Todas esas preguntas son v\u00e1lidas. Pero has olvidado hacerte la m\u00e1s importante:<\/p>\n
\u00bfQu\u00e9 ser\u00eda lo mejor para mi salud mental? \u00bfC\u00f3mo afectar\u00e1n mis decisiones sobre mi ex mujer a otras \u00e1reas de mi vida? \u00bfC\u00f3mo puedo establecer l\u00edmites saludables<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n En los p\u00e1rrafos siguientes encontrar\u00e1 las respuestas a todas estas preguntas.<\/p>\n \u00bfTe preguntas si tienes l\u00edmites poco saludables con tu ex mujer? Echa un vistazo a los 13 comportamientos t\u00f3xicos a continuaci\u00f3n para tenerlo claro:<\/p>\n En destrucci\u00f3n del divorcio<\/a> is real. One partner usually blames the other for the problems that led to it. But, addressing the issue isn’t the same as constant fighting.<\/p>\n When you want to solve the problem, you don’t care about being right. You only want peace in the marriage again.<\/strong><\/p>\n But, if you argue only for the sake of arguing, that’s something you need to fix.<\/p>\n \u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Por dos razones:<\/p>\n 1. Whatever issues made you separate don’t even matter now. You already made up your mind that el divorcio era su \u00fanica opci\u00f3n.<\/a><\/p>\n 2. Since you aren’t together anymore, as guilty as the other person is, you can’t play the blame game anymore. It doesn’t matter whose fault it is anymore. What’s done is done.<\/em><\/p>\n Do you meddle with your ex-wife’s new partner or vice versa?<\/em><\/p>\n If so, let me remind you that you decided to end things. You signed the divorce papers. You don’t owe each other any explanations anymore.<\/p>\n I know it’s hard to ignore your spouse while you\u2019re separated<\/a> y verlos estar con otra persona, pero ambos tomaron su decisi\u00f3n DE SEPARARSE.<\/strong><\/p>\n Of course, it’s going to hurt, but that doesn’t mean that you have any right to openly complain about it.<\/p>\n Suffer in silence… until it doesn’t hurt anymore. Trust me, acts of jealousy aren’t good for either of you.<\/p>\n Instead of getting angry, try finding a new girlfriend yourself. But, make sure that it\u2019s not an relaci\u00f3n de rebote malsana<\/a>. Deber\u00eda gustarte por ELLA.<\/p>\n Si dejas que tu ex mujer tenga demasiado espacio en tu cabeza, las cosas se pondr\u00e1n feas.<\/p>\n You need to convince yourself that she’s in your past now. Learn to appreciate the memories without letting them control you.<\/p>\n If you focus on what you had with her, you’ll never allow yourself to see someone else as an ideal new girlfriend.<\/strong><\/p>\n Su matrimonio ha terminado<\/a>As\u00ed que, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 no nueva relaci\u00f3n<\/a> \u00bfuna oportunidad?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfSabes cu\u00e1nto tiempo puedes perder si sigues aferr\u00e1ndote a ella?<\/em><\/p>\n What if your ideal person is right under your nose, but you can’t see them because you’re stuck somewhere you no longer belong?<\/p>\n Pi\u00e9nsalo un rato.<\/p>\n Well, not really… but constant chatting isn’t going to help either!<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo esperas seguir adelante<\/a> de tu ex mujer si habl\u00e1is todo el tiempo?<\/em><\/p>\n Cuanto m\u00e1s habl\u00e9is, m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil os resultar\u00e1 encontrar a otra persona. Puede que os hay\u00e1is divorciado por una buena raz\u00f3n, pero (supongo) probablemente haya a\u00f1os llenos de amor detr\u00e1s de vosotros.<\/p>\n No matter how much they hurt you, it\u2019s not easy to forget someone you’ve lived with for so long.<\/p>\n Hazle un favor a tu coraz\u00f3n y deja de hablar con ellos m\u00e1s de lo debido. Ll\u00e1malos solo si REALMENTE lo necesitas, pero si no, al\u00e9jate.<\/strong><\/p>\n A veces, puede que inconscientemente busques razones v\u00e1lidas para acercarte a ellos (lo cual es un signo de apego malsano<\/a>), por lo que le aconsejo que preste atenci\u00f3n a este aspecto.<\/p>\n Every time you feel tempted, ask yourself: ”But do I need to do this? Can’t I solve this on my own?”<\/p>\n Cr\u00e9eme, cuanto m\u00e1s lejos est\u00e9n de ti, m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido sanar\u00e1s.<\/p>\n Your ex-wife has been with you through thick and thin. Understandably, she’s the first person you’d like to call in times of need.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, cumplir ese deseo es algo muy distinto.<\/p>\n If you keep reaching out to her, you won’t ever get her out of your head. You need to learn how to al\u00e9jate de ella<\/a> y confiar en otras personas.<\/p>\n When someone helps you deal with a problem, you get attached to them. It’s only natural. So, you can imagine what a problem that is when your EX-WIFE is in the picture.<\/p>\n No matter how tempting it is to call her, solve your issue on your own. It’s not fair to drag her into your world again.<\/strong><\/p>\n She’ll probably be glad to help you, and then you’ll create a never-ending cycle of a relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica.