{"id":146773,"date":"2022-03-08T12:41:09","date_gmt":"2022-03-08T12:41:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=146773"},"modified":"2022-06-20T23:57:33","modified_gmt":"2022-06-20T23:57:33","slug":"la-gente-te-utiliza","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/la-gente-te-utiliza\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfTe utilizan? 10 maneras de saberlo y 5 de impedirlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s not only romantic relationships that can bring you to the point where you’ve had enough. Relaciones t\u00f3xicas<\/a> puede existir entre amigos, compa\u00f1eros de trabajo o familiares.<\/p>\n

If they act like it goes without saying that you’ll do whatever they want, there’s a great chance that they might be using you.<\/p>\n

When people use you, it can lead to you feeling like you’re trapped in a relationship that’s making you unhappy, but you continue it for one reason or another.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We’ll see how to tell if someone is using you, why people use you, and what to do if it happens to you.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 la gente recurre a ti?<\/h2>\n

Las personas ego\u00edstas te utilizan para satisfacer sus propias necesidades.<\/p>\n

En un relaci\u00f3n sana<\/b><\/a> \u2013 built on a foundation of respect, empathy, and communication \u2013 both people conozca<\/em> each other’s needs.<\/strong> La igualdad y la amabilidad est\u00e1n presentes en todos los aspectos de esta relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

People who use others for their own gain while disregarding your feelings think they’re entitled to everything they take from you without giving anything back.<\/p>\n

Some of them do it on purpose, and some don’t even realize that how they use people is wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, hay ciertos rasgos y comportamientos que suelen observarse en las personas que se aprovechan de los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

\u2022 SELFISHNESS<\/h3>\n

Algunas personas son simplemente ego\u00edstas y desagradecidas. Buscan cualquier oportunidad de conseguir algo a cambio de nada.<\/strong><\/p>\n

La primera vez que ofrezca un persona ego\u00edsta<\/a> anything, they immediately decide it’s their right from then on. They start to demand it and take for granted that you will provide it.<\/p>\n

Para ellos, la amabilidad es siempre una invitaci\u00f3n a utilizar a la persona que la ofrece.<\/strong> They never stop to think about what it’s like for the other person.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, un familiar que da por supuesto que se quedar\u00e1 contigo cada vez que tenga negocios en la ciudad.<\/p>\n

Nunca se paran a preguntar ni siquiera se plantean que pueden estar caus\u00e1ndote molestias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No matter whether you really can’t do them a favor or are just trying to al\u00e9jate de los ego\u00edstas<\/a>si les dices que no una vez, se enfadan contigo por arruinar sus planes.<\/p>\n

\"Cuidado<\/p>\n

\u2022 INSECURITY<\/h3>\n

La inseguridad es un sentimiento de inferioridad o inadecuaci\u00f3n, falta de confianza en uno mismo y sensaci\u00f3n de aislamiento. La mayor\u00eda de la gente se siente as\u00ed hasta cierto punto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Las personas extremadamente inseguras se sienten hostiles, pesimistas y necesitadas.<\/p>\n

Pueden acabar dirigiendo sus sentimientos hacia sus relaciones y convertirse en personas manipuladoras<\/b><\/a> que utilizan su inseguridad como excusa para arremeter contra los dem\u00e1s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, un amigo que te hace sentir mal contigo mismo cada vez que lo ves. Tu d\u00eda iba bien y, de repente, sientes ansiedad y dudas sobre ti mismo.<\/p>\n

If you’re usually not insecure but only around this person, they might be projecting their insecurities onto you to make themselves feel better.<\/p>\n

Se trata de falsos amigos<\/b><\/a> que s\u00f3lo se juntan contigo para hacerte desgraciado como sus propias vidas les hacen a ellos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 POWERLESSNESS<\/h3>\n

Cuando algunas personas carecen de control en ciertas \u00e1reas de su vida, se convierten en matones en otras.<\/p>\n

Infuriated by their powerlessness, such people look for an outlet where they can get it, and it’s usually on someone who shows them kindness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Un ejemplo es marido ego\u00edsta<\/a> who has problems at work and can’t do anything about it. This frustrates him, and he takes it out on his family.<\/p>\n

Cuando vuelve a casa, se muestra exigente, descuidado y manipulador con su mujer. Su insatisfacci\u00f3n con sus circunstancias y su incapacidad para hacer algo al respecto lo convierten en un abusador emocional<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u2022 NARCISSISM<\/h3>\n

