u00ed, tu madre est\u00e1 haciendo todo lo posible para que tu marido elija entre t\u00fa y ella.<\/p>\n

This is not acceptable, and you have to make that clear from day one! Even if you and her don’t get along, she is still his mother and you’re his wife. That’s the end of it!<\/p>\n

3. Limitaciones de las vacaciones<\/h3>\n

Here’s another important thing on the list of boundaries for a mother-in-law, and it’s related to the holidays! I know what you must think right now: it’s only a couple of days a year, so why bother dealing with it?<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme cuando te digo que deber\u00eda estar en tu lista de l\u00edmites para la suegra. Las vacaciones pueden ser la \u00e9poca m\u00e1s alegre del a\u00f1o, pero al mismo tiempo, pueden ser un desastre a punto de ocurrir y un <\/b>motivo de su depresi\u00f3n<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s all up to you and up to the limits you set.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQui\u00e9n ser\u00e1 el anfitri\u00f3n de las fiestas? Recuerda que probablemente t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n tengas familia.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPasar\u00e1 todas las vacaciones con su familia ampliada? Quiz\u00e1, a veces, quiera aprovechar estos d\u00edas para descansar y estar con su marido y sus hijos sin visitas.<\/p>\n

Si tus suegros vienen a visitarte, \u00bfd\u00f3nde se alojar\u00e1n? \u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo pueden quedarse en tu casa?<\/p>\n

Las mismas preguntas se aplican a las situaciones en las que usted va a visitarlos.<\/p>\n

4. You’re in charge of your own children<\/h3>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Trust me: you’ll need to make a special list of boundaries for your mother-in-law once the new baby comes. I get it: she’ll be crazy for her grandkid, but please don’t let her forget that you and your husband are the primary caregivers!<\/p>\n

Usted y su marido son los \u00fanicos encargados de cosas como <\/b>lactancia materna<\/b>, the baby’s sleeping schedule, etc. Of course, this applies to the children’s upbringing and your parenting style later in the future as well.<\/b><\/p>\n

For example, if you decide that there’s no putting your child in front of the TV or no ice cream before dinner, she has to respect that, even if she disagrees with your decision! On the other hand, if you choose gentle parenting, she’s in no place to discipline your children in the way she finds appropriate!<\/p>\n

Here’s a piece of advice: si cree que su <\/b>suegra<\/b> won’t respect your decisions, limitations, and parenting style, don’t ask her to <\/b>cuidar ni\u00f1os<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Tell her that you don’t wish to burden her since you know your child is a piece of work!<\/p>\n

5. No interferir en decisiones privadas<\/h3>\n

Private decisions regarding your marriage are not your MIL’s concern.<\/p>\n

I’m talking about things such as the fact that you don’t want to have children or the way you divide your house chores. And, of course, let’s not forget everything related to finances!<\/p>\n

I can’t stress the importance of this enough. Cr\u00e9eme, hay entrometidos <\/b>suegras<\/b> que literalmente intentar\u00e1 echar un vistazo bajo tus s\u00e1banas.<\/b><\/p>\n

If you and your spouse decided not to cook on a daily basis, she’s in no position to talk you out of it. If you decided to have a cat instead of children, it’s your choice and she must respect it.<\/p>\n

Remind her that you’re her daughter-in-law and not a machine for giving her grandkids. She mustn’t forget that you’re both adults, and that she has no right to invade your personal space, time, or decision-making process.<\/p>\n

6. Ning\u00fan favor si viene con condiciones<\/h3>\n

How do you set boundaries with your MIL? Well, for starters, don’t accept any favors if they come with certain conditions (and, in most cases, they do).<\/p>\n

Your MIL might offer to babysit. You’re probably exhausted and you’ll be more willing to accept.<\/p>\n

Be careful because that is likely to be a trap! If you allow her to help you with the children, she’ll see it as a green light to interfere with your parenting methods.<\/b><\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con las finanzas. Podr\u00eda ofrecerte un pr\u00e9stamo o incluso darte algo de dinero cuando tu marido y t\u00fa est\u00e9is en crisis.<\/p>\n

However, that doesn’t give her the right to interfere with your future financial calls or to nag about your bad money management skills.<\/p>\n

7. No se tolerar\u00e1n las pr\u00e1cticas pasivo-agresivas.<\/h3>\n

Here is another important thing on the list of boundaries for a mother-in-law: don’t tolerate agresi\u00f3n pasiva<\/a>. Estas pr\u00e1cticas no siempre son f\u00e1ciles de detectar, pero cr\u00e9eme, \u00a1pueden arruinar tu matrimonio!<\/p>\n

