{"id":147821,"date":"2022-03-22T11:30:46","date_gmt":"2022-03-22T11:30:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=147821"},"modified":"2022-06-25T09:30:45","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T09:30:45","slug":"desamor-tras-una-infidelidad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/desamor-tras-una-infidelidad\/","title":{"rendered":"Desenamorarse tras una infidelidad: 12 maneras f\u00e1ciles de hacerlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s the last thing you\u2019d ever admit, but the truth is that todav\u00eda sientes algo por tu <\/b>pareja infiel<\/b><\/a>. You know what they did, and you don\u2019t plan on forgiving them, but you\u2019re having a hard time letting go of your love for them.<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re not alone. Desamor<\/a> despu\u00e9s de una infidelidad es un proceso dif\u00edcil y algo a lo que se enfrentan muchas personas, aunque la mayor\u00eda lo mantenga en secreto.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00eda saberlo porque fui un c\u00f3nyuge traicionado. Y creo que el hecho de que a\u00fan sintiera algo por mi c\u00f3nyuge infiel despu\u00e9s de todo lo que me hizo me caus\u00f3 un desamor a\u00fan mayor que la propia infidelidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo super\u00e9 que mi marido me enga\u00f1ara? \u00bfC\u00f3mo desapegarme emocionalmente<\/a> de mi matrimonio fracasado? Siga leyendo para averiguarlo.<\/p>\n

Gu\u00eda para desenamorarse tras una infidelidad<\/h2>\n

Por lo tanto, todos los se\u00f1ales de que su pareja le es infiel<\/a> est\u00e1n ah\u00ed. Sabes que tienes que alejarte de esta relaci\u00f3n, pero algo parece retenerte.<\/p>\n

La cruda realidad es que a\u00fan sientes algo por tu pareja infiel. Pues bien, as\u00ed es como puedes deshacerte de ellos en un abrir y cerrar de ojos:<\/p>\n

1. La autoculpabilidad es un juego peligroso<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if your partner had a physical or aventura emocional<\/a> \u2013 your first impulse will probably be to blame yourself. This happens every time a un ser querido te traiciona<\/a>: you subconsciously think it\u2019s your fault because it\u2019s easier to blame yourself than see their true colors.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you something: this has to stop right away! You can\u2019t be guilty of being cheated on! Even if you didn\u2019t treat them right, they always had the choice to walk away before fooling around behind your back.<\/p>\n

Remember: they signed up for monogamy \u2013 you didn\u2019t force them into it. Your cheating spouse has to take all the responsibility for this situation.<\/p>\n

2. Cortarlos completamente<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s the hard part: you have to corta con tu tramposo<\/a>. And I really mean it \u2013 you have to stop all communication ASAP.<\/p>\n

Sin llamadas, sin borracheras text messages saying \u201c I love you, \u201d<\/a> no asking if they\u2019re doing okay, and no asking them for favors. I know you\u2019re used to having this person in your life, but if you keep them around, your proceso de curaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> nunca llegar\u00e1 a su sano fin.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s impossible to stay friends with an ex after a break-up. However, you haven\u2019t reached that stage just yet! For now, it\u2019s better to stay away from them.<\/p>\n

Co-parenting<\/h4>\n

But what if you have to co-parent with your ex-wife or husband? You can\u2019t cut them off completely in that case.<\/p>\n

However, you can reduce your communication to the bare minimum. Don\u2019t engage in any conversations that don\u2019t concern your children.<\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t forget social media<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Please keep in mind that falling out of love after infidelity or any break-up whatsoever won\u2019t be possible if you keep track of what your ex is up to on social media.<\/p>\n

If you still follow their accounts (yes, that includes fake profiles as well) or ask your BFF about the things they posted, you haven\u2019t cut them off!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por dif\u00edcil que parezca, hay que bloquearlos<\/a> everywhere! What if they\u2019re still with their affair partner? Do you really want to see how their new relationship is progressing?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQuieres caer en la tentaci\u00f3n de tenderles la mano? \u00bfQuieres dejarles espacio suficiente para que se pongan en contacto contigo cuando les apetezca?<\/p>\n

I think both you and I know the answers to these questions. Please, do what\u2019s right and spare yourself an unnecessary headache.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t suppress your emotions<\/h3>\n

Healing is a process. And at first, it hurts like hell. But that\u2019s perfectly normal. After all, you\u2019ve been through a lot.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve experienced severe trauma \u2013 don\u2019t let anyone tell you any different! Don\u2019t forget that you\u2019re a human being, and it\u2019s natural that you\u2019ll feel different negative emotions regarding everything that happened.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So if you feel like crying, that\u2019s exactly what you should do. If you\u2019re angry (at first), don\u2019t pretend like everything is fine. It\u2019s not, and that\u2019s okay! But whatever you do, don\u2019t reprimir sus emociones<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Just make sure you give yourself a deadline to get it together. It\u2019s okay to grieve for a certain period of time, but allowing this to become your lifestyle might take a serious toll on your mental health and easily turn into depression.<\/p>\n

