{"id":147589,"date":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","date_gmt":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=147589"},"modified":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","modified_gmt":"2022-03-17T11:40:13","slug":"guiar-a-alguien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/guiar-a-alguien\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEst\u00e1s enga\u00f1ando a alguien? C\u00f3mo saberlo y c\u00f3mo dejarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

“I feel like I was unintentionally leading him on,” a friend of mine told me after a coworker confessed that he le gustaba de una manera rom\u00e1ntica<\/a>. Lamentaba haber herido sus sentimientos y sent\u00eda que deb\u00eda disculparse. Pero, \u00bfrealmente era ella la culpable?<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you’ve ever been led on, or if you’re wondering if someone is doing it to you right now, puede que te sientas utilizado y herido.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you’ve ever been accused of leading someone on, and you didn’t mean to do it, it\u2019s confusing and can make you feel ashamed and guilty.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You’ve come to the right place to find out why people do it, if you are doing it and how to stop, and how to recognize if it’s happening to you.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1l es la definici\u00f3n de enga\u00f1ar a alguien?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

\u201cGuiar a alguien<\/strong>, phrasal verb. To persuade someone to believe something that is untrue.\u201d \u2013 Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary & Thesaurus<\/em><\/p>\n

Synonyms include \u201cto trick (someone) into believing\u201d and \u201cto mislead by lying.\u201d<\/p>\n

It’s clear from these definitions that this is a deliberate act. This means that there’s no such thing as leading someone on unintentionally.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Being led on means being deceived into expecting something by someone who has no intention of following through with it, and it isn\u2019t limited only to romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, puede que su jefe le insista sugiri\u00e9ndole la posibilidad de un aumento de sueldo o un ascenso, pero no tenga previsto hacerlo realidad.<\/p>\n

En otras palabras, alguien que guiar a alguien<\/a> is aware that they’re doing it and realizes the consequences of their actions. If you’re the one doing it, you already know.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5 razones por las que la gente enga\u00f1a a alguien<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Even though it’s not always done out of a place of cruelty, being led on can feel that way to the person who’s experiencing it. Puede tener un efecto perjudicial en su autoestima y llevarles al desamor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why would someone feign interest in another person and make them believe they will get together? If you don’t want someone, why pretend you do?<\/p>\n

Muchas personas enga\u00f1an a otras para conseguir lo que quieren de la relaci\u00f3n existente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Las personas que provocan conscientemente a alguien suelen hacerlo por una de las siguientes razones, o por una combinaci\u00f3n de ellas:<\/p>\n

1. Disfrutan de la atenci\u00f3n<\/h3>\n

La sensaci\u00f3n de poder que produce caer bien es adictiva para algunas personas. La emoci\u00f3n de ser deseados les hace volver a por m\u00e1s.<\/strong>, even if they don\u2019t want to go any further than bask in the attention they\u2019ve been receiving.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t stop to think about what it\u2019s like for the other person. Recepci\u00f3n saludos<\/a> and feeling attractive gives them a thrill and feeling of excitement that doesn\u2019t take into account the other person\u2019s emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Las personas as\u00ed pueden ir saltando de persona en persona, buscando m\u00e1s y m\u00e1s admiraci\u00f3n y halagos.<\/p>\n

2. They’re insecure<\/h3>\n

Una persona insegura<\/a> puede estar enga\u00f1ando a alguien porque saber que alguien quiere tener una relaci\u00f3n con ellos les da validaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Even if they aren\u2019t actually interested in the person or a relationship with them, they feel accepted, so they keep them around to get as much of it as possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If they\u2019re insecure about their worth or don\u2019t know how else to feel approval, they take any chance to fill an emotional void, even if it means making false promises.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de persona puede seguirte la corriente durante mucho tiempo, manteni\u00e9ndote enganchado hasta que encuentre su siguiente fuente de validaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. They’re uncertain<\/h3>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 tuvisteis una primera cita y se fueron a casa sin saber si les interesabas. Y despu\u00e9s, durante un largo periodo de tiempo, se lo pens\u00f3 mejor para decidir si le gustabas o no.<\/p>\n

All along, you\u2019ve been waiting and hoping because you liked them from the first moment. What is a nuisance to them might be a very emotional experience for the person they\u2019re leading on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They might be confused, afraid of commitment, unsure whether they want a relationship at all, so they\u2019ll keep you on standby or in a situaci\u00f3n.<\/a><\/p>\n

