{"id":144836,"date":"2022-02-18T15:48:49","date_gmt":"2022-02-18T15:48:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144836"},"modified":"2022-02-22T00:56:55","modified_gmt":"2022-02-22T00:56:55","slug":"corta-con-el-te-echara-de-menos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/corta-con-el-te-echara-de-menos\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3rtale, te echar\u00e1 de menos: \u00a16 razones por las que realmente funciona!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tras a\u00f1os y m\u00faltiples relaciones fracasadas<\/i><\/a>docenas de nunca explicadas situaciones<\/i><\/a>, un par de realmente malo rompecorazones<\/i><\/a>Con un mill\u00f3n de preguntas y la misma cantidad de noches sin dormir, estoy seguro de una cosa:<\/em><\/p>\n

La gente s\u00f3lo aprecia lo que ya no tiene.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que rompiste con \u00e9l. Quiz\u00e1 fue \u00e9l quien decidi\u00f3 separarse. Tal vez t\u00fa provocaste la ruptura porque \u00e9l te trat\u00f3 mal. Sea cual sea la situaci\u00f3n, lo extra\u00f1as como loco<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Y que Dios me ayude, quieres recuperar a tu ex<\/a> \u00a1Tan mal! Or no, wait…you want him to want you back!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You want him to realize what an extraordinarily amazing woman he had…and lost.<\/p>\n

I’ve been there. And frankly, occasionally still fighting the urge to post that pic and make him suffer!<\/p>\n

Pero cari\u00f1o, demostrar tu val\u00eda a cualquiera s\u00f3lo har\u00e1 que te sientas peor y arruinar\u00e1 tu autoestima a largo plazo. <\/strong>If they didn’t see it before, what’s gonna change now?<\/p>\n

\u00a1C\u00f3rtale, te echar\u00e1 de menos! Lo juro por la regla del no contacto<\/a>, and I’m gonna tell you why you should too.<\/p>\n

Corta con \u00e9l, te echar\u00e1 de menos: 6 razones por las que deber\u00edas hacerlo YA<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Sin contacto<\/a> doesn’t mean you’ll stop yourself from reaching out to him via WhatsApp but keep him on Instagram. No contact means the man is banned on every platform out there.<\/p>\n

Since I have done it many times (more than I’m happy to admit), I’ll tell you the basic rules:<\/strong> you block his number, his Instagram, and, if necessary, his best friend’s Instagram. You don’t spy on your mutual friends hoping to find out something about him.<\/p>\n

This is probably not the first time you’ve promised to cut him off. But this time, you should really do it. I’ll tell you why.<\/p>\n

1. He’s gonna notice your absence<\/h3>\n

Maybe if you post a killer Instagram story, you’re gonna make him regret losing you. Or if you send him a text message to wish him a merry Xmas, he’s gonna realize that you were so good to him…<\/p>\n

Then you post a bomb selfie, and everybody’s going crazy over how hot you are.<\/strong> Everybody except him. He’s doing it on purpose, right? He’s ignoring you, but deep inside, he’s dying?<\/p>\n

The answer is no. No matter what you do, he’s not gonna notice. You were as beautiful and amazing then as you are now. If he didn’t appreciate it back then, he’s not gonna now.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay algo que no pasar\u00e1 desapercibido: tu ausencia<\/b><\/a>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

I’m not saying you should obsess over how he feels and what he thinks, but if you are eager to make your ex miss you, cut him off.<\/p>\n

2. He will wonder what’s happening<\/h3>\n

While you two were official, a lot of the time you felt like he didn’t appreciate you enough. Te dio por sentado<\/a> asumiendo que ibas a estar all\u00ed para siempre.<\/p>\n

Now that you’re not part of his life anymore and he has no access to you, he will be dying to know what’s going on in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you dating someone new? Are you happy? How come you don’t want to see what’s happening in his life? Wait, you’re not even jealous that he’s dating someone new?<\/p>\n

Nothing will hurt his ego more than knowing that you don’t care. Indifference hurts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Te echar\u00e1 de menos<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

That’s what my experience has taught me: if you want to haz que un hombre te eche de menos<\/a>, you have to show him that you don’t le echo de menos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

