{"id":144505,"date":"2022-02-14T22:30:40","date_gmt":"2022-02-14T22:30:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144505"},"modified":"2022-02-25T06:51:34","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T06:51:34","slug":"que-escribir-a-tu-ex-despues-de-no-tener-contacto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/que-escribir-a-tu-ex-despues-de-no-tener-contacto\/","title":{"rendered":"Qu\u00e9 escribir a tu ex despu\u00e9s de no tener contacto: 9 consejos profesionales"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ah, la eterna pregunta: \u00bfQu\u00e9 mensaje de texto a su ex despu\u00e9s de ning\u00fan contacto<\/a>? \u00bfC\u00f3mo hacerles saber que a\u00fan te importan sin hac\u00e9rselo saber realmente?<\/p>\n

Or…wait… \u00bfes mejor hac\u00e9rselo saber?<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s all very confusing, especially when it’s happening to you. I get that. And that’s why I’m here to help you.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve realized that you can’t let your ex go, then we’ll make them yours again! All you need to do is follow the tips below<\/i>.<\/p>\n

I swear it’s not clickbait \u2013 I have so much wisdom to share with you!<\/p>\n

Qu\u00e9 escribir a tu ex despu\u00e9s de la ausencia de contacto<\/h2>\n

If you’ve been wondering what to text your ex after no contact, here are 9 pro tips to help you out:<\/p>\n

1. A todo el mundo le gusta re\u00edr<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/h3>\n

What’s better than reminding your <\/i>ex-novio<\/i>\/<\/i>ex-novia<\/i> de lo gracioso que eres?<\/i><\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de guardar los mejores memes, sobre todo los que tengan que ver con tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Si desea <\/b>recuperarlos<\/b><\/a>, it’s always best to strike a chord with a personal joke rather than a random funny <\/b>pic<\/b> que encontraste en <\/b>redes sociales<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why I won’t give you any examples. That would be your task. Use that good memory of yours to your advantage!<\/p>\n

Piensa en las veces que os hab\u00e9is re\u00eddo hasta llorar. \u00bfDe qu\u00e9 se trataba? Conecta el mensaje con eso de alguna manera.<\/i><\/p>\n

Having fun with someone brings us closer together because we all want to enjoy life the best we can. Besides, there’s nothing more attractive than someone with a sense of humor.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, antes que nada, hacerles re\u00edr<\/a>. Recu\u00e9rdales una vez m\u00e1s lo buena que era la vida contigo y c\u00f3mo puede seguir si\u00e9ndolo.<\/b><\/p>\n

2. Las similitudes son cruciales<\/h3>\n

Who doesn’t adore people with the same interests as us?<\/i><\/p>\n

The conversations can never be too long because we’re both obsessing over the same things with no shame whatsoever.<\/p>\n

If you’re wondering what to text your ex after no contact, this is definitely the way to go. Tienes que recordarles lo parecidos que sois. Definitivamente <\/b>haz tu <\/b>ex se\u00f1orita<\/b> usted<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let’s say you both enjoy the same TV shows. Then the first text can be an in-depth analysis of your favorite characters. Or find a meme related to it.<\/p>\n

And… the secret ingredient that I always like to add: ENTHUSIASM.<\/b><\/p>\n

Yes. It’s not enough to just talk about it. You have to genuinely enjoy the conversation because people who get excited over small things are just irresistible (especially when todav\u00eda sientes algo por ellos<\/a>).<\/p>\n

3. There’s a question for every answer<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

I know this one sounds generic and boring, but it doesn’t have to be so.<\/p>\n

Ask your ex about their life. Check in to see what they’ve been doing and how they’ve been. Or wish them a happy birthday if you’re lucky enough with the timing!<\/p>\n

Pero la clave est\u00e1 en ser realmente curioso.<\/p>\n

Don’t ask just for the sake of saying something. This can turn into the most interesting conversation ever if you only lead it in the right direction.<\/b><\/p>\n

Cada vez que respondan a tu pregunta, indaga m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

For instance, if they say that they’re stressed because it’s exam period, don’t be like, “Oh, that sucks.”<\/p>\n

Averigua qu\u00e9 les estresa tanto. \u00bfEst\u00e1n pasando por un mal momento en general? \u00bfO es que los ex\u00e1menes son demasiado dif\u00edciles? \u00bfC\u00f3mo manejan el estr\u00e9s? Tambi\u00e9n puedes darles algunos consejos.<\/p>\n

