{"id":144582,"date":"2022-02-15T19:12:42","date_gmt":"2022-02-15T19:12:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144582"},"modified":"2022-06-25T09:13:04","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T09:13:04","slug":"viuda-alfa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/viuda-alfa\/","title":{"rendered":"Viuda alfa: 7 se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo con una y c\u00f3mo lidiar con ella"},"content":{"rendered":"

Citas<\/a> is hard. It\u2019s stressful enough that you have to deal and compete with all the potential prospects to win a lady’s heart<\/a> \u2013 you don\u2019t want her ex on your list too.<\/p>\n

La situaci\u00f3n empeora cuando su ex era un gran problema.<\/strong> Ya sabes, el tipo de hombre por el que tambi\u00e9n sientes un enorme respeto. Lo ten\u00eda TODO: aspecto, estatus, poder y puso el list\u00f3n inalcanzablemente alto para cualquier hombre que viniera despu\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

Gentlemen, I have some bad news, you\u2019re dealing with an alpha widow.<\/strong> Then I have some good news: it doesn\u2019t have to be a losing battle.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see how you can recognize an alpha widow and deal with this situation like the true man you are.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es una viuda alfa?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Una viuda alfa es una mujer que mantuvo una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica o sexual con un hombre considerado un macho alfa.<\/a><\/strong> The relationship ended, but her fixation on the alpha man she was dating hasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Such a relationship could last anywhere from a couple of weeks to a couple of years and didn’t even have to be exclusive.<\/p>\n

Incluso podr\u00eda ser s\u00f3lo un rollo de una noche<\/a>. Sin embargo, sigue sintiendo apego por ella, a veces sin ser consciente del impacto que ha tenido en ella.<\/p>\n

En normas<\/a> que ella sostiene se han vuelto imposiblemente irrealizables para un hombre promedio.<\/strong> Cuando sale con otros hombres, los compara con el hombre de alto valor<\/a> de su pasado, haciendo que tanto ella como el chico con el que sale se sientan frustrados.<\/p>\n

La nostalgia por el macho alfa y el duelo por la oportunidad perdida que tuvo con \u00e9l la incapacitan para dejar atr\u00e1s el pasado.<\/p>\n

7 se\u00f1ales de que est\u00e1s saliendo con una viuda alfa<\/h2>\n

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If this is your first time experiencing such a woman, it can be confusing to understand what’s going on.<\/p>\n

Let’s first go through some clear and signos evidentes<\/strong> que la mujer con la que sales sigue muy unida al hombre alfa<\/a> all\u00ed ante ti.<\/p>\n

1. Su ex sigue ah\u00ed<\/h3>\n

No f\u00edsicamente, por supuesto. Pero ella todav\u00eda tiene sus cosas, guarda viejas fotos y recuerdos de \u00e9l, regalos que \u00e9l le dio, tal vez incluso viejos chats y... mensajes.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Este comportamiento nunca es una buena se\u00f1al, independientemente de la explicaci\u00f3n que tenga.<\/p>\n

Ella puede decir que son buenos amigos y que no siente nada por \u00e9l.<\/strong> She may even say that she keeps stuff of her other exes, too (does she know she just made it worse?), so it’s not a big deal. Or she could blame it on your own insecurities.<\/p>\n

A guy once told me he had pictures of his ex on the wall just because he was…wait for it… so indifferent to her that he didn’t even notice her pictures. Pictures on the wall next to his work desk where he spends most of his day!<\/em><\/p>\n

Se vuelven realmente creativos cuando intentan torcer la verdad.<\/em><\/p>\n

Although she may come with all sorts of believable and unbelievable explanations for why she keeps his things, the truth is pretty much obvious: she’s still stuck on him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. She talks about him…<\/h3>\n

Next on the list of “Se\u00f1ales que nunca son buenas en una relaci\u00f3n<\/em><\/a>” is talking about the ex.<\/p>\n

When entering a new romance, it’s perfectly normal that we are very curious about the other person. Therefore, we are curious to know more about their relaciones anteriores<\/a>. Tambi\u00e9n queremos compartir un poco de nuestro pasado, para conocernos mejor.<\/p>\n

Pero cuando mencionar al ex de vez en cuando se convierte en hablar de \u00e9l constantemente, las cosas no van bien.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si ella saca el tema de su ex m\u00e1s a menudo de lo que t\u00fa est\u00e1s dispuesto a discutir, lo m\u00e1s probable es que a\u00fan no lo haya superado o que no haya superado toda la situaci\u00f3n que ambos vivieron.<\/p>\n