<\/a><\/p>\n S\u00ed, eso ser\u00eda t\u00f3xico. Si crees que estar tan cerca de tu ex mujer es normal y bonito, pi\u00e9nsalo otra vez.<\/em><\/p>\n Chatting with your ex-wife is bad enough, but if your conversations revolve around your past, that’s a recipe for disaster!<\/p>\n Si, por alguna raz\u00f3n, tienes que seguir en contacto, c\u00ed\u00f1ete a temas m\u00e1s ligeros. Hablad de cosas triviales, contad alg\u00fan chiste o simplemente tratad los asuntos que ten\u00e9is que resolver juntos.<\/p>\n The shorter the visits, the better because there’s no need to stir up memories of past happiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you keep reminding yourselves of how good it was, it’s only going to be harder to suelta.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Treating them as a stranger is even more awkward if you’ve ended on good terms, but that’s precisely why you have to be careful.<\/p>\n You divorced for a reason. In your eyes, it was obviously unforgivable. Don’t let love blind you.<\/p>\n Just because you love someone doesn’t mean they’re the right person for you.<\/em><\/p>\n I know that’s the biggest lesson I learned, and I hope it’ll help you, too!<\/p>\n To you, sex might seem harmless and fun, but if you’re doing it with your ex-wife, it’s anything BUT.<\/p>\n This is someone you used to live with, someone you genuinely loved. It’s impossible to just turn your emotions off.<\/strong><\/p>\n If anything, they can only become stronger. When you’re already emotionally attached to someone, physical intimacy brings you closer together.<\/p>\n Don’t play this game. If you want to be with her, you shouldn’t have signed the papers in the first place. Satisfy your sexual desire elsewhere…unless this isn’t about sexual desire at all…<\/p>\n S\u00e9 sincero contigo mismo sobre lo que quieres. S\u00f3lo entonces podr\u00e1s hacer algo al respecto.<\/em><\/p>\n A ver si lo entiendo. Decidieron divorciarse, \u00bfy a\u00fan as\u00ed act\u00faan como marido y mujer?<\/p>\n Esa es LA definici\u00f3n de l\u00edmites poco saludables con la ex-esposa.<\/p>\n If you both agreed on separation, you can’t have the same demands as when you were together.<\/strong><\/p>\n Before, you were two individuals involved together. You both had wants and needs the other person had to take into consideration. That’s what partnership is all about.<\/p>\n Lo que tienes que darte cuenta es que esto ya no es una asociaci\u00f3n. Que act\u00faes como si lo fuera es una rasgo t\u00f3xico<\/a> que necesitas trabajar.<\/p>\n Puede que se haya divorciado legalmente de su ex mujer, pero a\u00fan debe trabajar en la separaci\u00f3n mental.<\/em><\/p>\n It can’t get worse than this. If you are so hung up on your ex-wife (or vice versa) that you use the court to stay close to them, you really need to do some soul searching.<\/em><\/p>\n This isn’t only about you. You are actually affecting the life of another human being.<\/p>\n You refuse to disengage from her and ruin her chance at happiness due to your selfish love. Yes, I’m sorry, but if you genuinely loved her, you wouldn’t treat her this way.<\/p>\n If you see that she’s doing fine without you, then cortarle el rollo<\/a>. You can use the legal system against her as much you’d like, but that will only create resentment.<\/p>\n In a desire to keep her close, you’ll only drive her further away. Is that what you really want?<\/strong><\/p>\n On the other hand, if you want some sort of revenge, isn’t it better to use your time to build a una vida m\u00e1s feliz<\/a> \u00bfpara ti? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 perder el tiempo en una relaci\u00f3n arruinada?<\/p>\n Sean cuales sean tus razones, la persona m\u00e1s perjudicada, al final, \u00a1eres T\u00da!<\/em><\/p>\n \u00bfExiste un ejemplo m\u00e1s desagradable de l\u00edmites poco saludables con la ex mujer que utilizar vuestra relaci\u00f3n de coparentalidad para vengaros el uno del otro?<\/p>\n Maybe you’re talking negatively about her all the time and turning your kids against her. Or maybe she’s seeking child support and alimony not for her kids’ sake but out of anger?<\/p>\n Do you even realize what you’re doing? Instead of being a good and loving parent, you see your children as pawns in a game of revenge.<\/strong><\/p>\n Remember \u2013 they exist for you to LOVE.<\/em><\/p>\n If you’re still resentful towards your ex-wife, why not talk to her about it? If it’s too awkward, there’s always a trusted friend, family member, or even a therapist.<\/p>\n But, please, leave the kids out of it. Don’t give them trauma. Even if they’re not fully aware of what’s going on, it has an impact on them.<\/p>\n Divorce is hard enough for them. Don’t make it even harder.<\/p>\n You’re using your own children again, but this time, in a more “loving” manner.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 significa eso?<\/p>\n Bueno, b\u00e1sicamente, los tratas bien por todas las razones equivocadas.<\/p>\n You don’t really care about raising them properly. You don’t care about being a good parent. You care about being BETTER than the other parent.