The point here is to show an interest in your ex’s life. If they see how much you care, they will be more drawn to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, of course, also make sure that you share your own stories. There’s probably a lot that has happened since the last time you talked.<\/p>\n

So, if you’re not sure what to text your ex after no contact, you could try mentioning your new job and the new friends you’ve made. It should never only be a one-way street.<\/p>\n

I’m always thankful when someone considers me important enough to share random details about their day. Trust me, your ex will, too.<\/i><\/p>\n

4. Todos queremos ser superh\u00e9roes<\/h3>\n

Asking for help is also brilliant if you’re wondering what to text your ex after no contact.<\/p>\n

Everybody likes being useful, especially if they’re in love with you. So, think about what they’re good at and find the proper time to ask them for a favor.<\/b><\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, si tu ex es muy aficionado a la tecnolog\u00eda y t\u00fa tienes los conocimientos de una persona de 90 a\u00f1os en esas materias, crea un problema para que lo resuelva.<\/p>\n

This will make them very happy, even more so if it’s a man. You will desencadenar su instinto de h\u00e9roe<\/a>y har\u00e1 todo lo que est\u00e9 en su mano para que te sientas feliz y protegida.<\/p>\n

Aunque lo mismo vale tambi\u00e9n para las mujeres. Todos queremos estar ah\u00ed para nuestros seres queridos, as\u00ed que seguir este consejo nunca est\u00e1 de m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

5. It’s time for new beginnings<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

This one’s more about how NOT to initiate contact with your ex. You don’t want to involve them in your own drama as soon as you reach out.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, compartir es bonito y necesario, pero d\u00e9jalo para m\u00e1s adelante. Lim\u00edtate a temas m\u00e1s ligeros al principio, temas que os hagan felices a los dos.<\/i><\/p>\n

More importantly, don’t mention the issues that made you break up. It may be important to address them, but you have plenty of time for that. Let’s volver a conectar con ellos<\/a> primero.<\/p>\n

It’s much better to show them what a different person you are after so many <\/b>meses sin contacto<\/b> que hablar de ello. La comunicaci\u00f3n es saludable, pero no significa nada sin esfuerzo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Show them that you’re ready for new beginnings, both in your personal life and in the life you plan to have with them.<\/p>\n

Cuando tu ex note tu transformaci\u00f3n, te garantizo que te querr\u00e1n de vuelta<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. Todo empieza con la superaci\u00f3n personal<\/h3>\n

What made you break up? Was it a lack of maturity? Jealousy? Personal issues? Whatever it was, it’s important that you show your ex how much you’ve changed.<\/p>\n

Palabra clave: MOSTRAR, no DECIR.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if you were jealous, it’s not enough to say, “I don’t struggle with jealousy anymore. I’m past that.”<\/p>\n

No.<\/p>\n

Tienes que demostrarlo con tus ACCIONES.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t be in a hurry either. Wait for the right moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get mad, if your ex mentions that they were having coffee with a (fe)male friend. Ask them how it was and take the conversation in a whole new direction. Yes, you read that right.<\/p>\n

If your goal is to show that you don’t mind them going out with (fe)male friends, the point is not to focus on it too much. Ask a few questions, and then move on to the next topic.<\/p>\n

HOWEVER, don’t pretend that you’re unbothered when you clearly are.<\/b><\/p>\n

Por eso te recomiendo que te ocupes de tus propios problemas antes de ponerte en contacto con tu ex.<\/p>\n

Only when you TRULY remove the issue that made you break up can you get back together; otherwise, history will only repeat itself, and we wouldn’t want that, would we?<\/i><\/p>\n

7. Deja que el pasado haga su magia<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/h3>\n

If you’re stuck wondering, ”What do I text my ex?” try asking yourself these questions:<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que m\u00e1s les ha gustado de ti? \u00bfSu empat\u00eda? \u00bfTu curiosidad? \u00bfTu amor por los debates intelectuales?<\/i><\/p>\n

Sea lo que sea, aseg\u00farate de ser ESA persona. Si disfrutan de tu inteligencia, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 no acercarte con un pensamiento intrigante que Entablar una conversaci\u00f3n interesante<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Or, if they like how affected you get by other people’s troubles, open up to them about a recent tragedy.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que dije que nada de dramas, pero no todo es blanco o negro.<\/i><\/p>\n