(Intentaba ser educado. Ella definitivamente no lo ha superado.)<\/em><\/p>\n

3. …and to him<\/h3>\n

I’ve personally never understood por qu\u00e9 la gente mantiene un estrecho contacto con sus ex<\/a>.<\/strong> It’s not that we should completely cut off people from our pasts, especially if we ended on good terms, but what’s the point of talking to them regularly?<\/p>\n

Dudo que haya explicaciones buenas y razonables de por qu\u00e9 la gente env\u00eda mensajes de texto a sus ex con frecuencia, especialmente si est\u00e1n saliendo con alguien nuevo.<\/p>\n

If she keeps coming up with a variety of excuses for why she’s reaching out to her ex, it shows that she’s unable to cut the cord with him<\/strong>. Ella todav\u00eda necesita su presencia en su vida<\/a>.<\/p>\n

4. Incluso te compara con su ex<\/h3>\n

Todos los podcast que escuches y ese libro que conseguiste en Amazon te dir\u00e1n lo mismo: este es el signo definitivo de la viudez alfa.<\/p>\n

La comparaci\u00f3n siempre mata el \u00e1nimo y hace que la gente se sienta mal consigo misma. But more importantly, it shows the secret desire of the person who is making the comparison \u2013 they crave something they don’t have at the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una viuda alfa es una mujer que todav\u00eda anhela estar con el macho alfa mucho despu\u00e9s de su romper<\/a>. And when she compares you to her alpha ex, she’s basically saying it out loud.<\/p>\n

We get it \u2013 the guy was amazing, pure 11\/10 on an SMV scale. You don’t beat that.<\/em><\/p>\n

You don’t need the red-pill awareness to understand such behavior. She is obviously very much attracted and attached to him and would likely want to go back to him.<\/p>\n

Si s\u00f3lo tuviera la oportunidad.<\/p>\n

5. It’s impossible to please her<\/h3>\n

Tuvo una experiencia de primera con el macho alfa<\/a> estaba saliendo, y ahora se niega a tener otra cosa que no sea eso.<\/p>\n

An alpha widow is very hard to please, and I don’t mean only sexually, but in every other way too.<\/strong> Y ella es muy vocal y abierta acerca de lo insatisfecha que est\u00e1.<\/p>\n

You’ll find yourself trying hard to satisfy her needs and to do what she likes, whereas the whole time, she is thinking in silence: “Conozco a alguien que puede hacerlo mejor.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

Incluso en el relaciones m\u00e1s sanas<\/a>, it’s normal sometimes to be unsatisfied with certain aspects.<\/strong> Nuestras parejas no leen la mente, y si queremos que sepan c\u00f3mo complacernos (de nuevo, no s\u00f3lo er\u00f3ticamente), tenemos que explicarles lo que nos gusta.<\/p>\n

But if your partner constantly shit-tests you while you’re trying your hardest to make them happy, then you should ask yourself what’s going on there.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It almost sounds like she doesn’t want to be with you.<\/p>\n

6. You feel she’s not emotionally engaged<\/h3>\n

It’s hard to tell nowadays if the person we are dating is really into us or not. You may have the same confusion.<\/p>\n

Ella parece emocionalmente distante<\/a>, but aren’t all modern women like that?<\/em><\/p>\n

Claro que no.<\/p>\n

If you feel that she’s not engaging emotionally and your relationship is mostly physical, it’s probably because it is.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Su mente sigue centrada en su ex chico alfa, y todav\u00eda mantiene apego a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

7. Mantiene abiertas sus opciones<\/h3>\n

If the person you are dating is not exactly what you dreamed of, you may not want to leave the situation, but you’ll keep your options open. You are not in love, but you don’t want to be completely alone. As\u00ed que te quedas hasta que aparezca algo mejor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’m saying “you” because I’m sure everyone has been in that situation at least once. It happened to me, and I’m sure it\u2019s happened to you. Sadly, now it’s happening to the girl you are dating.<\/p>\n

Si se mantiene disponible, significa she’s not really into you<\/a><\/strong>. She may not openly flirt with guys and go on dates behind your back, but she’ll appear single. For instance, she will not post about you on social media.<\/p>\n

Si tienes la sensaci\u00f3n de que ella no est\u00e1 completamente segura de vuestra relaci\u00f3n, podr\u00eda significar she’s still thinking about her ex.<\/a><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 5 se\u00f1ales de que un viudo va en serio con tu relaci\u00f3n<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo tratar a una viuda alfa: 4 consejos y trucos<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

The term alpha widow can create some fear in you, I’m sure. This woman is savage, or at least sounds so.<\/p>\n