En la ra\u00edz del narcisismo est\u00e1 la baja autoestima. Los narcisistas encubren estos sentimientos con un sentido extremo de derecho y superioridad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They believe they deserve certain things and that it’s other people’s obligation to obey them. Para suscitar admiraci\u00f3n, alardean de sus logros y los exageran.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, un compa\u00f1ero de trabajo que se atribuye el m\u00e9rito de un proyecto en el que s\u00f3lo particip\u00f3 marginalmente mientras est\u00e1 absolutamente convencido de su propia historia.<\/p>\n

Narcissists have no friends. They live in a fantasy world where they\u2019re the best at everything, and others don\u2019t matter.<\/strong><\/p>\n

El compa\u00f1ero en cuesti\u00f3n puede estar convencido de que su contribuci\u00f3n fue crucial y enfurecerse si alguien sugiere lo contrario.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si alguien te est\u00e1 utilizando? 10 se\u00f1ales<\/h2>\n

If someone is using you, there’s a high probability that you’re already aware of it. Gente t\u00f3xica<\/b><\/a> aren’t your true friends, and eventually, this comes to light.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Alguien as\u00ed puede parecer una buena persona al principio, pero con el tiempo te das cuenta de que algo va mal.<\/p>\n

Pueden actuar como tu mejor amigo en un momento y mostrar comportamiento pasivo-agresivo<\/b><\/a> el siguiente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Salir con esta persona se convierte en una tarea y te produce ansiedad.<\/p>\n

Is this person using you? Here’s how to tell when people use you.<\/p>\n

\"Saber<\/p>\n

1. It’s all about them<\/h3>\n

When you begin to notice that your relationship is focused only on them, you’ll know for sure that someone is using you.<\/p>\n

Todo gira en torno a sus deseos, intereses y estados de \u00e1nimo.<\/strong> You’re always accommodating only one person, and they’re never around when you need them.<\/p>\n

En un momento dado, te das cuenta de que se ven a s\u00ed mismos como el personaje principal y a ti como su compinche<\/strong>. You’re always doing what they want to do and going where they want to go.<\/p>\n

Estas personas consideran que los dem\u00e1s carecen por completo de importancia y, b\u00e1sicamente, cualquiera les vale con tal de que les sirvan.<\/p>\n

2. They don’t listen<\/h3>\n

Your role in the relationship is to listen to their tales of their own brilliance and rants about anyone who doesn’t act in accordance with their expectations.<\/p>\n

You’re there as an audience. Such a person won’t listen to you but expect you to listen to them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They don’t really know anything about you because on the rare chance you get the opportunity to talk about yourself, they don’t pay attention.<\/p>\n

The only interest in your life they ever show is feigned when they’re trying to placate you if they imagine you might start to rebel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. They’re in charge of the relationship<\/h3>\n

You’ll know you’re dealing with a persona t\u00f3xica<\/a> si nunca puedes hacer nada en tus t\u00e9rminos.<\/p>\n

You only hang out when it’s convenient for them.<\/strong> They don’t have the time, or they’re doing something more important.<\/p>\n

Usually, they only contact you when their other friends are busy, or if it’s a romantic partner, they only call when they want to hook up.<\/p>\n

You find out that they exclude you from things, and they feel entitled to join in whatever you’re doing.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de comportamiento controlador no tiene cabida en una buena relaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Siempre quieren algo<\/h3>\n

A friend of yours disappears during a hard time when you need them most. No texts, no phone calls. When you run into each other, not even a “How are you?” as a matter of courtesy.<\/p>\n

Puede que te duela hasta que la distancia te haga mirar atr\u00e1s y darte cuenta de que a lo largo de tu aparente amistad<\/b><\/a>...esta persona te estaba usando.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo tienden la mano cuando necesitan algo, ya sea dinero, compa\u00f1\u00eda o atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

They never spend time with you without expecting something, so when you can\u2019t do anything for them, they\u2019re gone.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y si te atreves a negarles lo que quieren o a pedirles algo a cambio, reaccionan con ira e indignaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\"<\/p>\n

5. Siempre paga<\/h3>\n

Esta es una obviedad. A person who’s using you probably never reaches for their wallet when it’s time to pay.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It might happen little by little. At first, they only pay their own share, and then they forget their wallet a lot, then it becomes expected that it’s on you.<\/p>\n

Te piden dinero prestado y, para demostrar lo buenos amigos que son, prometen devolv\u00e9rtelo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nunca lo hacen, por supuesto.<\/p>\n

6. They don’t appreciate you<\/h3>\n

En las relaciones igualitarias, ambas personas consideran valiosa a la otra, not because of things they can get out of each other, but because they’re both people and deserve respect.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si les ayudas o les haces un favor, la otra persona va a mostrar gratitud y buscar\u00e1 formas de hacerte feliz a ti tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