You know your ex-partner the best. If they’re the type of person who will be interested even if the conversation is a bit sad, then why not do it?<\/p>\n

La clave est\u00e1 en demostrarles que sigues siendo la persona a la que quer\u00edan.<\/b><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que acent\u00faa todos los rasgos que hicieron que se enamoraran de ti y demuestra al mismo tiempo que tus defectos son cosa del pasado.<\/b><\/p>\n

Conf\u00eda en m\u00ed, esto haz que piensen en ti<\/a> todo el tiempo.<\/p>\n

8. Llevar el coraz\u00f3n en la manga<\/h3>\n

Tal vez <\/i>your ex hasn\u2019t tried to contact you<\/i><\/a>pero, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 no dar el primer paso?<\/i><\/p>\n

Honesty is the best policy because life is too short for games. If you want your ex back, that’s exactly what you should say.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, probablemente os conozc\u00e1is demasiado bien. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 ocultar lo que quer\u00e9is?<\/p>\n

D\u00e9jame que te cuente algunas ventajas de seguir este consejo:<\/p>\n

1. Si les dices que a\u00fan les quieres, apareces como una persona segura de s\u00ed misma que lucha por lo que quiere.<\/b><\/p>\n

Both of you probably find it awkward as hell to initiate conversation after the no contact rule, yet you so bravely went straight to the point. Who wouldn’t want a partner who doesn’t give up on us so easily?<\/p>\n

2. When you’re honest, you encourage honesty in the other person.<\/b><\/p>\n

El resultado son dos socios emocionalmente vulnerable<\/a> unos con otros. \u00bfY qu\u00e9 te da la vulnerabilidad emocional?<\/p>\n

CONEXI\u00d3N.<\/i><\/p>\n

Cuanto m\u00e1s sincero seas, m\u00e1s profunda ser\u00e1 la conexi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

3. Les har\u00e1s sentirse queridos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quiero decir, imagina que alguien vuelve contigo meses despu\u00e9s de la ruptura. \u00bfC\u00f3mo de halagador es eso?<\/p>\n

Show them how unforgettable they are and how you wouldn’t replace them for the world.<\/p>\n

4. 4. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no?<\/b><\/p>\n

You only have one life, and it’s best to make it easier for both parties to cut right to the chase.<\/p>\n

That’s what I do. I always remind myself that I’m a mere mortal who won’t roam the earth forever. I know it sounds depressing, but it’s all about perception.<\/p>\n

Death can be inspiring because it can make us do things. Let’s use our time here wisely. Let’s go after the thing we want.<\/b><\/p>\n

P.S. First, make sure to mark step 6 as done. If you haven’t solved the core issues, loving them won’t be enough (sadly).<\/i><\/p>\n

9. Una cita<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Now that you’ve told them you miss them, it’s time to take some action. <\/i>Haga que el <\/i>primer paso<\/i><\/a> y pedirles que <\/i>reunirse<\/i> para el caf\u00e9.<\/i><\/p>\n

Mejor a\u00fan, ll\u00e9vales a tomar ese postre que tanto les gusta o ve a esa pizzer\u00eda a la que ibas casi todos los d\u00edas.<\/p>\n

Cuanto m\u00e1s personal sea, mejor. Pero, el objetivo principal es demostrarles que quieres pasar tiempo con ellos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Texting is nice, and you CAN connect with someone over a text message, but it doesn’t come close to face-to-face conversation, hearing the sound of their voice, or hugging them.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que intenta reconectar con ellos en la vida real. As\u00ed ser\u00e1 a\u00fan m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil reconquistar su coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Si el periodo de ausencia de contacto te ha resultado demasiado inc\u00f3modo, puedes ir avanzando poco a poco. \u00bfQu\u00e9 tal si llamas por tel\u00e9fono o al menos grabas un mensaje de voz?<\/p>\n

Take baby steps if it’s easier for you until you finally muster the courage to <\/i>invitarles a salir<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme, si <\/i>te echaron de menos durante el no contacto<\/i><\/a>dir\u00e1n que s\u00ed.<\/i><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo actuar tras el periodo de no contacto<\/h2>\n

But how do you actually behave when you text your ex in the first place? Here’s how:<\/p>\n