With this person, you can be sure that they\u2019ll never pick you, and their hesitation is just a way to keep you in place until someone else comes along.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. They’re stringing you along<\/h3>\n

They\u2019re doing this to others, or they’re already in a relationship. While you\u2019re thinking about a relationship with them, they\u2019re thinking about the next person in line.<\/p>\n

This person believes they have their pick, so they\u2019re weighing their options and enga\u00f1\u00e1ndote<\/a>.<\/strong> If you want exclusivity, you\u2019ll probably never get it from someone like this.<\/p>\n

Se podr\u00eda decir que la gente as\u00ed son cobardes temerosos de tomar una decisi\u00f3n. You shouldn\u2019t care about someone who makes you a possibility instead of a priority.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. S\u00f3lo quieren sexo<\/h3>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n basada en el sexo debe definirse desde el principio, o es muy probable que alguien salga herido. Puede que para ellos sea algo puramente f\u00edsico y que t\u00fa ya tengas sentimientos.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s not an agreed-upon amigos con derecho a roce<\/a> situaci\u00f3n, puede que esperes que tu relaci\u00f3n avance en una direcci\u00f3n m\u00e1s estable. <\/strong>Someone who is leading you on won\u2019t tell you that they don\u2019t have any intention of doing so.<\/p>\n

Make your self-care a priority and walk away if you think they\u2019re using you.<\/strong> Esperar a que cambien de opini\u00f3n s\u00f3lo te perjudicar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

How Do You Tell If You\u2019re Leading Someone On?<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

El contexto es importante en las relaciones. Algunas cosas pueden tener m\u00e1s de un significado, dependiendo de la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If you believe that someone wants to have a relationship with you, yet you don’t feel the same, giving them even the smallest bit of attention might be considered leading them on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you don’t intend to get into the kind of relationship they want and continue doing things they might construe as interest, you’re leading them on.<\/p>\n

Provided you don’t suspect that someone is interested in you, the following are not signs of leading someone on:<\/p>\n

- Ser amable<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Communicating often<\/p>\n

- Enjoys someone’s company and hanging out<\/strong><\/p>\n

- Apertura<\/a> y compartir detalles sobre ti mismo<\/p>\n

- Mostrar inter\u00e9s por ellos como personas<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Giving them help and support<\/p>\n

Si crees que pueden querer un determinado tipo de relaci\u00f3n, lo primero que debes hacer es hablar con ellos.<\/strong> La forma m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil de saber c\u00f3mo se sienten es preguntarles y hacerles saber cu\u00e1l es su postura.<\/p>\n

If the other person is interested in you the way you aren’t interested in them, everything that could be interpreted as intimate might lead them on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

En caso de duda, preg\u00fantate si lo har\u00edas con tus otros amigos.<\/p>\n

Cosas que pueden ser se\u00f1ales de estar enga\u00f1ando a alguien si le gustas:<\/p>\n

- Ligar<\/a><\/p>\n

- Mimos<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Dates<\/p>\n

- Besos<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Making promises<\/p>\n

Put it this way, if you know they\u2019re into you, and you give them hope when you don\u2019t plan on changing your mind, you\u2019re leading them on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo hacer frente a la instigaci\u00f3n y dejar de hacerlo con los dem\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Now that we\u2019ve learned why people do it and how to know if you\u2019re doing it to someone else, let\u2019s take a look at the ways it can happen.<\/p>\n

As we mentioned, it all depends on the context and intentions \u2013 whether you know if someone is interested in you and if you\u2019re interested in them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

These conditions allow for three possible situations: you intentionally leading someone on, realizing that a friend has developed feelings, and someone you thought of as a friend showing that they\u2019ve wanted something else the whole time.<\/p>\n

1. You’ve been intentionally leading someone on<\/h3>\n

Feelings that aren\u2019t reciprocated can lead to pain, but having false hope feels even worse. Puede hacer que una persona se sienta utilizada y devastada.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enga\u00f1ar a alguien es ego\u00edsta. Knowing you\u2019ll never love them back and keeping them hooked shows a lack of concern for their feelings and well-being.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re probably aware that you\u2019re doing it and want to stop, or you wouldn\u2019t care to look it up. Where do you go from here?<\/p>\n