5. Date tiempo<\/h3>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Esto nos lleva al siguiente punto: falling out of love after infidelity doesn\u2019t happen overnight. Remember: it\u2019s a process.<\/strong> Y todo proceso lleva su tiempo.<\/p>\n

First of all, don\u2019t let others rush you. Don\u2019t be embarrassed that you\u2019re still overwhelmed by everything you\u2019ve experienced.<\/p>\n

Un plazo en el que debe sup\u00e9ralo<\/a> doesn\u2019t exist. We\u2019re all different, and we all heal at a different pace.<\/p>\n

El mejor consejo que me han dado es dar tiempo suficiente<\/a>. Trust me, time will do its magic sooner or later \u2013 you just have to be patient about it.<\/p>\n

Of course, this is not an invitation to keep on grieving your ex for the rest of your life. But don\u2019t expect magic results overnight either.<\/p>\n

6. Olv\u00eddate del odio y la venganza<\/h3>\n

You want to get even \u2013 that\u2019s pretty understandable. Pero buscando venganza<\/b><\/a> is one of the first red flags that you\u2019re not falling out of love after infidelity \u2013 you\u2019re actually still emotionally involved in this relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trust me \u2013 vengarse<\/a> won\u2019t make you feel better. I\u2019m not saying you must perdona a tu c\u00f3nyuge infiel<\/a> right away, but hating them won\u2019t bring you any good either \u2013 it will only turn you into a more negative person.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t even get me started on your ex\u2019s affair partner. This might be a hard pill to swallow, but they\u2019re not to blame either.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t know if they even knew you existed. Even if they did, it was your partner\u2019s responsibility not to break your trust.<\/p>\n

Of course, in that case, the affair partner isn\u2019t the best person in the world either, but that\u2019s not your problem. You won\u2019t become best friends or something like that, but you shouldn\u2019t hate them either.<\/p>\n

7. Pensar demasiado es tu mayor enemigo<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Why do people cheat? Was this my unfaithful spouse\u2019s first time going behind my back? Should we have gone to couples therapy?<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 deber\u00eda haber hecho para que mi relaci\u00f3n funcionara? \u00bfEra posible que los dos recuper\u00e1ramos la confianza? \u00bfMerec\u00edan una segunda oportunidad?<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to put all of these questions aside! I hate to break it to you, but you likely won\u2019t obtener el cierre<\/a> que deseas desesperadamente. A fin de cuentas, \u00bfqu\u00e9 sentido tendr\u00eda?<\/p>\n

Would it make you feel better? Trust me \u2013 it wouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not here to judge the people who decided to make their relationship work after infidelity. But you\u2019re not one of those people.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve made your decision and decided to leave your cheating husband or wife in the past. So, what\u2019s the point of overanalyzing everything that has happened?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As long as you continue doing so, you\u2019re staying in the relationship. I know that you\u2019ve removed yourself from it physically, but you haven\u2019t done so mentally.<\/p>\n

8. Aceptar que estaba destinado a ser<\/h3>\n

You have no other choice but to accept that it was meant to be. No, I\u2019m not telling you that your relationship was meant to be because clearly, it wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, las cosas estaban destinadas a salir exactamente como salieron. Trust me \u2013 everything happens for a reason, and Dios siempre tiene un plan<\/b><\/a> para ti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfTen\u00eda que ocurrir esta infidelidad para que finalmente te alejaras de tu relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica? \u00bfEra necesario para que conocieras al amor de tu vida? Despu\u00e9s de todo cerrar una puerta<\/a> para abrir otro.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEra una lecci\u00f3n que ten\u00edas que aprender? \u00bfEra necesaria esta experiencia para que te dieras cuenta de lo fuerte que eres en realidad?<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t know the answers now, I get it. But trust me, you\u2019ll find them soon enough.<\/p>\n

And when that happens, you\u2019ll see that this was actually a blessing in disguise. I promise you that in the future, you\u2019ll look back on this and see it as the best thing that could have ever happened to you.<\/p>\n

Hasta entonces, \u00a1ten fe y acepta que as\u00ed es como deben ser las cosas!<\/p>\n

9. Get back out there…when you\u2019re ready<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nueva relaci\u00f3n: \u00bfs\u00ed o no? Bueno, antes de darte la respuesta a esta pregunta, tenemos que aclarar algo. Hay una diferencia entre lanzarse a una nueva relaci\u00f3n y volver a salir.<\/p>\n

Lo primero y m\u00e1s importante, you shouldn\u2019t do anything you\u2019re not ready for<\/strong>. Olv\u00eddese del periodo de tiempo transcurrido, olv\u00eddese de las normas sociales y, sobre todo, olv\u00eddese de dar celos a tu ex <\/a>.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00edas seguir tu instinto e ir paso a paso.<\/p>\n

This means that nobody expects you to start a new serious relationship tomorrow. And whoever does, well, screw them. You\u2019re still handling your trauma, and the last thing you need right now is to be pushed into something you don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n

But that doesn\u2019t mean you should be stuck in your four walls waiting for a miracle to happen. Get de nuevo en la piscina de citas <\/a>.<\/p>\n

Flirtea con ese nuevo y guapo compa\u00f1ero de trabajo que acaba de llegar. Responde a ese DM que acabas de recibir. Sonr\u00ede cuando te hagan un cumplido.<\/p>\n