1. T\u00f3matelo con calma<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

You’ve broken up for a reason, and you can’t expect things to go back to how they used to be as soon as you first contact your ex.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir la confianza<\/b><\/a>especialmente despu\u00e9s de tantos <\/b>d\u00edas sin contacto<\/b>es <\/b>trabajo duro<\/b> that takes time. You can’t <\/b>curar <\/b>desamor<\/b><\/a> durante la noche.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, don’t text them too much or, if you do, don’t get mad when they don’t text back immediately or even the next day.<\/p>\n

Even if you sent the text last week, that doesn’t mean that all hell broke loose. Just be a bit more patient.<\/p>\n

Puede que tu ex necesite un poco m\u00e1s de tiempo para adaptarse a la idea de que volv\u00e1is a ser compa\u00f1eros, o puede que simplemente est\u00e9n fingiendo haberte superado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Think about it this way. You are no longer partners. You don’t owe each other anything. If you decide to start talking again, that’s just giving each other a <\/b>segunda oportunidad<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, it still doesn’t mean that you have to be there for each other as you once were. It’s healthy to establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> even in a relationship but even more so when you’re not in one.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, intenta ser m\u00e1s comprensivo cuando tu ex te ignora<\/a>y dale a tu relaci\u00f3n pasada tiempo suficiente para recuperarse, de modo que tu nueva relaci\u00f3n pueda evolucionar.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t play games<\/h3>\n

Esto es muy importante. S\u00e9 que crees que los juegos te llevar\u00e1n a alguna parte, pero s\u00f3lo provocan dramas innecesarios y prolongan la obtenci\u00f3n de lo que quieres, es decir, una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

It’s simple. You like someone \u2013 tell them. You have certain boundaries \u2013 let them know.<\/b><\/p>\n

Exprese sus propios deseos y necesidades y respete lo que su <\/b>ex quiere<\/b> y necesidades.<\/b><\/p>\n

Trust me, honesty makes things much easier. I know you’re tempted to lie because people made you believe that’s the best way to achieve your goal, but it’s immature.<\/p>\n

El mundo ser\u00eda mucho mejor si fu\u00e9ramos m\u00e1s sinceros. Empieza a mejorarlo dici\u00e9ndole algo sincero a un ser querido ahora mismo.<\/p>\n

Go on. I’ll wait.<\/p>\n

3. Admita sus errores<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

I don’t just mean your past mistakes. If you notice that you made your ex upset in any way, asuma la responsabilidad de sus actos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don’t play the victim. Don’t make them believe that they’re bothered for no valid reason.<\/b><\/p>\n

Cada vez que me enfado o hago enfadar a alguien, recuerdo las palabras que le\u00ed una vez: ”If you hurt someone, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”<\/i><\/p>\n

Y, sinceramente, ha cambiado mi vida a mejor. Solemos ser demasiado ego\u00edstas y propensos a ponernos a la defensiva.<\/p>\n

While it IS important to stand up for ourselves, it is equally important to admit when we’re wrong.<\/b> So, start practicing that, and you’ll see how much healthier all your relationships will be.<\/p>\n

4. Abordar los problemas directamente<\/h3>\n

If there is any kind of problem, don’t ignore it. Don’t suppress negative feelings hoping they will all go away. Newsflash \u2013 THEY WON’T.<\/p>\n

Los problemas s\u00f3lo desaparecen cuando te ocupas de ellos.<\/b> I know it’s hard sometimes because they never teach us that being direct is the way to go.<\/p>\n

Cambiar tus creencias b\u00e1sicas es extremadamente dif\u00edcil, pero al menos puedes empezar por ser consciente de lo err\u00f3nea que es la supresi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Once you realize that openness improves your relationships, you’ll do it more and more often.<\/b><\/p>\n

To be honest, it’s enough to do it only once. Even after the very first time, you’ll see that it’s not such a big deal at all.<\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

See? I wasn’t tricking you! I am full of helpful advice on what to text your ex after no contact. How wouldn’t I be when I’ve been pining over the same person for years? You could say I’m a relationship coach now.<\/p>\n

Everything I’ve shared with you, I\u2019ve tried myself. It worked for me, and I know it will work for you as well.<\/p>\n

You only need to pay attention to the ‘personal’ aspect of everything that you do. No person is the same, so you use your knowledge to your advantage.<\/b><\/p>\n

Amigo lector, \u00a1buena suerte!<\/p>\n

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