A veces, parece que su <\/b>suegra dif\u00edcil<\/b><\/a> est\u00e1 preocupado por su <\/b>bienestar,<\/b> but she’s actually making nasty comments about your parenting or marital skills. This must be identified and stopped on time.<\/b><\/p>\n

You think that hateful remarks that hit below the belt are the worst. Well, there’s something even worse: luz de gas<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, your husband’s mother will try to convince you, your husband, and the entire extended family that “she didn’t mean it like that” or that “you misinterpreted her advice”. Don’t let these practices continue!<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante aqu\u00ed es crear una confianza ilimitada con tu pareja. \u00bfSu marido le creer\u00e1 a usted o a sus propios padres?<\/p>\n

8. Your house \u2013 your rules<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/h3>\n

Aunque suene duro, esta regla es la forma de preservar tu salud mental. Repite conmigo: en tu casa se aplican tus normas y solo las tuyas.<\/p>\n

Su <\/b>suegra<\/b> (y su <\/b>propios padres<\/b>) son s\u00f3lo invitados y deben obedecer estas normas.<\/b><\/p>\n

First of all, there is no barging in and disrupting your peace. As much as you love your family, they can’t be showing up unannounced whenever they feel like it.<\/p>\n

Preguntas importantes<\/h4>\n

Para que se aplique esta norma, usted y su marido tienen que llegar a un acuerdo sobre sus visitas.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia pueden venir? \u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo deben quedarse? \u00bfEst\u00e1 bien que sus familias pasen la noche o es mejor que se queden en el hotel?<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00bfVas a cocinar <\/i>cenas familiares<\/i> de vez en cuando o llevar\u00e1s a tus suegros al restaurante?<\/i><\/p>\n

Por supuesto, todo depende de la din\u00e1mica familiar y de otros factores.<\/p>\n

It’s one thing if your mother- and father-in-law live across the street. In that case, you have to put an effort into setting healthy boundaries unless you want to end up on a set of Everybody loves Raymond.<\/p>\n

But, hey\u2026 you don’t want to end up like their favorite holiday destination or a free hotel they spend a few months a week in either.<\/p>\n

9. Ning\u00fan tipo de abuso<\/h3>\n

When people hear the word \u2018abuse\u2019, all they think is physical violence. But, trust me… there are numerous other formas de abuso<\/a> que son caracter\u00edsticas de una vida familiar t\u00f3xica.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa y tu marido ten\u00e9is que convertiros en <\/b>frente unido<\/b> y mantener la actitud de que insultar, injuriar y humillar tambi\u00e9n es una forma de maltrato. <\/b>To be exact, it’s called abuso emocional<\/a>, and it won’t be tolerated.<\/p>\n

The no-abuse policy is especially important when it comes to your children. Your husband’s mother or your own mother will perhaps want to discipline their grandkids in the way they find appropriate.<\/p>\n

Explain to them that they’re not allowed to spank them, yell at them, or abuse them in any other way. Don’t let your overstepping MIL even negotiate about this; it’s your decision and it has to be respected.<\/p>\n

10. Reglamento sobre llamadas telef\u00f3nicas y mensajes de texto<\/h3>\n

Here’s another important item on the list of boundaries for a mother-in-law: regulation of phone calls and text messages.<\/p>\n

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not advising you to block her on everything the moment you say “I do”. That wouldn’t be a healthy relationship either.<\/p>\n

However, you didn’t get married to spend all of your days texting her and talking on the phone with her either. Therefore, para salvar a los tuyos <\/b>salud mental<\/b>forman un <\/b>frente unido<\/b> with your husband, and agree when and how often it’s okay for her to call and text.<\/b><\/p>\n

Once again, it all depends on the family dynamics. What if you’re used to hearing from your own parents every day, but your husband only texts his father and mother once a week?<\/p>\n

In that case, you two have to find the middle ground here \u2013 a solution that will be acceptable for both of you.<\/p>\n

11. Los consejos no deseados no son bienvenidos<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Esto puede resultar chocante para todas las madres que se pasan de la raya: nadie necesita ni quiere o\u00edr consejos no deseados. Esto se aplica a su matrimonio, a la <\/b>nuevo beb\u00e9<\/b>, su <\/b>espacio personal<\/b>, cooking skills… the list goes on and on.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, what’s important is for your MIL to understand this as soon as possible. If you don’t ask for her opinion, she is not invited to give it to you.<\/p>\n