La gente que te utiliza nunca muestra aprecio.<\/strong> They don\u2019t do anything thoughtful, don\u2019t offer any support when you need it, and don’t make any effort when it comes to you.<\/p>\n

Act\u00faan como si todo lo que haces por ellos se lo debieras y s\u00f3lo exigen m\u00e1s sin ning\u00fan pudor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. They’re manipulative<\/h3>\n

Alguien que intenta explotarte para sacar provecho de ti est\u00e1 dispuesto a manipularte de muchas maneras.<\/p>\n

For instance, they’ll do something small and then make it seem like they did you a huge favor and make you feel like you’re indebted to them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They’ll act nice when they need something but won’t think twice before betraying your trust if it suits them.<\/p>\n

Una persona manipuladora buscar\u00e1 tus puntos vulnerables intentando socavar su <\/b>autoestima<\/b><\/a> para hacerte m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil de controlar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. They’re all talk<\/h3>\n

Sus sentimientos, comodidad y well-being aren’t important<\/a> a alguien que utiliza a los dem\u00e1s, s\u00f3lo su propio beneficio.<\/p>\n

They lack empathy and don’t think of other people’s needs, so they’ll never actually contribute to your relationship in any way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They’ll make plans with you and forget them instantly or say they’ll do something, but it never happens. If you ask for something, they’ll say ok but ignore your wishes.<\/p>\n

They’re going to do as little as possible for you, only what’s absolutely necessary to get what they want.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At some point, you’ll realize they’re liars and stop taking them seriously. After breaking their promises so many times, it’s obvious that you can’t trust them.<\/p>\n

\"A<\/p>\n

9. They don\u2019t respect your boundaries<\/h3>\n

If someone is using you, you’ll notice that they have no regard for your boundaries. They don’t care about what you want or don’t want, and your self-respect is irrelevant to them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When they want something that you consider unacceptable, they’ll ignore you. They don’t take no for an answer, and they’ll manipulate you so you can\u2019t say no.<\/p>\n

Such people won’t hesitate to viaje de culpabilidad<\/b><\/a> para que hagas lo que ellos quieren.<\/strong> If you show resistance, they’ll gaslight you until you start doubting yourself and wondering if they’re right after all.<\/p>\n

If you say something about their behavior, a toxic person will get defensive and turn it back on you, making you feel like you’re the problem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

10. You feel they’re using you<\/h3>\n

La mayor se\u00f1al de que alguien te est\u00e1 utilizando son tus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

Cuando la gente te utiliza, empiezas a resentirte.<\/strong> Puede que presenten tu relaci\u00f3n como normal, pero conf\u00eda en tu instinto.<\/p>\n

Sentirse inquieto e inc\u00f3modo con alguien suele ocurrir por alguna raz\u00f3n. When our intuition tells us something, it usually means we’ve come to a conclusion without consciously thinking about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si alguien se aprovecha de tu amabilidad, finge que le importa <\/a> for you, and ignores your feelings, eventually, you’ll start to dislike them.<\/p>\n

Llegados a este punto, puede que empieces a preguntarte qu\u00e9 hacer a partir de ahora.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debes hacer si alguien te est\u00e1 utilizando? 5 formas de acabar con ello<\/h2>\n

When you’ve se hart\u00f3 de una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a>, you shouldn’t let the person who used you turn you away from kindness but inspire you to ask for respect.<\/p>\n

Kindness isn’t a flaw. Most people react to it with happiness and spread that kindness to others.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are some people, relationships, and experiences that might make it seem like compassion is for suckers, but don’t let them discourage you from being kind.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo tratar a las personas que te utilizan<\/strong><\/p>\n

The scope of the problem might be different if you’re dealing with a esposa ego\u00edsta<\/a> o una mala persona al azar que te caus\u00f3 pena, pero en general, los pasos son los mismos.<\/p>\n

1. Realize you’re more than what you can do for someone<\/h3>\n

You’re good enough as you are. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean that you have to!<\/p>\n

A person’s worth isn’t measured in what they can do for anyone else.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tu tiempo, tu atenci\u00f3n, tus recursos o tu amor deben darse libremente y no por sentido del deber. It’s your choice what you accept and what you reject.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s incredibly important for your self-worth to realize that you don’t owe anyone anything.<\/p>\n

2. Crear y hacer respetar los l\u00edmites<\/h3>\n

It’s often the kindest people who get taken advantage of, but it doesn’t mean that being kind automatically makes you a pushover or a target.<\/p>\n

Aprende a decir que no.<\/strong><\/p>\n

First of all, you need to know your boundaries: what are the things you need and want, and what won’t you accept?<\/p>\n