Love will find its way back to you \u2013 just don\u2019t force it.<\/p>\n

Relaciones de rebote<\/h4>\n

Pero, por favor, al\u00e9jate de las relaciones por despecho. You\u2019ll end up hurting yourself and breaking someone else\u2019s heart.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t cheat on this new person with your ex, you still have feelings for them, and, in a way, that\u2019s an emotional affair. Please, be better than this and don\u2019t fall into this toxic pattern of behavior!<\/p>\n

10. La superaci\u00f3n personal es clave<\/h3>\n

I can\u2019t stress this enough, but falling out of love after infidelity is utterly impossible if you don\u2019t work on yourself. I\u2019m not saying you should change the essence of your personality, but reinventing some parts of yourself might be beneficial.<\/p>\n

La superaci\u00f3n personal es la clave para sentirse mejor. En cuanto recuperes la autoestima, todo empezar\u00e1 a ir cuesta arriba.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it to make your ex realize what they\u2019ve lost<\/b><\/a>. \u00a1Hazlo para mejorar tu vida!<\/strong><\/p>\n

En lugar de obsesionarte con su infidelidad, mantente ocupada. Sal todo lo que puedas, busca un nuevo pasatiempo, ve al gimnasio, sal con gente y haz lo que te haga feliz.<\/p>\n

Rock your single life<\/a> and get the best out of it. Do everything you\u2019ve missed out on.<\/p>\n

El objetivo es mejorar su salud f\u00edsica y mental.<\/p>\n

11. Y tambi\u00e9n el amor propio<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Recuerda esto: el desamor tras una infidelidad incluye volver a enamorarse de uno mismo<\/b><\/a>. It means realizing that you don\u2019t need this person\u2019s validation to feel good about yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It means rebuilding your destroyed self-esteem and understanding your worth! It\u2019s about putting yourself in first place!<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante aqu\u00ed es llegar al punto en el que te quieras m\u00e1s a ti misma que a tu ex infiel. Pero esc\u00fachame bien: \u00bfqu\u00e9 es lo que no te gusta de ti?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure there are things you don\u2019t like about your personality. And that\u2019s perfectly fine. But the power to change lies only in your hands.<\/p>\n

Por favor, resp\u00e9tate lo suficiente como para no conformarte nunca con menos de lo que mereces. Eleva tu nivel de exigencia y recuerda lo que vales.<\/p>\n

12. Ayuda profesional<\/h3>\n

I hope your family, best friends, or even close coworkers are there for you. But sometimes, their help just doesn\u2019t cut it.<\/p>\n

Y eso no tiene nada de vergonzoso. Al fin y al cabo, that\u2019s why experts exist \u2013 to help you overcome your trauma.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you feel like you\u2019re having a hard time getting over everything you\u2019ve experienced, please don\u2019t hesitate to look for professional help. An expert will guide you through your recovery process and help you get your mental health back on track!<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 30 C\u00f3digos de Mensajes de Texto de C\u00f3nyuges Infieles Revelados<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfSigues queriendo a alguien si le enga\u00f1as?<\/h2>\n

Sorprendentemente, muchos tramposos afirman que aman<\/b><\/a> la persona a la que enga\u00f1aron<\/strong>. The truth is that infidelity isn\u2019t always the same as the absolute absence of emotions. On the contrary, it can be just a moment of weakness or come after relationship or marital problems.<\/p>\n

However, this fact doesn\u2019t justify infidelity under any circumstances!<\/p>\n

\u00bfEl dolor de la infidelidad desaparece alguna vez?<\/h2>\n

Even though it doesn\u2019t seem like it in the beginning, el dolor de la infidelidad definitivamente desaparece despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo.<\/strong> Seg\u00fan los expertos en relaciones de pareja, suele ser necesario un a\u00f1o y medio para que tu coraz\u00f3n para sanar <\/a> despu\u00e9s de haber sido enga\u00f1ada.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo permanecen juntas las parejas despu\u00e9s de una infidelidad?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It all depends \u2013 si visitan a un consejero matrimonial y est\u00e1n dispuestos a hacer algunos cambios en su relaci\u00f3n, las parejas pueden permanecer juntas el resto de sus vidas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But if they try to bury what happened under the carpet and ignore it, it\u2019s not likely they\u2019ll stay together for a long period of time. In this case, the prognosis is a couple of months.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSer enga\u00f1ado te cambia?<\/h2>\n

S\u00ed, sin duda. La mayor\u00eda de las personas acaban luchando con inseguridades e incluso perder la fe en el amor para siempre<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, infidelity doesn\u2019t have to change you in a bad way. It can help you see that you\u2019re self-sufficient and strong enough to take whatever life throws at you.<\/p>\n

All in all, it\u2019s a tough lesson, but it\u2019s also very valuable.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/h2>\n

You know what the most important thing about falling out of love after infidelity is? It\u2019s judging yourself for still having feelings for your cheater.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t fall into this trap. Comprende que no hay nada malo en ti y sigue esta gu\u00eda paso a paso hacia el \u00e9xito.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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