However, you have to be extra careful here. She’ll probably get all defensive and do her best to convince you that she’s telling you all of it because she’s worried about your well-being.<\/p>\n

And, maybe she really is. Nevertheless, both you and your husband are adults. You’re perfectly capable of making your own decisions.<\/p>\n

Even if you regret them or do something wrong, you’re the only ones who suffer the consequences.<\/p>\n

12. Reuniones programadas<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

We’ve already discussed the fact that your MIL has to know that she can’t come into your house unannounced and uninvited. Well, the best way to prevent this from happening is this item on the list of boundaries for mother-in-law-scheduled get-togethers.<\/p>\n

Cenas familiares<\/b>, celebrations; it all has to be planned in advance. You’ll have enough time to clean the house, get your schedule in order, and get financially and mentally prepared.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s likely that your MIL will accuse you of treating her like a business partner once you try to impose this rule. Don’t let her get inside your head!<\/p>\n

Just tell her that you’re busy, and that you’re doing all of this to give her your undivided attention when she’s with you!<\/p>\n

13. Se fomenta la franqueza<\/h3>\n

No hay necesidad de ir a la vuelta de la esquina para quejarse unos de otros. Si usted y cualquier miembro de su <\/b>familia ampliada<\/b> (y esto se aplica especialmente a tu MIL) tiene un problema entre s\u00ed, s\u00e9 directo al respecto.<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, never forget to be respectful. You’re allowed to talk about whatever is bothering you as long as you do it properly.<\/p>\n

14. El intercambio de informaci\u00f3n es voluntario<\/h3>\n

Algunas madres piensan que en el momento en que tienen una nuera, tambi\u00e9n tienen luz verde para entrar en su vida, su mente, su coraz\u00f3n y su alma. Esta joven se convirti\u00f3 en parte de la familia y, por tanto, perdi\u00f3 toda su individualidad.<\/p>\n

\u00a1Pues mal!<\/p>\n

You’re in no obligation to share your secrets or personal information with your MIL, especially if we’re talking about an <\/b>sobrepasando<\/b> MIL. Y no tiene derecho a enfadarse por ello.<\/b><\/p>\n

You’re not hiding anything from her \u2013 you just chose to keep some things for yourself.<\/p>\n

Being nosey is disrespectful and it equals invading your and your husband’s personal space. You two are a team, and whatever happens between you two should stay right there.<\/p>\n

Tenga esto en cuenta: esta mujer puede convertirse en su amiga con el tiempo, pero ese nunca ser\u00e1 su papel principal. No es la mejor amiga a la que debes contar tus deseos m\u00e1s profundos y tus secretos m\u00e1s oscuros.<\/p>\n

Y no tiene derecho a quejarse de esto.<\/p>\n

15. Las normas est\u00e1n para respetarlas<\/h3>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

This list of boundaries for a mother-in-law shouldn’t be just a bunch of theoretical rules that nobody actually follows. Las normas y los reglamentos est\u00e1n para respetarlos, y tu MIL tiene que ser consciente de ello desde el primer d\u00eda.<\/b><\/p>\n

If necessary, mention the possible consequences of her overstepping. No, I’m not telling you to threaten her or to emotionally blackmail her. Just make sure she realizes that every action has its reaction!<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Mis suegros me tratan como a un extra\u00f1o: 8 cosas que hacer al respecto<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo poner l\u00edmites a una suegra autoritaria?<\/h2>\n

Para empezar, hay que ser directo. Dile que la respetas y que te encanta el papel que tiene en tu vida, pero <\/b>establecimiento de l\u00edmites<\/b> es necesario por el bien de todos ustedes.<\/b> Lo mejor es que su c\u00f3nyuge establezca esos l\u00edmites y le explique su importancia.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Distanciarse de los suegros: \u00bfDebe hacerlo y c\u00f3mo?<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Para concluir<\/h2>\n

I can\u2019t emphasize enough how important this list of boundaries for a mother-in-law is. If you two are getting along great, you might think you don\u2019t need these limitations, but trust me \u2013 you do.<\/p>\n

You never know when things can start going downhill. That\u2019s exactly why you need a list of rules that everyone respects.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, these boundaries seem difficult to follow at first. However, once you all get used to them, you\u2019ll see that they\u2019re actually a recipe for a successful relationship.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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