La gente, en general, da por sentadas las cosas (y las personas). Una vez que nos acostumbramos a algo, empezamos a percibirlo como algo permanentemente nuestro. Comprendemos el valor real de las cosas s\u00f3lo cuando las perdemos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ocurre todo el tiempo, especialmente en relaciones duraderas<\/a>. Los socios dejan de darse cuenta peque\u00f1as cosas<\/a> sobre los dem\u00e1s y a menudo se centran en las cosas que no tienen. La hierba siempre es m\u00e1s verde<\/a> on the other side…<\/p>\n

Al cortar con \u00e9l, le quitar\u00e1s algo a lo que se hab\u00eda acostumbrado: tu presencia, tus mensajes, tus llamadas, tu amor por \u00e9l. And when he doesn’t have those things anymore, that’s when he will start missing them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Te ahorrar\u00e1s la agon\u00eda<\/h3>\n

Esta es una de las razones m\u00e1s importantes para cortar con \u00e9l por completo. Hazlo por el bien de tu paz.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 ibas a mirar sus redes sociales? Cada vez que lo veas feliz, divirti\u00e9ndose y viviendo su mejor vida, te sentir\u00e1s triste y desesperada.
\nSignificas tan poco para \u00e9l, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

En lugar de malgastar tu energ\u00eda en acosar a tu ex novio, deber\u00edas centrarse en su <\/b>propia vida<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> You know that I shouldn’t have to be telling you this.<\/p>\n

Ahora haz clic en el bot\u00f3n \"unfollow\/unfriend\/block\" y empieza a disfrutar del d\u00eda. O al menos finge. Finge hasta que lo consigas, dicen.<\/p>\n

5. Te sentir\u00e1s poderoso<\/h3>\n

Every time you chase people who don’t want you or beg for love and attention, you’re taking away your own power. Every time you put somebody on a pedestal and let their actions define how you feel about yourself, you give them complete power over you.<\/p>\n

Cortarle el rollo<\/a> is not only about making him miss you. It’s more about protecting yourself now when you are the most vulnerable and bringing back your power. It’s about putting yourself first and dej\u00e1ndole ver lo que perdi\u00f3<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ser capaz de cortar el cord\u00f3n te dar\u00e1 una sensaci\u00f3n de inmenso poder y fuerza.<\/p>\n

6. Parecer\u00e1s poderoso<\/h3>\n

Cuando te sientes fuerte y segura de ti misma, te ves incre\u00edble.<\/p>\n

A sus ojos, parecer\u00e1s el m\u00e1s conf\u00eda en<\/b><\/a> y m\u00e1s fuerte del mundo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esperaba que lloraras y estuvieras en tu punto m\u00e1s bajo. Esperaba que estuvieras en todas sus redes sociales, incluso que le llamaras y le enviaras mensajes de texto.<\/p>\n

But look at you, living your best life, minding your business, and thriving. He’s gonna want a segunda oportunidad<\/a> contigo en poco tiempo.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo debo cortar por completo con \u00e9l?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Hay casos en los que un corte es, yo dir\u00eda, obligatorio: if a guy has cheated on you, if he abused you in any way, or if he treated you with disrespect. We’ll discuss each case.<\/strong><\/p>\n

First, let’s make it clear, you don’t need to go radio silence on every guy you broke up with. That’s not the level of badassery we want to attain.<\/p>\n

Personalmente creo que reducir el nivel de comunicaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> con tu ex, especialmente justo despu\u00e9s de una ruptura, es definitivamente una necesidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But if you ended on good terms and the breakup didn’t make you hurt (more than a normal amount) or resentful, you don’t have to delete them from the face of the earth.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, el abuso, trampas<\/a>, or partners who treat you poorly don’t deserve a chance to even get a glimpse of your life.<\/p>\n

1. Abus\u00f3 de ti<\/h3>\n

There’s no reason, under any circumstances, to stay in contact with someone who hurt and abused you. Ya fuera f\u00edsica o abuso emocional<\/b><\/a>deber\u00edas cortar con esa persona por completo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, y lo m\u00e1s importante, debe hacerlo por su propia seguridad.<\/p>\n

The second thing is that you don’t want him to think that you are broken and devastated. Show him that you don’t need him<\/b><\/a> y que no tiene poder sobre ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I wouldn’t ever recommend giving an abuser a second chance. Whatever he has done in the past, he can do it again. And most probably will if given the opportunity.<\/p>\n