- Enmendar las cosas.<\/strong> Be honest and kind. Apologize and be genuine. Tell them you\u2019re sorry for your actions and hurting them.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not sure about them, or you\u2019re mantenerlos como opci\u00f3n<\/a>...d\u00e9jalos ir inmediatamente. You are well aware that you\u2019ll never come to love them, so stop wasting their time.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prep\u00e1rate para que te odien. This isn\u2019t about you right now \u2013 it\u2019s about them.<\/strong> Be conscious of the fact that you\u2019ve knowingly caused them pain.<\/p>\n

- Trabaja en ti mismo.<\/strong> Think about why you pretended to care when you know how they felt and that you didn\u2019t feel the same.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re insecure and looking for external validation in the form of love from someone you don\u2019t feel the same for, you might first need to work on yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si usted ansiar atenci\u00f3n<\/a>, focus on self-love until you feel like you\u2019re happy with yourself.<\/p>\n

2. Un amigo se enamor\u00f3<\/h3>\n

Normalmente, cuando una persona siente que su amigo puede que le gusten<\/a> a little more than they like them, they start to wonder if they\u2019ve been leading them on. A lot of times, you don\u2019t want to hurt the other person\u2019s feelings, so you\u2019re not sure how to deal with it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You might be feeling guilty and wondering, \u201cIf they do have feelings for me, do the things I do seem like I\u2019m leading them on?\u201d<\/p>\n

You can’t force yourself to be attracted to someone and vice versa<\/strong>. Un buen amigo que te aprecie lo entender\u00e1.<\/p>\n

- Despeja el aire.<\/strong> Se trata de una situaci\u00f3n delicada, y querr\u00e1s enfocarla as\u00ed. S\u00e9 muy compasivo pero asertivo.<\/strong> Clearly let them know that you don\u2019t see yourself in a romantic relationship with them.
\nD\u00e9jales elegir qu\u00e9 hacer y dales todo el tiempo y el espacio que necesiten.<\/p>\n

- Don\u2019t be hard on yourself.<\/strong> Alguien que est\u00e1 siendo realmente amistoso y no est\u00e1 jugando no tiene nada por lo que disculparse.
\nBeing gentle while letting your friend know you don’t feel the same way is one thing \u2013 taking responsibility for something that isn’t your fault is another.<\/p>\n

You can enjoy someone’s company without being attracted to them.<\/strong> The other person might develop a crush if they feel attracted to you and if you’re friendly.<\/p>\n

3. Fingieron ser amigos<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s normal to like someone without them knowing. There can be a lot of reasons someone won\u2019t come out and make their feelings known.<\/p>\n

However, it becomes suspicious when the only reason for any kindness throughout your relationship is hope that it will butter you up and you\u2019ll get together.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s put it this way: if someone is deliberately giving you the wrong impression that they want to be friends while they’re after something else, it’s you who’s being led on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Incluso podr\u00eda darse el caso de que alguien que se autodenomina buen chico<\/a> pero en realidad s\u00f3lo pretende ser amable para manipularte en una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Some red flags that the person isn’t actually your friend but that they have false pretenses are:<\/p>\n

- “Friendzone.”<\/strong> Using this word to describe your relationship shows that their friendship was fake and that they don\u2019t value your company, only what they think they can get from you.<\/p>\n

- Derecho.<\/strong> If they\u2019re talking about what they have “invested” into you (feelings, time, money), they\u2019re expecting something in exchange. By thinking of your relationship as if it were a transaction, they\u2019re showing their intentions.<\/p>\n

- Negativa a aceptar el rechazo.<\/strong> If they\u2019re not able to accept that you’re not interested and keep trying to get you to change your mind, they\u2019re clearly showing that they don\u2019t care about your feelings.<\/p>\n

Such people feel entitled and put the blame on others when their expectations aren’t met.<\/strong> They expect payback for their politeness, feigned care, and friendliness. You don’t owe anyone your heart and your body.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always best to keep a person like this out of your life. S\u00e9 firme y prot\u00e9gete.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Conclusi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

The term “leading someone on” is often used to explain why someone’s romantic feelings aren’t being reciprocated despite expectations. Depending on what those expectations are based on, they might be right, or they might have the wrong impression.<\/p>\n

Believing that someone who’s continuously flirting with you and hinting at romantic interest is planning to accept your feelings is different from misinterpreting someone’s friendliness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Not leading someone on is all about intention and responsibility. If you think they like you, and your actions might make them like you more, talk to them if you\u2019re not interested.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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