<\/strong><\/p>\n It’s all a competition to you. You don’t know any other way to take out your anger on your ex-wife.<\/p>\n Actions don’t matter. Motives do. Treat your children well not out of resentment but out of love.<\/p>\n The world didn’t come to an end. It was only your marriage that ended. Your little ones still need you.<\/em><\/p>\n Yes, your ex-wife may have ruined your marriage, but she didn’t ruin your whole life.<\/p>\n Lo que tienes que entender es esto:<\/p>\n Other people aren’t responsible for your happiness.<\/p>\n Cuando te hacen da\u00f1o, ellos SON los culpables, pero T\u00da eres responsable de su propia recuperaci\u00f3n.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n You won’t accomplish anything by blaming your ex-wife. You will only feed your negative feelings until they drive you insane.<\/p>\n It’s understandable if you’re angry. You have every right to be angry. But, that’s not the emotion that deserves your full attention.<\/p>\n Elige el amor. Elige el autocuidado. Elige la superaci\u00f3n personal.<\/p>\n Una mentalidad de v\u00edctima nunca te lleva a ninguna parte. S\u00f3lo aumenta tu miseria.<\/strong><\/p>\n Divorciarte de tu mujer = mantenerte al margen de su vida personal.<\/em><\/p>\n That means you can’t keep showing up to her workplace or sending her textos t\u00f3xicos <\/a>. You can’t go through her stuff or stalk her social media accounts.<\/p>\n She may have been yours, but she isn’t anymore, and you have to respect her choice.<\/strong><\/p>\n You both lead new lives now. What’s going on in hers shouldn’t concern you anymore.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que, la pr\u00f3xima vez que empieces actuar posesivamente<\/a>o comprobando su lista de seguidores en Instagram, o preguntando por ah\u00ed sobre su nuevo novio, hazte esta pregunta:<\/p>\n Why am I wasting my time doing this for someone who doesn’t care about me anymore?<\/em><\/p>\n Nada de lo que hagas va a cambiar nada. Estos l\u00edmites insalubres con ex esposa s\u00f3lo puede hacer que usted m\u00e1s miserable.<\/p>\n Si quieres arreglar los l\u00edmites poco saludables con tu ex mujer, echa un vistazo a los siguientes consejos:<\/p>\n This is the most important step. You need to sit down and feel your emotions. Cry your heart out if you must because keeping it inside won’t help you.<\/p>\n Pero, si te dejas emocionalmente vulnerable<\/a>, you’ll be able to see things more clearly.<\/p>\n You’ll be able to admit that your marriage is history now. You are only an EX-HUSBAND to her, and there’s no point in going back to your old life.<\/p>\n You aren’t together anymore, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Obsessing over the old times can only bring you pain. It’s time to stop reopening the same vieja herida<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n You can’t just make up boundaries in your head. Since they concern your ex-wife, you have to actually let her know what you want and need.<\/p>\n She’s not a mind reader. She can’t respect your boundaries unless you clearly state them.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que aceptas con respecto a ella? \u00bfQu\u00e9 no podr\u00edas aceptar nunca?<\/em><\/p>\n Pi\u00e9nsalo un poco y ll\u00e1mala. Pero ten en cuenta tambi\u00e9n que en este juego deben participar dos. Preg\u00fantale por sus propios l\u00edmites.<\/p>\n Maybe your new girlfriend is a bad stepmom to her children. When a stepparent is a negative influence, you can’t blame your ex-spouse for interfering.<\/p>\n If you happen to have a blended family, make sure to remember that the children aren’t only yours. Your ex, too, has the right to make the decisions.<\/p>\n La comunicaci\u00f3n es la clave. Nunca sale nada bueno de la ira o la comportamiento pasivo-agresivo<\/a>.<\/p>\n13 tipos de l\u00edmites poco saludables con la ex mujer<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. La ira es in\u00fatil.<\/h3>\n
\nThat’s an obvious example of unhealthy boundaries with ex-wife. If your angry outbursts happen too often, that’s even outright emotional abuse.<\/p>\n2. Jealousy won’t bring her back.<\/h3>\n
3. We weren’t made for only one love story.<\/h3>\n
4. Away from the eyes, away from the heart…<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. If you can’t kill the connection, at least don’t deepen it.<\/h3>\n
6. Deja el pasado en el pasado.<\/h3>\n
7. Sex isn’t always ‘just sex.’<\/h3>\n
8. Abandona tus antiguos roles.<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n9. If someone decides to leave you, let them…<\/h3>\n
10. Your children aren’t toys.<\/h3>\n
11. Be a good parent… for a good reason.<\/h3>\n
12. Eres responsable de tu propia felicidad.<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n13. Todos merecemos nuestra paz.<\/h3>\n
\u00bfC\u00f3mo establecer l\u00edmites con la ex mujer?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Cambia tu mentalidad.<\/h3>\n
2. Say what’s on your mind.<\/h3>\n
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