Puedes seguir siendo generoso y servicial a la vez que pides a los dem\u00e1s que respeten tus l\u00edmites.<\/strong> S\u00e9 cort\u00e9s, pero mantente firme.<\/p>\n

\"<\/p>\n

3. Esperar relaciones igualitarias<\/h3>\n

Si crees que la persona que te est\u00e1 utilizando podr\u00eda ser un amigo de verdad en alg\u00fan momento, probablemente quieras arreglar y no terminar la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Puedes empezar por abordar tus problemas. Llama a la persona, recu\u00e9rdale que respeto es un <\/b>calle de doble sentido<\/b><\/a> y pedir una disculpa y un cambio de comportamiento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Some people who use others aren’t really malicious about it, and there might be hope for change.<\/p>\n

Aun as\u00ed, centra tu atenci\u00f3n en sus acciones m\u00e1s que en sus palabras.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Pide lo que necesites<\/h3>\n

Pedir lo que se necesita es autocuidado emocional<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Everyone has needs to be met, but until we make them known, other people won’t know what they are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de las veces, las personas en una relaci\u00f3n sana estar\u00e1n encantadas de proporcionar las cosas que la otra persona necesita.<\/p>\n

For instance, your need for personal space, the need to talk to another person when you’re having a hard time, or asking someone to respect your opinion.<\/p>\n

Si quieres conseguir lo que necesitas, habla.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Alejarse<\/h3>\n

There might come a point when you realize that there’s no helping it and that you’ll only be miserable if you continue the relationship.<\/p>\n

You’re done with the other person, and it’s time to cortarlas<\/a> por el bien de tu salud mental.<\/p>\n

It’s never wrong to remove yourself from a situation or a relationship that makes you unhappy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trust your instincts. You can tell if the other person has your best interests at heart or if they’re only there to take advantage.<\/p>\n

If they don’t feel bad using you, you shouldn’t feel bad alejarse<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cuando la gente te utiliza Citas<\/em><\/h2>\n

1. \u201cThe opposite of love is not hate; it is use. Use is the abuse of love; in fact, it betrays love. When we use another person, we place their needs below our own, but worse yet, we place their value and dignity below ours.\u201c<\/em> \u2015 Leah Darrow<\/p>\n

2. \u201cWhat most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things.\u201c<\/em> \u2014 Zelda Fitzgerald<\/p>\n

3. \u201cTrust is built when someone is vulnerable and not taken advantage of.\u201c<\/em> \u2014 Bob Vanourek<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. \u201cSpend your time with those who love you unconditionally, not with those who only love you under certain conditions.\u201c<\/em> \u2015 Suzy Kassem<\/p>\n

5. \u201cPeople know who they can walk over and who they can\u2019t. If someone is walking all over you it\u2019s because they know you\u2019ll put up with it.\u201c<\/em> \u2014 Sonya Parker<\/p>\n

6. \u201cI\u2019ve grown tired of being used; And I\u2019m sick and tired of being accused; Now I\u2019m walking away from you; And I\u2019m not coming back.\u201c<\/em> \u2014 James Morrison<\/strong><\/p>\n

7. \u201cIf you don\u2019t get the better of yourself, someone else will.\u201c \u2014 Evan Esar<\/p>\n

8. \u201cImmature love says: I love you because I need you. Mature love says: I need you because I love you.\u201c<\/em> \u2014 Erich Fromm<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. \u201cThere is no such thing as a people who are all wicked or even all good. Everyone chooses. But even they, even they looked at people and saw only tools. No one is a cup for another to drink from.\u201c<\/em> \u2015 Catherynne M. Valente<\/p>\n

10. \u201cThe more you are at everyone else\u2019s disposal, the more you will feel like garbage.\u201c<\/em> \u2014 Christine E. Szymanski<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 todo el mundo es tan malo conmigo? No eres t\u00fa. (\u00bfO s\u00ed?)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

En pocas palabras<\/h2>\n

Cuando la gente te utiliza, puede ser molesto en el mejor de los casos y permanentemente da\u00f1ino emocionalmente en el peor.<\/p>\n

En las personas que se aprovechan de los dem\u00e1s suele observarse cierto patr\u00f3n de comportamiento: ego\u00edsmo, falta de aprecio y tendencia a manipularte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Para protegerte a ti mismo y seguir siendo capaz de ofrecer amabilidad a otras personas, puedes protegerte siendo firme con tus l\u00edmites personales.<\/p>\n

Cuando pides respeto constantemente, la gente empezar\u00e1 a valorar m\u00e1s lo que les das, y quienes quieran utilizarte lo tendr\u00e1n dif\u00edcil.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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