Let’s break the misconception about her being dangerous. She is not a black widow or anything like that. S\u00f3lo es una mujer incapaz de enfrentarse a su pasado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She most probably is not even aware of how she behaves. Let’s now see what you can do when you find yourself dating such a woman:<\/p>\n

1. Decide qu\u00e9 quieres de ella<\/h3>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1s disfrutando de la parte f\u00edsica de tu relaci\u00f3n sin pensar en el futuro? \u00bfO has captado sentimientos y esperas desarrollar una relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/a>?<\/p>\n

If you want nothing more than a fling, then there\u2019s no need to bother about whether she thinks about someone else or not.<\/strong> Be open with her about what you want, and if it goes both ways, enjoy the pleasure and don’t worry too much.<\/p>\n

But if the situation is more serious, and you\u2019ve grown a genuine desire for her, then proceed to number two.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Don’t take things personally<\/h3>\n

Esto es s\u00faper importante tenerlo siempre presente ya que tu ego se ver\u00e1 herido muchas veces. Si dejas que tu ego herido tome la iniciativa, tu relaci\u00f3n se volver\u00e1 t\u00f3xica<\/a> sin ninguna perspectiva de \u00e9xito.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’m not saying you should tolerate anything unhealthy and abusive and that you don\u2019t feel ok with in general. But if you’ve already decided to give it a try, you should try to understand the situation from the perspective of the rational male.<\/p>\n

Her being unable to get over her ex doesn’t have anything to do with you.<\/strong> Really, it’s not you \u2013 it’s her. It doesn’t mean you are not a high-value man, too, because you probably are.<\/p>\n

3. Estar preparado para crecer<\/h3>\n

Una viuda alfa es una mujer incapaz de superar traumas<\/a> y asuntos no resueltos del pasado que la mantienen atascada en el chico que tuvo el mayor impacto en ella.<\/p>\n

Cuando lo vemos desde esa perspectiva, entonces est\u00e1 claro que esta mujer necesita curaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/strong> Para poder abrirse a un nuevo amor, primero necesita curarse del pasado.<\/p>\n

Si decides estar con una mujer as\u00ed, primero tienes que empezar tu propia proceso de curaci\u00f3n<\/a> y transformaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you get rid of the toxic patterns you have (it’s ok, we all do), old traumas, and pain you have inside you, you’ll also be able to help others heal.<\/p>\n

4. S\u00e9 t\u00fa mismo<\/h3>\n

Don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself with her ex or anybody else.<\/strong> You’ll never manage to be like him, not because you are not a high-value man, but because her standards are not realistic.<\/p>\n

You could also be an alpha man, but if you are constantly trying to be like somebody else, you won\u2019t see all the amazing characteristics you have.<\/p>\n

And she won’t see them either.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que si quieres llamar su atenci\u00f3n y afecto,<\/a> necesitas mostrar m\u00e1s tus cualidades \u00fanicas. En lugar de copiar lo antiguo, dale algo diferente de lo que ten\u00eda (y de lo que no es capaz de curarse). Mu\u00e9strale tu singularidad y toda la riqueza de tu ser.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Some would say women are prone to hypergamous behavior, and they’ll always try to find the best and most successful males on the market. Whether I agree with this is not important, but I’ll tell you this: if you want to be the best, then believe that you are.<\/p>\n

Felices para siempre con una viuda alfa: \u00bfes posible?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Aunque pueda parecer imposible, tener una relaci\u00f3n sana, amorosa y comprometida con una viuda alfa es algo que puedes conseguir con un poco de trabajo (interior y exterior), esfuerzo y mucho amor y paciencia.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, debe estar preparada para crecer y transformarse.<\/strong> Then it\u2019s very crucial that you act from a healed state of mind. If you do that, you’ll be able to overcome all the troubles and achieve a happy and harmonious relationship.<\/p>\n

Pero debes ser consciente de que tratar con alguien que no se ha curado de sus traumas pasados es una experiencia agotadora y que consume mucha energ\u00eda.<\/strong> If you are dealing with your own issues or don’t have enough self-confidence, rethink pursuing the relationship.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Primera relaci\u00f3n tras enviudar: 11 consejos para que funcione<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

The term “alpha widow” shines quite an unflattering light on a woman with a wound from a past relationship.<\/p>\n

Una viuda alfa es como todo el mundo que merece ser amado<\/a> y cuidados.<\/strong> La \u00fanica diferencia es que, debido a sus traumas personales y a los patrones aprendidos, no es capaz de superar situaciones del pasado.<\/p>\n

Doesn’t that make us all an alpha widow in some way? Are we sure we\u2019ve healed our traumas?<\/em><\/p>\n

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