2. Te enga\u00f1\u00f3<\/h3>\n

Los infieles no merecen estar cerca de ti ni siquiera echar un vistazo a tu vida. A pesar de todas las excusas y explicaciones que te ofrezca (y cr\u00e9eme, se le ocurrir\u00e1n muchas), traici\u00f3n<\/a> no es negociable.<\/p>\n

Cada contacto con un ex que te enga\u00f1\u00f3 ser\u00e1 una se\u00f1al de que quieres que vuelva.<\/strong> Lo utilizar\u00e1 y tratar\u00e1 de manipularte para que le perdones.<\/p>\n

He will send you text messages the next day saying how he’s thinking about you and that he has never loved anyone more than you. The truth is, he doesn’t feel bad that he cheated \u2013 he feels bad that he got caught.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That’s why you need to cut him off immediately. You don’t need explanations because there’s no justification for his actions. He has to lose you to truly understand what he has done.<\/p>\n

3. No mostr\u00f3 respeto<\/h3>\n

You gave him a hundred chances, and you accepted hundreds of excuses. He made tons of promises, and he broke as many. It’s the same story over and over again.<\/p>\n

Dice que te quiere<\/a>, he says he cares, but his actions don’t follow through.<\/p>\n

En este caso, lo \u00fanico que puedes hacer es cortarle el grifo. S\u00f3lo cuando se enfrente a la posibilidad de perderte empezar\u00e1 a pensar en su comportamiento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cut him off, he will miss you. Show him that you don’t tolerate disrespect, and he will beg you to have him back.<\/p>\n

Pero consid\u00e9relo detenidamente antes de tomar una decisi\u00f3n. \u00bfDe verdad va a cambiar?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo se pondr\u00e1 en contacto conmigo?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

We can’t tell for sure. Depende de muchos factores.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto le importas realmente? \u00bfFue una relaci\u00f3n de un a\u00f1o o de un mes? \u00bfQui\u00e9n fue la primera persona que inici\u00f3 la ruptura?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una vez se lo hice a un tipo que estaba en un relaci\u00f3n a distancia<\/a> with. Within the next 48 hours, he was at my door. But the guy was a cheater, so I didn’t take him back.<\/p>\n

I also did the same to a guy who wasn’t really sure about his feelings for me. He was hot one moment and cold the next. The outcome: I cut him off and never heard from him again.<\/p>\n

Como ves, todo es posible. If he didn’t care about you and actually wanted an opportunity to escape the situation, he would not bother reaching out to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pero si siente algo por ti<\/a>, you’ll probably hear from him over the next few days.<\/p>\n

What Should I Do If He Doesn’t Miss Me?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nothing. You should do nothing. Let go and focus on yourself. The rule “cut him off, he will miss you” only works if a man has feelings for you and is, to some degree, attached to you. That’s something you have no control over.<\/p>\n

El amor es una cuesti\u00f3n de elecci\u00f3n y no se puede imponer a nadie<\/strong>. Si se preocupa por ti<\/a> y tiene verdadero miedo de perderte, cortar con \u00e9l puede aumentar las posibilidades de que acab\u00e9is juntos.<\/p>\n

But it only works if there are feelings and attachment in the first place. If there weren’t…well, you can’t do much about it. You can’t force anyone to love you and care for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What you can do is go on with your life and love yourself enough to know that you deserve better. If they don’t miss you after you are gone, be grateful for the answer and sigue adelante con tu vida<\/a>.<\/p>\n

La persona adecuada sabr\u00e1 lo que vales y luchar\u00e1 por ti.<\/p>\n

Conclusi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

C\u00f3rtale, te echar\u00e1 de menos<\/strong> because people don’t value what they have until it\u2019s gone.<\/p>\n

Hard times require hard decisions. If you have made the decision to cut someone off completely, it means you’ve been through a lot with that person. If there’s any other way to fix the situation, you would have done it already.<\/p>\n

El caso es que cuando cortarle el paso<\/a>, it doesn’t mean you necessarily want him back. Lo que quieres recuperar es tu poder y tu control<\/strong>. You don’t want to look desperate and miserable.<\/p>\n

Sin contacto<\/a> te dar\u00e1 espacio y tiempo para recuperar tu fuerza y claridad.<\/p>\n

Cuando le demuestres que eres perfectamente capaz de seguir adelante sin \u00e9l, volver\u00e1 a volverse loco por ti.<\/p>\n

Si no, significa que nunca hubo potencial para crecer. Usted gana de cualquier manera. \u00a1Buena suerte!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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